The Simplest Wedding One Can Imagine

[blackgreen]

Tama lahat ng sinabi niyo sis

Yun print out ng album ang parang gusto ko ngayun tanggalin sa budget ni photographer. Dun kasi sa package na kinuha namin sa restaurant meron na sila guestbook, pag feeling ko okay na yun na lang gamitin namin sa wedding. Kasi yun isang album dun sa package ni photographer yun ay guestbook na kuha galing prenup photoshoots eh pag ganun madodoble pa. Tsaka iniisip ko nga rin kung kelangan ko ba talaga ng printout agad ng album eh maalikabukan lang yun sa bahay though naisip ko paano pag na-corrupt yun HD na pagtataguan ko ng pics, wala ako back up.

[sparklingjewel]

So that's what it's called... the princess complex. Yung feeling na once lang ako ikakasal, why can't i have an awesome wedding and an awesome this and that?? Hahaha! I'm not rich also but i never had a luxurious childhood and i didn't even have a debut, so i guess kaya medyo nagiinarte na magkaron ng magandang wedding. Lagi ngang nagiging dahilan yung, e kasi once lang naman to!! Lol.

We'll find ways to control our spending although admittedly, medyo more than i thought we were going to spend.

[belle_v2g]

^I understand where you're coming from sis.. that's my mum's usual response to those relatives na medyo nagcocomment about our upcoming wedding. She would always tell them na "my daughter didn't experience a debut, we never celebrate any thanksgiving parties after boards, she had a very simple civil wedding few years ago, etc etc.." I actually don't mind those things.. pero i never expected that from my mum..so feeling ko it's time para bumawi.

[sparklingjewel]

^Sis diba?? My mom who is super tipid knows how much we're going to spend for this and she even tells me i can always ask her for a bit of money if kulangin kami and we can't afford what we want. Affected rin sya ng princess complex. Hahaha!

Honestly, i do want to not spend so much. Kung pwede lang eh, sino bang ayaw magtipid. E di sana todo nalang kami sa honeymoon. Lol. Kaso i also have to understand na people have standards, lalo na my fiance's family. I cannot serve them bad food na baka mas sosyal pa kinakain nila sa bahay. I can't just have the reception in a restaurant. I can't buy a gown from Divi kasi they will all talk about it behind my back and im sure they notice the quality. These things lang talaga. But really, i do envy those who can just spend 200k on their wedding. I will come out so much poorer from this hehe.

[simang]

Haha ang bottomline lang talaga is to spend within your means and prioritize. With us, we cannot compromise on food. Both our families are food enthusiasts hindi lang mahilig kumain pero mahusay din magluto. Kaya dapat talaga magustuhan nila yung food kase very specific sila dyan. Sa venue, we chose one that's already beautiful on its own para little styling na lang ang gagawin. Sa chapel, we chose a very small one (ninenegotiate pa since hindi sila usually nag aallow ng weddings doon), na overlooking sa Mount Malarayat. The rest budgeted na, even my bridal dress.

[sakura30]

Princess complex pala tawag dun.  Grabe tong GT, may natutunan ako everyday. Napaisip tuloy ako if I have Princess Complex. Sana wala naman. 

Sis belle_v2g, I'm happy your mom is very supportive. Never mind na yang mga kamag-anak na yan esp. if di naman sila gagastos.

Sis sparklingjewel, kami iba naman ang reason why we saved 200k for our wedding. We've been together as bf/gf for almost 11 years. Ako gusto ko lang talaga maliit na reception. Family and close friends ko lang sa isang tagaytay resto like sa Pamana or magoovernight lang sa isang house or hotel. Yung bonding lang. Pero si hubby naginsist a more traditional reception wedding. Ayaw nya daw may masabi sa kanya ang family ko kase nga ang tagal na namin.  Although ako di ko gaanong iniisip yun pero in a way, may point din siya kaya go na ko.

[smile22]

^sis belle_v2g its nice to have a supportive mom. my mom din sinagot nya yung half ng florist ko and nagbigay pa sya ng pandagdag.

sis sparklingjewel parang super sosyalin ng pamilya ni fiance. mahirap nga yung ganyan. lalo kung may sis in law ka na sosyalin. yung sakin gusto nya mas maganda pa sya sa lahat ng abay ko. inunahan pa nya magpamake up yung mga abay ko. lol. (tinanggal ko sya as abay)

sis sakura30 same na same talaga tayo. church location and budget. baka sisters tayo in our past life? 13 years naman kami ni hubby before we got married last month. we had our daughter on our 9th year together. i wanted civil nga lang. pero he insisted. kaya sabi ko, kunh iinsist mo na church, gusto ko sa caleruega. yun lang naman. all the rest tipid.

[blackgreen]

Nakakatuwa kayo mga sis supportive (financial) ang family. Kami hindi na kami nag expect, basta presence na lang nila ni-rerequire namin.

