PRIDE of my MOM and DAD & A Bum Brother(pls read!!!)

[*dream*]

I need advice coz its really affecting me and my brother.

Here is the situation we are 3 in family. Me, kuya and oldest kuya.  (ill try to make it short)

Me - i was a flight attendant before so i resigned im 25 yrs old
Kuya- He has his own business and capable of studying of mba degree on his own, he has his car on his own, and he even bought a car for my dad. 27 yrs old
Oldest kuya - Free rider. Instant Lucky. Jobless. he never  had a job - 29 years old w 2 kids has a wife of 27 years old working in a ticketing and reservation office of an airline

Me and kuya we graduated at the same school at dlsu. oldest kuya he studied in many universities and he graduated at the age of 28yrs old. basta late na sya nakatapos ng studies.

Story of Oldest kuya:

He was being supported by my family and kuya all the way, kahit na jobless sya at may 2 kids sya at maliit ang salary ng asawa nya, they still have car, they can use aircon, can eat 3times  a day of meals. You know supported sila eh, we are all staying in one house.

 my kuya is being so mabait that he's giving money to mom and dad and to oldest kuya. sometimes he goes to our home with shopping of groceries of food and milk ng baby ni kuya. as time pass by nag away sila ni kuya, dad and oldest kuya. ang lumabas na bad is si kuya kasi daw mayabang na at pinagtulungan sila ni dad at oldest kuya, i was in abroad that time working in airline so i have no idea what was the real thing. pero eto yung sinabi nag away sila at si mama lang daw ang kumampi kay kuya, minasama pa nila ang pag help ni kuya sa bahay by paying bills kasi daw mayabang na kaya daw mabilis daw mag init ang ulo..

Dads attitude is very ma PRIDE. He graduated in philippine military academy and he is SUPER DUPER DUPER PAKIELAMERO in all things, and in every little things about our life. Gusto nya sya ang superior talaga.. sa sobrang stressed ko sa situation nag sstay muna ako sa cousins ko at sabi ni papa "OH ANO GAWA MO DYAN BAKA WINITHDRAW MO NA LAHAT NG PERA MO DYAN AH" To think na ang money ko is coming from my personal sa work ko i never ask money from them ever since i found a job!

ang gusto lang naman ni kuya is tumulong talaga pero nawawalan sya ng gana and he was challenged to study in flying school  para wala daw masabi parents ko so nag move out sya for the meantime to study in aviation school. so ako ngayon jobless din pero i have a businessman boyfriend and he wants to provide me everything a car and condo, even a civil wedding gusto na nya.

hindi ko na mabago ang situation sa sobrang stressed here sa house so naisip ko aalis na din ako sasama ako kay boyfriend at hindi na ako mag f.a again, what do you guys think? or hintayin ko nalang yung civil wedding muna. ayoko pa mag church wedding kasi 4 months ko palang nakilala boyfriend ko and hes 32 na he wants to settle down.

i cant accept the situation kasi imagine:

1. Oldest kuya- he can use all the car here, he drinks beer w friends anytime sa house, use the aircon anytime, he has 2 kids maingay at magulo, ang sis in law nagwowork din gabi gabi so mukha kawawa.

2. Me- i cant drive- i dont use aircon kasi mahal ang electricity. pero now im looking for a job naman as f.a again, since im so inlove na din im forced not to leave

3.KUYA - Lagi wala bahay at tahimik kasi pikon sa situation

4.MAMA & PAPA - 63 YRS OLD Still working, kasi syempre si oldest kuya 2 kids and jobless super tamad.

Nagets nyo na ba ang whole concept of story oh diba magulo sa house. nakakainis lang kasi instant lang lahat kay oldest kuya, samantalang si kuya nag wowork si mom and dad and me nagwowork at nagtutulungan eto naman kami naawa kay oldest kuya pero abuso na talaga. hindi nga nya magawa sundo hatid si mom pero pag dating sa asawa nya ALL in sya....

gusto ko na sumuko at umalis ng bahay at sasama sa bf ko... what u think or civil wedding na alis na ako bahay? di ko talaga matolerate ang behavior nila abuso talaga.... kami nagsusuffer at nagtitiis sa ingay nila kapag nagsalita naman kami ni kuya kami ang lalabas na kontra bida sa bahay. kasi si dad gusto superior pero di nya kaya idisiplina si oldest kuya......im sooooooo stressed help me guys. lahat ng situation nakkwento ko sa boyfriend ko kasi wala na ako masabihan nahihiya nga ako kasi alam na alam na nya ang kinakatayuan ko.

