signs that you need to separate na..

[sugar n spice]

if he cannot provide. and he is not doing anything to help you provide for your family.

Well I have friends na wife ang provider but they're doing well. Uso na ata ang "houseband" ngayon.  I also have friends na mas malaki ang kita ni wife kesa kay hubby. I have a male friend na sinabi nya na he don't get intimidated with the fact na kalahati lang ng sweldo nya ang sinesweldo ng wife. He's even proud na ganun kagaling yung wife nya. I guess nasa pag-uusap lang yan.

For me, pag wala na ngang respect sa isa't isa. As in lahat ng bagay, pinag-aawayan. 

[curlyhair]

i think time to let go pag di nyo na kaya magkaintindihan...if di nyo na kayang magpakumbaba for each other. kasi, if you love each other, kayang kaya pa iwork out lahat ng bagay, maiintindihan pa lahat ng kahinaan ng isa't isa or pagkakamali. when love fades, iyon na.... lahat wala na. hindi na willing mag give way. that's the sign i think.

[eamenaira]

Kapag ngkaanak c hubby sa kabit nya to think wala pa kami isang taon kasal nun nabuntis nya. Is this a sign na dapat na ko makipaghiwalay or give another chance. Pls. I need your advice.

[sugar n spice]

^^Depende...

Ano bang nangyari? Ano na bang naging napag-usapan nyo? Bat nya nagawa yon? May anak na ba kayo? May history na ba sya ng panloloko? Pambabae?  Iki-keep nya ba yung kab!tch nya? Or gagawin nya lahat para bumawi sayo patawarin mo lang sya?

Tanungin mo rin sarili mo. Hanggang saan mo kayang tanggapin yung fact na may anak sya sa iba? Kaya mo ba syang patawrin?

[gnrn_026]

pano kung ganito:
walang ibang babae
walang bisyo
walang physical abuse
good provider
PERO almost everyday pinipintasan ka at madalas sinasali pa pamilya mo, sinusumbatan ka,  tinataasan ng boses na parang mumurahin ka na, possessive, etc.

dapat ba? sign na ba?

OMG. Anung klaseng tao yan? pati family sinasali.. sorry, pero grabe ang ugali na yan... sana makuha pa sa usap..

[phoebe1811]

well actually we had a prob dahil sa 3rd party. he's the one who left the house need space that..the usual reasons.

oh well..after quite some time i told him kung anong plano niya if he has intention of coming back well meron naman daw hindi niya alam kung meron so i told him i'll give him an ultimatum and he should decide what to do. wag ko daw siya ipressure. he knows na ligawin ako and its not hard for me to find a new one. well sabi ko pag nagka bf ako its the time na its done na and i wont take him back.

i decide to separate from him na talaga coz hindi ko kelangan ng guy na paasa at puro salita i need a man na kayang panindigan ang ginagawa niya and chooses the right thing to do.

[mheloya]

if you're cold with each other.
no more love and respect
pag di na masaya, boring na.
pag hindi na naggogrow yung relationship
pag may iba ka nang mahal

I agree

[i_v_y]

isa lang ang sagot ko: INDIFFERENCE

if you are indifferent na sa spouse mo or  sa partner or jowa mo, then separating is the next step.

tingin ko lang ha, indifference will come after you have done everything you could to save the relationship and yet wala pa ding pagbabago.

"The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference."

This is what im going through right now, i tried to save my marriage, lahat ginawa ko na. My mom in law calls me martir, my friends call me martir, the mistress called me stupid and g@g@ pero hindi ko sila pinansin lahat. what mattered to me was the fact i was saving my marriage at wala namang masama maging martir. pero masarap lumaban kung yung mahal mo lumalaban din. one day, a sentenced hit me "you dont have to fight for your spot, if you are really important, he will make a room for you".  then it changed me.

wholeheartedly, last night i just told my husband that it was time to separate. nasabi ko din sa wakas na nakikita ko na ang sarili ko living  a happy life after this. sabi nga ni aquacharly sa akin noon, "new beginnings are always better than dead ends"   

