Quarter Life Crisis

[minicake]

Shucks! Now ko lang narinig to.. Siguro yun nararamdaman ko ngayon I'm 25 na and feeling ko naboboring ako sa buhay ko though I'm married and 1 baby,parang sobrang napakadrama ko this past few months,minsan gusto ko lumayo at magsimula ng bagong career naging masyadong sensitive,at nagseself pity na di ko ginagawa dati. Minsan I cant understand myself,parang yung dramang I want to regain myself or do something for myself.. Haaay eto na nga yata yun..

[tennisgirl]

i'm in this stage right now. nakakaramdam din ako ng pagkatamad sa work, gusto lang kumain, matulog, and mag-relax (parang buhay bum), di malaman [textspeak!] anong gusto sa buhay, anxiety, etc... pag nakikita ko rin yung ibang mga friends ko na may sariling families na or successful sa career, medyo naiinggit din ako and nalulungkot. minsan nag-seself pity pa. minsan gusto ko mag-abroad kaya lang pag nalalaman ko na di ganun kadali ang buhay abroad, parang ayaw ko na. gusto ko rin lumipat ng work, pero di ko naman alam kung saan 

[chinablue]

i think i'm experiencing this right now. i'm working abroad and sobrang nahohomesick na ko. lately, all i wanna do is sleep. nabawasan yung appetite ko, thus, my weight loss. maybe naiinggit ako sa friend ko who's finally going for her yearly vacation. wala na nga ako ganang magduty eh. in the first place, i'm not happy with my job. lagi ako stress. i'm just staying because of the salary. and weird din kasi these past few days i've been thinking na why until now wala pa din ako special someone why majority of my classmates have na, some are married na nga with kids. Parang nasa stage ako ng intimacy vs. isolation. Hay!

[pretty_in_victorian]

^ (intimacy vs. isolation) nurse na nurse! lol! lighten things up a bit sis! go out and enjoy the scenery kung meron man.. dadating din yang si special someone..

[chinablue]

yun na nga masaklap sis! andito kasi ako ngayon sa liblib na parte ng saudi kung saan once a month lang kami pwede lumabas for shopping at limited pa yung time. Feeling ko nga isa akong ibon na ikinulong sa hawla. Yung special someone naman, dati di naman ako bothered. It started lang when I saw happy pics of my college classmates and mga lambingan sa wall nila. And my coworker also told me kasi kelan pa ko magboboyfriend, pag matanda na ako? Paano daw ako makakahanap ng asawa, etc etc.

[pretty_in_victorian]

^ nako mahirap nga sa Saudi.. closed kasi eh.. i always visit my aunt in Kuwait and i really like it there but i don't wanna work as a nurse there.. kahit open na sya di talaga ako comfortable sa place..

probably just skype with your family more.. or better yet, look for another country na pwede mong lipatan as a nurse din..

as per bf, dadating din yan.. kasi naman if you rush things, mamaya sablay in the end.. i learned that the hard way.. i had a few flings and was hurt a lot before i got hooked to the one.. or at least i think he is.. madami din akong friends na nagsisikasalan na and nung una nagpanic ako talaga kasi inisip ko kung marrying age na ba talaga ako (i'm 23) and after a day of pondering, naisip ko na hindi pa talaga ako ready kasi i enjoy shopping for clothes, bags, makeup, etc all of which i'm sure na mababawasan once i get married kasi baka magka kids.. and ayoko pa talaga ng kids.. i mean pag duty, love na love ko yung pedia ward/NICU pero di ko pa kaya ng commitment na magkaroon ng sariling kid.. i'm used to the crying at work but not at home..

yung cousin ko din na FA naman ganun din walang bf pero masayang single kasi free daw sya.. she used to have a clingy bf and sobrang pinagbabawalan sya sa kahit anong fun.. haha.. sakal na sakal sya sa relationship nila so she decided she didn't want that anymore.. ayun.. happy sya.. she looked even younger after that happened.. she's 28 or 29 now and in no rush to get married..

[chinablue]

thanks sis! plan ko nga magstay na lang dito for one year then magresign after. Para madagdagan pa ang savings ko. Holidays are approaching and it's so depressing lang when you are far from your loved ones. Kaya lang, ginusto ko naman to kaya magdusa ako, hehe. Anyway, after 50 days, uwi na din naman ako Pinas for my yearly vacation. Nakakainip talaga pag binibilang mo yung araw. I'm so looking forward na sa pag-uwi, kakamiss ang Pinas. Dito, di ko mafeel ang holidays. Oh well.

By the way sis, I'm also 23. Ayoko nga din ng flings, I just don't want to put myself at risk with future heartbreaks. Gusto ko ng real thing. I know naman that Papa God will give it to me at the time He thinks I'm mentally and emotionally prepared na. For now, I will just enjoy my single-blessedness.

Thanks sa post mo sis. It lightened my mood. Good vibes lang!

[stormy_princess]

is 28yrs old experiencing quarter life crisis also? if yes, count me in. Im  still torn from time to time. dont know what to do. im married and i just focused myself with my daughter and i feel well. im worried all the time.

[e.viv]

23 years old. 9 months into my new work. I am earning almost 3 times more than what I used to earn but just I don't feel happier. I even question myself if my sole purpose is to earn money that I don't even enjoy spending. I can't even stop working even if I want to.