So as time passby na supported si oldest kuya, napipikon na

[moonie]

Don't get married unless you are really sure you are ready to settle down and you are certain bf is really the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. 

Why not find a job first then move out.  Find a boarding house, dormitory or condo if you can afford it.  If you just want to escape from the gulo in your house why not live with younger kuya? Is that not possible?

[babyjapnurse01]

*dream*, here's my take on this ha, medyo alam ko kasi yung sitwasyon na ganyan..

First, Same age tayo, you're still young, you live with your parents plus you are jobless, kaya dont get mad at your parents, especially to your dad if he tends to be too nosy about what you would do with your life. Intindihin mo nalang, tama na yung eldest nyo yung medyo nalihis ng track, Im sure he wouldnt want you to go that way too.

Pangalawa, May asawa na yung Eldest brother mo, and I think, its your parents' call if theyd let them stay and do anything they want in that house, Im pretty sure napagsasabihan din nila ang eldest kuya mo, whatever his reason is for not working and letting his wife take over his responsibilities is actually their decision as well, agreement na nilang dalawa yan kung bakit ganyan ang set-up. Sobrang similar sa sitwasyon mo yung sitwasyon ng bestfriend ng BF ko, married na sya, and they live with his parents, he's a stay-at-home hubby and the wife works, wala namang issue sa kanila, kasi ang katwiran ni lalake, dun naman sila nakatira sa bahay nila. he takes their kid to school and all the mommyworks, siya ang gumagawa. Alam ko mali yung mentality, pero may tao talagang ganun eh, walang kusang palo, kung titingnan mo, parang ang sama naman kasi asawa nya pinagttrabaho nya, tapos sya ang nasa bahay, pero wala eh, we know nothing about what their agreements are. How's your kuya's credentials sa school pala? I assume medyo hindi kagandahan since you said he graduated lang pala last year (28) since he's 29 ngayon? Baka isa yan sa mga dahilan that hinders him from getting his ass up and look for a decent job. Baka naman din kasi mas malaki ang maging income nila if the wife would be the one working, kesa siya ang magtrabaho tapos mas maliit ang maiuwi nya for his family.

It seems like medyo nagddwell ka sa sama ng loob mo sa eldest brother mo. You are blaming him for everything eh. If you think na nagiging abusado na ng sobra ang kuya mo sis, talk to your parents, sila ang kausapin mo about it dahil sila lang rin naman ang may karapatan na pagsabihan yung eldest brother mo, remember, jobless ka rin ngayon, baka pag nasumbatan mo yan ibalik pa nya sayo na ang yabang mo, e wala ka rin naman trabaho ngayon. Minsan kasi ang laki ng impact ng sibling rivalry, ang laki ng nagiging alteration sa perception mo dun sa kapatid na medyo hindi mo kasundo. Kahit yung mga bagay na kailangan at pwede mong intindihin, hindi mo magawa. Im not saying you are wrong to react or think that way, pero sinasabi ko lang sis that you should evaluate rin siguro, san ba galing yang sama ng loob mo sa kuya mo, dahil ba wala kang madrive na sasakyan? dahil di ka nagaaircon much as they do? or may mas malalim pa dyan? Medyo ang dating kasi sakin, may hint ng selos on your part, I could be wrong though.

Pangatlo, Si Kuya2, if he gives out of goodwill, wag natin sya pigilan to do that, pamilya nya kayo eh, hindi man nya responsibilidad na bigyan even yung eldest brother nyo, he's doing it ng kusa, ganun naman talaga ang magkakapatid, you are willing to give even if you are not asked to do things for the family. Im thinking iniintindi nalang nya yung sitwasyon ng eldest brother nyo.

Sa pamilya naman sis di maiiwasan na magkaron talaga ng tampuhan minsan, may masasabi kayo na makakasakit sa isat isa, ilan lang naman kayo sa bahay sis dream, parents nyo tapos tatlo kayong magkapatid, kaya natural lang na yung mom nyo would stay neutral or would stand by the side of whoever yung mukhang nagsosolo, like dun sa confrontation with your dad, its eldest kuya and dad tapos mom and kuya 2, lugi pa nga eldest brother mo kasi kampi ka kay kuya2 mo heheh! kidding aside, natural lang yung mga ganung tampuhan sis, wag ka masyado magdwell on those conflicts na normal na nangyayari sa isang pamilya, especially yung ganyan na lahat kayo puro adults na, lahat marunong nang sumagot.

