How to handle infedility of your partner?

[shatygabrielle]

        Mga sis if you found out that your partner is already lying & having an intimate affair with someone else, how would you approach him as well as his " KABIT"...?

[Uhlee]

Hinampas ko ng unan ang partner ko nung nalaman ko, then pinalayas ko! Tinawagan ko ang babae she answered the call pero hindi nagsasalita kaya tinext ko. I know I did not have to stoop down to the girls level, but it made me feel a bit better.

[honey_iya]

^Unan lang sis? Sana lang bato yung palaman ng unan

Kung sure ka na may relasyon sila at pilit na dinedeny,mahirap 'yan everyday ka paranoid. Hiwalayan na 'yan.

[Uhlee]

^ sis honey sana nga.. kaso hindi na ako nakahanap ng bato dahil madaling araw. lol

[shatygabrielle]

     Parang ang sarap patulugin ng tuluyan hmpp.. sorry!!! i caught him before through text messeges yon mga palitan nla ng " i miss u" and their escapade ang kapal ng mga mukha. Tinawagn pko ng girl guro to appease me na joke lang daw yon, as in biruan lang daw!!! grrr

[Uhlee]

palusot ng babae, ang kapal ng mukha at sinabi pang biro! patulugin mo na nga sis! 

ako ko din through text, and with very graphic messages. grrr talga!

[aquacharly]

IMO, before you even think of how you will go about beheading anyone ( sarap isipin lol) ...  Take a hard, clear look at your life.  If it is a life you think you deserve, and be happy with till all your hair roots drop off,  then go about ridding yourself of the competition. BUT IF you yearn for something better, then go about ridding yourself of him.

[shatygabrielle]

palusot ng babae, ang kapal ng mukha at sinabi pang biro! patulugin mo na nga sis! 

ako ko din through text, and with very graphic messages. grrr talga!

     Hehe naisip ko nga yan sis i'm a nurse kya it's possible na gawin yan kya sayang nman pinag aralan ko sirain ko lang sa maling tao.

[Uhlee]

IMO, before you even think of how you will go about beheading anyone ( sarap isipin lol) ...  Take a hard, clear look at your life.  If it is a life you think you deserve, and be happy with till all your hair roots drop off,  then go about ridding yourself of the competition. BUT IF you yearn for something better, then go about ridding yourself of him.

easier said than done sis..

But sis aquacharly I like your perspective in life.. In all the threads I've read i always look forward to reading your comments..

[shatygabrielle]

   A person might lost everything the moment na malaman nya na nagloko ang partner nla or the one she loves, kahit you are a decent and educated person as in maging palengkera and wa poise kna talga hehe sabi nga nla being cheated on is a wretched experience, not least because it evokes a range of negative emotions but maybe your whole world as well. Maaring mapatawad mo sya pero trust never na sguro. Give yourself permission to be angry.Remember anger is a mask for a different emotion, usually hurt or frustration. Giving yourself time to ventilate about exactly how you feel for sure over the next coming days, this will help you progress through the anger phase.Ang hirap nman siguro if we will suppress our feelings.

[passionfruity]

Bobits ako pagdating sa anger management. Di nakakapagisip ng tama dahil inuuna ang galit, but what I have learned from my own experiences is  to think think think wiser before  giving an attack. Para solid ang banat. kasi pag inuna ang emotion at nagpamanipulate sa anger wala di na makapagdiskarte ng maayos. But of course cheated and betrayed wives has all the right to be deadly furious pero think think think wisely talaga to checkmate the real enemy.

[aquacharly]

easier said than done

Yes. But some things are  worth all the trouble.  In life, there is always a choice.  It is mainly a question of how much we gotta give up or go through  for a choice preferred over other choices.  So UHLEE - it boils down to - do you want to do it or not? 

IMO, it facilitates matters if one can focus on what will serve one's best interests.  Kasi kahit na you give your "all plus everything", things may still run counter to your wishes.  After all, the only person we control is ourselves.  And the only person you can truly bank on is yourself. 

[shatygabrielle]

Hindi bale na bsta makaganti lang

[mstina]

i found out through text that my hubby's cheating. nag exchange sila ng I love you nung girl!!! nung kinonfront ko siya, dineny nya at first pero inamin niya rin and I can see naman the remorse on his face. he kept on saying he's sorry and wala lang daw yon. text2x lang daw. na flatter lang daw siya kasi yung girl daw unang nagpakita ng motive sa kanya.

should i believe him? or the fact na nag 'i love you' sila means it means something more?