I want to take a trip or a break from work but I can never seem to find the right time to do it.

I am dreaming of a life far from the corporate world. But I feel like I will never get my dream.

I have been depressed for quite some time but I didn't know what it was. Quarterlife Crisis pala.

[pretty_in_victorian]

sis chinablue i'm also not with my parents. my parents aren't here and i miss them so much too! only child pa ako. i live alone. yun nga lang i have some relatives who visit me from time to time. ang solution ko dyan ay skype, facetime and BBM. sanay din kasi tayong pilipino sa masayang Christmas eh dyan kasi sa middle east hindi ganun eh. in fact sa Saudi bawal pa ata (?)

isipin mo na lang malapit ka nang umuwi..

Good vibes..


sis stormy_princess i'm just wondering.. how does it feel like to have a kid? kasi as of now, i'm ready to marry pero regarding having kids, i think i'm too selfish now to have one.. i want kids.. in the future like really far in my future perhaps when i'm 30..

[buzzhang]

Just keep the faith....pray and ask for God's guidance. Always look for the bright side of life and surround yourself with positive people.

[harlequeeen]

I'm 21, grad kasi ako early, but I'm already in my quarter life crisis! Haha!

Yeah sometimes you can't help but compare yourself to others, hahaha natawa ako sa sinabi ng isa [textspeak!] dati nangongopya rin sa kanya pero okay na ang position sa career. hay ewan, I also graduated with honors, so prang minsan di mo mapigilan isipin whats wrong with me. haha

pero the thing about me is, I'm so done with office work. I tired once last year, I lasted 6 months only because I thought I had a bond! hahaha Pero siguro by 3rd month wala na ako dun. Kaya ko pa production work, pero I'm more into business talaga I realized.

Another sympton is bakasyon ng bakasyon.

I don't really have tips on how to overcome it because I myself, I'm still in this phase. Pero I think it's a good idea to stop whining and sulking and procrastinating and start outlining your goals and making them happen step by step!

[mdy]

I just a down-time this past week. It could have been because of hormones and some 'personal' issues and reasons that I had but it was made worst by some people who thought I'm just having some mood swings and made a big issue out of that. Oh well, papel! I had felt the mixed of undesirable feelings one could ever had. I am just lucky I have a sensible mother, who shed some light on my pessimistic thoughts, who never grows tired on reminding me to be good and to do good inspite of situation I'm in right now. I'm blessed to have my children for their comforting hugs and kisses, always trying to make mama smile and to my dear husband for always reminding me to count my blessings, keeping me sane all throughout and trying his best to understand the phase I'm going through. What I just experienced could be a quarterlife crisis but nonetheless, it made me appreciate those important people in my life that stands by me even at my darkest days.

[mameejhy]

Lately (this year) parang gusto ko na magresign at mag stay at home wife/ mother na lang kasi gusto ko mag business pero ofw family kami kaya malabo yun. Alam ko naman at this stage, hindi pa pwede yun kasi may mga binabayaran kami so ang ginawa ko nag start ako mag research about paper assets para 'feeling' ko nagbubusiness ako kahit hindi So, yun nag start ako mag invest sa mutual fund para isipin ko na lang na kelangan mag stay ako sa job ko para pang invest ko.

[angeleigh]

Err kung 25 yan, im way past it. But i experienced it then, but i think around 26-29...

Broke up with bf, changed company, changed career path, cut my hair, even attended different churches.

Now im ok, i am enjoying my new company. Mukhang magiging okay naman ang growth ko dito. Okay din love life. Okay ang family... Everything back to normal... actually even better.

[design21]

naubos ata pera ko sa stage na ito 2 years ago. naghanap ako ng happiness sa travel. lumala nung padating na bday ko. feeling ko ang tanda ko na dami pa d naaachieve sa buhay at that time. im glad tapos na

[donyadine]

hay nasa ganiang stage na ata ako. i really want to do well in business but i am afraid to quit my job. i need to support my family rin kasi. panu pag mag-fail..

[dolcevitabebe]

I am currently in the same position mga sisses. I am turning 25 tomorrow and wala akong kagana gana. I quit my job about a month ago, I have no savings so I solely rely lang sa nakuha kong backpay and im effin sure that in 2weeks time or so eh ubos na yon! I can't find a "normal" job, I mean not in BPOs. I can't take graveyard shifts kasi, pag day shift naman mababa ang pay. I've been feeling insecurities as well sa mga ka batch ko. Thinking na nung nagaaral naman kami mas magaling pa ko sa kanila, but now? I am nowhere. I am with my guy for almost 8 years and got engaged this February. But financially, we dont have anything. We both realized that its THE next step. I am getting more depressed by the minute. My family status(drama in other words) doesnt help as well. I am stuck with my ill-tempered dad who always pick fights with his girlfriend, so when she doesnt come home I SHOULD be there to take care of him and my brother. How am I supposed to find a job if I cant work far? Mga sisses, I live all the way in Imus, tumbling na lang e Dasma na. I looooove working sa city, and now I cant because I have to take care of them. I need a life! I hope this will be over ASAP

[princessdindin]

Hi mga sis,

Been reading this blog http://thequarterlifejournal.blogspot.com/. Hirap ng quarter life. It's good to see meron palang support group here about it.

[av]

I'm in dire in of a support group! I think I'm experiencing this now.