Alam mo sis, yung youngest brother ng mom ko, parehas na parehas ng eldest brother mo, never nagkaron ng trabaho and forever reliant samin until the time that he had kidney failure, since wala syang savings, I took over the expenses of all his treatments until he passed away few years back. Hindi naman sa proud ako or masyado namin tinotolerate ang pagiging tamad nya, pero ang kinaka-proud ko is, kahit dumating sa point na nashoshort na kami sa budget sa laki ng expenses, never sila nagtalo about money, wala akong marecall na issue na nainvolve ang pera at may nagreklamo dahil siya ang bigay ng bigay tapos yung isa lunok lang ng lunok.

Im not sure if your eldest brother can change pa because I dunno whats holding him back from working or standing up for his responsibilities, pero kung meron man makakapag push sa kanya to change, that would probably be his wife and your parents, talk to them sis. Vent out narin so they would know what your sentiments are, Im sure after mo sila makausap luluwag yang pakiramdam mo and kahit papano maeenlighten ka and baka mas maintindihan mo yung eldest brother mo. Who knows, baka pag mas naintindihan mo sya, magawa mo pang kausapin sya and imotivate sya to work din para mas maging stable ang pamumuhay ng family nya para hindi lang sila sa wife nya and sa contribution ng ibang kapamilya umaasa.

Nga pala, get married if you are sure that its about time for you to settle down, kung reding-ready ka na to tie the knot. Kung kaya mo na ang responsibilities that would go with it and not just because you want to get away from all the "Stress" sa bahay nyo. Came across your posts in other threads, bago pa lang din pala kayo ng BF mo, dont rush into things sis, bata ka pa, andami mo pang oras to decide kung ano talaga ang plans mo sa buhay mo. For the meantime, do your part para maayos nyo ang problema sa bahay nyo kesa yung isipin mo lang kung pano ka tatakas and magsstick to whats convenient for you, coz if you do, that wouldnt make you different from your eldest kuya.

sorry for the super habang reply. nakarelate kasi ako sa sitwasyon, hehe!

[moonie]

Isn't it a bit early to consider moving in with bf or accepting big gifts like condo units from him?  Those things come with big expectations.  You haven't known him for a long time.  What if nag-away kayo?  You just might be jumping out of the frying pan into the fire. I would understand getting into business with him.  Strangers do that all the time. Pero yung ibabahay ka niya and for certain susustentohan ka rin nun kasi jobless ka, you would be totally dependent on him.  Magiging malaki ang utang na loob mo.  Would you be able to make decisions on your own?  Acceptable din ba ang ganyang set-up sa pamilya mo?  Baka umpisahan na naman yan ng gulo.  Find alternatives first.  Hindi naman life and death ang situation sa bahay niyo na kailangan mong takasan.

[babyjapnurse01]

Ah okay, so because your bf will give you a condo unit, sasama ka na kaagad sa kanya? No offense meant sis ha, but I think thats the last thing you should do, ang maging careless sa mga magiging decision mo, coz if you do, hindi ka din talaga maiiba sa eldest brother mo.

Yung pagpapagalit ng parents mo sa eldest kuya mo, Im sure they wont do that na may ibang makakarinig, may pamilya na ang kapatid mo sis, hindi naman pwedeng basta basta nalang pagalitan ng parents mo nang naririnig nyo just like how they would do noong mga bata pa at single pa kayong lahat.

I dunno ha, but this is just me, hindi ba parang ang selfish naman if you wish for them to move out? E yung parents mo nga mismo hindi naman sila pinapaalis sa bahay? I honestly think its not the "abuso" that makes you irate eh, its the thought that your brother is in the same house you are living in. It seems to me na pati dun sa mga anak nya wala kang amor. If they have an option, aalis naman yan dyan eh, bubukod naman yan eh, sinong pamilya ba ang ayaw magkaron  ng sariling bahay? Kaso papano if they couldnt afford to move out? I think sa parents mo padin babalik yan, reliant nga ang kuya mo eh coz he's not working. Baka next thing naman na mangyari, magalit ka sa parents mo kasi tinutulungan nila kuya mo sa gastusin sa bahay nila after nila mag move out.

