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cmfff

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Re: is he cheating on me?
« Reply #20 on: September 23, 2011, 04:56:56 pm »
hhhm, tip lang sis, paganahin ang insticts :) kasi for sure, tayong mga babae, malakas ang insticts natin. pero make sure lang, kapag ganon, hanap din ng evidence. pero naku, nakakapraning naman talaga kung ganyan ang makikita mo diba? for me, di enough nung reason na pinagtripan sya ng friends nya,  knowing na kasal na sya, and pwedeng pag awayan nyo ang ganyan na bagay. for me, hindi biro nung ganon, dahil magiging cause talaga ng away yan. di pa naman ako kasal, next year palang , pero i know malalagpasan mo yan sis. :) kausapin mo si h2b, and investigate . hihi

salamat sis. yes di ko muna ititigil pagiging imbestigador ko. sana tulungan ako ni lord malaman ang totoo.

cmfff

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« Reply #21 on: September 23, 2011, 05:01:09 pm »
alam mo sis, kung nagbabasa ka ng thread about kabit and cheating, etc-- alam mo na yung sagot sa tanong mo.

lahat ng may mga kabit iisa ang style heeh. if you found something on their things suspicious, sasabihin na nilagay lang daw ng mga barkada. na napagtripan lang daw sya. etc. andaming rason. aabot yan to the point na ikaw na ang may kasalanan. hehe. heck, it's their defencse mechanism.  sabinga ng ibang sis--hangga't kaya nilang lumusot, lulusot talaga sila.

you want to give him the benefit of the doubt yet. pero aminin mo, nai-stress ka na. wala na rin yung trust.

kung ako ikaw, aabsent ako ng ilang araw from work at mamanmanan ko aktibidades nya LOLs  ;)
 (pero syempre ipapanalangin ko na rin nasana wala talaga syang ginagawa hehe)

what if napatunayan mo na may ginagawa nga mister mo, ano gagawin mo?


what if napatunayan mo na may ginagawa nga mister mo, ano gagawin mo?
sagot ko dito is hihiwalayan ko na sya, all i want lang naman is someone who will love me faithfully. kaya nga stressful yung situation ko pero im still hoping na God will help me know the answers sa tamang panahon...thanks mga sisses


cmfff

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Re: is he cheating on me?
« Reply #22 on: September 23, 2011, 05:09:17 pm »
this is so stressful para sa ating mga wife but sometimes talaga its hard to trust our hubby lalo na pag may record na sa past... tama ang gawin mong mag gather muna ng enough evidence, guys kasi may tendency talaga mag deny to death hanggat makakaya... minsan huli na lulusot pa talaga.. pero lets us not all jump into conclusion din... minsan kasi akala natin womans instict natin un pala tamang paranoid lang tayong mga wife... pray lang sis for guidance.. malalagpasan mo din yan

salamat sis. di naman ako mag iisip ng ganito kung wala akong nakita diba ?hayy.. promise il let you know the answer to my question in a later time. kung totoo ba hinala ko.

rae

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« Reply #23 on: September 24, 2011, 04:42:46 am »
That could be true. Na nilagay ng someone para pagtripan. But seriously, sinong tunay na kaibigan ang gagawa nun, na maninira ng pamilya. Usually ang mga friends ng guys ilalaglag nila ng pajoke kapag magkakasama kayo.

Anyway,lagi yang excuse, sa porn, bigay lang daw ng kaibigan. Kapag may evidence puro kaibigan.

Sa akin, be 'cool'. Appear unaffected. Appear like you're oblivious. They will put down their guard and you would get the evidence you need. Kapag suspicious ka, they sense it, and they'll be 'careful'

Now while you're being 'cool" about everything, work on youself in becoming a good wife.

Ganun sis e, medyo parang unfair, kaya siguro tayo ginawa ni God na strong. Kaya mo yan, hugs.

PINKISS

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« Reply #24 on: September 24, 2011, 11:34:17 am »
I suggest stop nagging first. Look for some evidence, Kasi malay natin na story na nilagay un ng friend niya could be true. At isa pa, accusing your husband without sufficient evidence can be a risk sa relationship niyo. Spy on him pero wag ka masyadong magpahalata.

cmfff

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« Reply #25 on: September 24, 2011, 02:34:30 pm »
 :) salamat pinkiss and rae. mejo relax naman ako ngayon pinagtutunan ko nalang ng pansin anak namin, well i guess malalaman ko sya at the right time.  i wont be in a rush to know the truth itutuon ko muna pansin ko sa anak ko and sa career ko na mejo nakakalimutan ko na. thanks sa lahat na nag comment. appreciate it :) :) :)

beatrize zuri

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« Reply #26 on: September 24, 2011, 07:42:22 pm »
cmfff- alam mo sis walang makakapagsabi samin kung niloloko ka ng asawa mo or hindi kung di ikaw lang, kasi unang una mararamdaman mo yon eh,. lalo na kung may history sya ay naku wag ka ng mag doubt kasi kung iisipin mo pare pareho ang alibay ng mga lalaki kesyo napagtripan sila ng barkada nila nilagay sa wallet nya un, i dont think so na gagawin ng barkada nya yon especially kung alam na may asawa un at pag uugatan ng away diba? kasi alam mo ang mga guys pare pareho ang mga rason nian at hindi nauubusan,. mas maging keen observer ka lang at lakasan mo pakiramdam mo.. go girl!