[Leven]

Love and Respect. Pag wala na ang dalawang to ewan ko lang kung anong reason pa at tagalan mo siya, pwede money for practical reason or sa kids pero kung kaya mo na lahat lahat at wala ng love at hindi ka na nirerespect abay dapat goodbye na. For me verbal abuse at physical abuse are signs na wala ng respect or love ang asawa mo. kaliwa't kanang pambabae or sugal abay walang patutunguhan na yan kasi wala namang rehab para s pambababae at sugal e. ibig sabihin nasa tao na yan kung gusto niyang itigil ang bisyo niya.

[latte]

Kapag walang respect. yung tipong wala pinakinggan sa mga hinaing mo dahil lagi syang nakatingin sa sarili nya lang...

[cinderella_322]

IMO lang po, base sa experience ko sa mom&dad ko.
Pag wala ng respect, there is no reason for it to work. minsan kahit walang love basta may respect kaya pa eh, but pag respect talaga ang nawala.. all of it fall apart.
continuous lang magiging pananakit ng bawat isa, whether physically, mentally and worst emotionally.
ganyan naranasan ng mom ko sa dad ko and my mom still tired to save it but its hopeless na to the point na naaapektuhan na kaming mga anak nya specially my 3 younger brothers.
if you still can build the respect, there's still hope. pero pag totally wala na.. sinisira niyo lang lalo ang bawat isa and all the people around you.

[muy003]

Ang dami na nilang nasabi, may gusto lang akong ishare. This is from a priest's sermon. Para sa mga nakakramdam na they're falling out of love, pero still want to save the relationship, the partnership, the FAMILY, the priest said, you have to make yourselves fall in love again...

For me, it stuck eh. Gawan muna ng paraan before giving up... Exhaust all necessary measure, dapat alam ng dalawa, being aware and being conscious that somethings wrong is already halfway thru the solution..

[cosmochick]

^^ i agree with cinderella_322. A relationship can still work Without love but not without respect.

[Leven]

hmmm...kung respect lang di ba para lang kayong magkapatid niyan? kumbaga sige magkasama tayo dahil lang sa mga bata..parang ang pangit naman...ano pa ba at magkasama kayo na wala naman palang love?

[cinderella_322]

^respect as a wife and a husband po.. if u respect ur husband, u wont do anything to tarnish your relationship. matter of fact na po ngayon na madaming nagsasama kahit wala ng love but because of the kids. thats why its still can work. pero kung pati respect eh wala na talaga., dun na lalabas yung mga bad and worst attitude ng isang tao. masama pa nyan, in front of kids pa nag-aaway, nagmumurahan and nagsasakitan. no respect na din kasi sa kids nila.

[allets]

Eh paano naman you have two kids at sabihin sayo na nagsisisi sya na ikaw pinalasalan nya? What will you do as a wife or husband?

[loverofsummer]

You can't find a reason to continue anymore. wala ng excitement, wala ng love, wala ng pakialam. And yes, indifference.

[LiSzy]

Eh paano naman you have two kids at sabihin sayo na nagsisisi sya na ikaw pinalasalan nya? What will you do as a wife or husband?

Sis, narinig ko na din tong linya na ito.. Ayun pinalayas ko na..
Pambabae, tortured emotionally, mentally and physically..
Agree na pag wala ng respect and love eh its time to move on at mahalin mo naman ang sarili mo..

[skyrimgal]

any form of abuse should not be tolerated. physical, emotional, at verbal. kahit hindi ka nga binubugbog ni husband pero kung upakan ka naman verbally.. o kaya paulit ulit na nambababae si hubby kahit na laging nangangako na hindi na mauulit. i think, for the sake of the children, lalo na kung may anak kang babae, kailangan hiwalayan mo na siya. para lang maging magandang example sa anak mo because your children will understand that you did it because you stood up for yourself.