Dont question the things your brother would do for the wife also, ikaw nga willing umalis sa bahay nyo para sa BF mo eh just because he can give you the comfort that you need. Whats your guarantee naman that the relationship with your BF would actually last? From your post sa kabilang thread parang 1 month pa lang kayo, thats too early to tell, sister. You have to think twice about having that kind of mentality sis. Mahirap magpadalos-dalos ng desisyon. Lalo na sa pagaasawa. Baka mamaya, kaka-rant mo about your kuya, magbackfire sayo lahat and kainin mo yung sinabi mo kasi ikaw ang magaasawa ng maaga.

I have to be brutally frank for you to wake up sis ha, Im not trying to insult you or whatever. But you also have to realize theres something wrong also with the way you wanna cope with this problem. Kung mayaman ang BF mo, dont make that as the deciding factor kung bakit ka sasama nalang sa kanya. Selfish move yan sis, ni hindi mo pa nga yan napagiisipan mabuti eh, matanda na parents nyo, ikaw narin may sabi, and you cant afford to be the 2nd failure in the family.

One thing na sana gawin mo sis, think things over, dont let your hate rule over the rest of your emotions, that would alter your judgement eh. Isipin mo din, ano ba talagang problema mo sa kuya mo, could it be nagseselos ka lang because ang spoiled nya sa parents mo sobra and ikaw di mo magawa gusto mo? Which for me is normal kasi babae ka kaya bantay sarado ka.

[babyjapnurse01]

^ then you are missing the point sis. what we're saying is, pagisipan mo kung ready ka na ba talaga since its too early pa to talk about marriage with a guy na , kahit naman magpakasal kayo, would that make any difference as to how the relationship would work out? pano kung hindi umubra, you get preggers and iwanan ka? uuwi ka sa family mo emptyhanded and much worse, kakainin mo lahat ng sinabi mo sa kuya mo.

see your reply here :

we are on the same shoes pero sakinnangliligaw palang, hindi pa nakikilala ng parents ko yung guy pero kapag umuuwi ako ng 5am nagagalit sila sakin bakit hindi ko ipakilala sino sumusundo sakin. natatakot kasi ako at ayoko madaliin ang meet the parents eh nangliligaw palang. hihi

natatakot ka nga madaliin yung meet the parents sis, parang mas nakakatakot naman ata madaliin ang pagpapakasal. think about it a hundred time sis. your bf's words wont guarantee you anything. a guy can always tell you na kaya ka nya pakasalan kahit araw araw pa. pero how can you tell if he's serious about it?

emphasize ko lang, hindi por que madaming pera or sagana sa finances eh hindi na nagkaka-problema ha? madalas nga habang dumadami pera mo, mas dumadami din problema mo eh.

Pagisipan mo mabuti yan sis, masyado kang blinded ng mga kayang ibigay sayo ng BF mo. medyo mababaw na dahilan yan para magdecide this early na magpakasal kaagad.

[showermist]

*dream*,

If you can't take the situation in your house right now, you can always find another FA job, get an apartment, and support yourself. Simple. 

Easier said than done, but you know what if you follow this direction, in the future--you'll be more proud of yourself.  You'll make your parents proud of you.  Nakamit mo yung 'tagumpay' sa pagsisikap mo.  Hindi sa kung ano ang nabigay ng boyfriend mo. Pano kung di kayo magkatuluyan ng boyfriend mo ngayon?  NEVER get married just because you're in a situation where you feel pressured and stressed.  Hindi solusyon yan.  Temporary maybe pero who knows what will happen bukas?

With your Kuya, parang nakarelate ako sa kanya hahahha.  Dumaan din ako sa sitwasyong napapagod din ako sa pagbibigay na lang.  At wala ng ginagawa yung ibang kapatid ko para tumulong.  Andaling uminit ng ulo ko noon at sila napagbabalingan ko.  Kumbaga sila yung outlet ko. I was then pressured at work. And stressed too. Jusko hindi naman ako santa. 

Siguro ganun din yung kapatid mo.  He's trying to help, yes--kasi naaawa din naman sya siguro sa parents nyo na malamang e anlaki ng gastos sa kapatid nyong  panganay at sa pamilya nito.  Kaso iba ang interpretasyon ng mga magulang nyo dun sa ginagawa nya toward the family. Napapagod na din siguro sya sa ganyang sitwasyon kaya nakakapag"salita" na sya na ikinapipikon na rin siguro ng panganay nyo.  Syempre nga naman di ba, yung mas bata pa ang susuporta sa kanya, laki kayang insulto nun.  The only way lang na maipakita ni eldest kuya na mas superior pa rin sya eh ang mang-away or manggulo. 

