Unwanted Pregnancy

[k_heart]

Agree, a baby is always a blessing! : )

[sunfire25]

Ok lang ang mga fears mo, normal naman yan for all unexpected pregnancies  It really does change your life.  I had 2 before with the most irresponsible father.  Mahirap talaga sa una, pero kinaya ko, I then became a single mom.  And you know, mga anak ko pang nagbigay ng lakas ng loob sa 'kin, so I really believe they were a blessing for me. 

But if you honestly feel that you cannot be a good mother to your kid (which i doubt), you can always give it up for adoption...for couples who will love him/her more...Wala ring masama doon. 

[annn]

hi guys, i just want to say something.
back in high school , or even college, nobody has really stressed about the psychological , mental, social ,financial effect of being a single parent. they were too scientific and clinical about it. puro std lang, or even the sexual reproduction lang talaga. so madami sa atin may maling akala, thinking its easy, or ok or hip to be a single parent. its really not. its very difficult for females to move on with their lives, compared sa mga guys.

so i wish the schools would teach us about this, kasi i know in the u.s. they do.

[Msfi]

chikka 101, ok lang lahat yang mga nararamdaman mo, you are just being honest. Pero pag-isipan mong mabuti ang gagawin mong solution sa problem mo.  You made a mistake of saying yes to your fiance kahit ayaw mo talaga, but you still need to deal with the consequence. If you really think you can't take care of that baby, just like what sunfire 25 said, you can give it up for adoption. 

[chiqmom]

sa una lang mahirap but as you move along, you will  realize that its a blessing. good luck!

[killer_smile]

TS, I can't wait to hear your testimony when the time comes na makita mo na ang baby mo.
I am excited for you on how you will rise on your situation and how God will work in your life.
Life is really full of challenges and nothing is really permanent in this world.
Even if we're the richest person on earth may darating at darating na problema sa atin. But be brave to face all this with faith, kasi trials are made to make us STRONGER and help us Persevere in life.
Godbless you

[raven03]

Hi Chikka101, I hope you're doing great in yoor pregnacy and has come in terms with it. Ako din before did not want to have kids yet, I wanted kasi everything to be prepared and I still wanted a lot of things for myself and everything seemed to be within my reach basta lang wag muna akong magkaka-anak.

Years after, now I am finally thinking of having my own bundle of joy, not because andami-dami ko ng ipon to give the best for my kid, not because nabili ko na lahat ng possible na luho ko or that I have travelled as much as I aspired to. I've realized na ready na ko kasi I've done enough self-loving that I want to transfer all that love na to another human being.

Self-love is not a bad thing, in healthy doses, it makes you a better person. Ang prayer ko for you is that you'll always find in your heart to transfer some of that love to your baby. Like yung mga aspirations mo for yourself, kung hindi mo man magawa, pero magawa mo possible for your child, it'll make you happy or even happier.

Be safe in your pregnancy! =)

[heavensent]

^sis, in time everything will be ok and pag andyan na yung baby mo you will realize that he/she is the most important person in your life..

i had my daughter when i was 20, she's 7 years old now.. before ayaw ko pa din talaga, walang stable job si bf so pano naman kami diba? nanganak ako sa lying-in lang since we can't afford sa big hospital, but now we're doing ok..

i love my daughter so much and i don't think i can live my life without her and i'm so thankful talaga na binigay siya sa akin ni God kahit na hindi pa ako ready..

[gracekellyish]

hi sisses, on a different side of note, papaano nyo sinabi sa parents/family nyo yung situation?

[PINKAHOLIC]

^ sakin naman di ko talaga plinano, bigla na lang nila nabalitaan 6 months na yung tiyan ko nung nalaman nila.
Di na sila nagalit,
niyakap nalang nila ako dahil sa awa sakin..
Sobrang sakit nung umiiyak silang lahat dahil sa nangyari.
Alam nyo un, dinala kong mag-isa ang problema sa loob ng 6 buwan, wala talagang nakahalata na buntis ako, wala nga akong prenatal vitamins tapos lagi pa akong tulala nun, ay hehe ayoko ng isipin.
Basta wag mag worry, magalit man sila sa umpisa lang un dahil iba ang puso ng magulang, marunong silang umunawa kahit sa pinakaworst na situation.

