what's wrong with him?

[spongebob]

lately kasi napapansin ko, parang ang lalim ng iniisip ni hubby everytime magkasama kami. hindi cya nakikisalo sa normal, day to day conversations pero ok naman pag towards sa 2 yr old daughter namin. he shows naman na nakikipag play cya and spends time with her. Feeling ko lang para siyang naiinis everytime he sees me even if i haven't done anything to him. if i ask him about anything, isang tanong isang sagot ang nangyayari. nakakawalang gana talaga. tapos everytime nag lunch kami or pag sinusundo nya ako from work, naka telebabad lang sya sa phone with his guy friend, and para syang walang problema kapag sila ang magka usap. disappointing lang kasi for me kasi i feel excited pag sinusundo ako para makipag kwentohan how my boring day went tapos i don't get the chance naman din pala to talk to him kasi nga naka celphone the entire time. tapos today, i invited him for lunch pero sinundo lang nya ako at nagsama lang kami sa mall pagpasok tapos sabi na nya hindi na daw siya kakain at busog cya, punta daw sya sa hardware. so i ended up having lunch alone. ewan ko ba.. i don't think naman na meron 3rd party or i don't sense na meron. feeling ko lang, taken for granted lang talaga ako. hindi naman ako clingy type na person. in fact, i just do things on my own if i can. last anniversary pa nga namin, he totally forgot about it and didn't even make up for it. now naman, my birthday is nearing and i don't think he has any plans or what. ewan ko ba... i just don't like being treated this way.

[vangie88]

sis, i think you should have a serious talk with him, just ask him if something's wrong, kung anong nararamdaman niya, may problema ba siya either sayo, sa family or sa work, just make sure to talk calmly and hindi yung parang inis ka agad or yung parang yung tone mo away ang hanap mo. open up to him, any relationship wouldn't work kung hindi nag uusap ng maayos both parties. hope everything will be okay sis, dont forget to pray also, everyday. 

[ysa.belle]

why dont you make lambing sis? or better yet, yayain mo siya out of town. mini honeymoon. if you can leave your baby with your mother or MIL or trusted relative, mas maganda.

just you & him. walang work na manggugulo or kahit ano. syempre you can check on our child parin pero talagang sa inyo lang dalawa yung day/weekend na iyon... maybe he just needs a break from work.

if all else fails, kausapin mo siya. hindi naman siya magkakaganyan if walang reason.

[spongebob]

when i try to talk to him in a very calm and casual way.. like ask lang what he's thinking or bothering him, sagot naman nya wala daw.

i did that already sis ysa.belle.. nag overnight kami in a resort tapos we ended up not having a ggod time kasi napilitan lang pala sya with the plan..and that he already supposedly had a plan with his friends that night... kaya ayun, i just focused my attention sa daughter namin kasi sinumpong na sya at bakit daw walang wifi sa resort...
i just ignore all these bad incidents between us kasi i try to justify things na anyway good father naman cya sa daughter namin, good provider.. but still, at the back of my mind, just because he does all these, doesn't mean naman siguro na i deserve this kind of treatment..

[ysa.belle]

^ganun. well, you already did your part & nag-effort ka na pala pero deadma lang. maybe there is really something wrong at hindi niya masabi sa iyo or baka hindi pa siya ready na sabihin sayo. give him konting space sis, malay mo yung ang need niya. pero wag mo siyang pababayaan, i mean asikasuhin mo parin siya para hindi niya ma-feel na galit ka or what. tapos pag minsan try to talk to him again...

i wish maging maayos na kayo sis...

[spongebob]

^yeah sis.. nothing else i can do talaga... that's why dito ko nlang sa gt ini.air out ang disappointment ko and all... pagod na akong magalit. and besides i don't want naman our daughter to get affected if magpapa affect ako sa ka uncaring ng hubby ko. maybe he's thinking enough na ang financial support to keep a family intact.. i don't know. i can't wait to leave this july para naman change of environment. though i know i will miss my daughter pag alis ko, i am hoping it will be a time for him to realize my worth.

[wengerts]

baka naman nagsusungit-sungitan ito dahil part yan ng plan nya para sa birthday mo...!

hope maging okay kayo soon!

[spongebob]

hahaha...how i wish.. but knowing my husband sa 10 yrs naming magkasama, never akong na surprise nun sooo not him yung ganun.