[aquacharly]

^ Do not believe him, IMO.
 
2 lang yang nahuli mo na "I love you."   Hindi puedeng "wala lang".  Hello, men are not that careless with that statement, coz it comes loaded with ramificaitons/demands/complications.   
Atchaka, parang cockroach yang "I love you" texts ..,.. if you see 1 cockroach, you bet there are many, many, many more cockroaches.

Sorry, I could not come out with words to comfort you.  Nevertheless, I hope my take on it is incorrect.   Take care of yourself, always.

[chris_mend]

hay..infidelity sucks talaga!

i know the feeling..

madali lang din sabihin..iwanmo n sya..pero often it is really hard to do especially when you have learned to live your life with that person, and to think that he is the one who makes you happy.

on the other side of the coin, trust is like a broken glass, it is hard to pick up its pieces to make it whole again.

if you chose to give that *censored* a chance, you only live with paranoia.

[Uhlee]

@aquacharly i dont know po talaga right now.. I give him one last chance.. and like mstina i can see that my partner is really sorry for what he did.. it's just that may mga doubts pa rin ako.. mahirap talaga ibalik ang tiwala, lalo kung ang pinagkatiwalaan mo ng todo ay yung taong mahal na mahal mo.. sad

thanks sis aquacharly

[mrs.trish]

Pajoin mga sis ha. nakakarelate kasi ako sa topic na to.

Kahit sinong tanungin ko sa family, friends & co-workers ni hubby isa lang ang masasabi nila: swerte ako kasi super bait ang napangasawa ko.

I also thought I married the perfect person because he is so kind-hearted, responsible & walang bisyo.

Then a few days after our 1st wedding anniv, I discovered that my husband had a one-night stand w/ another girl & that slut is claiming that she just gave birth to their child. Sabi ni hubby di nya alam na nabuntis nya yung babae kasi wala namang sinabi until nanganak na sya.

Ewan ko ba kung t**** ako, martyr or takot lang sa broken family. two days ko lang inaway si hubby tapos pinatawad ko na.

I prayed a lot and pinag isipan ko talagang mabuti kung anong dapat kong gawin. I decided to save the marriage kasi kung hihiwalayan ko ang asawa ko, para na akong nagpatalo sa malanding yon.

The love is still there but the trust & respect are gone. But I believe that through prayers I'll be able to surpass this.   

[chris_mend]

Pajoin mga sis ha. nakakarelate kasi ako sa topic na to.

Kahit sinong tanungin ko sa family, friends & co-workers ni hubby isa lang ang masasabi nila: swerte ako kasi super bait ang napangasawa ko.

I also thought I married the perfect person because he is so kind-hearted, responsible & walang bisyo.

Then a few days after our 1st wedding anniv, I discovered that my husband had a one-night stand w/ another girl & that slut is claiming that she just gave birth to their child. Sabi ni hubby di nya alam na nabuntis nya yung babae kasi wala namang sinabi until nanganak na sya.

Ewan ko ba kung t**** ako, martyr or takot lang sa broken family. two days ko lang inaway si hubby tapos pinatawad ko na.

I prayed a lot and pinag isipan ko talagang mabuti kung anong dapat kong gawin. I decided to save the marriage kasi kung hihiwalayan ko ang asawa ko, para na akong nagpatalo sa malanding yon.

The love is still there but the trust & respect are gone. But I believe that through prayers I'll be able to surpass this.

im sorry to hear that, sis..

siguro ako if yun magiging asawa ko malaman ko nakipag one night stand, naku..di ko alam magagawa ko..baka mapabarang ko pa yun..kase ako faithful talaga ako..ayoko ng lokohan..if ayawa na niya sken..i will let him go..

pinaka mahirap talaga sa lahat pag trust na yun nawala...masakit talaga...

pero kahit pa sabihin naten..ayaw na naten..it's like addiction eh...it's hard to live without it..

prayer din sis...ask for His strength.

[shatygabrielle]

   Hi mga sis you should know woman instinct is always right. Men are polygamous by nature proven na yan, kahit patatayin mo pa mga yan hindi yan aamin na nagloloko sila.Pag babae ang ngloloko halos isusuka kna sa buong mundo... Ang mga lalaki parang aso yan kahit gaanu pa kabusog pag hinahagisan mo ng buto kumakain pa din...