[ana mimi]

ako din kaka-graduate lang nung nabuntis. haay. i am soo stressed. i am still working-- working damn hard. gusto ko makaipon for myself bago man lang lumabas si baby. ayoko na maloshang kapag lumabas na sya.. sa ngayon, i have bought myself a laptop, new cellphone, an slr out of my own money. si baby na din siguro ang nagturo saken ng budgeting.. nung nalaman ko na preggy ako, dun ko nabili lahat ng yan.

di rin nawala sa eksena si baby kase lahat ng luho gusto ko ibigay sa kanya, mula bote hanggang sa crib. yung pampaanak nalang talaga inaasahan ko sa tatay ng anak ko. naiinis ako sa kanya. ayoko na nakikita sya. hindi ko dadalhin yung anak ko sa bahay nila.

[ysa_38]

^ako naman baliktad...save ng save naman ako for baby...wala pa nga ako nabibili ulit for myself...I'm afraid kasi maubusan si baby pagkalabas niya or kahit tipirin siya

[ana mimi]

well, nabili ko na naman ng mga gamit si baby. ubos nga lagi sahod ko sa pagbili ng mga gamit nya e. si baby na din nagturo saken na mag-budget, yung sahod ko lagi na may pinaglalaanan, 50% yung kay baby tapos 35% saken 15% parents.

minsan naiiyak nalang ako sa pinasok ko na to. minsan kase mahirap dahil super need mag work at gumawa ng household chores like paglalaba. iniisip ko na kung sana yung mas mayaman nalang yung naging tatay ng anak ko, hindi na sana ako naghihirap ngayon.

[swt_fem]

Sis, I feel you. Let me share a bit about my story, 5 months palang kami ng BF ko when I got pregnant. Andun palang kami sa stage na nagkakakilanlan palang tapos yun na agad. I was so depressed at first. Dala narin siguro kasi super sensitive ang buntis. Pero nung nagprogress na pregnancy ko, I started to like it and loved it.

The moment na makita mo baby mo sa ultrasound, your world will turn around. Ano pa kaya pag nakita mo na sya in person?

[december]

thumbs up for ceejhei

sis, chikka101, why dont you pray, magsimba, makakatulong po yun.
magbasa ka ng bible to enlighten your mind, heart and soul...

you know what, youre so blessed nga po eh.
imagine, marameng iba jan na couple stable man or hindi, di sila pinagpala, or still hoping to have a baby...
kung di pa po kayo stable ngayon, think! bakit po kaya binigay yan ni God sa inyo ngayon? baka po me purpose po. Besides, di ba po kayong dalawa ng hubby mo ang gumawa nyan, be responsible po. Alam nyo po try to read women's reproductive health issues, andun mga sisses naten hoping, dying just to have a baby. me mga sakit sila, samantalang po kayo good health po yung repro system nyo (sana tama)..


kung anuman po ang inyong pinagdadaanan, just keep on praying.
hope it helps.

this is very true.  nakakalungkot isipin na biniyayaan kayo ng baby parang ayaw nyo naman samantalang ako 13yrs ng ttc.  halos maubos na lahat ng savings sa kaka-work up wala pa rin. 

i have two adopted children ngayon, both are unwanted babies, kawawa nga eh.  silang dalawa parehong gusto ipa-abrt ng mga biological mothers nila, kung [textspeak!]-anong gamot ang iniinom nila matanggal lang, nung nalaman naming mag-asawa naawa kami dun sa baby kaya sabi namin ipagpatuloy nalang ang pregnancy kasi di na talaga yun matatanggal kasi 5months na then amin nalang ang baby, sa awa ng Diyos normal naman sila, sakitin ngalang nung mga babies pa sila. 

nakakainggit nga kayo mga sis eh, madali kayong magbuntis kahit wala sa plano

[hairt mini]

@sis chikka101: mag pray ka and God will give you wisdom and understanding.
Sis, be thankful na binigyan ka ni Lord ng baby though unexpected but you're so blessed 
kami nga ttc and super hopeful na soon eh bigyan na rin ni Lord na aming little angel but then
hindi pa yata talaga time 

I'll pray for you sis.

