Why Do Filipino Men Cheat?

[justin3]

^we're not talking of politics here i suppose? it so happened that the two Joes at ang dalawang Juan are into politics. it could be somebody from Hollywood or from Star Cinema, or it could be from Elm Street or a neighbor of mine at Balete Drive.

i don't think most of our married sisters in these threads would agree with you.
     http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,235540.0.html
     http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,239295.0.html
     http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,232294.0.html


by the way, Monica's "blow" happened on Bill's second term. he could not get re-elected for another term unless gayahin nya ang classmate nyang taga Pampanga.
and Atsay Killer Arnie impregnated his mistress 6yrs before he became the 38th Governor of California.
now, it's either Californian voters are too dumb not to know that their Governor had kept a mistress or they "don't seem to care as much" as well... and he's a Roman Catholic too, Bill is Baptist.


all what Phelps and SimpleBeauty08 enumerated are TRUE. pero naman, di lang "onli in da pilipins" ang mga yon. ayt?

let me add something na mas brutal pa:
   ma-anghit na si misis
   bungal na si misis
   maluwang na si misis
   kulubot na si misis
   lay-lay na si misis
   bobita si misis
   amoy paksiw si misis
   puno ng kalyo kamay ni misis
   may halitosis si misis

funny? mababaw? nakakainis? nakakapikon? but true, right?

so why pick on Filipinos alone? di ba nangyayari sa ibang lahi ang "cheating"?
oh! may divorce sa ibang bansa. eh bakit nag divorce? dahil nag-cheat? bakit nag-cheat?

may reliable statistics bang nagsasabi na mas maraming salawahan sa Pilipinas at mas maraming martyr na asawa kesa sa ibang bansa?
ano ba to, another form of colonial mentality?

[mooncake and leaves]

^ I didn't say that men from other countries don't cheat. Even the threadstarter's friend mentioned that. It's not a case of picking on Filipinos, just that well, they are the subject, aren't they? The question is why Filipino men, despite their cultural and religious upbringing and despite The Philippines being a conservative country, have a seemingly high number of cases of infidelity. Not to mention, it is illegal to cheat in The Philippines. We are religiously and constitutionally bound to stay faithful to our spouses. Yet, despite all these restrictions and despite the rage and adamant cries of people against infidelity, it is surprisingly, incredibly prevalent in The Philippines. 

As for the politicians you want to touch on- you have Weiner, Spitzer, Edwards and Schwarzenegger, among many others, who had to bid farewell to their political ambitions. Of course, the response of voters will always vary. Some constituents don't mind but usually, once the scandal breaks out, very few manage to stay in the office and those who do, find that it's never without some sort of repercussion. Clinton, like you mentioned, was in danger of being impeached. Arnold's case on the other hand, came as a shock but he's out of office and you don't see him campaigning for any position these days.  As for ever becoming president, these men have learned to forget it. That's not exactly how it plays out in The Philippines, does it? Some sort of allusion to the idea that we are too forgiving and too forgetful. However, whether or not their private lives do reflect what's going on in OUR own relationships, is highly inconclusive. Kaya nga hanggang "seem" or "appear" lang tayo.

[bea_wang]

^^My friend didn't say that no one in his country cheats. In fact he admitted that a lot of guys cheat. Okay, if it bugs you that Filipino men are being singled out, let us change the title of the thread. It shouldn't then be "Why Filipino Men Cheat?", it should be "Why do Filipina Wives let their Cheating Husbands Get Away with it?" coz basically, that is what he was pointing out to me.

[aquacharly]

The reasons Filipino men cheat - the list goes on and on, for both the real and convenient reasons.

IMO, cheating or philandering is common coz men don't suffer the  consequences for it.  In the US, for example -- generally, he gets kicked out of his home and gets deprived of his daily/regular contact with his kids.  There is alimony and child support.  Dito,  they just turn their backs on their  families.  Some of the rich ones even intentionally deprive their families of financial support for standing for what is not right:  philandering/maintaining a mistress.  What does the Catholic Church do to known philanderers or mistress keepers -  hahahahaha.   

