I like him, he likes me back.

[imyourangel]

But we chose to be still the best of friends.
How do we maintain it? Na sana walang awkward moments between us.

And paano ba mag-move on din, na sana mawala na yung feelings ko din sa kanya.

[gylbie]

sis, di ba kau single? kase un lang nakikita ko hadlang kaya di kau pwede eh...

o pwede rin feeling mo lang na he likes you... tee hee!.. or nagtapat na talaga siya?

[shopaholic18]

^^i see no point of not being together if you really like each other not unless siguro one of you are committed. hope things work out well between the two of you.

[17arci]

been there, done that. just go with the flow. if your emotions are too strong then you have to have space to think things over.

But we chose to be still the best of friends.
How do we maintain it? Na sana walang awkward moments between us.

And paano ba mag-move on din, na sana mawala na yung feelings ko din sa kanya.

[chicafabulosa]

Mahirap i-maintain ang platonic relationship if both of you knows na you have feelings for each other. Either you give it a shot or stay away for a while para mawala yung feelings. The only thing I can think why you can't be together is when one or both of you are committed already. But if not, then why not give it try right?

[imyourangel]

Yun na nga mga sis! Married na sya.
And yup nagtapat na din sya. Pero sabi nya he chose to be friends with me daw, kesa ipakitang gusto nya ko, kasi wala na din sya magagawa at married na.

Nagkaron kasi ng situation once in his life... na there's this one girl best friend of him na nagkahulugan sila ng loob, at nang dahil dun nasira yung friendship nilang dalawa. Eh si boy gusto lang naman makahanap ng friend, hehe. Sabi nya ayaw na nya maulit yung pagkakamali nyang yun sakin. Na masira yung friendship namin dahil may feelings. Ako na lang kasi natitira nyang pinagkakatiwalaang kaibigan, may trust issues din kasi yun. LOL.

Sana lang maka-move on na ako. Haha

[aquacharly]

Treat him like any male friend, ordinary friend.
Do NOT put yourself in harm's way by treating him as a male BFF.
Kasi, unless bading ang male BFF,  hay naku... you will give in to temptation 1 fine day.
Ma kukulot mo ang utak mo para ma justify and then.. ano, magigising ka everyday 1 fine day na kabit ka na. 

Actually, mas okay kung maging friend mo din ang wife nya.
Pero hwag kang katulad ni Conney  Reyes na hinudas nya her BFF na si Dina Bonnevie na Mrs. Vic Sotto noon ha.     Coney was a friend of my mom, but nang mangyari yang scandale na yan eh sabi ng pops ko sa mom ko -- choose your friends wisely.  so end of friendship.  But she has reformed, it seems.. hindi ba active sya sa Born Against movement?

[imyourangel]

^^EEEeek.. pano yan, bff na ang turing ko sa kanya.. as in he's one of my most trusted friends. Konti lang kasi ang circle of friends ko kaya naging isa na sya dun. Ayoko naman ding mawala sya dahil lagi syang andyan, ready to lend an ear...

And... hmmm befriend his wife? As much as I would like to, ewan ko.. natatakot kasi ako sa kanya eh.. inaway na kasi ako nun.. and super jealous nun.. baka lalo ako awayin.. hehe. And I don't know.. hindi sya ganun kaopen pagusapan yung wife nya. I think he really doesn't love her from the start pa lang...

Pero ayoko na isipin yun.. ayoko maging kabit.. haha

Medyo hindi ko na-gets yung kay Coney Reyes issue pala.

[muahmuahmuah]

a married man's best friend should be his wife a single girls best friend should be with her God/ her faith and herself. you don't need him...nang eepal lang yan as much as you're giving yourself excuses to be wth him, exemption sige would be if you were friends since birth/ h.s. or college or something way back that links you. but a guy who is married and has a tinge of interest in a single woman, that could lead to something sexual as to an affair, better stay away if its you you are not sure of and if you can't trust yourself to be around him. nasagot mo na na ayaw mo maging kabit them most likely thats what you really want out of it--in hindsight.