[17arci]

Wow. I was about to say that there is no such thing as an "unwanted" pregnancy, just an "unplanned" one, but when I read the first post. Wow. Just wow.

Anyway, just be thankful that you're having a baby. You're so lucky because not all women who want children have them. My guess is that you're just scared of the responsibility a child would entail but I believe that God would not give you this baby now if you couldn't take care of it.

It's not too late to change your plans for the baby. Don't be too selfish. Be happy, don't cry a lot, try not to be depressed because the baby feels what you feel. You might regret it someday if you continue to be like that. If you need help, talk to your doctor.

Again, you're lucky. You have your fiancee and your baby. That's more than enough.

[jenwei]

ganun din ako dati...
i got pregnant after 3 months when we got married. exited c hubby.
pero ako...sabi ko wow ang bilis parang d pa ako ready. ilang araw ako d makatulog.
but after weeks after, i got more and more excited. naiisip ko boy kya to o girl? kanino kaya magmamana. Then suddenly naisipan ko lang magpaultrasound para makita si bb. walang heartbeat si baby. pinaraspa ako ng ob after ng 2nd ultrasound. Its really sad.
You are very lucky to be pregnant. nakakainggit ka.
The baby is really a blessing!

[super bratinella]

Ganyan talaga minsan ang feeling ng buntis, may kasamang takot tapos excited then mas maraming depression, kaya talagang need ng special attention ng mga pregnant. Sometimes situation are all good kaso since depressed, parang feeling unwanted na ang pregnancy, kasi hindi naman madali magbuntis.

Pero once lumabas na ang baby nyo super worth it talaga.  The best thing to do is enjoy all the benefit of being pregnant all the special attention.

Pray to God para ang pagbubuntis is madali lang at of course healthy si baby.

[mimigarcia]

Kakatapos ko lang mabasa lahat ng post sa thread natoh
and after reading all your posts biglang narealize ko,
Im so blessed pala...  Pero ang hirap..

Im 6weeks pregnant and just like most of the sisses here
its also an unexpected pregnancy, im turning 22 na on may..
Kala ko hindi na kami mgkaka baby ng bf ko
and tanggap ko na un kc  mag 2years na kami kaya 
kala ko hnd na kc i have a cyst in my left ovary kaya i was really shocked
nung nalaman ko na preggy ako..
super hindi ko po gusto toh huhuhu..
Sobra daming reasons kung bakit,
Firstly bf ko walang stable job ako lang ang nagwowork samin and
hindi pa ako regular sa work ko tapos biglang mlaman nla na gnito ako
baka i descriminate nila ko, huhu..
Second, family ko super ayaw nila sa bf ko kc wala ngang stable job
then hnd naman cla gnon kayaman..
Third my religion, pag nalaman that im preggy and bf ko is catholic pa
ititiwalag ako sa amin, kasi hnd pa kmi pwede i pakasal coz catholic pa
nga sya.. huhu sobrang hirap..

Pero bf ko super like nya tong baby, mahal na mahal na nya
alagaan ko daw srili ko kmain dw ako fruits and milk.
Pero ako super major iyak lang lagi di ko alam ggwin ko di ako makakain di ako makatulog huhu
ang hirap hirap iniicp ko pano ko ssbihin sa family ko toh eh ayaw nga nila sa bf ko tapos ngaun preggy pa ako.. Bka mgkagulo ang buong family namin,
I think this is the hardest part of the journey of my life nah, mahirap pa sa Trigonometry,Algebra and all that!.. huhuhu..

Guys anong ggwin ko? Alam ko madami nakakaintindi skin dito..
Super dami ko padin pangarap and abroad also, I dont want to
get married yet pero mahal n mahal ko naman bf ko..
Sana mahelp nyo po ako, tnx po mga sisses..