Can a single mom still be loved by a completely single guy.

[Girltalker2]

admittedly, being a single mom is complicated.  because you have to prioritize your kid/s over your partner.  the kid/s need more guidance than the partner. 

pero sa title kasi nitong thread na ito, the question if a SINGLE guy can truly love a single mom. The answer is yes pero bihira and not common.  It takes a mature person to be that single guy.  Eh you know guys, most of them mature later. And later means, puedeng committed na. 

As a single mom naman, if you are to choose - SINGLE guy or DIVORCED/Hiwalay/Annulled with kids na guy? The earlier looks less complicated. Pero a guy with kids, worse if kids stay with him, makes the situation more complicated.  As you yourself would also need to be understanding to him as well na kelangan nya i-prioritize ang mga anak nya over you.


 

[Girltalker2]

darating din yung right guy mga sisses, just remember na wag tayo magpakababa or ipakitang naghahanap tayo ng lalaki di ba. Wag tayo maghabol ng lalake kasi nakakturn off yun and ipakita na we still choose for the better and right guy

I agree.  In fact, a single mom has to be more discerning than single unattached women. Why?  Because you have kid/kids to take care of.  Ayaw mo syempre na madagdagan pa ng isang papakainin, so the guy has to be able to fend for himself.  He also has to be mature enough at ayaw mo na ng additional na aalalahanin o susuyuin.  In terms of compatibility, have to make sure mataas ang chance ng guy na maging kayo in the long term before being close to him kasi ayaw mo naman kasi papalit palit ng bf, imagine what its impact to your kid/kids will be.  You also have to choose someone who your kid/s can look up to, hindi lang basta basta kung sino nalang. a good role model.

[Girltalker2]

it's usually the foreign men who's okay and very open to this kind of setting sis I dont know about how open/accepting Pinoys are.

mas exposed kasi sila sa mga broken families.  sa pinas kasi kahit known philanderer na yung dad, hindi parin naghihiwalay. so ang kinalakihan ng mga boys eh intact na family whereby both parties are single, then getting married.

[piatos]

Mas ok daw foreigner sabi.  Yung friend ko naman may bf siya ngayon hinahabol pa siya kahit may anak na siya.  Sabi niya kasi inalagaan daw niya sarili niya at binuhos niya attention niya sa pagpapaganda.

[TowBerryBlue]

It's possible naman siguro.

[matador]

oo naman. i have two friends who married single moms. ok naman relationship with the kids.

[jaymejorrol]

of course! yung kinakapatid ko is a single mom.. but still marami pa rin syang suitors.. kasi hindi nya pinapabayaan sarili nya.. she's still very beautiful.. her son is 3 years old na.. and also my aunt.. she has 2 kids.. and last year nagpakasal sila ng nagkagusto sa kanya..

here's my post sa sa ibang thread:
http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,272841.msg7497318.html#msg7497318

same din naman sila ng thought.. all about loving a single mom..

[piatos]

uo naman yung cousin ko ikakasal na this year may anak na rin siya 7 yo na

[pumpkin13]

I have a friend who has 2 kids with her ex-husband. Then she has a bf now who loves her so much and her 2 kids. Tatay na ang tawag nila sa bf nya. Palagi sila may family pic nakapost sa fb. sabi ko nga sa friend wag na sya gagawa ng kalokohan kasi hindi lahat ng babae nakakahanap ng ganun klaseng lalake.

[jaymejorrol]

^ wow.. tatay na tawag sa bf nya.. hehe.. ang happy family naman..

[pumpkin13]

^oo sis. Tapos since magkaiba sila ng schedule sa work, they didn't get a yaya kasi nacocover nila yun kids 24/7. Pag weekends, magkakasama sila. Pag may lakad yun friend ko, yun bf ang nag aalaga. More than 4yrs na ata sila, kasal na lang ang kulang. The bf is single talaga. Kaya naniniwala ako na may ganung lalake but the thing is, hindi sila madaling matagpuan.

