Need help re helps =(

[ilovecoach]

I initially posted this message sa ibang thread, kaya lang parang OT, so I started a thread na lang.

we've recently moved to a 3 storey townhouse w/ a floor area of 300sq meters. 2 na umalis dahil nakakapagod daw un hagdan. masyado raw mataas ang bahay.

mga sisses, i have one child only. the house is 4 bedrooms.  my son is 6 yrs. old, meron siyang tutor.  ako ang nag susundo and bringing lunch to school everyday.  si hubby 730pm na nakakauwi, at yan na ang pinakamaaga niya.  i try to make my son go to sleep at 8pm.  by the way, i also work, but i work at home.  my son's class is till 245pm everyday. my mom told me that she can cook for us narin, basta pickup ko lang sa house niya.

so magiging trabaho ko if i don't have stay in help is take care of my son from 5pm to 8pm (up to 5pm kasi ang tutor), and whole day during sat and sun (though si hubby magtulong naman yan magbantay).  and of course the cleaning up of the house.

do you think i can survive w/o help? o kahit na arawan lang maybe 3x a week? ang problema kasi sa katulong now ayaw nila mag isa, so i have to maintain at least 2. besides, sa ngayon 2 na sila pero nagrereklamo pa na di nila kaya trabaho.  magastos! ang gastos ko sa 2 katulong i think 11-12k na per month.  kasi yun isa 5500p na ang sweldo at un isa naman 3k.  then un merienda pa nila which is 500p each. then un 13th month pay pa, then un mga electricity and water pa, at mga sinisira nilang gamit.

i feel frustrated coz i find these helps so hard to please na eh. to the point na feeling ko di ko na afford.  pls give your opinion. thank you po.

[p0g1ng]

sounds like ok ka namang klaseng boss sis, ba't di pa natapat yung magagaling/masisipag na househelp  na mabalitaan mo na lang sa news, na-maltreat ng mga amo.

it seems you can afford it naman, why not hire directly from the province(s)? yung malalayo para di uwi nang uwi; yung walang alam sa Manila para di layas ng layas; yung hirap mag-Tagalog para di makipag-tsismisan.

at 3-4k a month? ang dami nang kakagat nun.

ayoko lang magreto, baka ako pa sisihin ng either party.

[sweety_paige]

If na stress ka sa helpers by all means paalisin mo, supposedly kasi they make our lives easier not harder.  Maarte na din kasi ang mga maids ngayon eh, alam kasi nila na maraming naghahanap ng mga  kasambahay.

Ano bang work ng maid nyo sis? dalawa na tapos hindi pa kaya ang work? 

Maybe maghanap ka nalang ng stay out para sa laba at plantsa? or hire a cleaning lady nalang?

Pero I'm sure you can survive without a help

[ilovecoach]

@ p0g1ng, wala akong mahire directly from province bec lahat ng kakilala ko sa agency na rin kumukuha.  so ako, sa agency na rin kumukuha. pag galing province, ang sweldo ngayon sa agency ay 3k na starting.  3.5k if city.

@ sweety_paige, yun isa alaga ng bata pero 6 y.o. na siya so more of company nalang, konting bantay.  he's also in school from m to f, and class niya till 245pm.  so tulong tulong din siya sa housework, un isa naman purely housework (kasama na laba).

[sweety_paige]

^Ang dali lang naman pala ng work ng maids nyo eh, kayang kaya mo yan, mahirap lang sa umpisa.

[aquacharly]

The problem may not be the workload  but the lack of aalembongan. Lol
Or, that you are always home -- so hindi puede mangapitbahay, hindi puede stambay  sa guardhouse, etc.

With  your set-up, you need only 1 helper that is after good paying work, period.

A sister of mine lives in a townhouse with a 120sqm footprint - 4 floors x 100sqm area to be cleaned.  She has 3 kids (no toddlers), 3 in-house pet dogs, and a husband who goes home daily (hindi yung assigned abroad or what).   My sister cooks, helper cooks too - the simpler dishes or ordinary frying/reheating.  Helper cleans, and takes care of the dogs too (loves the dogs too).  She can do grocery, go to the bank, and fetches the youngest from School in a cab when due to soccer practice naiiwanan ng school bus. 

