pagsisinungaling ni bf/hubby... ano bang dapat gawin?

[startabby]

pag si bf/hubby ba nagsinungaling kahit sa maliit na bagay ano bang dapat gawin?
like for example tungkol sa paginom inom kasama friends
although wala naman nangyaring iba naginuman lang talaga
pero still nagsinungaling padin/ hindi nagsabi
pano ba sabihin yung ganun?
ayoko kasi magalit, ok lang naman yung paginom
pero ang pinakaayoko is yung pagsisinungaling kahit sa maliit na bagay

[potpotpo]

e sis pag nagpapaalam ba sayo bf mo na iinom, pinapayagan mo ba?

[shopaholic18]

^^sis i'm guessing hindi niya lang sinabi siguro yun, not naman nag sinungaling siguro at nag alibi, teka, may usapan ba kayo na bawal siya uminom, kasi in my opinion sis, i let my guy do whatever he wants and same din sakin, i trust him,i know din naman na hindi siya iinom ng sobra dahil he's driving and he knows din na ako di rin iinom ng madami kasi i don't drink talaga, kumbaga pakikisama lang. dati ganyan din ako sis, nagagalit ako agad, nag ooverreact, kaso why not tell him what you feel, na ayaw mo ng ganun, maybe he'll listen or he'll ask you if papayagan mo ba siya once in awhile. para next time na gawin niya yun di na siya magsisinungaling dahil may consent mo naman. wag mo masyadong sakalin si bf, kung di naman araw araw payagan mo na. it's normal lang naman siguro.

[muahmuahmuah]

don't ask him anything if whatever he says is not what you want to hear, it'll just upset you both and frustrate you.  give him the benefit of the daw este doubt and have a medical checkup once in a while to see how his liver is doing.

[aquacharly]

STARTABBY   why do kids lie?  Because they know what they did is something you forbid or disapprove of, but they also know they just had to do it.  Same same with men, with us too. 

With a lying hubby/BF -- examine what the subject of the lie is.  Example, yung reklamo mo sa BF mo ... Drinking with friends?  What did you expect, eh talagang that is part of the liviing script of men.   Better you let him have nights out drinking, kesa magsinungaling sya uli.  Do not put relationship in a lose-lose situation.
Sooner or later you will break up coz well, he has to have nights with boys or drinking hours man lang, tapos ikaw pa lalabas na sobrang higpit, unreasonable.  Saan ka lalagay?

We women shop, oh we lie about these at times.  lol   Self-explanatory na yan, why we lie at times.

So there, do not impose nor have unreasonable expectations.  Be realistic if you want your relationship to prosper or remain happy.
 

[miss_insecure]

my ex is like that. he would always lie, tapos pag nahuli ko, he would say ayaw niya lang kasi ako magalit or alam niyang mag-aaway kami. e di kung ganun, bakit hindi na lang siya nagsabi ng totoo... alam naman siguro niya na mas magagalit ako sa pagccnungaling, hay naku.

[sweet.trish]

sis pano mo nalaman na he had drinking session with his friends?
what do you mean maliit na bagay kelangan pa nyang magsinungaling?
or baka naman kasi maliit na bagay kelangan nya pa bang ipaalam? just curious.
ano bang scenario, hindi nya nasabi sa yo, or tinanong mo kung asan sya tapos iba yung sinagot nya?

[shiftingsands]

i dont tolerate lying lalo na pag nahuli ko mismo. grounds na yun
for break up. sakin kasi hindi ako mahigpit na gf basta lang honest
sya sakin hindi kame magkaka problema.

pwede mo naman palagpasin basta make him promise not to do it
again. at pag inulit niya pa dun mo na awayin.

[PINKISS]

Mas maganda siguro na you talk to him about this issues. Maybe may hindi siya naiintindihan. You tell him na okay lang naman yun (kung ano man [textspeak!] gagawin niya) as long as you tell me the truth.

[JHAZbewithyou]

Ask him kung bat kaylangan nyang magsinungaling. Lahat naman ng bagay may dahilan.

[xenos54]

tingin ko po.. hindi dapat nag sisinungaling..

kasi nagsisimula po iyan sa maliliit na bagay hanggang sa lumaki na..

[Jenny.Dec1]

Ano dapat gawin?

1. Kausapin mo ng masinsinan at itanong kung bakit kailangan nya magsinungaling.
2. Mag set ng rules kung ano ang pwede at bawal para hindi na kailangan magsinungaling.
 At kung hindi mo na talaga matake ang pagsisinungaling at hindi mo rin kayang makipagcompromise pa:
3. Makipaghiwalay ka.

[aquacharly]

hindi naman talaga PAGINOM ang reklamo ko sa bf ko.
okay lang yun. ang main reklamo ko is pagsisinungaling.
natyempo lang yun yung example ko

hindi din po ako sobrang higpit or unreasonable sis aquacharly
gusto ko lang sana eh hindi siya nagsinungaling, maski ano pa yun. tapos.

Well, yes, the pag-inom was just an example in our posts.
Still, the underlying issue is .. WHY the need to lie, whatever he lies about.
Whether an outright lie or even a White Lie -- still, the motivation for lying is to deliver what the listener/recipient WANTS to hear . Sa isipan ni Liar, the lie is what will not bring out anything negative from  the person lied to. 

Don't we generally lie to escape being the focus of irritation/anger/judgment?  A liar delivers an untruth  coz he/she knows that for the person lied to --  there will be a  difference in reaction to the lie and the truth.   No need to lie if the person lied to will be indifferent di ba.   Unless, the person is a congenital liar
& will lie as a habit. 

So, with no offense intended -- IMO, do not just examine the liar, but examine too the person lied too. What is the dynamics of the relationship? Therein lies the answer to your query: 

pag si bf/hubby ba nagsinungaling kahit sa maliit na bagay ano bang dapat gawin

For as long as the lesson is not learned by both the liar & the lied-to, History repeats itself...the lying will go on, big or small the lie may be.   

[Kriman]

Tanungin mo muna kung bakit sya nagsinugnaling 

[skyrimgal]

I do two things kapag alam kong nagsisinungaling.

1. call him out and tell him upfront na alam kong nagsisinungaling siya.
2. go along with the lie and pretend na wala akong ka-idea idea. ang purpose nito is to find out how long he would drag it out. at ang ending eventually eh magkakabuhol-buhol na rin siya sa mga lies niya. hehe tapos dun ko bubukingin.

[zarazan]

Nag lie ba talaga siya? Like you asked him where he was and he said something different?

[ayami]

Dati ang galing ng asawa kong magpalusot sa maling info na sinasabi niya sakin-- andaming loopholes kasi ng statement niya. Nung naging specific ako magtanong and all, saka ko naaargue ang kasinungalingan niya. Pero napapaisip din ako kung nagsinungaling nga ba or ayaw lang niya sabihin. Ano nga ba difference nun? Pag ayaw ba niya sabihin kasi alam niyang ayoko yung ginawa niya pagsisinungaling na ba yon? Di ko pa rin alam sagot so ngayon nagsawa na rin ako kakaduda pinagkakatiwalaan ko na lang siya kahit papano