[jaymejorrol]

^ guy po ako ahm ou.. swerte na nung girl.. and nakahanap sya ng someone na tanggap sya kahit ano pa past nya.. and the good thing din is, close na sila ng mga bata..
ganyan din sa tita ko.. last year lang sila kinasal pero may 2 kids na tita ko.. happy naman sila sa family nila now..

[pumpkin13]

^ay sorry po bro. wala kasi nakalagay na GuyTalker. hehe!

[monopoly19]

Relate! I just used to read this thread. When my son was 4 years old, his dad cheated on me. We were together for 8 years since college. After 3 years, I met this guy. And we are getting married next year. So yeah, totally possible!

[super bratinella]

I have a child out of wed luck, when I got married she was 7 years old that time.

I got married to a very single guy.

Fast forward, hubby is saying even when he lives his life again, he will not change anything,  he just loves everything what it is now and he is also very vocal in saying that to "our" panganay, na hindi niya babaguhin ang past ko, kasi kasama ang eldest ko sa past ko at kasama siya sa minahal niya.

Eksena sa house:

My panganay is super close to his dad (my husband now) then sobrang comfortable sila sa isa't isa then sobrang ingay ng panganay ko at may times na nag aasaran sila mag ama (in a cute way), sobrang ingay talaga nilang dalawa..

then once I told my hubby jokingly:

Babe, do you still love me super kulit ng panganay ko kasi kung ako ng step mom ng panganay ko babalik ko siya sa nanay niya, hindi ko siya matatanggap (joke lang naman deep inside me)

Hubby Said (while laughing) ano ka ba anak ko siya at mahal ko kakulitan niya..

[akosimaiatot]

I know that there's someone out there destined for me, baka natraffic lang and stupid enough to ask for directions #tiwalalang

[huggykaye]

may pinsan akong maswerteng nakatagpo ng single guy na tanggap na tanggap yung baby girl nya, pinagamit pa surname nya sa pamangkin ko at kitang kita din namin gaano nya kamahal yun bata...

[mindiegirl]

Definitely yes! I know of so many friends na single moms na now ay happily married na.

[cutemama]

In reality most of filipino men gusto ay single and no extra baggage.. pero hindi naman imposible na makahanap kayo na magmamahal talaga sayo, not only you but also your child.
I have officemates na mga single moms pero now married na sila.. dapat lang makahanap ka ng open minded na guy, responsible and mature enough na matanggap yung situation mo.. and syempre huwag niyo naman ipagpalit yung anak niyo dahil lang sa lalaki..

 I have an office mate, single mom with 2 kids..nagkaron siya ng bf, seaman.. mahal naman siya and actually niyaya siyang magpakasal.. meron na rin sariling house sa isang subdivision sa cavite, pero meron siyang isang pabor na hindi niya kayang ibigay.. sabi nung boy after daw nila ikasal mag move na sila sa new house nila pero hindi daw kasama yung 2 kids niya,. Kaya ayun hiniwalayan niya.

Another officemate, single mom with 1 kid.. she's tall, sexy and pretty.. may nanligaw sa.kanya na officemate ko din, gwapo pero babaero.. kahit babaero ayun nagpauto pa rin siya, nabuntis, nagpakasal.and after 2 yrs hiwalay na..
 akala kasi niya wala na magkakagusto sa kanya, wala ng magseseryoso sa kanya..kaya pag may dumating kahit sino naiinlove agad siya...

[pinklilac]

^ tama sis. Package deal ika nga.. Importante tanggap ang anak.
 Mahirap minsan sa mentalidad ng mga Filipino na pag ang babae may anak sa pagka dalaga bumaba ang value kumbaga. Plus, ang future in laws mababa tingin sa babae.
So si babae ang isip wala na seseryoso sa kaniya  kaya minsan nagiging mistress na lang. May ganyan kase akong friend hiwalay sa asawa at may kids then now mistress na siya for many yrs at narinig ko mismo sa kanya na baka wala nang seseryoso sa kanya kaya hindi nya maiwanan ang pagiging mistress.

In my case, alam ko mas open minded ang foreigners at mas matatanggap past ko kaya foreigner talaga ang ginusto ko maka relasyon after my failed relationship sa ex ko.
now,I am happily married at kasama ko anak ko dito sa bansa ni husband.