[rianne_mallows]

naku... tanungin mo kaya...  - is there someone else? -

(sorry.. nega mode ako )

[jpsv72]

sad naman ang story mo
just ignore mo muna ang pagiging cold nya as long as he stays with you at maganda ang pakita nya sa baby nyo, yun na lang muna ang tingnan mo, basta asikasuhin mo pa rin sya the way you usually do, pero hwag kana muna magtanong baka nga hindi pa sya handa to tell you whats bothering him.
good luck sayo sis.

[DR.LAB]

dapat sa mag asawa mo nag uusap kung ano ang problema nila sa isa't isa para magagawan ng solusyon ang problema.mahirap ang ganyan may probelma kayo pareho kayong apekted..mahirap mang hula kung ano ang problema ng asawa mo..mas maiging kausapin mo ng maayos..
paliramdam mo ang asawa mo baka mamya may tintago na pala.mahirap ang ganyan..alam mo naman ang mga lalaki...

[spongebob]

^thanks mga sis ill just keep myself busy with our toddler- think of interesting activities for her.. if her dad can tag along well and good, if not, well at least happy si baby.
last night was all the same.. he came inside sa room mga 10:30PM, and kakapasok pa lang nya, nag ring nanaman phone nya at kausap si guy friend about their hobby- tamiya mini 4wd. after they talked, nag headphones agad at nanood ng movie sa ipad nya habang kami ng anak ko nag play pa sa bed. grabe talaga.. inis na inis na ako kaya hindi na ako kumibo...

[ysa.belle]

iniignore ka niya talaga... kakalungkot naman...

[spongebob]

ignore to the highest level talaga. i emailed him this morning expressing my sentiments and all... up to now wala akong na receive na reply. i even told him huwag na nya akong sunduin at ihatid sa work at ganun dahil mas lalo lang ako ma upset since all he does is talk on the phone.

[jpsv72]

sis, mag mamaldita lang ako ha? paalam lang

Di kaya mas nagugustuhan ni hubby ang guys kesa sayo? kc parang kulang pa yung oras nya sa office para maka kwentuhan yung friend o office mate nya at hanggang sa bahay eh dala nya, baka he's more interested sa friend nya than you, .
may nagawa ka bang mali sa kanya bago mangayari ang coldness nya sayo? isipin mo lang.

[spongebob]

^gusto ko nga isipin na ganun LOL...pero sa 10 yrs namin as h and w, sure naman ako na straight sya. i don't know talaga sis..yun nga ang issue eh. he spends the entire day at the office and this guy friend of his even goes there and spends the afternoon in his office tapos pag uwi pa, sila pa rin nagkukwentuhan. i hear their conversation naman at wala naman talagang dapat pagdudahan or what...purely about their hobby lang.
as for pagkakamali...sometimes he reasons out na annoyed sya when i get inquisitive na parang pinagdududahan ko sya. i told him naman that it only crosses my mind because of his cold attitude.

[jpsv72]

ganun naman pala baka talagang obsessed lang talaga sya sa hobby nya, yun nalang ang isipin mo sa ngayon.

para lang di ka ma stress sis hwag mo nalang gaano sya pansinin. Tutal di naman nakakatiis ang mga lalaki na walang "do" in a week papansinin ka rin nyan pag kailangan kana nya. (sorry ha diba talagang ganun naman sila)

[icee_star]

Eh sis, in 10 years niyo ba ganyan na siya eversince or recently lang nagbago?

Kung ganyan na siya talaga dati pa, buti natagalan mo. Hindi sapat ang pagiging good provider, kailangan mo rin ng lambing ano! Di yung puro siya ang pinagsisilbihan, dapat he returns the favor din.

Pero kung recently lang siyang ganyan, at talagang malaki ang ipinagbago, pero naku, baka magaling lang yan magtago. Sorry ha, pero yung mister ko din di ko inakalang may babae dati sa galing magtago. kasi kung hobby lang yan, madadaan mo pa sa usapan yan eh. I mean, magmaktol ka lang or magpalambing, syempre ititigil at ititigil niya yung hobby niya para lambingin ka.

I just hope it's not 3rd party. Pero be aware din. Di mo din masasabi.

Take care sis. I hope maging ok na kayo.

[j a n i z]

^agree! there's something wrong talaga with ur hubby TS... kawawa ka naman. d naman natatapos s pagiging good father at provider ang pagpapamilya. baka ur husband is forgetting n may wife sya. nakakadisappoint nga yun ganyan, un parang d ka nageexist. hope everything will be ok in time. sana makausap m hubby m and sabihin n nya sayo ano problema nya.

[victim]

there could a deeper reason for his coldness towards you.