define 'ANTAGONIZING A MEMBER'

[trinity94]

to the mods, kindly define what you mean by 'antagonizing another member'... this is the most abused reason for issuing a warning, and you dont even quote the post that is supposedly 'antagonizing'... every member issued a warning for this reason deserves to know which posts supposedly antagonized others...

going against the belief and challenging the POV of others is simply making a discussion clearer and livelier... i dont believe having an opposite POV tantamounts to antagonizing, except of course if that member cannot stand by his/her POV..

quoting from the rules and regulations:

 To avoid instances of flaming, forum members are encouraged to remember that:
       a.   Disagreements should be focused on the subject at hand and not each other as individuals.
       b.   They should not take a difference of opinion as a personal affront.
       c.   GIRLTalkers come from different backgrounds and orientations and have a right to their own opinions and beliefs.
     

[Mr.Punch]

^ I agree with the first paragraph.  If you're going to issue a warning or any other sanction:

1.  Quote the part of the post that's supposedly offensive; and

2.  Explain how they violate the rules.

If you remember, some time ago, you guys issued me a warning for flamebaiting and your PM didn't bother to tell me in which thread the supposed flamebaiting occurred, much less the actual post containing it.

It might save you some time to do #1 and #2 at the very beginning rather than wait for the poster to PM you back or ask in the thread why her/his posts are being edited.  Oh, and this brings me to another point....

When you edit out offending parts of a post, make sure you don't edit out the parts that are not offensive at all and are integral to the discussion.  When you issued me a warning, you edited my posts in such a way that it seemed I was posting off-topic.  Yun lang.

[babyjapnurse01]

Im now officially being Watched by the Moderators.

Not that Im being bitter pero tama din the 2 posts above me, sana if magiissue ng warning ang Moderators, they would also take time to indicate which post ang naging offensive or whatev para we wont be left wondering which reply ang sumablay. Yun lang.

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since Im moderated, i edited nalang this reply to answer the post below by sis twelve5:

thats the reason why it is best that they also link the messages na naka-cause nung violation or warning.

ang hirap kasi, marereceive mo nalang yung warning ng wala kang kalaban laban, you cant even defend yourself gaya sa case mo, soliciting and advertising e you merely suggested lang a makeup artist lang rin naman pala.

to be honest, confused na ako ngayon kung ano yung concept ng moderators ng healthy discussion sa trolling/flaming.

as far as i know, may mga nakaka-diskusyon lang ako dito sa threads ng tips and eklavu, explained what i know and thats it, kung yun ang posts na kinoconsider nila na flaming/trolling dahil im going against the practices and concepts of other people, ano na pala description ng healthy discussion? hindi ba lahat nga tayo e andito para matuto at magshare ng kung anong alam natin? pano yun, even if you see something wrong with what the other party says hahayaan mo nalang, hindi mo na icocorrect dahil trolling/flaming na yun, especially on threads where people can share their tips and techniques for whatever? parang ang labo kasi.

Also sent the FN Admin a PM asking kung ano yung mga violations ko but I never got any reply, pag nagpost naman tayo ng suggestions dito, wala ring sumasagot, wala rin talagang malugaran na tama e.

[twelve5]

I got a warning too, but its about "soliciting and/or advertising" na hindi naman na indicate which post of mine was the culprit.

Napapatambay kasi ako sa wedding preps forum because im helping a friend. Panay queries nga post ko dun. Dyahe na nga ako sa mga sis natin dun kasi wala akong contribution, tapos sila very helpful.

As far as the possible "soliciting and/or adverting" post, isa lang ma- recall ko- when i mentioned a make-up artist. May nag ask kasi ng affordable pre-nup makeup. So i suggested a makeup artist that i inquired from... Kala siguro ng mods eh business partner or may financial gain ako from making that suggestion.

Ewan ko kung yun nga ang reason for the warning issued to me. Wala naman akong ibang maisip kasi.

Minsan lang maka contribute na warningan pa ako. 


edit ko na rin post ko... add ko lang. (here's my reply to babyjap's reply to my original post. hehe)

i merely mentioned the artist's name. i didnt put any other info like contact number, email or even a link to her fb. i didnt bother with that kasi she was already mentioned in some other members' previous posts. dito ko lang sya sa forum actually nalaman kaya nakapag inquire ako sa kanya. and that was just last week.

sana the mods would also check my posting history. siguro naman they will know kung may binebenta ako dito based on my posts. once ko lang na-mention yung name ng artist tapos ganun pa nangyari. and nasa tamang thread din naman ako.  people there were recommending other names too, kaya i really dont get why i got the warning.