what are you opinions about having a relationship with older guy?

[ilovemybaba30]

is having a boyfriend with big age gap is a big issue for you? like 22 years gap. were actually going on our 2nd anniversary. i kept our relationship to my family because i know they would disagree in our relationship. but he is so nice. we jived in everything we do. 

[17arci]

How big is big?

[prettykhae]

ako naman 3 yrs lang.. ok naman. mas mahaba pasensya ng ganung mga guys! at naiintindihan ka nya.

[tabbru]

is having a boyfriend with big age gap is a big issue for you? like 22 years gap. were actually going on our 2nd anniversary. i kept our relationship to my family because i know they would disagree in our relationship. but he is so nice. we jived in everything we do. 

sis, if i may ask, ikaw ano na po ang age mo?

[potpotpo]

ilang taon ka na ba? kung magka-level naman ang maturity nyo and happy kayo, wala naman siguro problema.

[shopaholic18]

i prefer older men talaga yet 10 years my senior at most lang. my guy is 9 years my senior and we don't have problems with that, not even with our families. mas maganda actually kasi stable and matured na most of them.

[sweet_cherry]

ako si sana maging boyfriend ko 11 years ang age gap namin. feeling ko mwe will be okay kasi stable na siya, at peace na with what he has achieved in life...

[tabbru]

If a GIRL is 18 and the MAN is 40, malaking problema yan. I do not think na matatanggap ng pamilya nila (both sides siguro ang ganitong relasyon).

If a WOMAN is 40 and the MAN is 62, baka pwede pa. "Matured" na kasi ang babae sa paningin ng iba. Plus, ang sabi nga, women age faster than men.

Theoretically, walang masamang makipagrelasyon with an older guy. Pero kung 22 years ang gap, I think magiging maliit ang success rate. Sa umpisa, ok. May isang mambe-baby at may isang magpapa-baby. But after the "honeymoon" stage is over, there comes the conflict. Remember that these two people belong to different generation - magkaibang panahon, paniniwala, kinalakihang buhay, moralidad, kagustuhan sa buhay. Self-explanatory na.

Kung "partnership" ang gusto ng mga tao sa isang relasyon, then the partners more or less have to be "equal" para maka-attain ng success. Yung ibang babae gusto ng older men dahil matured na raw. Pero sila, evidently hindi pa. Ang gusto nila, i-tolerate sila ng guy, i-pamper - maturity ba yun?

[mooncake and leaves]

i used to prefer older men. been a george clooney fangirl since i was 12. i've always found older guys sexier. add that to the fact that my first relationship was with someone only a year older but acted and thought like a total baby. so i was inadvertently drawn to the antithesis of that ex-older, much older, more mature, independent, blah blah. i wanted someone who's got it all figured out.

and that's what i got. we broke up, of course. nyaha.

thing is, more often than not, older men are more set in their ways. they're accustomed to their current lifestyles and are less likely to change their priorities just so they could accommodate your preferences. if they say they don't ever want to get married or have kids, you can never change that. you kind of have to accept that where your relationship is at the moment is already as good as it gets. 

still, if it works, it works. i can imagine though why your parents might disapprove. they're only concerned and like most people, they probably subscribe to the stigma carried by may-december relationships. if you guys are serious and you both see a future then hiding your relationship isn't going to make your family see that what you have is legit.

[aquacharly]

Age is just a number, so they say.  Younger or older, as long as he is single or legally free again - GO. 

[mischa04]

for me no problem if he's way older than me.. In a way mas maganda kasi matured na mag-isip, some malambing and caring, may sense kausap. Nasa inyong dalawa naman yan, if click talaga kau like you have the same interest, and both of you are happy..then it's ok..impt. is happy kayo.

[home_seeker]

I believe age is not really a big deal in terms of the couple. Big deal na siya kapag alam na ng ibang tao.  Nothing against an older guy. I like older men too kasi more mature, stable na, may mga narating na and may nagawa na sa buhay nila. Less drama din.

[Mommy•Shey]

No, age doesn't matter to me. Mas gusto ko nga yung mga 5-10yrs older than me. Minsan kasi pag ka age mo lang,  medyo immature pa. Yun lang if may wife and kids siya before pero he's totally and legally single na nung naging kayo, you need to accept the fact na may ibang responsibility din ang partner mo. Yung tipong minsan hindi ikaw ang magiging priority niya.

[jayjaygaerlan]

I think the question open for debate here is if the man is 10 years older or more, but not less than a decade, because one generation's culture gets to be totally different in about 10 years. According to what I read, with our fast-changing technology, the difference between Generation Y and Z is about 3-5 years na nga lang. Whew! 

For me, 10-15 years, let's stretch it to a max of 20, might be workable. Meaning, both girl and man can still compromise, and that's an important ingredient for a relationship to succeed. But 20-40 years? I agree with how @tabbru puts it! 'ang gusto nila, i-tolerate sila ng guy... maturity ba yun?" 

In love and work, a relationship needs effort from all parties concerned. Otherwise, one member suffers or the relationship won't last. This is in general ha, and of course, there are always exemptions to rules! 

[chielobabes]

Older guys could help you in making decisions in your life. that's my opinion kasi they have broader knowledge and experience but ofcourse depende pa din sa mentality ng man if he is really matured.  disadvantage is ang hirap ipakilala sa parents sa family at sa mga friends. if malaki ang age gap, am sure magkaiba mga likes and dislikes, hobbies and thinking but somehow meron din mga pagkakapareho kaya nga kayo nainlove sa isat isa. 

[Respect]

For me it's ok to date older guy yung tipong 10-15yrs yung gap basta nagmamahalan. Wag lang yung mala freddie aguilar at gf nya na 16y/o sus ko po. 

[lisse]

Ask ko lang, how old is older? Kasi for me, iba pag sinabing "older guy" kesa sa "old guy". Older guy for me is from a couple of years to 10 years max ang tanda sakin. pag old guy naman, 15 or 20 up years ang age gap. Kasi naman, imagine, nasa puberty na sila or barely out of their teens samantalang ikaw kakapanganak pa lang. For me medyo may problema na ako pag ganon ang age gap namin kahit pa sabihin na age is just a number. I will be a hypocrite if hindi ko aaminin na ako mismo eh uncomfortable sa ganon.

[stunning_anne]

for me, mas maganda nga yung mas matanda siya sayo eh.. mas nagkakaintindihan kayo kasi mas ok yung maturity niya compared sa kasing edad mo lang na guy..

[bellanjelah]

for me age is not a problem, if both parties are really in love everything will follow. My guys's 10 yrs older than me.

[anon]

Ask ko lang, how old is older? Kasi for me, iba pag sinabing "older guy" kesa sa "old guy". Older guy for me is from a couple of years to 10 years max ang tanda sakin. pag old guy naman, 15 or 20 up years ang age gap. Kasi naman, imagine, nasa puberty na sila or barely out of their teens samantalang ikaw kakapanganak pa lang. For me medyo may problema na ako pag ganon ang age gap namin kahit pa sabihin na age is just a number. I will be a hypocrite if hindi ko aaminin na ako mismo eh uncomfortable sa ganon.

totally agree with you.