Tama lang na umalis na kuya mo sa bahay nyo. I-improve sarili nya lalo.

Yung sa kuya mong panganay, pag sinanay sya sa ganyang sitwasyon, hindi na sya maghahanap ng work.  Ewan.  Hahaha.  Unless na willing ang mga parents mong bigyan sya ng leksyon about sa responsibilidad nya, I think you cant really do anything (for sure aawayin ka nun at sasabihang mayabang hehe).  Hamo kung sila'y gumagamit ng AC. Na may yaya. Etc.  na lahat yun libre.  Isipin mo, hindi forever magiging ganun ang sitwasyon nila.

[*dream*]

wow showermist

that was a perfect advice. sige will still pursue an fa job kaya lang kasi si bf wants to marry me na eh and he's already 32 stable na and businessman, syempre minsan pag nainlove ka talagang ayaw m na mag abroad, im due for medical na sa isang international airline, still im thinking deeply kasi si bf he offered a lot of things to me actually hes not supposed to tell me daw yung plans nya pero pinilit k sya to weigh the situation, bibigyan nya ako ng negosyo. kasi sabi din nya na ayaw na nya ako malayo and it doesnt matter if i have a job or not he can support me daw, 3yrs kasi contract ko dun at bawal pa ikasal unless i finish my contract pero di naman nya ako pinipigilan sa pag fa nasa akin na lahat ng decision pero ayoko sya iiwan na.

[moonie]

I guess you'll have to weigh these things carefully.   Civil wedding or church wedding, same banana--kasal pa rin yun.  Handa ka na ba magpakasal?  Handa ka na ba iiwan ang trabaho mo as fa?  Mas gugustuhin mong magnegosyo na lang?  Si bf na ba talaga ang taong mamahalin mo panghabang-buhay?  O baka naman ne-entice ka lang sa buhay na ino-offer niyang ibibigay sa iyo if you get married?  You should not base your decision to get married on your desire to get out of your parents house.  Marry because you are ready to settle down and not just because your bf is.

[showermist]

^^

STILL, you are marrying because you are 'enticed' of what he's going to give you.  You are blinded by the love. Love nga ba talaga yun o inihahalintulad mo na yung love sa mga materyal na bagay na kaya nyang ibigay?! 

I am not negative about your relationship with your boyfriend.  It's your attitude towards it that made it so negative.

Pursue a career for yourself.  Be financially independent. Widen your horizons. It may take years. Dahil hindi naman ibibigay na lang ng Diyos ng madalian para sa iyo. You have to work hard for it para mas lalo mong maappreciate ang pinaghirapan mo.

Kung talagang mahal ka ng boyfriend mo ngayon, makakapag antay sya.

Marry because you are ready to settle down and not just because your bf is.

I agree with Moonie.

[realshaddy]

^^
I am not negative about your relationship with your boyfriend.  It's your attitude towards it that made it so negative.

I agree with Moonie.

[*dream*]

Thanks for the reply. will weigh things down. Naguguluhan lang ako kasi 3yrs of contract in a new airline is going to be hard for me and my bf.  Since he told me that he can provide evrything that i dont need a fa job to get what i want. he doesnt want to see me na mahirapan magwork at lumayo pa

[yndy]

^ Sis almost the same yung situation natin before though wala naman problem sa family ko that time. After graduation kasi my BF wants us to get married na, while I continue my schooling kasi gusto ko magtuloy sa law noon. He can support me naman and that's what he wanted.

Pride got the better of me so I got a job and sabi ko I'll continue schooling pagnakaipon na ako. Like your BF he's older than me din. He's already 28 and I was 21 then so established na din siya and gustung-gusto na talaga magsettle down.

To make the story short, nagwork ako at siya hindi nakahintay. We broke off because of a third party. Well hindi din naman sila nagkatuluyan kasi the girl was nadala lang ata kasi may pera si ex. Ang hindi niya alam madami kundisyones para makapasok sa family ni ex. hehe

5 years later, I still have a job and now happily married. Hindi ko na nga lang nacontinue yung schooling ko pero I'm happy with my life now. Kaya mo yan sis, ganyan din ako ka-inlove noon. God has better plans for you. Pag-isipan mo mabuti.

