ok, first off what she's offering is not term.
read that a few times and internalize it.
then quit referring to it as term insurance.. its not.

here's the link to the product she's offering you:
http://www.sunlife.com.ph/philippines/Products+and+Services/Individual+insurance/SUN+Smarter+Life?vgnLocale=en_CAThe fact that it has cash values and dividends
(3rd in the benefits list) proves that it isn't term.
Again term insurance is just plain insurance, there
is no cash benefit unless you die.
Sunlife has 2 term products
Here:
http://www.sunlife.com.ph/philippines/Products+and+Services/Individual+insurance/Sun+Term+90?vgnLocale=en_CAand
Here:
http://www.sunlife.com.ph/philippines/Products+and+Services/Individual+insurance/SUN+Safer+Life+-+5+Year+Renewable+and+Convertible+Term?vgnLocale=en_CATerm insurance premiums are super duper cheap compared to VUL premiums
and traditional insurance premiums, as in malaki ang gap.
Just remember though that VUL is basically just like BTID.
Inside the VUL, you are charged insurance charges and admin charges
which can be compared to term insurance.
Then inside the VUL, there are investment funds which can be
compared to you investing in mutual funds or UITFs outside the VUL.
That's why there's a debate between VUL vs BTID because they are
pretty much the same.
Pero with BTID, you are only getting insurance
from the insurance company and investing with investment companies
or banks.
With VUL naman, you are both getting insurance and investing with
the insurance company.
It depends on your situation. I've bought 2 Sunlife Flexilink policies
because it met my needs. I also have 2 Insularlife Wealth Secure policies because it again met my needs. And I also have 2 Manulife Term policies because yes, it met my needs.

She is correct. With traditional life insurance you have cash values
which is not "withdrawable" per se. You can loan against your cash value though.
With VULs naman, you can withdraw your fund value anytime.
And yes, you can opt not to pay as long as the fund value is sufficient to absorb all monthly charges