breaking up and moving on...

[lesters_gal]

Breaking up is never fun. The end of a relationship means the beginning of a period of mourning and healing for both people. If the break up was mutual both people will experience a period of adjustment where they are getting used to no longer being together. If the break up was not mutual the person who ended things may be dealing with guilt and feelings that they may have made a mistake. The person being broken up with will definitely have to adjust, first to being rejected and second to life without somebody they still care for. How do you get through those first few weeks? Here we list eight essential things everybody must do in the early days of a break up to let the healing begin.


1) Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, this isn’t being immature. Seeing your former flame can bring out emotions and may cause you do to or say something you will regret. In the first few weeks the best thing you can do for yourself is not be where you know they will be.

2)Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the situation but you need to let out all your feelings and thoughts or they may come back to bite you later.


3) Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe and private place where it is unlikely to get back to your ex. You don’t want your tears to be used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back.


4)Let go of momentos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong.


5) Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. When you are feeling sad or missing a relationship it can be very easy to fall back in to the arms of your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set you back and let’s face it, if things ended the relationship wasn’t perfect to begin with so why would you want to rekindle things?


6) Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy, turned you off, or that you just plain found annoying. Think about these things often and replay them in your mind over and over. Dwell on them. It will make you feel better to remember that your former flame was not perfect and that there are things you won’t really miss.


7) Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have done in your relationship. Really give these things play in your memory. Remind yourself that somebody who truly cared for you would not have done such thoughtless things and tell yourself (over and over) that you are better off without that kind of ego crushing behavior in your life.

8.) Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t pass notes through friends. Don’t make any calls. Stay away from instant messaging or texting on your cell. Just don’t contact your ex until you are totally and completely sure you no longer want to be with him or her. It is the only way.

 Mending a broken heart is not easy but it can be done. Just stick to the game plan outlined above and before you know it you’ll be just fine. Good luck!

[gurlzat03]

^ thanks for sharing sis!

[michipoo]

thanks for sharing. it'll be a big help!

[graceriabel]

Sis I agree to what you have said.. Kaya lang sis ang hirap talaga eh. I have given him my ALL as in ALL ha...I really can't forget those painful memories that we had before, ang sakit sakit!!!

After you replied sis I'll make kwento my story.. share yours as well.. thanks

[tokyogirl]

we just broke up.. ilang beses na kami nagbreak. i think this is the last.

[angelme888]

super nice...kailangan talaga no communication talaga kayo ni ex para mas mabilis maka move on. You can't be friends kung may nararamdaman ka pa sa kanya. Kailangan maging strong ka, cry if you must, yan lang yun makapagluluwag sa dibdib mo, hanggang one day marealize mo you're ok na.

[shatygabrielle]

   Open your heart to the possibility of loving again. Life goes on; it does not stop because your heart is broken, and neither should you stop because it is. Think of this experience as a lesson in life. Soon enough, you will remember the day your heart got broken and you will smile because of it, because it has made your life richer than you have expected it to be.

[_AiaH_]

^ wow sis, very well said inspiring. thanks!

[meow-meow]

for me, acceptance is one of the key for a person to move on,
one must accept the break up before anything else..
it's easier to let go when you have accepted that he/she is never coming back..
of course pain and loneliness follows, everyone deals with this.. it may take months and for some, it take years in this stage, it's okay to allow yourself to cry and mourn..
then when you get through this stage.. healing comes in and then you'll be ready to move on and love again.. 

[iam_ria]

---OT---

-kainis lang why my ex keeps sending me IMs.. asking if i'm at work or at home na.. dang!
i feel like it's rude naman not to respond.

[iam_miel]

super nice...kailangan talaga no communication talaga kayo ni ex para mas mabilis maka move on. You can't be friends kung may nararamdaman ka pa sa kanya. Kailangan maging strong ka, cry if you must, yan lang yun makapagluluwag sa dibdib mo, hanggang one day marealize mo you're ok na.

I agree with you sis..kaya siguro hindi ako maka-move on kasi nagtetext pa kami ni ex..weird nga kasi we both decided to let go & live separate lives na wala ng communication last Tuesday..I texted him na he can let go na kung yun talaga ang gusto nya, na ayokong pahirapan pa sya & that its my final decision na din, I will never bother him again..Pero that night nagtext sya bigla na sana magkita pa din kami ng Friday..Magulo sya mga sis coz pag hindi na ako nagpaparamdam saka sya text ng text sa akin at parang gusto nya pang maging part ako ng buhay nya..I know he's selfish coz he once told me na wag daw muna akong mawawala sa buhay hangga't hindi pa sya nakakahanap ng kapalit..wtf! hayz I cant believe Im still inlove with him till now..