[krissys]

Kung ako sayo sis iwasan mo na sya. Mas magiging komplikado ang sitwasyon. Kahit hindi mo sadyain, pwedeng mangyari ang hindi dapat mangyari. Pinagselosan ka na pala ng wife e. Ikaw, ilagay mo yung sarili mo sa sarili ng wife nya. Ok lang sayo na may bff yung asawa mo na babae (na at one point ay nagkagusto sa asawa mo knowing na may committed na??). Sa case na to, mas konti ang masasaktan if you'll decide to cut ties with him. Ikaw at sya lang. Pero kung ipapagpatuloy nyo yang friendship na yan mas marami ang maaapektuhan. Kasama ang pamilya ng kaibigan mo (wife and kids) pati pamilya mo na rin (parents, siblings).

[simang]

Yung mga sinabi mo sis TS i think are all justifications para lang hindi mawala ang connection nyong dalawa, of course you'll do it, type mo si guy eh

You should know yourself better. Kahit na wala lang intention na sirain ang marriage nya, it's still better to stay away. Wag mo ijustify na bffs kayo and he's the only friend you trust and vice versa kase b******t yun. Obviously, he's having his cake and eating it too. Kahit pa sabihin nyang hindi kayo pwede, the fact that he wants to keep you close is something else. Ang advantage pa sa kanya, is okay lang sayo the setup.

[Girltalker2]

Kumusta na kaya si TS. It has been almost 3 years since she last posted.  Pa update naman sana TS.

Here is my take.

Yun na nga mga sis! Married na sya.
And yup nagtapat na din sya. Pero sabi nya he chose to be friends with me daw, kesa ipakitang gusto nya ko, kasi wala na din sya magagawa at married na.

Stupid guy. The fact na sinabi nya, di nya ipapakita? Ano ang intention nya by letting you know that he likes you?  Simple. He wants you to make your move, para hugas kamay sya at wala syang kasalanan.

Nagkaron kasi ng situation once in his life... na there's this one girl best friend of him na nagkahulugan sila ng loob, at nang dahil dun nasira yung friendship nilang dalawa. Eh si boy gusto lang naman makahanap ng friend, hehe. Sabi nya ayaw na nya maulit yung pagkakamali nyang yun sakin. Na masira yung friendship namin dahil may feelings. Ako na lang kasi natitira nyang pinagkakatiwalaang kaibigan, may trust issues din kasi yun. LOL.

It is but natural. Magkakahulugan talaga ng loob ang isang lalaki at isang babae kapag sobrang close sila. Too close for comfort. Eh alam naman ni lalaki may asawa sya, anong ginagawa nya by being close to other women?  He is just simply malandi. Period.

Ako na lang kasi natitira nyang pinagkakatiwalaang kaibigan, may trust issues din kasi yun. LOL.

Well, I guess any flirting guy would tell anything to the potential mistress para kiligin. Kinilig ka naman.

Sana lang maka-move on na ako. Haha

Wake up girl.  You can move on if you want to. You can be stuck if you want to. Ganun lang yun kasimple.

[imyourangel]

Hi guys. Haha, nabuhay na naman ang thread na to. Brought back memories. Just an update, we don't talk anymore, if we do talk very formal na lang and civil and about church matters na lang (since we're churchmates, he's our leader in the music team)

Masaya ako with the situation now. Friends na kami ng asawa niya, no more gap between me and the girl. And at least no more complications na rin. Ang dami kasi nangyari na umabot sa point na nagalit at kinausap pa ako ni wifey niya. But at least, ngayon wala na. Malinis na ang lahat. I can see that he's now happily married (na hindi ko nakita before sa kanya) and me, I'm happily in a relationship na rin for a year. I never thought na makakamove on ako, during that time akala ko I would be forever stuck with loving him. Hindi pala.

Thanks to all the advices before. I read all those, hindi lang ako nakapagreply isa isa.

[Girltalker2]

^ sis, good for you!

Congratulations sis for not falling into the trap! 


Before medyo ilag ka sa wife nya, pero ngayon kung hindi ka naman kasi guilty, wala ka naman dapat ikatakot.
Glad that your old statement below is not anymore applicable now. 

And... hmmm befriend his wife? As much as I would like to, ewan ko.. natatakot kasi ako sa kanya eh.. inaway na kasi ako nun.. and super jealous nun.. baka lalo ako awayin.. hehe. And I don't know.. hindi sya ganun kaopen pagusapan yung wife nya. I think he really doesn't love her from the start pa lang...

[imyourangel]

^Yes!! Thanks for that. Now I can see them together with a happy heart. So to those who think they can't move on with their current broken hearted state, IT IS possible! Just have the will to move on. And praying helped a lot for me. And getting preoccupied with work and other matters.