cmfff

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Re: is he cheating on me?
« Reply #27 on: September 24, 2011, 09:45:30 pm »
cmfff- alam mo sis walang makakapagsabi samin kung niloloko ka ng asawa mo or hindi kung di ikaw lang, kasi unang una mararamdaman mo yon eh,. lalo na kung may history sya ay naku wag ka ng mag doubt kasi kung iisipin mo pare pareho ang alibay ng mga lalaki kesyo napagtripan sila ng barkada nila nilagay sa wallet nya un, i dont think so na gagawin ng barkada nya yon especially kung alam na may asawa un at pag uugatan ng away diba? kasi alam mo ang mga guys pare pareho ang mga rason nian at hindi nauubusan,. mas maging keen observer ka lang at lakasan mo pakiramdam mo.. go girl!


salamat girl, minsan ang hirap matulog sa gabi nagigising nalang ako tapos di na nakaktulog na maayos. majority siguro ng feelings at hinala ko ay yes niloloko nya ako pero never ko lang talaga sya  nahuli kaya siguro di pa ako bumibitaw.  :( yes il be more observant pa iipunin ko lahat ng nararamdaman ko til il have suficient evidence.

beatrize zuri

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Re: is he cheating on me?
« Reply #28 on: September 25, 2011, 12:46:49 am »
@cmfff - dont worry sis maaayos din yan, lakasan mo lang ang loob mo.

cmfff

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« Reply #29 on: September 25, 2011, 09:06:30 am »
@cmfff - dont worry sis maaayos din yan, lakasan mo lang ang loob mo.

thanks sis! :)

quinone

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« Reply #30 on: September 25, 2011, 08:06:29 pm »
@cmfff, sis hindi ka pa sumagot sa tanung ng ibang sis kung may track record ba hubby mo ng infidelity. hindi naman sa contrabida ako pero kung sa loob ng 6 na taon wala kang tiwala sa kanya e baka nawalan siya ng gana sayo kaka-nag mo.

kung pinagpe-pray mo na sana malaman mo yung totoo, ipag-pray mo rin na sana maging mas loveable ka pang wife at less of a nag para habang inaalam mo pa...who knows, kapag nalaman mo na, e wala na pala sila kasi mas love ka na niya ulit. lastly, wag kang negative, imbes na lagi kang duda, baka may pwede kayong compromise para madagdagan pa tiwala mo sa kanya.

kittymitch

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« Reply #31 on: September 25, 2011, 10:49:31 pm »
@cmfff...if ever nga totoo, may iba cia......

just always think n di [textspeak!] syo nangyayari yan...even to the prettiest of us...naloko n ng asawa
keep ur cool, never grovel, have faith sa sarili mo and especially kay God.
seek help, guidance amongst ur family and frens
shower ur kid with love..sa kanya mo buhos lahat ng affection mo..
the best revenge is staying pretty,,,heck, be Gorgeous...be the most gorgeous you...


i should know...we maybe on the same boat( if totoo yung suspicions mo)....

rae

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« Reply #32 on: September 25, 2011, 11:39:01 pm »
"The best revenge is staying pretty" - wow, I like that.

cmfff

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Re: is he cheating on me?
« Reply #33 on: September 26, 2011, 03:10:39 pm »
@cmfff, sis hindi ka pa sumagot sa tanung ng ibang sis kung may track record ba hubby mo ng infidelity. hindi naman sa contrabida ako pero kung sa loob ng 6 na taon wala kang tiwala sa kanya e baka nawalan siya ng gana sayo kaka-nag mo.

kung pinagpe-pray mo na sana malaman mo yung totoo, ipag-pray mo rin na sana maging mas loveable ka pang wife at less of a nag para habang inaalam mo pa...who knows, kapag nalaman mo na, e wala na pala sila kasi mas love ka na niya ulit. lastly, wag kang negative, imbes na lagi kang duda, baka may pwede kayong compromise para madagdagan pa tiwala mo sa kanya.

sis yes, sa ex nya may track na sya ng infidelity pero ibang girl yun not me. baka ngayon sakin na naman sya magkak record. i dont know if its easy for you say to be a loveable wife; i mean nagawa ko ng lahat ng yan to the point na i felt tired. siguro when you're tired you just want to rest and hope that everything will be okay and you'll be able to find out the answers to your questions yun lang naman the i guess ill start moving on :)

cmfff

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Re: is he cheating on me?
« Reply #34 on: September 26, 2011, 03:17:11 pm »
@cmfff...if ever nga totoo, may iba cia......

