no more kilig? dapat na ba umalis?

[Teem]

Hey girls, guy here. Recently, sinabi sakin ni GF na di na daw sya kinikilig sakin. Then nagaway kami kasi she's been talking to her "crushes" back in the day sa fb, text, etc. Syempre sinabi ko na di ako ok dun, tapos after nun sinabi nya na ginagawa nya lang un kasi dun na lang daw sya kinikilig. so bale she's talking to these guys para kiligin. Syempre na offend ako at nagalit kasi hindi naman fair para sakin un.

In this case, ano bang dapat ko gawin? Hindi rin naman ako nag kulang sa kanya, we always talk and spend time with each other tuwing weekend. occassionally, yes I do try to make her feel special. What can I guy do at this point?

[kukaii]

Hey girls, guy here. Recently, sinabi sakin ni GF na di na daw sya kinikilig sakin. Then nagaway kami kasi she's been talking to her "crushes" back in the day sa fb, text, etc. Syempre sinabi ko na di ako ok dun, tapos after nun sinabi nya na ginagawa nya lang un kasi dun na lang daw sya kinikilig. so bale she's talking to these guys para kiligin. Syempre na offend ako at nagalit kasi hindi naman fair para sakin un.

In this case, ano bang dapat ko gawin? Hindi rin naman ako nag kulang sa kanya, we always talk and spend time with each other tuwing weekend. occassionally, yes I do try to make her feel special. What can I guy do at this point?

^It takes two to tango as the cliche goes. Medyo may ganyang feeling ako kay bf ngayon pero not to the point na i'll look for the "kilig" factor sa ibang lalake. Just make her feel special. Surprise her, at higit sa lahat, STAY COMMITTED sa isa't isa. 

[Yamski]

mag-8 years na kami ng bf ko. and yes, there are a lot of times na walang kilig. pero i always tell him pag bored na'ko sa relationship namin or sad ako dahil namimiss ko ang kilig. what we do is we try something new. pag walang kakilig-kilig sa ginagawa namin na bago, we're at least having fun. eh pag masaya kami, super laugh kami together. and usually, in the middle of our laughter, one of us would tell something na kikiligin yung isa. like, "gusto ko lagi kitang napapatawa ng ganyan." dun  lalo namin nafifeel ang love for each other, tapos marealize ko uli na i'm not wasting my time in this relationship. nakakalimutan ko na bored ako. so, i guess, tama yung isang sis natin dito na kailangan talaga you always laugh together.

oh! may isa pa, re sa kiss na binanggit ni threadstarter, i used to feel that way. sinabi ko yun kay bf and i told him how i want to be kissed. ayun, ngayon, swak na kami.

[rheinfall18]

repost ko lang comment ko from the other topic..

parang nagsasawa na ko sa bf ko ngayon dahil everytime may maling nangyayari ako palagi ang lumalabas na masama..kulang na lang ipamukha sa akin na hindi ako deserving sa kanya dahil lahat ng negative na sa akin..i'm less understanding, less patient, less etc etc.. sya na perfect! >.<

hindi naman kami ganun dati..mas masaya dati e.

(@.@)

[cest.la.vie]

no more kilig? dapat na ba umalis?

- isipin mo na lang yung mga lolo't lola na, tingin mo may kilig factor pa sa kanila?

hindi basehan ang kilig factor if you should stay or not in a relationship.  what's more important is kung MASAYA ka pa ba sa relasyon nyo. or kung mahal mo pa yung partner mo.

[Girltalker2]

^It takes two to tango as the cliche goes. Medyo may ganyang feeling ako kay bf ngayon pero not to the point na i'll look for the "kilig" factor sa ibang lalake. Just make her feel special. Surprise her, at higit sa lahat, STAY COMMITTED sa isa't isa. 

I agree. But staying committed is not enough. What is the point of staying committed kung hindi naman kayo masaya?  Importante, you feel loved and you would want (motivated enough) to express your love to each other.

Usually kung hindi pa masyadong mature ang relationships or maybe the people involved in the relationship, this is what they look for.  I guess the girl/guy looking for kilig is not as mature at kung mahanap nya ito sa ibang tao, that means quits na kayo at sa iba na sya makipagBF/GF.  The person should not be in a committed relationship because it is a sign na hindi pa sya ready at hindi pa nya nahanap ang true love nya, kasi kilig lang naman hinahanap nya. Di dapat sya nagBF/GF or nagcommit pa.

Hindi ko sinasabi hindi importante ang kilig.  It is important, pero kelangan sustainable sya. Di ko naman sinasabi kelangan araw araw. Nasa checklist ko iyan in looking for Mr Right - not the kilig - but rather him being romantic.  I am a romantic person so kelangan sya rin.  Kasi feeling ko important ingredient ito in nurturing the relationship, among others.  Kung ako eh hinahanap hanap ko minsan, especially in special occasions, tapos feeling ng partner ko - alam mo na yun na mahal kita, di ko na kelangan sabihin --- naman, ayaw ko nyan. Gusto ko nagh holding hands parin kami kahit matanda na kami.

So my point is, in looking for the right partner, dapat may pag-iisip din na involved.  May check list, pero syempre dapat mahal mo din yung tao. Hindi yun kinilig ka lang, sya na maging GF/BF mo.

[aspen11]

what if sa unang part pa lang ng relationship wala nang kilig?

i mean meron nung unang una, now, we're running 3 months na, pero wala na, i think nung 1st month lang meron tapos wala na.

he doesnt make me feel loved, wanted, and cared for. he dont reply to my sweet texts, laging deadma.

i am thinking of leaving this relationship na. i think we are not compatible.

Have you tried talking to him about it sis? Before leaving, make sure na you've done all that you can to make the relationship work, and that includes talking about it. Kung wala pa rin pinagbago, then move on.

[t_r_i_s_h]

^ i second the motion. pag simula palang wala na wag na ipilit. you might end up hurting someone and yourself.

[t_r_i_s_h]

^ case to case basis. but for me kilig is very important. there was this guy na sobrang okay kami in all aspects literally pero walang kilig for the both of us. we were like that for a year and so pero wala hanggang dun lang talaga. no kilig eh. but we're still good friends now