The Simplest Wedding One Can Imagine

[nicegirl05]

hi po ask ko lang, ok lang ba sa church wedding if yung mga principal sponsor e mga friends ko na married na rin. since simple lang din gusto ko yoko ng mag-invite ng di ko masyado kilala or kaclose na recommended lang ng mga parents namin. thanks po..

[Sunflowers]

^ yes sis, ok lang sa church wedding na friends mo principal sponsors. Ang important naman is that you believe that they can give advice and guide you sa married life nyo ni husband to be. But check mo din sa church nyo if may requirements sila, like sa age, just to be sure

[Kady_14]

What's your take on this.
 
A friend of mine got married and to achieve the "simplest" wedding. Sa guests lists, ang invited lang sa wedding eh yung friend nung couple. Like me, si husband hinde. They did that to control the number of people attending (eating) during the reception.

May friend din kami na guest din and dala ang BF (who's not part of the guest list) kaya what they did was just attend the wedding and di na sumama sa reception.

Have you attended a similar wedding? I think this is ok with close friends and single guests pero offensive for couples lalo't asawa na. Just my POV. 

[j.adore]

^ marami rin naman kasing couples na they will reason out na hindi pa sila makakuha ng sarili nilang place kasi malaki nagastos nila sa wedding. so ayun para makatipid eh live with their parents muna.
risky rin naman na bumili kayo ng property if hindi pa kayo kasal. siyempre even if you are already engaged, pwedeng may mangyari pa so a lot of couples are advised na wag muna bumili ng property until hindi pa sure na conjugal na yun. unless isa lang talaga ang magbabayad sa house, for example, ang usapan talaga ay yung lalaki ang bibili. but if shared ang expenses sa pagbili ng house, ayun risky nga siya.
ang no-no lang talaga eh yung uutang ka for your wedding kasi overbudget ka na especially if we are talking about tens of thousands and more na yung amount na uutangin mo. for me, either you make your wedding simpler to cut costs or postpone until maipon mo yung amount na need mo to have the wedding that you want.
tradition na talaga dito sa atin na invited ang lahat sa wedding so ang laki talaga ng nagagastos.

Kapag loan or installment basis ang purchase ng property, usually naninigurado sila at hindi talaga pwede kung hindi kayo related.

Agree din ako diyan mahirap magsimula ng happily ever after na nagbabayad ng utang. Meron akong mga kilala na sumasakit ulo sa pagbudget kung pano babayaran yung mga inutang para sa kasal.

^ yes sis, ok lang sa church wedding na friends mo principal sponsors. Ang important naman is that you believe that they can give advice and guide you sa married life nyo ni husband to be. But check mo din sa church nyo if may requirements sila, like sa age, just to be sure

Akala ko kailangan older kasi they would be wiser to give advice at hindi ko din alam na may ganong requirements din sa church? Alam ko lang di pwede sobrang madaming principal sponsors.

What's your take on this.
 
A friend of mine got married and to achieve the "simplest" wedding. Sa guests lists, ang invited lang sa wedding eh yung friend nung couple. Like me, si husband hinde. They did that to control the number of people attending (eating) during the reception.

May friend din kami na guest din and dala ang BF (who's not part of the guest list) kaya what they did was just attend the wedding and di na sumama sa reception.

Have you attended a similar wedding? I think this is ok with close friends and single guests pero offensive for couples lalo't asawa na. Just my POV. 

It really depends on how people think.
The offense comes from the vantage point of the invited married couple kasi family na sila at may buy1take1 mentality.
However, from the vantage point of the bride and groom, if they want it to be simple and intimate, it HAS to be only those they are really close with.

You have to understand din kasi na hindi naman lahat ng tao ay financially gifted para maiwasan mga tampo factor ng friends and relatives.

[Kady_14]

sabi nung friend ko 80k daw ang nagastos nila. Their budget was 100k.

share ko lang yung mga ginawa nila to help those who are also planning to save a lot.

Invites, table cards, questionnaires, etc. - gawa ng friend.
Hosts-friends ng couple
AVP-gawa ng friends
Ushers-Friends din
Bridesmaids - KKB, mga super close friends nila, sa isang mananahi lang sila ngpatahi.
Groomsmen - KKB din
Church - UP church - discounted for alumnis - almni si bride. P3,500 lang ata
Bridal car - hiram sa kakilala.
Reception/Food/Cater - very basic and common lang pinili nila. (Carbonara, chicken bbq, mixedveggies, lengua, buko pandan) Simple lang- sa loob din ng UP, discounted din.
Honeymoon to Bora - regalo ng Ninong/Ninang
Souvenirs - Abaniko yung parang heart shape pamaypay ng lola. Yung tag P10-P15 sa simbahan.

Super simple ng wedding. Sabi nga nila, mairaos lang pero alam nyo super bilib ako sa mag-asawang yun. Kasi ang budget nila did not just go to the wedding. Bumili kasi sila ng bahay kaya chunk of their money went to that. Inayos muna nila yung bahay nila bumili ng basic stuff then kinasal pagkatapos ng kasal dun na sila umuwi sa bahay nila. Exactly after a year nabuntis na si wife and kotse naman ang binili nila.