She cleans and spruces up the entire house. But my sister helps pag general cleaning (1x/month). 
She handwashes  daily all underwear, and any easy tops of chiffon/light material; &  machine-washes all
 pambahay  2x a week. She does NO ironing whatsoever. 
My sister sends all panglabas clothes and uniforms for handwashing at Metropole.  She spends 1thou per weekmax daw, still cheaper than a stay-in laundrywoman.  Clothes are not destroyed,
Menos koryente and water bills pa.

She is paid 7thou now, and has paid 1mo.off vacation.  but she has been with them for 7 years na rin. Started out as a yaya.   

[lime_eds]

Hi guys, I really need help on my late sister's kasambahay. Any opinion will be much appreciated.

We call her Manang as she is old enough when my late sister hired her. She hired her around 1990 and now she was 61years old. She was well paid naman before magkasakit yung Ate ko at nawalan nang work around 2005. That time, sinabi niya kay Manang na she can work for others kase hindi na kaya pasahuran nang Ate ko siya. Pero, hindi na siya umalis sa bahay at naging kontento na lang na basta may tirahan at makakakain. Ako naman nakikitira sa bahay nang Ate ko since mas malapit ang work ko kaysa sa mismong bahay namin. I just share on house expenses na lang since we're just renting an apartment. 2010 came and my sister died, hindi ko siya pinaalis na akala ko kaya ko siya buhayin pati na rin yung pamangkin ko, who is still studying, na naulila nang late sister ko.

Now, I don't think na kaya ko pa since nagagamit ko na rin yung savings ko para sa day-to-day na gastusin namin. Take note na hindi ko siya napapasahuran dahil gusto niya lang talaga nang may pamilya na maituturing. She's now 61 years old and no benefit from government dahil wala siyang SSS at no senior ID dahil wala siyang Birth certificate, na check ko rin sa NSO.

Gusto ko na siya paalisin since wala na kong mai-offer na maayos na buhay para sa kanya. Lalo na she's 61 na at hindi ko rin kaya sagutin ang medicine na pangangailangan nya. Meron siyang relative (a niece) in Laguna pero ayaw niya doon tumira since sa squatter lang nakatira yung pamilya niya. Ayaw niya rin umalis sa amin kase wala naman siyang malilipatan at wala na rin kukuha sa kanya since she's old na nga. Is it ok ba na ipasok ko na lang siya sa home for the aged na free? Matandang dalaga kase at wala na rin pamilya na babalikan sa probinsya. Nakakaawa man pero hindi ko naman talaga siya responsibilidad. My only responsibility is my pamangkin.

Or do you think it's ok to leave her with her pamangkin since siya rin naman ang nabibiyayaan nang sahod dati ni Manang, though medyo risky ang magiging buhay nila.

Hope you guys can enlighten me. Medyo mixed ang nakukuha ko kaseng reaction sa ibang tao regarding this one.

[aquacharly]

Put her in the home.  It isn't as if you threw her out on the streets.
Doon may medical attention, may peer group sya, may social activities sya.  She may enjoy life better there than the squatters home she dreads to go home too.

[Kady_14]

ilovecoach - Get an automatic WM kung wala pa tapos hire a stayout since your mom naman pala can cook for you.

Aquacharly - i fully agree with the walang ka-alembongan or you're always at home kaya gusto umalis. Yan din mostly ang prob ng mga helpers namin dati, kasi most of the time we leave the house and sila lang naiiwan kaya nabobore. Tapos nung huli naman and i'm already staying home, nakikita ko na naiinis na yung maid ko since andito na ako sa bahay all the time para i-correct siya or utusan, kaya ngpaalam na. Dati kasi siya lang naiiwan dahil kids are in school m-f and hubs and i work. Weekends naman umaalis kami.

