How to handle infedility of your partner?

[reese**]

i just recently found out my hubby cheated on my for the 2ND time, the first time happened last 2007. at first i dont want to believe it eh, but when he admitted sa mom ko - then i told myself its sooo over. imagine i just gave birth and my baby is almost 3 mos old now, i think he started while i was like 5mos pregnant - with his boss at work by the way, a married woman, older than us and very much married to his hubby ha tapos may kid sila.

i never believed the saying - once a cheater, always a cheater. i want to believe din kasi na everyone has a chance and capability to change. but now - i still dont believe sa saying na yun. ang gulo ko diba,  seriously, ive realized na i should have let him suffer muna before i gave him his 2nd  chance. sabi nga ni sis aquacharly sa mga posts nya about this situation, a husband should be in Remorse and Reform. at the same time i should have let myself heal - forgive and accept. but i took him back agad just by saying sorry he wont do it again - no effort at all maliban sa bumahang crocodile tears. im trying to think what went wrong why it happened again to me, is it my fault or men are just really like that. oh well i guess it doesnt matter now - i just want him out of my life for good. siguro i can advise mga sis na if your husbands cheated, let them realize what they have done. kasi based on my experience it could be na he though that i can just let it slip away, forgive him and give him another chance thats why he never valued the chance i gave him nung una. AND same imporatnce is let yourself heal muna or before taking him back you should decide to accept and dont make sumbat palagi kasi hindi talaga maaayos. you can never forget his infidelity but you can take away the pain it gave you in time.

[shopaholic18]

i don't let my ex choose, i gave him away,sorry pero i believe in the saying na once a cheater is always a cheater, breakup katapat niyan sakin. good thing me and my bf think alike about infidelity.

[chris_mend]

   Hi mga sis you should know woman instinct is always right. Men are polygamous in nature proven na yan, kahit patatayin mo pa mga yan hindi yan aamin na nagloloko sila.Pag babae ang ngloloko halos isusuka kna sa buong mundo... Ang mga lalaki parang aso yan kahit gaanu pa kabusog pag hinahagisan mo ng buto kumakain pa din...

you bet! huli na kahit me ebidensya, todo deny pa!

[feisty_angel4]

For me, wala namang tamang timpla talaga. It might work for me, it might not for others. Just knowing how to make your husband regret what he's done is the goal. Yung nangyare kase sa akin, I handled it calmly. Tenext ko yung kabitch for meet-up, kala nya hubby ko yun, when she saw me, todo deny. Wala, hindi ako nag-hysterics, no drama, no actions. Comedy pa nga nagyare eh. I told her just what she was... "a lower-than-prosti-nurse" and that she could have my husband. Then I exited. I confronted my husband and calmly decided to separate, he agreed because yun ang promise nya sa kabitch. But my inlaws stopped us from separating, they asked us to stay together for at least 1 month. And so we stayed together, parang total strangers at first but later something changed. Naging nagger na kase yung kabitch kase atat na atat na hiwalayan ako ang pakasalan sya after annulment daw. I just continued being good and prayed a lot for my sons sake I would fight through praying. Just 2 weeks, my husband left the kabitch for good because he couldnt stand anymore her attitude. Kasi lumabas din yung demon in her. As of now, we are 5 months stronger than ever without minding her who keeps texting me. I found it funny lang. Sya itong galit na galit eh kabit lang naman. I don't bother replying na after laughing at her and saying things that wives should say to kabits. ^^

[mstina]

how to handle infidelity of your partner? i think mali yung ginawa ko. kasi when i found out he cheated, when he told me he was leaving to cool things down a bit, i begged him to stay. lumaki yata ang ulo. parang naging baligtad tuloy, parang ako yung may kasalanan. kasi i was always the one trying to please him.

i got fed up eventually when he told me hindi niya na ko mahal. so i let him go with matching sampal. kasi niloko niya lang ako. i hope someday he'll regret what he did to me.

[shatygabrielle]

how to handle infidelity of your partner? i think mali yung ginawa ko. kasi when i found out he cheated, when he told me he was leaving to cool things down a bit, i begged him to stay. lumaki yata ang ulo. parang naging baligtad tuloy, parang ako yung may kasalanan. kasi i was always the one trying to please him.

i got fed up eventually when he told me hindi niya na ko mahal. so i let him go with matching sampal. kasi niloko niya lang ako. i hope someday he'll regret what he did to me.

Namihasa yata yan sis minsan ipakita mo rin na hindi mo sya kawalan para matakot

[mstina]

^ oo nga sis e. pinaalis ko na siya dito sa amin. it's up to him if he will apologize or not pero hinding hindi ko na talaga siya tatawagan. bahala na siya sa buhay niya.

[shatygabrielle]

Tama nga ginawa mo sis you don't deserve a man like him may karma din yan

[baby_aira19]

Me, before my hubby had a " kabit " when I was pregnant with my child.. Syempre at first im so mad & pinalayas ko sya.. Yung kabit nya inaway away ako and shes always calling me ( as in everyday for a week ) I didnt do anything coz Im pregnant that time.. My hubby talked to me after a week and ask for forgiveness.. He told me everything, as in everything even kulang ilang beses na sila nag motel nung girl 

I didnt say anything lang, I said its up to him.. I dont want to decide for HIM just bcoz im pregnant.. Then yun, He said na hiniwalayan na daw nya yung girl & he know na hes mistake.. He choose me and my baby instead of that b*tch..