[muahmuahmuah]

sometimes God sends us good people to make the load lighter. i'm not saying marry the bf but take a chance on yourself to accomplish something important rin kasi yun and see if you can compromise  how far and how long he can wait if being an FA is what you really want to do for yourself.

family will always be family don't hold yourself back if the parents aren't supportive or if the kuya has problems. ganun naman dynamics ng pamilya minsan malabo. here's the thing rin, not to take it upon yourself or obligate to help, but helping them in your own little way breaches any karmic bond you have with them sabi nga is either you break it by service, coin or pain.  if sold ka sa idea of marrying him go and do so  but if you're  heart is not completely in for it atleast maganda the opportunity that awaits you. if the FA work doesn't fly baka being with the bf might be the route to take hindi ka naman yung type na who'll just cling on to the bf because of that consider lang din what he has to offer you if it's the kind of life you see yourself being in.  whatever decision you make don't look back and regret anything. novenas and prayers help a lot din to lead you to the right direction.

[*dream*]

Alam na alam na ng boyfriend ko ang situation ko kasi sya lang ang aking nasasandalan. Kinausap pa ako ng mommy ko na sana maging maayos na kaming magkakapatid. Wala na si Kuya kasi nag aaral na ulit at si eldest nalangf ang natitira ako naman busy kay boyfriend at madalas wala sa bahay. Bakit ako ang sinisisi ng mommy ko na ako daw ang galit sa eldest kuya ko? ang shallow nun, tahimik na nga lang ako at inlove eh , wala na akong kibo ako pa napag puntiryahan na mali at kontra bida sa kuya ko, kasalan din ni eldest kuya bakit ako ganito, wala syang MALASAKIT NA ipinadama sa akin bilang bunsong kapatid.

Kay booyfriend naman, sabi nya maghahanap na kami ng simbahan kung saan kami ikakasal. Sa tingin ko sinuwerte lang ako nakatagpo ako ng ganyang guy mahal namin ang isat isa, hindi ko naman pwede ibase ang status ko na "mag f.a ako ulit kasi ayoko maapi, masumbatan in time" well i already gave up hindi na ako mag f.a dahil magpapaksal na ako next yr at mag sstart na ng business. ngayon kung hindi nya matutupad yun kayang kaya ko buhayin sarili ko.

[muahmuahmuah]

^good for you. atleast mas buo na decision mo be happy in love and  cherish the one who's got your back..all the best to ya!

[babaengmahiwaga]

Sis dream, if ikaw ang nasa sitwasyon ng eldest kuya, would your parents do the same for you? Also for your kuya #2? Or kay eldest kuya lang sila ganun katolerant?

[babyjapnurse01]

Feeling ko naman decided na talaga si sis *dream* magpakasal eh, she just needs a little confirmation from other people kung okay lang yung gagawin nya.

IMHO, the mere fact that you are being ready na "if it fails, kaya ko buhayin sarili ko" then ikaw din mismo hindi pa ganun ka-certain about whats going to happen between you and the boyfriend. Para sakin, its good to know that someone's got your back and someone's there to support you sa pagka-depress mo about whats going on sa bahay nyo, but then siguro masyado pa talagang maaga to come up with the decision na magpakasal ka nalang agad kasi if ever di naman umubra you can pack your bags and leave anytime at kayang kaya mong suportahan ang sarili mo, personally, masasabi ko lang yan if I have lots of money to burn in the bank, and kung employed ako or if I have a stable career.

Masyado kasing madali sabihin na I can ditch the guy anytime once things get really crappy eh, kaso ibang iba kasi pag kinasal na kayo, I dunno, its easy din kasi to say na okay naman si BF kaya willing ka na to marry rightaway, kaso youll never know whats gonna happen tomorrow eh, basta ako ang advice ko lang, live your life one step at a time, baka you are biting na more than what you can chew.

Kailangan din kasi iconsider na troubled ka na nga sa bahay nyo, tapos pano pag pumalpak pa yang relationship with BF, edi dobleng dagok pa yun, youre 25, youre still young, andami mo pang time to build your own future para hindi ka magaya sa kuya mo na sobrang kinamumuhian mo because of his loss of direction, might as well build your own stable foundation first before you get into things na baka pagsisihan mo in the end.

Whatever your decision is sis *dream*, im wishing you luck, basta tandaan mo lang na you have to live your life one step at a time, babae ka eh, so you have to be extra careful, and Im hoping maayos na yung issue nyo sa bahay real soon.

[carrieso]

Unti n  ba ang mga nagpapakababa,,,, Dapat hindi lagi pride ang pairalin .,.,., remember this is one of the 7 deadly sins...