Ever sabotaged your own relationship?

[e.viv]

Ever heard of Groucho Marx Syndrome. Quote from a research says, "Groucho Marx Syndrome: You are in a relationship that you don’t feel you deserve, you are going to do everything in your power to sabotage it."

[carmichael18]

Yes I have.. well, categorically I think I have...

I had ex, super possessive niya.. I can't see my friends when I'm not with him, he has to approve what I would be wearing to work, and siya ang unang bumabasa ng messages ko sa phone.. as in!!! till one day I felt like I've had enough.. pero hindi ko alam kung pano kakalas, kasi nga marami siyang paraan para bantayan ako and if i'll just tell him I wanna end all the fuss, magwawala siya..

so yung closest guy friend ko sa work, which I later on found out na super like ako, eh pinatulan ko.. ako na gumawa ng way, sinadya ko, kahit hindi ko type pa nun yung other guy.. para lang hiwalayan niya ako.. but no, I was wrong.. lalo pa siyang naghigpit, medyo naging pisikal na nga, kaya nilayasan ko na talaga sya...

[thestargazer]

Yup. My EX was a playboy...sobra, siguro sa class nya yung babae nya dalawa...ayun nasakal ko sya sa relationship. at the same time wala na rin yung tiwala ko. lagi na akong duda....naghiwalay kami. BUTI na lang di kami nagwork out

[kellybelly]

Yes. I used to pick fights with an ex and pushed his buttons until he finally blew up. i took that as an opportunity to bail and didn't take his calls nor reply to his texts and was super cold when he showed up to talk. didn't have the guts to break up with the poor guy, yun na lang ginawa ko. tsk tsk.

[felicityinlove]

I think I did once at siya yung lumabas na nagkulang kaya di nagwork relationship namin.

[bleudskymd]

Yeah I think I did. I was immature, naive back then; I didn't know how to handle it well. We both knew that there were flaws, imperfections in our relationship & had no growth (or naging stagnant) for many years. He was already seeing someone else & I felt he was slipping away. He wasn't interested about us anymore. So instead of trying/making efforts to save our relationship, I hastened to end it. I made it easier for him para maghiwalay kami.   

[buchi]

i think i was able to do this sa 2nd ex ko. i just lost interest and i would make excuses para wag kami mag kita, pag susundo sa work sasabihin ko OT ako, etc. then yun na nga i told him wala na talga nung sobrang galit na talga siya

[koolitai]

Inasar ko ng inasar (kasi inaasar nya rin ako) para magpalambing or kausapin nya ako ng 1 on 1. Pero di nya ginawa, ayun naghanap na pala ng iba. Hehe.

[viellemacey]

i did !    kasi naman pakiramdam ko that time pinababayaan nya na ko.. ok na lang ng ok. di man lang nagtatanong san pupunta, sino kasama, kung uuwe ba ko ng dorm o hindi.. basta.. imagine that, hindi lang nakakapanlamig nakakainsulto pa. the nerve.. ayun ganun rin ginawa ko sa kanya hanggang kausapin nya ko what's wrong with us tapos sabi ko lang "i'm sorry but you just show me the best way out". 

[e.viv]

^ "show me the best way out..." ----> noted on my breaking up dictionary.

[viellemacey]

^   may ganun talaga. 

[_katelicious_]

I did everything to irritate my current boyfriend pero nagawa ko na yata lahat and he is still with me.  Ayun, nakuha na niya ako.  He is so nice and there is no point in sabotaging my relationship with him.

[aquacharly]

Yes.  "There's no easy way to break somebody's heart". .. As sung by James Ingram.

Just another version of: it's not you, but me.

[pink_stardust]

may tendency ako maging ganito. parati kong inaaway si bf, selosa kasi ako. gusto ko kasi ako lang ang girl sa life nya, walang ibang girlfriend. pero matyaga sya sakin, inaassure nya na walang kwenta yung dating relationship nya and ako ang mahal nya. maswerte ako na patient si bf pag sinusumpong ako.

sana matigil na din ako sa ganito kasi baka dumating ang time na magsawa na sya sa pagsuyo sa akin :/

[monmon009]

count me in. I've done this with my ex. Kasi sobrang higpit nya.
Bawal magsuot ng ganito, kelangan wag akong gagabihin ng di siya kasama, ayaw nya din umalis ako na hindi kasama..
almost 4 years akong ganito na hindi ko magawa yung gusto kong gawin.
Hindi ko tuloy na-enjoy yung college life ko.
Ang masaya pa lagi siyang di pwedeng umalis ng bahay at di din siya pwedeng gabihin kasi magagalit mama nya or walang kasama mama nya.
Super mama's boy.
 I treat him so bad talaga para hiwalayan na nya ako kasi everytime na nakikipagbreak ako tinatakot nya ko ng kung ano2.
Na alam kong capable niyang gawin war freak kasi.
Pero nagbackfires yung ginawa ko. Dahil sa mga ginawa ko eh naghanap sya ng iba.
So ako pa tuloy yung lumabas na iniwan..nakakadepressed lang yung nanagyari pero blessing in disguised na din. Atleast nakawala na ko sa relationship na yun. And im very much happy and contented with my guy now.

[koolitai]

sana dito sa thread na to, sumagot si guytalker... i want to know his opinion on this...

[FOURever]

I did when i realized that i grew tired of our relationship. So in the end, he looked for other girls without me knowing.. Nung nagbreak kami, may pinalit na sya. And i didn't feel bitterness about it. Grateful ako na wala na kami

We were together for more than 5 yrs. mahigpit sya and never trusted me. Siguro because i didn't love him deeply kaya ganun sya sakin sobrang possessive na kahit di ako attractive, magseselos sa lahat.

[sumirehana]

I did, a long time ago. I was in a relationship na medyo napilitan lang ako, so I was constantly picking fights and looking for a way to get out. Tuwing makikipag-break ako, nagte-threaten siya maglaslas or even suicide. I know he's capable of hurting himself and he did it na before. Pero one time, inisip ko nalang bahala na siya. Di ko naman kasalanan kung gagawin nya yun sa sarili nya, so ayun.. Iniwan ko na at ngayon buhay pa naman siya XD

[prettyellowish]

Baligtad naman sa case ko. Ako ang pinalabas ng ex ko na may kasalanan. Yun pala may babae na, naghanap lang sya ng way para hiwalayan ako anyway, mabilis ang karma, di sila nagtagal, di ko alam kung bakit at wala na ko gana alamin kung bakit.

[10don]

prettyyellowish, pareho tayo. ako ang pinalabas na may kasalanan. di pa ko nakaka move on. masaya pa sila ngayon. hinihintay ko nga ang karma nila e. ang weird lang kasi ang ex ko, ginagawa nila yung mga ginagawa namin dati, na ako ang nag introduce sa kanya ng mga ganong activities. pati mga places na plano naming puntahan at napuntahan na, don din sila.  tapos ang mga jokes nila, same sa jokes namin. ang weird no? di ko alam kung sadyang bo-bo lang ang ex ko or talagang walang personality.

pano ko alam lahat yan? well, they all over the net. may facebook, instagram, tumbler, twitter, linked in lol. nag stop na ko na tumingin. minsan inaatake ng pagka chismosa. sisilip ng 1 minute. ayan, masasaktan ang puso  oh well, di din sila magtatagal. at hihintayin ko ang karma chameleon nila.  bitterness lang lol