[twelve5]

What's your take on this.
 
A friend of mine got married and to achieve the "simplest" wedding. Sa guests lists, ang invited lang sa wedding eh yung friend nung couple. Like me, si husband hinde. They did that to control the number of people attending (eating) during the reception.

May friend din kami na guest din and dala ang BF (who's not part of the guest list) kaya what they did was just attend the wedding and di na sumama sa reception.

Have you attended a similar wedding? I think this is ok with close friends and single guests pero offensive for couples lalo't asawa na. Just my POV. 

general rules na alam ko:

single friend with bf/gf - its not mandatory to invite the bf/gf, esp if di nyo ka-close

engaged to be married friend - mandatory to invite the fiance

married friend - BOTO (buy one, take one) nga ito... BUT siguro (siguro lang ha, hehe), if limited nga budget ng couple, and di nila gano ka-close yung other half, ok lang siguro not to invite...  but personally i wouldnt do it. dyahe kasi.   

[Kady_14]

^ Actually, parang nainis ang husband ko dito. (he's not used to that kind of set-up, bilang soshalin karamihan ng friends nya sa industry lol.) First, dahil hindi siya invited and second, umattend pa din ako. Close friend ko kasi yung groom. And hanggang ngayon napapailing siya when this wedding is brought up.

Hahaha...

[twelve5]

^ tell him its nothing personal. its not him, its the limited budget.

but i think mas galit nga sya sa fact that you went without him. sensitive pala sya. hehe

[twelve5]

i have an officemate (di kami close, so di rin ako invited hehe. diff floor and dept sya), yung wedding ceremony mismo was "sosyal" (di mukhang tipid) pero yung reception mismo was just cocktails... no chairs, just cocktail tables. then syempre finger foods lang sinerve. i guess it was done to accommodate everyone they wanted to invite... kanya kanyan diskarte lang. hehe

[nicegirl05]

^ yes sis, ok lang sa church wedding na friends mo principal sponsors. Ang important naman is that you believe that they can give advice and guide you sa married life nyo ni husband to be. But check mo din sa church nyo if may requirements sila, like sa age, just to be sure

sis kasi civil wed na kami for 9 years and plan din namin mag pachurch sa 10th anniv namin yung siple lang din, need bang same yung principal sponsor namin sa marriage license sa civel at sa church wedding.

[aicute12]

i think im letting go of my simple and intimate caleruega wedding. Kahit kasi simple siya, costly padin.
simple wedding nalang siguro dito sa manila.

[nicegirl05]

correct sis! at mas practical.

[aicute12]

true. been thinking about it lately. Super dream ko talaga since highschool ako.
i guess, hindi talaga lahat ng gusto natin makukuha natin lol.

gusto ko talaga ng caleruega wedding tapos nasa 60pax lang invited.
pero sa Paco church and park nalang siguro. mas tipid padin yun!

[nicegirl05]

dream ko din yun sis, kaya lang lately naiisp ko din malaki rin pala magagstos namin kung ipipilit ko na sa caleruega. e ang gusto lang naman talaga namin e matuloy na church wedding namin.

[aicute12]

di naman sa nalulungkot ako ng bongga. Yun talaga yung super dream ko.
Mag civil nalang kaya kami wala pang gastos!

[nicegirl05]

ganun din yun sis may gastos pa rin, halos same lang din except bayad sa church.

[aicute12]

Sis nice, naku ang naisip ko mag cicivil nalang then kakain nalang kami somewhere.
No need to invite people haha. Para tipid! Magpapainom nalang ako!

[nicegirl05]

sis ganun din kmi 9 years ago pero sa bahay naman, parang nagkasundo lang kami ng bf ko magpakasal na kahit walang ipon. may pinsan ako sa munisipyo sya yung nag-ayos ng papers namin dinala nya lang sa bahay at di na rin kami umattend ng mga seminar. tapos nagluto lang nanay ko sa house, tapos yun na kasal kami yung lang parang wala lang hehe..

[Kady_14]

^ tell him its nothing personal. its not him, its the limited budget.

but i think mas galit nga sya sa fact that you went without him. sensitive pala sya. hehe

hahaha Oo nga, ma-echos lang talaga ang asawa ko, gusto lang nya talaga siguro sumama. Ako kasi if may friend siya na ikakasal hindi big deal sa akin kung hindi ako kasama. Actually mas gusto ko pa nga yun kasi i can do whatever i want. Pwede ako mag-mall or pa spa. Kesa naman sama ako sa wedding tapos hindi ko naman ka-chika yung mga kasama.

Pwede naman mag simple church wedding sis. Alam ko may sis tayo dito na ngpa church wedding na 50k budget (ata) di ko na maalala name nya. Basta do-able naman. Bumili lang sila mga ready made sa SM ("we've got it all for you) hehe... and kumain sa labas. Alam ko me breakdown sya ng gastos nya dun eh.

[aicute12]

Naisip ko naman, baka pwede sa paco church then sa park nalang yung reception.
Kaso parang naiisip ko sayang padin yung extra cash.
Gusto ko padin siyempre ikasal sa church. Haaist.