Hubby Having a Bad Day : What do you do?

[serendipity02]

pinagluluto ko ng fave nyang ulam tapos massage ng likod. ayoko sya kulitin, kusang magsasabi yun pag ok na sya idiscuss kung ano naging problema.

[mamabear16]

 

hmm actually simple lang ang ginagawa ko at tingin ko effective yun sa asawa ko..


-tahimik lang ako hangga't di siya nagsasalita
-tahimik lang muna ako at makiramdam
-pag nag open na siya focus lang ako at makikinig sakanya at uunawain mga sinasabi niya
-hahayaan ko lang siyang magsalita hanggang sa hiningi na niya ang opinion ko
-kapag nakapagsalita na ako lalambingin ko na siya at i cocomfort..

okay na siya dun tas paghahainan ko na siya ng masarap na food

[fheury28]

i ha hug ko sya, to let him know na karamay ninya. Hinahayaan ko syang magkwento, and then kiss sa cheeks at pag alam ko ok na, kulitan time, hehe!

[lonelymiss28]

massage his head then massage his face bago matulog.

[popi]

We cuddle while watching TV.  Pareho kasi kami mahilig mag cuddle.

Tapos while cuddling, hinihimas ko braso and belly nya while looking at his face and paying him compliments.  After a while, nakakalimutan na nya problema nya 

[Beng01]

If he's having a bad day at matutulog na kami, I will ask him na dumapa, then ayun I will give him a shiatsu back and butt massage.

After the massage mag-i-smile na siya 

[mariafatima013]

before he gets home alam ko na kapag bad sya, kasi kahit magkasama kami sa bahay magkatext pa din kami maghapon hanggang sa makauwi sya, so sinasabi nya sakin kung [textspeak!] yung mga nangyayari sa work, kaya may time ako makapagprepare ng favorite merienda nya or ulam, and sa text pa lang chini-cheer up ko na sya. nagppromise ako na bibigyan ko sya ng madaming madaming kiss, sinasabi ko na "ok lang yan ganyan talaga, saka pogi ka namn" he would just laugh and say, "bolera!" so yun, tanggal ang bad mood nya.

[RusselsMom]

Most of the time work ang reason kapag wala sa mood si hubby. Nakikinig lang ako sa mga hinaing niya. Luckily, we work on the same company here in Dubai kaya gets ko yung mga problem. Then kiss sabay hug. Kapag ako naman ang problema niya, tahimik lang ako. kapag kasi sinabayan ko sa away lang mauuwi. Hindi naman nagtatagal, okay na kami.

[swtgrl_bee]

Tumahimik at pag pahingahin muna siya.

[gracita13]

makikinig then hug.naalala ko nung nawala nya yung petty cash sa office no choice kame kundi bayaran,naiyak sya sobrang t**** daw nya.teary-eyed na ko niyakap ko na lang sya sabay sabe "pera lang yan,napapalitan tahan na"  *mas lalo umiyak nung niyakap ko* haha 

[luckymommy88]

On the way home sa taxi pa lang pag nagtext siya na sobrang traffic at tired siya textback na ako na a sumptous dinner si waiting for him with lots of fruits, hugs and kisses ayun magtext na yun na nawawala na pagod niya at naeexcite na siya. Paguwi nakahanda na lahat then massage ko siya at let him watch Discovery Channel, mamaya pagtabi nya super thank you na yun

[JINJIN:*]

hhmm..hindi ko pa naman siya nakitang super bad mood eh.

Alam ko lang naiinis yan pag maraming work, tapos konti lang time niya. So sinasabi ko lang na, "trabaho mu ba yan?  kaya mu pa ba? or nahihirapan ka ba?" tapos sasagutin naman niya ako ng uu. Tapos ask ko ulit "maayos mu ba nagawa?" sasagot naman siya ng "uu"...tapos sasahin ko na "eh tapos na diba, nagawa mu nga ng maayos eh, ang galing mu kaya. Haller panis kaya yun, so ano pa problema?"

Ganun, ina-uplift ko lang ang spirit niya, pero yung atake na parang chinachallenge ko siya na wag niya masyado problemahin ang mga bagay na me solusyon dahil magaling siya at kayang kaya niya….dito nagiging ok na siya kase narerealize niya na trabaho lang ang lahat at lahat eh me solusyon kaya dapat wag dinadala sa bahay ang problema sa trabaho.

Bas

[twelvth_goddess]

My husband's very patient and resilient so if something pisses him off, that means it's a bit grave. Even when something bothers him minsan hinde mapapansin sa kanya but I would notice him being unusually quiet and syempre, as a wife, my instincts would tell me that there's something wrong.

Anyway, madalas we would just talk about what bothers him. Kameng dalawa kase, madalas pag inis kame, we just need to get it off our chest and maikwento namin with each other. Pagdating sa work nya, I don't give unsolicited advice, madalas I listen lang. My husband has a tendency kase to always incline to my opinions so ingat ako kase I want him to decide based on what he wants kesa sa what I think.

Pag bad mood si hubby, time together lang talaga with us ang ginagawa namin. Sometimes I let him de-stress and drink.

[miiilovestravis]

Samin, lambing lang w/ our son ok na

[det060403]

reassurance and a big kiss.. then I try to stay out of his way! he gets more frustrated when i try to do anything else. haha he comes to me naman when he feels he needs me or when he feels better na.

[katrinac]

I'd shower him with kisses and isang malaking power hug. hehe! Then magkukuwento na yan kung ano nanyari sa kanya. Pag nakwento na nya, okay na sya ulit.

[graZiousa]

kinakausap ko muna kung ano problema nya, if ayaw pa makipag usap hinahayaan ko nalang muna. Lagi ko sya tinetext, bago sya umuwi i make sure maganda at mabango ako, lutuan ng masarap, imassage bago matulog, handaan ng gamit pampasok na kumpleto (usually kasi may nakakalimutan ako, ask pa nya sakin kung saan).. Maraming time kasi hindi ako ganyan, pagod rin sa work..

[imbisibol_]

THIS!  my husband had exactly this when he came home last night.  the first words out of him as soon as the front door opened were "I'm so tired!"

i gave him an extra sweeter smile and "re-scheduled" all the things/errands i was going to ask him to do that night.  later in the evening when he had mellowed down, he told me the SECRET to get him out of a foul mood- "just hand me a beer.."

[nixiquita]

Si BF, i bring him food. Or let him watch cartoons or play psp. I wont talk or nag him. Ill just hug or cuddle him.

[princeszheng]

Last 2 weeks was tough for the two of us. Pero mas bad day si hubby last 2 days. I have to comfort him kahit LDR kami. What I did was, I sent him sms to remind him that everything will be okay. I'm here for him. I sent him an email with uplifting quotes.

Well tama sila minsan hindi nakaka-tulong yun lambing mode, si hubby din ayaw ng tanong ng tanong pag my malalim sya iniisip, so ganon na lang ginawa ko I keep quiet na lang. Mind you, the next day pag okay na sya, saka sya magkkwento. Lahat ng nararamdaman nya, Siguro minsan hayaan na lang natin sila minsan mag-isip on their own.  Baka ganon talaga nature ng mga lalake.