lime_eds - That's sad naman. I hope you can find her a place to stay. Tama nga Maybe a home will be best for her. Naalala ko yung old maid namin, yaya pa siya ng Dad ko when he was 4 years old and stayed with our family and my Uncles/Aunts palipat lipat lang siya since eight na magkakapatid sila Tatay ko. Umabot sa point na we hated her (me and my cousins) kasi mas mahigpit pa siya sa parents namin or sa Lola namin when it comes to pag bboyfriend lol and she tends to over react on things. Certified Manang and galit na galit kami pero now that i'm older, saka ko na-appreciate mga paghihigpit nya sa amin. Before she passed, she stayed with my Uncle who lives in Makati, who have geeks for sons and daughters - di ngboboyfriend or gf. Pero siguro nga kasi difficult to deal with na din siya she opted to stay with her daughter who's bi and has a live-in partner pero siguro nga dahil di din niya kasama lumaki mga anak nya di rin sila magkasundo sundo kaya paalis alis din dun and papunta punta sa mga uncles ko.

My point here is matanda na yun and wala ka magagawa if you decide to put her in a home tapos ayaw nya. Best siguro is to talk to her and tell her the situation. Mahirap na nga yan since hindi lang pagkain ang susustento mo at me meds pa pala.

[lime_eds]

Aquacharly, thanks for the info sis.. it is the best for her. We are in the process of endorsing her to home for the aged via DSWD. Nag home visit na din yung taga home for the aged and we're still waiting for the result/outcome.

Kady_14, Our Manang is still dalaga and wala din anak kase choice niya daw yun. And now, may mga gustong kumuha na sa kanya like our friends pero she really wants to stay at home for the aged para daw panatag na ang isip niya.  Antay pa din kami nang feedback from them. Na-enlighten din siya nung nag-visit yung taga home for the aged/institution. Ayaw niya din kase yung palipat-lipat.

[Scubadoobidoo]

1 maid would be enough for your setup. We live in a townhouse with around 400 sq meter floor area. 4 adults and one dog. And we only have one maid. Our house is full of CCTV cams, bawal sa maid namin mangapit bahay. But she gets to watch all the tv that she wants when tapos na lahat ng work nya.

[Kady_14]

^^ How much are her meds? Akin na lang siya. LOL.

I need someone to stay here in our house in Caloocan hahaha....

Kidding aside, I guess ganun na nga ang gagawin mo, find her a home. Saka ok naman pala siya sa ganung set-up.

My helper left today and akala ata niya ay taga bantay lang siya ng bahay and taga pakain ng aso (like what my husband's tita told her) of course she needs to keep house din. We planned kasi sana to stay elsewhere for summer kaso mainit dun so change of plans and we stayed home most of the time. So andito din ako para utusan at punahin siya.

^ I am also thinkin' of adding CCTV inside the house kasi sa palibot lang ng bahay kami meron.

[Scubadoobidoo]

In todays times having a CCTV cam is almost a must na talaga.

[can_dice]

500 each for merienda?

ang laki naman ng budget mo sis!

if your has a floor area of 300sf, i think scheduling is the way to go.  impossible naman ata to clean the whole house in a day. 

plus hindi mo naman ginagamit lahat ng kwarto diba?

[can_dice]

In todays times having a CCTV cam is almost a must na talaga.

kahit na may cctv maraming kalokohan paring nangyayari.
i even know of a friend na sinaktan na yung anak nila, huling huli sa cctv YET andiyan parin sa kanila!  kasi daw they need the yaya plus pinagsabihan daw...  nye diba??

[Scubadoobidoo]

kahit na may cctv maraming kalokohan paring nangyayari.
i even know of a friend na sinaktan na yung anak nila, huling huli sa cctv YET andiyan parin sa kanila!  kasi daw they need the yaya plus pinagsabihan daw...  nye diba??

Grabe naman that they will tolerate that. Hindi ako papayag ng ganun and lalo na si wifey.

[can_dice]

Well ang dahilan nila was.. 'mahirap kumuha ng yaya'

For me kasi, bawal saktan ng kasambahay ang anak ko.. Period.  No buts of ifs, no excuses talaga..

[Scubadoobidoo]

Mahirap nga kumuha ng yaya pero mas mahirap mag buo ng baby

[can_dice]

^Totoo, but some are desperate eh
I don't want to judge, pero I just feel sad pag ganon.

Kawawa yung bata