25 and still single

[Tiffylicious]

Hi. I just want to seek advice. I never had a boyfriend and at this age, I'm not sure if it's still normal. I've had a lot of suitors before but I rejected all of them. I even had a former classmate way back in college, who's also a friend, that profess HER love to me 2 years after we graduated. And in my current job,  I've had 2 superiors who expressed their interest but I rejected them as well - the first one has a kid already, it's an issue for me and the other is married and has kids as well. So I guess I'm the typical girl who's "lapitin". My friends say masyado daw akong choosy. My defense is masama ba maging choosy? I don't want to enter in a relationship just for the sake to have a bf. Kung may magustuhan man ako, it's always one-sided naman, nasasaktan lang ako lagi. Lately, madalas ko lang maisip na bakit until now I don't have a bf. Is there something wrong with me? I know that there are a lot of girls na single din at this age but in my case NEVER pa ako nagka bf and parang di na yata normal yun. One thing that makes me sad is that whenever I go out with friends and the topic is about relationships, I felt out of place. I'm envious of them. Before, nasasabi ko pa na I enjoy being single. But now, parang di ko na siya masabi. I wanted to feel how to be loved naman. Isa lang nakikita kong problem, yung pagiging choosy, but at the same time ayoko naman pumatol sa kung sino sino. Need advice. Help

[qtpurple04]

there's nothing wrong naman if choosy ka .. maybe kaya kasi hindi mo rin feel yun mga suitors mo dahil may standards ka .. i mean hindi sila pasok sa standards mo .. siguro kasi takot ka na mapunta ka sa hindi mo ideal man .. kumbaga ang nangyayari kinocompare mo sila sa ibang guys .. na dapat ganito ka kagaya ni .. something like that ..

kasi sis ang true love walang pinipiling standard yan once na tinamaan ka lahat ng meron siya at kun ano man siya ay unti unti mong maa-accept .. takot ka siguro na pag nagka-bf ka e may masabing pangit yung mga nakapaligid sayo .. ang dating sa akin ang gusto mo perfect hindi lang sayo kundi sa mga tao sa paligid mo .. IMO lang

[mistiqshannen]

hi sis i had my first serious BF when i was 23. nagka BF ako 1 week lang 22 ako.. since birth wala. me suitors pero ayaw ko din..

OK lang yan. Just wait for the right guy to come. HIndi naman namimili ng panahon pag dumating ang tamang guy. and you will know if he is the one kasi kahit ang taas ng standard mo if gusto mo sya laglag lahat yan mga pinag iingatan mo listahan ng ideal man mo.. Trust me been there... I ended up sa lalakeng ang dami wala sa ideal na pinapangarap ko pero mahal ko sya mahal nya ako..

Pero sa kabila nun wala sa mga gusto ko, my husband and BF for 6 yrs is guapo hahaha and super bait and responsible.. aanhin ko yun super mayaman na magaling pumorma.. well baduy kasi si hubby before iniisip ko palang sumama sa kanya maglakad NO NO NO na.. pero i ended up loving him..

ganun lang yun wait and see.. Me friends din ako nasa mid 30s na sila pero single nag ka BF dati pero end up to nothing. pero nun dumating sa kanila yun right guy ay naku months palang nagpakasal na.. pero happy sila.. me isa pa super galing kasi ang taas ng standard ayun nakakita din sa wakas.. at yun ideal na waley also!

[airish_2]

i think wag ka muna masyado magmadali i-enjoy mo muna maging open sa invites pag may nag-aya sayo na guy to lunch out wag mo i turn down, wala naman sa age yun kung iisipin mo yun maprepressure ka lang  when i mean enjoy ienjoy mo lang talaga hanap ka ng ka-chatmate well it doesn't mean na iboyfriend agad.

[mslcgrey]

sis Tiffylicious,
 it is okay to be choosy but hopefully your standards are reasonable... baka naman perfect na kasi ang hinahanap mo, well there is no such thing as a perfect boyfriend...may mga characteristics ka talagang igigive-up... for example, baka gusto mo eh gwapo, matangkad like 6 ft dapat, matalino, responsible, caring, thoughtful, mayaman... eh mahirap nga yan... baka pwedeng i-give yung let say pagiging matangkad, pwede na yung 5'7"...
but for now, don't worry... you are still young...enjoy the time you have now.. focus on your career and family and friends... time will come for that guy but hopefully you will be able to recognize him and don't think na there is someone better pa...
hope this advice helps you...

[marbleslice]

sis, i hope you'll feel better with all the comments coming from our sis. Don't feel pressured. Dadating din yan. Siguro you choose to choose wisely than be with a guy then di naman kayo magtatagal. 

[shane_ganda]

we  have the same problem! pero ako nagka bf na im 26 turning 27.  wow saying my age is weird. im old!! anyways, 2 or 3 years na ata ako walang bf, im super duper choosy! medyo immature pa nga ako eh. almost lahat ng guys na makausap ko. (not kidding and not bragging about it) nagkaka interest sakin. and onti lang naman coz I dont go out much. I dont know, I changed. and nakakulong lang ako lagi sa bahay. hayyyy I really want to fall in love again. and Im having issues na din with my life. getting lonely, miserable.. i dont know. and I think it's because I dont have a lovelife. sana dumating na prince charming natin.