October pa wedding namin pero iniisip na namin paano magiging flow ng reception. Gusto kasi namin simple lang, ayaw din namin ng masyadong formal. Ceremony and reception in one venue kami. Naisip ko ipalabas na lang yun mga AVP sa eating time kaya lang sabi ni h2b baka daw wala manood nung AVP. Ganito sana gawin namin flow

Ceremony - max of 15 mins
Picture taking
Dance?
Trivia game (sino manalong table sila punta sa buffet table)
Eating time
AVP?
Thank you speech?

[astarte]

^ sis kami din all in one venue nung Christian wedding ceremony namin last year.

After ng wedding ceremony ni pastor heto mga kaganapan hehe:

Photo ops with bride's & groom's immediate family members

First dance of newlyweds

Dedication of families to the couple

Cake cutting and wine toasting

Dedication of maid of honor and best man

Photo ops (nakaupo lang kami ni hubby sa couple's table and per table group ang tawag ng coordinator para mag photo ops saming couple sabay instruct na sa kanila to line up to buffet table)

Ang pinakahihintay ng lahat -- dinner! Hehe!

AVP & SDE habang nagpapa tunaw ng kinain. Lol.

Newlyweds' message to families and guests

Yung remaining time nag per table rounds kami ni hubby not to take photos na but to have short chika with guests. Hehe.

[120515]

it's so nice to hear other people's stories here :-)
my parents also said that they are willing to share in the some of our expenses especially the food but i told them i don't want them to. however, they are donating at least 2 lechon to our wedding and this one is their non-negotiable because they said it's not a proper celebration without lechon. we didn't plan on lechon because my husband and his family do not eat pork by choice. but he gave in because it's really the only thing my parents demanded. my parents are also planning a separate reception for their guests and our other relatives that i am not inviting

[blackgreen]

^^thanks sis astarte! Gusto ko nga rin yun ganun na meron time na kami iikot sa mga table kahit hindi na photo-op chika chika na lang. Min of 2 and max of 3 hours kami, baka pag sobra matagal ma-bore ang guests. Yun photo ops before kainan, yun picture taking na kasi namin yun after the ceremony kaya nag insert na lang kami ng trivia game.

^sa amin bawal pork because of h2b's religion. Meron din separate reception si h2b's parents for their guests na hindi namin ininvite. Hahaa

[120515]

^ we're also planning to go to the guests while their having dinner just to chat. my husband really wants to do this so that we will be able to thank our guests personally - especially those who travelled so far just to attend ^

hi blackgreen, true, for you guys you really won't have pork

[blackgreen]

^yep sis Iniisip kasi namin kami rin kakain while kumakain guests. Or dapat di kami kakain? Yun pag ikot ikot sa mga guests pwede kaya namin gawin yun pagkatapos ng thank you speech ni h2b?

[120515]

your guests might already start leaving after the thank you speech...we're planning to eat so we'll probably do it 30 minutes into dinner

[belle_v2g]

^sparklingjewel
Kaya when I read your post, parang teka, ganito si mama mag defend sakin eh haha! I can relate.

^sakura30
Oo sis.. di maiwasan talaga kahit relative mo, may maiinggit at ayaw nilang makitang masaya yung iba. Sad bad true.

^smile22
Natuwa ako sa family mo ang daming nag sponsor. Samin lahat gastos ni hubby pero si mama hinaharass kosa lechon haha..kulit ko lang sarap kasing kulitin ng mum ko kase nga supportive kaya dapat panindigan nya hehe..photobooth ko gift sakin ng MOH.graphic artist ko dapat gift sakin pero pinalitan ko kase dedma so ako na nag shoulder.

[blackgreen]

your guests might already start leaving after the thank you speech...we're planning to eat so we'll probably do it 30 minutes into dinner

Noted sis. Yun eating time ni hubby kasabay din ng eating time ng guests? sorry nalilito ako.

[sakura30]

Sis smile22, oo nga sisters tayo in past life. hehe! Pero hindi sa church ang ceremony namin. Same place lang ng reception since we're having a Christian ceremony. At nakakatuwa din na our partners insisted on marrying us with a full wedding celebration. Nakakatouch kaya, diba? 

Sis blackgreen, suggestion lang. Maybe eating time tapos after 20-30  minutes tsaka mo palabas yung AVP nyo para mas settled na yung guest. Pwedeng magplay ka na lang ng background music while eating para hindi naman masyadong quiet. 2 hours lang din ang plan naming reception. Baka boring na pag mahaba. Although the guests can opt to stay for one more hour to chika or take pictures pero officially tapos na in 2 hours.

[blackgreen]

^ahhh okie okie.. Thank you sis! So after lahat nakapunta na sa buffet table tapos lahat settled na after 20 minutes, so siguro mga 4 or 5 na kanta as background music tapos i-pplay na yun AVP. Saan na yun portion na ikot ikot kami with guests?

[120515]

Noted sis. Yun eating time ni hubby kasabay din ng eating time ng guests? sorry nalilito ako.

yup, we'll eat together with the guests. so if we start dinner at 6:30 then we'll go around at 7:00

[blackgreen]

^ahh gets ko na So sa amin while we're having the trivia game, sineserve na rin food namin ni h2b, tapos before we play the AVP naka ikot na ng konti sa mga guests.