The list  of reasons will surely shorten and be more real and "mature" if we have divorce here, and our lousy justice system shapes up.  (On  the latter happening, yeah, I my be wishing  for a square moon.). 

Why do you think it is better to get married in New Jersey or Las Vegas, if you are the woman?  hehe, ask your USA lawyer, and some wiser-minded Filipina nurses of New Jersey.   

[shopaholic18]

^now that makes me thinking, bakit nga kaya?

actually most Filipina women kasi are martyrs, so they tolerate cheating husbands. sad to say but true.

[whatagirlwants]

I find it weird that Filipino men cheats more often than foreigners. A friend once told me that she prefers dating foreign guys. Loyal na, gwapo na, mas may kaya pa!  I can't disagree on what she said!

[justin3]

sis TS, siguro naman nasagot na ang topic "why Filipino men cheat". Phelps & Simple Beauty enumerated some reasons why, and that men from Angola to Zimbabwe do cheat as well. right? period!
in my case, bumagting ang tenga ko knowing that a foreigner asked such dumb question sa yo. kaya in my first post, i was asking you kung ano ang nationality nya.

i'm sorry, but your foreigner friend is rude, irrational, insensitive.

ang nakakapikon pa...

To quote him: "For "a" culture that is very religious and "conservative",

(i don't know what "A" means if he/she is not picking on  Pinoys. di naman sya taga China na nasanay nang mam-bully sa atin? )
very religious? from where he/she is ba talaga? from a pagan country? for all i know, almost, if not all, religions do not tolerate extra-marital affairs. at lahat naman ng bansa may religion di ba? kahit na North Korea nga eh. sinasamba nila si Kim.
conservative? abstract yon ah. ano ang gauge nya to say  na ang isang culture ay conservative or not? 

isa pa sis, kaya nasabi kong rude/insensitive, such question coming from a foreigner kasi is uncalled-for. foul! may pagka-racist ang dating. di ba?
kahit na kapwa Pilipino magtanong nun, like a Kapampangan would ask a Batangueno such question, guerra patani na ang kalalabasan nun. in between taga-Tondo at taga-Sampaloc, uulan na ng indian pana nun kinagabihan.

sa totoo lang sis, ikaw ba'y hindi nahiya, nagalit o napikon man lang when you were asked such question?

hey! this is not a Filipino thing lang ha? unwritten rules yan for a foreigner to observe/adhere while in a foreign land. wag kang bastos, better shut your mouth instead.

as to "Why do Filipina Wives let their Cheating Husbands Get Away with it?" - i have given the links above. maraming GTalkers won't agree with you. lalo na si sis December na tinutukan ng 45 ang hubby nya. 


as for cheaters in US politics... see? mas marami pala? 2 lang ang sikat na alam ko eh. i'm more interested kasi kay Marilyn Monroe, Donna Rice and Paula Parkinson lang. i'm curious what earthly bodies they possess (when they posed for Playboy) para isugal ng US politicians ang career nila.

pero si Dan Quayle naging VP pa ni Bush ha?

[WILDFLOWER88]

Very well said junetwentythree. Filipino women should stop taking crap from their philandering husbands.  Filippino men are cheaters and extremely proud of it.

[shellenic]

Kahit naman hindi Filipino nagagawa parin yun. Dapat ang tanong eh, Why do MEN cheat?

[madmaxz]

Masyadong machismo mga lalake sa culture natin.. mas bida pag mas madami.  Sa lalake naman natural na mangbabae pero walang emotional attachments.

[littlejohn]

grabe naman. hindi naman lahat, minsan babae din.

[harmonyjv]

Whatever culture or religion, men will be men and people will be people. It's not only Filipinos.
It's human nature to commit sins but some are worse than others.