just always think n di [textspeak!] syo nangyayari yan...even to the prettiest of us...naloko n ng asawa
keep ur cool, never grovel, have faith sa sarili mo and especially kay God.
seek help, guidance amongst ur family and frens
shower ur kid with love..sa kanya mo buhos lahat ng affection mo..
the best revenge is staying pretty,,,heck, be Gorgeous...be the most gorgeous you...


i should know...we maybe on the same boat( if totoo yung suspicions mo)....

that was a good suggestion thanks! but we all know na may stages naman talaga ang lahat, you cant say your okay right away after what had happened,  siguro if totoo nga mga suspicions ko magluluksa muna ako for a while hoping na mabilis yung pag mu move on ko. pero di pa nga nangyayari naisip ko lang ang hirap. :(


realshaddy

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« Reply #35 on: September 26, 2011, 03:42:53 pm »
just always think n di lang syo nangyayari yan...even to the prettiest of us...naloko n ng asawa
keep ur cool, never grovel, have faith sa sarili mo and especially kay God.
seek help, guidance amongst ur family and frens
shower ur kid with love..sa kanya mo buhos lahat ng affection mo..
the best revenge is staying pretty,,,heck, be Gorgeous...be the most gorgeous you...

i agree...

pressany

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Re: is he cheating on me?
« Reply #36 on: September 26, 2011, 04:01:46 pm »
^kahit dyosa ka pa ng kagandahan, kung magloloko ang asawa mo, magloloko talaga yan.  Kahit itali mo pa sa poste... sis TS, ask your husband point blank kung nambababae ba sya, pag nagdeny, be happy.  Pag umamin, ask kung bakit, if you can address the issue then solve it.  If not, then suck it in.

Easier said than done, but what are your other options? Stress yourself to death? 

Stop investigating, looking for clues and over analyzing. Sis, enjoy your life and your kid.  Magpaparlor ka, spa, build a business and do what will make you be a better person.  Hayaan mo na yang si husband, basta do your duty as a wife, kung sa tingin ng asawa mo may kulang pa at kailangan nya ng iba, aba hindi mo na yan problema.  Tandaan mo sis pag tanda nyo, titigil din yan.

One thing I realized when I had the same problem before was the fact that I am a person first, before I am a wife, a mother, a sister etc.  I have to love myself first and nurture whatever gifts God has given me.  I owe it to my God, my husband/kids/family should come second.


 

cmfff

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« Reply #37 on: September 26, 2011, 04:17:05 pm »

One thing I realized when I had the same problem before was the fact that I am a person first, before I am a wife, a mother, a sister etc.  I have to love myself first and nurture whatever gifts God has given me.  I owe it to my God, my husband/kids/family should come second.

galing nito sis, :) :) :)yes totoo yan. aaralin ko sya dahan dahan.. salamat sa inyong lahat!!!

darkchild

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« Reply #38 on: September 27, 2011, 03:12:08 pm »
^kahit dyosa ka pa ng kagandahan, kung magloloko ang asawa mo, magloloko talaga yan.  Kahit itali mo pa sa poste... sis TS, ask your husband point blank kung nambababae ba sya, pag nagdeny, be happy.  Pag umamin, ask kung bakit, if you can address the issue then solve it.  If not, then suck it in.

sobrang totoo nyan!!!!!

ako din di lang cards ang nakita sa wallet ng asawa ko bna f ko p noon. even a condom. of course, i went wild. at simula nun, lagi na akong praning sa kanya. pero everytime mag aaway kami dhil dun, he'd just say "in time, mapapatunayan ko din sayong di kita kayang lokohin"

naghanap din ako ng mga ebidensya nuon. wala akong napatunayan. siguro nga totoo yung sinsabi nya. till eventually, i got tired and now na kasal na ako sa kanya, may mga times pa din may pinagseselosan ako at ikinapapraning. pero isa lang din ang narealize ko sa 9 years naming magjowa at ngayon 2 two years na kaming kasal. yun nga, kung maloloko ang lalaki kahit anong gawin mo, magloloko siya so enjoy your life. wag mo sayangin ang ganda mo sa kunsumisyon sa pag iisip na your hubby is cheating on you.

ako, nagpapakabait akong asawa at ina sa anak niya. kung sa kabila nun, mambabae pa siya, kawalan nya ko. pwede din naman ako manlalaki kung gusto ko e. pero pinipili ko kung ano ang tama at makabubuti sa pamilya ko lalo na sa anak ko.


justin3

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« Reply #39 on: September 27, 2011, 10:42:58 pm »
cmfff - if naging tama ang hinala mo, i would suggest that you should give him one last chance, after all, he's your hubby na (not just a bf). baka nagkasuyaan lang with the barkadz kaya napa-sub-sob sa ibang dibdib.

ok rin yung pabayaan mo na lang, deadma... wag ka na lang magtaka if one day may STD ka na courtesy of his kulasisi . ;D

seriously, habang maaga pa, i would encourage you to undergo marriage encounter seminar/retreat with hubby. drop what you are doing. iwan nyo muna si baby sa kapitbahay o sa DSWD. :D
one week o one weekend sacrifice lang yan  kesa forever kayong maghiwalay o forever kang praning.


 

 

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