loving two persons at the same time ( romantically and equally ), is it possible?

[gilenn]

I'm puzzled by the thought of loving two persons at the same time -- romantically and equally, is it possible?

I'm not pertaining to just married couples cause this also happens to bf-gf couples. My take on this matter, yes it might be possible to love two persons at the same time romantically but never equally. It's either s/he loves the other person more OR less.  we tend to see in other people what has been missing in our current relationship, intentionally or not. does it really make you a bad person when your caught in this kind of situation?

I'd appreciate positive or negative opinions, girls and guys.

thanks!!! 

[cosmochick]

You will always love the other more. I was in this kind of dilemma before. Theme song ko non yung, Make Up My Heart and Lips of an Angel  Nahirapan ako pumili not because dko alam sino mas mahal ko. Marami kasing factors to consider.. di lang because mas mahal mo sya, sya na pipiliin mo. To quote a line from I Miss You Like Crazy movie, Love is not the only reason why you choose to stay or leave someone.    All I can say is, its hard to be in this situation. Di mo maiintindihan ang feelings until maransan mo.

[Marquita]

NEVER.
what i believe is that when you love two people romantically at the same time and take note in the form of being in a
"committed" relationship already...

it just means you love yourself more, being too afraid to let go and choose one, 
and not totally submitting yourself to TRUE LOVE which means honesty,faithfulness and a great deal of RESPECT.

dating sakin parang convenience narin para sa sarili mo kaya di ka makapili for whatever reason you have
for loving two persons and holding on to them when the other one deserves to be set free from lies.
i just can't exactly imagine it. Kasi kung mafall ka na sa ibang tao edi iwanan mo yung feeling mo na less yung
pagmamahal mo

[ButHonestly]

Granted you got shipwrecked, both of these guys dont know how to swim. You can only save one of them. Who will you save?

Im being rethorical.

[Marquita]

Granted you got shipwrecked, both of these guys dont know how to swim. You can only save one of them. Who will you save?

Im being rethorical.

tumpak! haha

to thread starter:
"kuha mo?"- madame of 100 days to heaven

[meisaia]

the answer is simple: NO.

[17arci]

No. There's always someone whom you'll love more.

[shopaholic18]

no, akala mo lang same mo silang love, give time for yourself to figure out kung sino mas matimbang.

[vainlibeautiful]

No! you just thought na you love them both. may mga pagkukulang o hinahanap ka na qualities ng isa na nakikita mo  kaya akala mo equal ang pagmamahal.  you have to choose, mahirap yan let go the other person dahil kung mahal mo talaga siya magiging masaya ka na makahanap naman siya na tunay na magmamahal sa kanya.  ang guiding principle ko always is the golden rule, don't do unto other's what you don't want others do unto you.

[chicafabulosa]

A simple answer NO. The reason why you fall in love with another person because you really don't love your partner with you that much. Kasi if mahal na mahal mo yung una, bakit ka pa maiinlove sa iba? I don't get it when a person say, sana dalawa daw puso nya ( i hate that song too). Simple lang naman yan eh, di pedeng 2 ang sabay kailangan isa lang. Ang kailangan lang is tanggapin natin na di lahat ng hinahanap natin is makikita natin sa iisang tao, but we need to love what our partner can give that includes their flaws. Walang perfect na tao, yun lang dapat ang dapat natin ma accept para marealize natin na baka kaya naiisip natin na mahal natin yung pangalawa is because nakikita natin yung ibang qualities na hinahanap natin na wala sa bf/spouses natin.

[chicgurl]

paano pag sa mga suitors/admirers palang.. how would you know sinong mas matimbang??

[lunast]

may nabasa akong book about brain chemistry while a person is in love and according to the doctor who did the study, hindi daw posible na ma-inlove (romantically) sa dalawang tao at the same time. meron at meron isa na mas matimbang ang love mo. it has something to do with evolution.

[chicafabulosa]

paano pag sa mga suitors/admirers palang.. how would you know sinong mas matimbang??

Sino ba ang mas gusto mo makasama?
Sino ba yung nakikita mo na will protect you and will love you?
Sino ba ang mas nakakapagpasaya sayo?
Sino ba ang mas nagiging mabuti kang tao when you're with them?
Sino ang mas nagmomotivate and nagbibigay ng inspiration sayo?
Sino ba ang mas willing na ibigay ang lahat lahat para lang maging masaya ka?

At higit sa lahat, Sino ang mas nagbibigay sayo ng respect, love and care at nagpapakita ng takot Kay God?

[chicgurl]

^ ang hirap naman ata sagutin niyang mga tanong mo sis ang dami hahaha sige susubukan kong sagutin yan haha salamat

[chicafabulosa]

^ ang hirap naman ata sagutin niyang mga tanong mo sis ang dami LOL sige susubukan kong sagutin yan haha salamat

hehe those are the questions I asked myself before I chose my hubby. I was going on out with thi guy before I met hubby. Both of them are great man but I chose my hubby now because he is the one who really wants to spend his whole life with me and he always tries to make me happy in every possible way. He inspire and motivates me to be a better person, I become more positive with my outlook in life. In short I become the best person I can be na di ko alam na kaya ko palang gawin. If di dahil sa kanya, di ko alam na kaya ko pala maging ganito.

[Confused_Jenny]

No. pero pwedeng mainlove sa 2 tao at the same time pero maaring hindi same ang klase ng love.  Pwedeng yung isa filial love, yung isa platonic or brotherly love.  Iba iba naman ang love, hindi lang romantic.  Minsan nga mas matindi pa ang loving someone because of his/her soul.  Yung tipong ok lang walang sex involve but you are willing to give your life to that person. Parang a mother's love or even spiritual love.

[celebrity_me]

ganito me now.. hirap nga e

[nicegirl05]

no..
pwede yun pero meron pa rin mas higit..
at yun isa awa na lang nararamdaman..
i've been there pero mas pinili ko yung mas kanino ako magiging masaya..
and i'm right..

[teejiko]

yes but not equally. mas mahal mo yung 1 kaysa dun sa 1. been there before and it wasn't easy. ask yourself kung sino mas matimbang, kung san ka liligaya at kung sino sa kanila ang pang habang buhay

[jaynell_24]

parang ganito nararanasan ko. mag4years na kami ng bf ko. mahal ko sya sobra. pero may nakilala ako pinsan ng friend ko. araw araw ko sya'ng nakikita sa school, nakakakwentuhan, there was one time na nakapagopen talaga kaming dalawa sa isa't isa.

ngayon hindi ko malaman kung natututunan ko ba syang mahalin or i am just curious sa kanya. di kasi siya maalis sa isip ko eh.