[skyrimgal]

I think mainly it's because:

1. Filipino men are encouraged by their "friends" (instead of getting shunned, yung mga kumpadre bilib pa kay pare at naka-score ng bagets)
2. Filipina women tolerate it (wala nang sustento kung wala si mister, ayaw magpa-annul dahil it's not accepted by the church, kung nanay nga nila napatawad tatay nila sila pa kaya etc)
3. We expect it. So it's kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Medyo natawa ako at maraming na-offend lol Yung friend ni TS was merely pointing out the irony of the situation at the time they were discussing it. Alangin naman mag-bigay pa ng disclaimer si foreigner friend? Eh friend nga nya. It's already understood that everybody in every race in every gender cheats. He was just saying that he finds it ironic that most of the Filipino men he knows that cheats on their wives are so religious and even goes to church with their Misis! Because he doesn't understand why the men do it and why their wives put up with it. He wasn't singling out Filipinos in general, he was talking about those he knows!

To the TS, I'm just curious where are you and your friend located? Kasi madaming ganyan sa US navy na pinoy.

[junetwentythree]

To those who continue to respond saying "it doesn't matter the culture" "everyone does it" "it's not just Filipino men" -- please note that the thread specifically asked why Filipino men cheat. Why FILIPINO men cheat. Not why everyone else cheats. It's a specific question that requires a specific answer. Simple as that.

[TowBerryBlue]

Because they are immature and irresponsible. They love the attention they are getting especially if they're old na.

If may pumatol sa kanila, that means they still have it. Stupid talaga! Pero yes, some Pinoy men are immature, conceited and irresponsible.

tapos kukunsintehin pa ng mga barkada nya na walang pinagkaiba sa kanya...Good luck girlie! You are headed to splitsville!

Please naman, if ever kukuha kayo ng kapalit, make sure naman mas maganda dun sa ex nyo! nakakainsulto kasi!

[justin3]

buhay pa pala ang thread na to?

it seems some didn't get my point here. please refer to the FIRST SENTENCE ng FIRST post by the TS and not just the topic alone. generic yung topic eh... nabasa nyo nga ba?

i don't give a damnnn what the reasons are why filipino men cheat.
i don't give a damnnn if the topic was more specific like "Why do Filipino men of Kalye 11, Purok 69, Brgy Payatas, Q.C. Cheat?"

everyone knows here that there would be a list of unending reasons why.
pero naman, for A FOREIGNER to ask such dumb question in your own soil, di ka ba maiinsulto sa tanong na yan? bakit, wala bang salawahan sa bansa nya?

now, if you are really that curious and would really want to know "some" reasons why Filipino men cheat. wag na kayo lumayo pa, dito na lang sa Barangay GT marami na. here are some links, himayin nyo na lang mga posts sa mga topics ng mga sis natin na naging biktima:

http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/board,150.0.html
http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/board,145.0.html
http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/board,148.0.html

now, if you want to ask directly the guys, create a thread here:

http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/board,121.0.html

yon nga lang, limited answers lang makukuha nyo. iilan lang ang GuyTalkers dito. ang iba hindi naman cheaters, ang iba "di tiyak" pa ang kasarian. 

[Naughty^GuRu]

Most pinoy men cheat because they can get away with it. Most pinays still accept a partner that has cheated on them.

I heard that sa radio before. Na dito daw s atin most women tolerate cheating unlike sa ibang bansa na pag nag cheat divorce na agad or break na. Move on. Ganon lang sa kanila iyon.

agree!

add to that: madami din kasing pinays na nagpapagamit para mag cheat ang guy. alam na nilang committed yung guy but still nakikipag date/relationship pa rin sila.

[TowBerryBlue]

agree!

add to that: madami din kasing pinays na nagpapagamit para mag cheat ang guy. alam na nilang committed yung guy but still nakikipag date/relationship pa rin sila.

agree ako dito! dapat pag nag cheat, hiwalayan na agad!

[reese**]

i think FILIPINO men ( coming from a broken marriage ) cheat because we  (Filipina women) LET them get away with it by forgiving them (most of the time over and over) and tolerating their sh%t. SAD but thats what i noticed ha. im based abroad and trust me pinoy men has this reputation of cheaters/philanderers/claiming single when in fact very much a family man.

[pinkk]

??better "leased"than "bought"?? is it why filipino men cheat?
http://ph.news.yahoo.com/-love-less--pinoys-on-the-rise--says-sws-095924664.html