Since then, we no longer had a problem when it comes to infidelity.. Maybe bcoz he knows our worth & maybe bcoz i didnt force him to do anything.. Yun talaga ang way ko, coz ayaw ko naman mag decide for  him, coz if I will decide for him.. Kung sasabihan ko sya na layuan yung girl, I dont know naman if susundin nya.. So, for me.. Its better talaga na sya yung mag kusang gawin yun...

[stronger_me]

The love is still there but the trust & respect are gone. But I believe that through prayers I'll be able to surpass this.

this is exactly how I feel. sayang kasi sobrang laki ng tiwala na binigay ko and super taas ng respeto ko sa husband ko. pero sinayang niya lahat. i'm living one day at a time, bahala na si lord bukas...

[shatygabrielle]

 I didnt do anything coz Im pregnant that time.. My hubby talked to me after a week and ask for forgiveness.. He told me everything, as in everything even kulang ilang beses na sila nag motel nung girl 

Ang kapal din talaga ng mukha ng lalaking yan hehe may gana pa syang sabihin ang mga bagay na ganyan sayo. Men like them are sick maybe they have fixation early in their lives and at this point meron pa silang unresolved issues or insecurity, may gusto pa patunayan 

[yssayjayla]

when i recently found out my hubby had a kabit, i instantly confronted him about it. ayaw talaga umamin as in. di ko sya tinigilan until umamin and told me they broke up na. then 2 days after that yung kabit emailed me and gave me my husband's account to a dating site where they met and where he met his other girls. grabe i was so devastated i packed his things and called his mother to have his things picked up. to make the story short, we've made up and we're still together. how did i cope up? i've talked to some of his girls and befriended them. but inside grabe i feel like dying sa mga kwento nila about hubby. we never stopped fighting for weeks until hubby decided na we should part ways na. i accepted and told him i gave up. the next day, he called and asked me if i still want to make our relationship work. because i still love him i said yes. after that i prayed and prayed that sana i made the right decision. i started searching the internet on how to move after being cheated and i learned a lot from it. i decided that if i would give him another chance, i would really have to forgive him yung walang doubts. so far, it's working although there are times na napapatulala pa rin ako everytime i remembered what he did to me. but i want to stand by my decision.

[angelita]

sisses check this out from sandra bullock...

http://www.examiner.com/infidelity-in-national/sandra-bullock-s-strategy-for-surviving-infidelity-can-help-other-women-with-cheating-mates

[poetician]

Panu ba mag move on? He cheated on me and when I asked him to end the relationship, he chose the other girl.  Sobrang sakit kasi.  Especially nung nalaman ko na 3 weeks pa lang niyang nakikilala yung girl.  Malandi talga. Siguro ang mgaing kabit ang agenda nya sa buhay.

Panu ko ba masisiguro na magiging okay ang mga anak namin.  Okay lang ba na hindi ko na ipakita sa asawa ko ang mga anak namin?

[mrs.trish]

^sis may karapatan pa rin sya sa mga anak nyo kahit nagloko sya. But you can ask for support.
Kung wala ka namang balak magpakasal ulit wag kang magfile ng annulment kasi that will give him the freedom to marry his mistress. Ano sila sinuswerte? hehe

[shatygabrielle]

@ sis poetician tama si sis trish let him go but dont forget you are entitled to demand financial support from him. Ipunin mo lahat binigay nya sayo pra sa future ng baby mo baka mabuntis pa nya si girl at hindi na nyan maisip magbigay pa uli. Everything has a reason...

[ybev]

Naku when I found out na he was cheating on me....gusto ko silang patayin pareho..and to think parang magkasabwat talaga sila sa kagaguhan nila...may bf kasi yung girl and sinasaktan sya ng bf nya...tong nagbabaitbaitan kung bf naging comfort zone nung girl....tapos nung malaman ko eh d nagaway kami ng bf ko,,,tapos nag e mail pa yung girl sa akin saying sorry...ok lang deadma....tapos again mahuhuli ko ulet Ito si girl galit sa bf ko kasi wala ng time daw sa kanya...ang kapal ang apog...so gusto ko makipag hiwalay na talaga dahil sa instances nayun na nadala ako sa ER dahil sa difficulty of breathing....ayun nag sorry si bf..umiiyak na wag ko sya iwan..haiz...

[fegloria1954]

How do you handle infidelity?

I am sharing with you the following page for series of reading materials on infidelity:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/infidelity/MH00110
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5525_qa.html

Do I read up on articles about infidelity only?  No.  I also experienced it.
Was I able to get over it and move on?  I keep working on this, with my husband.

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[shatygabrielle]

 :)nice one

[shinta]

bakit kahit ikaw yung pinili at sinabi niyang, ikaw yung totoo nyang mahal, ang sakit-sakit pa din?