@mslcgrey yun ang gusto ko sis! LOL

@mistiqshannen very well said sis, nagkaron ako ng pag asa.

[angelgirl17]

For me, it's a must to set standards for your guy. But you should not take them as rules for choosing the one but rather a guide. What you must remember though is if ever you meet someone who does not meet quite a few of your requirements and end up liking (or maybe even loving) him, you should learn to accept him for who he is. It's easy to describe what's a dream guy for you but it's a fact of life that nobody's perfect and there's a slim chance that you will get what you exactly want.

BUT you should still always take note of your non-negotiables (i.e. must be God-fearing) because it will help preserve your identity and self-respect especially when you're in a relationship.

[buzzhang]

Being single at the age of 25 is still normal. A lot of people are even older but they are happy with being single. Just enjoy life and I believe that there's someone that's really meant for you. Just pray.

[baliwsayo]

Eto narinig ko lang sa radyo ha.. "wag kang choosy kung di ka naman yummy" 

Kidding aside, I agree dun sa nagsabi na kailangan yun standard mo sa isang guy eh match din sa sarili mo. Baka naman kasi gusto mo kamukha ni brad pitt pero kamukha mo si pokwang? (sorry, inexaggerate ko lang talaga para mas madali ma-visualize). Match match lang kasi talaga yan. Of course wag ka din naman kukuha ng mas mababa ang level sa yo (like kamukha mo si angelina jolie tapos papatol ka sa kamukha ni long mejia) for the sake lang na magka-bf (maging choosy ka sa ganoong aspect). Level level lang talaga kasi yan. Maging realistic ka lang sa kung ano ang tutuong level mo at for sure makakakita ka din ng match mo. 

[felicityinlove]

I agree sa mga comments nila sis. Don't get involved in a relationship just because 25 ka na and you feel pressured.  Enjoy mo muna pagiging single.  True love will come looking for you in God's own time. 

[surume kraken]

ok lang maging single basta happy ka 

[pinkyb]

i think i should be more worried than you. i'm 30 and still single and never been into a relationship. hehe! like you, i dont want to enter into a relationship just for the sake of being in one and im also rather choosy. don't worry sis. it'll happen. God is still preparing the right guy for you.

[xxtiffiniexx]

25 is still young. But if you really want a boyfriend, just put yourself out there and love will just find you You'll be surprised that that really works

[spacemonkey]

i think its great to be choosy.

i admire girls who can say "no, i deserve something better than this." rather than "omg. i need a boyfriend, pronto! i dont care if im not at all attracted to him!"

--- because really, if you read most threads in here, its a LOT of women feeling like they've sold themselves short and are unsatisfied with what they've got.

kung ayaw mo, ayaw mo eh. don't listen to people in here talking about how you need to match it with your looks, etcetc. F*CK THAT.

i waited a long time too and never got into a serious relationship until i was around 25. i've been made to feel bad by my friends, forced on dates, i've been left out, i've been third wheel, and i've sat in my room during valentines with nobody calling or texting.

when i was younger, i thought it was sad, but i remember looking at their boyfriends, knowing how some of my friends felt about them, and thinking, "one day, i'm going to have a more awesome boyfriend than you."

-- and then one day, this guy comes in, breaking every rule i set for guys i will date, and *BOOM!* in an instant, we just clicked.

you can (and should!) set standards, sure, but also watch out for that "spark", because you might be missing out on someone really special.

[k_heart]

25 and still single is very much normal nowadays. Ang dami na nga ring 35 and still single but its normal na nowadays kasi mas maraming women na ang priority ay career or yung pag help sa family nila.

[kachich]

same problem! NBSB din ako. But unlike you, wala akong suitors. nFeeling ko nga allergic sakin mga lalaki e. Meron bang school for learning tips and tricks for flirting? Hindi kasi ako natural na sexy e, ang hirap tuloy dumiskarte. Ang trip ko lang naman, yung may flat ang stomach at may stable job, at presentable. Natawa ako dun sa, wag maging choosy kung hindi yummy. Hahaha

[PrincessC]

i was 25 and still single.
when i wasn't expecting it, love found me.
i was a few months shy of turning 27 when i was "reintroduced" to a college classmate who turned out to be my first (and only) love.

sometimes, there are some things that you cannot plan.

just be open and set realistic standards. hehe

[lisse]

^I agree sayo sis, set realistic standards, do not settle but learn to compromise, IMO. Besides, it's just a normal feeling to stop and think and sorta question yourself if nasa sayo ba ang mali why no bf ka pa rin. Love will come in its own proper time, hindi mo palang time sis. For the meantime, enjoy your single-ness. You're still young and you have a long way to go. I met my hubby when I'm already 27.
Just hang in there

[PrincessC]

^ apir tayo jan sis lisse!