I found out that he is married!

[alexyze]

We have been dating and are officially in a realationship for almost a year now.. till I found out the he is married in philippines..

He loves me the way I want to.. I do not know how to confront him now. We are plane apart and breaking him on the phone will not satisfy me...

[babyjapnurse01]

Sorry to hear that sis. Move forward. Everything will be okay.

Para sakin, okay na yun, makipagbreak ka nalang kahit napaka-impormal na gawin over the phone. He was satisfied nga with the thought that he was lying to you about his real status for a year now.

Theres no other way and no perfect time to end it than doing it now. If you want to see him to make the break-up formal, Im guessing you want to see him for you to evaluate if he would get hurt if you try to let go of him. And youll decide from there. Wag mo na ilagay sarili mo sa alanganin sis.

Dont give him a chance to lie to you again, sis. Tama na yung tinago nya sayo yung status nya, ang tagal nyo na eh, he had all the time para sabihin sayo pero di nya ginawa.

Im curious though, how long have you known the guy before mo sya naging boyfriend?

[justin3]

breaking him on the phone will not satisfy me...

are you thinking what i'm thinking?
meet him up in a mall and plant a 30-gram lead in his skull?... yan ang uso ngayon eh.

No! No! No! don't ever entertain such dumb idea.
you're a plane apart kamo? much better! end all means of communication you have with him. that way, the love you had for him would die a natural death, and you could move on easily pa.

on his part? he'll keep on thinking that you're still a couple. at pag hindi ka nya makontak, siguradong matotorete ang lokong yon. oh, di ba torture yon?
lalo na pag pinursigi nyang makipagkita sa yo, and when it happens... BOOM! he's a stranger. the feeling's gone.
mas masakit kaya yon... he deserves it. loko-loko sya eh.

[krizzycrazy]

I'm sorry this happened to you.

This happened to one mof my friends too, and I'm telling you breaking up in person won't satisfy you, either. Baka nga mas lalo ka lang ma-tempt to continue the relationship kapag personal ka pa nakipag-usap. Heck, this guy doesn't even deserve a formal break up or a closure. Just let him go and move on. You'll find someone better.

[alexyze]

^^^thank you guys. sinabi ko na sa kanya sa telepono. he is still insisting na kaya daw nyang patunayang single cya at walang bisa yung kasal nya sabihin ko lang daw na pakakasal ako sa kanya. another lie.

Im curious though, how long have you known the guy before mo sya naging boyfriend?

i knew him from a common friend few years ago... but we started dating only 9 months..

[babyjapnurse01]

^ walang bisa yung kasal nya? baka naman may mas nauna pa dun? kung ganun wala talagang bisa yun LOL! hay naku sis, layuan mo nalang, hindi mo pa din pala gaanong kilala. let go na. kaya mo yan!

[_katelicious_]

How about you tell his wife that he is a polygamous F?

[lady gwenhwyfar]

Tell him you know he's married then leave him. Break up with him then move on. Our sis is right. he doesn't deserve a formal break up or closure.

Trust me. i've been there. it was pure hell being in a relationship with a married guy na supposedly hiwalay na sa asawa. you'll lose self respect. trust me you don't want that. your relationship was a lie right from the very start. you can't live with that.

[ysa.belle]

tell him tht you know the truth, break up with him and move on.

[Nuna]

Break up with him. Wag ka nang tumanggap ng kahit anong explanation.

[gab54]

walang bisa ang kasal niya? eh di manloloko talaga ang #$%&@ na yan! naku, layuan mo na siya sis! isumbong mo siya kay tulfo para mura murahin! hehe
seriously, u deserve better. u may think he loves u the way u want to, but one important ingredient is lacking, that's being true to you. if u continue your relationship w/ this a$$h@le, kawawa ka lang in the end...

[sweetrebel]

     Break him up or be a mistress forever!! These are your options.. If you choose the first one, you'll break your heart but in time will be heal and have more chances of finding true love...

    If you choose the next one.. you'll be happy for now but will not have any peace of mind.. You'll be with him but maybe in the future loss him...

    It's really up to you to decide,sis! Just make the right one.. kawawa lang kasi kayo.. kasal man sya or hindi, two timer pa din sya!!!

[alexyze]

thanks to all your replies.

am really praying that God sends me someone to save me from him. i stopped answering his messages and calls for 2months until this christmas season when i got too lonely and blue. he wanted me back, he s just too unfair... and im getting weaker whenever i read his messages moreso, whenever i answer his calls...

[sakura_bloom]

Sis, ang love parang addiction. The best way to deal with this IMO is to pick up yourself without praying/dreaming for a knight in shinning armor to save you. Go cold turkey. Don't answer his calls nor read his texts.. your just making things more painful and harder for you to be free of him..

[ysa.belle]

stop answering his calls and messages.
he does not deserve a second chance to break your heart and you deserve a guy who would be true to you.

[Serena.]

Iwan mo na. Bwisit na yan, sino ba sya para lokohin ka? DYOS? Sauce, hindi ikaw ang tipong niloloko. Hindi mababa ang standard mo para lang isabay sa ibang babae. You should be the ONLY one. Lagi mo iisipin yan sis.

[aquacharly]

Makinig ka kay BABYJAPNURSE. 
Pag hindi ka nakinig sa kanya --   babalik ka  dito with bigger problems, with a bigger heartbreak & something new added:  the desire to kick yourself.

But we will listen to you again, next time. But if you are smart -- you will listen now. 

[ettevyvi]

Abort mission and jump sis! Di mo kailangang mag-usap kayo face to face! Isn't it enough that you know he is married? Don't be blinded by "love". If he does, which I highly doubt, aayusin nya ang issues nya to work out things between you. E hindi nya ginawa. Obviously, he's enjoying the company of both woman.

You are not an option. Dont hang on to someone just because mahal mo and yet you're just second best. There are men out there who will put you first.

I always say this: NEVER DEMEAN YOURSELF TO A MAN. NO man is WORTH of LOWERING your RESPECT for YOURSELF.

[alexyze]

thank you guys for all the advice. reading them reminds me to keep doing the right thing...

[justin3]

^so, what happened na sis? kelan sya inilibing? 

hmp! tagal mong nawala eh. no updates... baka kayo pa rin ha?

ayaw kong makita ang post mo sa thread na to ha?
http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,256920.0.html