Unwanted Pregnancy

[ysa.belle]

@ sis PINKAHOLIC

20 ka palang sis and its never to late to go back to school. medyo mahirap nga lang to balance school and being a mom pero nasa time management lang yan sis. kaya mo naman yan eh. saka andun naman yung willingness mo to go back di ba? plus you are doing it for your future naman.

[PINKAHOLIC]

^ thanks sis sa words of kindness , medyo naduduwag kasi ako at natatakot.
Sobrang kailangan ko ng ganyang advice.
Ambisyosa na ako pero ayokong maghirap sa buhay,
gusto kong magkaroon ng magandang job someday, gusto kong magkaroon ng sariling bahay, own cute bathroom, magandang bedroom at higit sa lahat, mabigyan ko ng maalwang buhay ang mga kids ko.
Siguro naman balang araw matutupad un Lol.

[sweetsorrow]

pinkaholic... bilib ako sayo... at a very young age, nakayanan mo 'yan.. at 2 pa ang kids mo na.. mas maganda talagang halos barkada lang kayo ng mga anak mo pagdating ng araw.. sikapin mo makatapos para sa anak mo.. at si hubby mo, 10 years gap niyo? talagang dinaan ka sa santong paspasan ha.. TO THE TS: sis, be thankful, kasi may mga iba nga dito na TTC, at may FIANCE ka na alam mong tatanggapin kaagad ng parents mo ang nangyari.. look at the brighter side palage.. madami dito got pregnant by someone na hindi nila BF (ehem ehem) or conflict with the BF, kasi hindi si BF ang nakabuntis.. pero ikaw tignan mo siya as a GIFT.. fiance mo naman na ang magiging tatay niya.. and huwag mo isipin na hindi siya supportive, same as you, baka nabigla din siya kasi madami siyang plans pa for the both of you pero biglan 3 na pala kayo.. im preggy din by my officemate, at hindi kami magBF, when i told him na buntis ako, inako naman niya ang responsibility, kahit na financially hindi kami ready, madaming changes lalo na parehas pala kami magastos puro gimik at loans.. Pray ka sis.. we're blessed..

[PINKAHOLIC]

^ pipilitin ko talaga sis kasi chance ko na to.
Si mama ang magpapaaral sakin kasi di namin kaya ni hubby,
sana talaga magbago buhay namin someday nakakaawa na kasi mga anak ko..
Pray ang kailangan ko ngayon so please help me mga sisses,
pag pray nyo naman po ako ='c

sa TS, kayang kaya mo yan sure ako..
Sa una lang mahirap..

[jesrora]

ur so lucky to have a partner like that threadstarter. its normal to feel overwhelmed, scared, and angry kapag hindi talaga planado. add mo pa hormones ng buntis. hay kaloka. just dont dwell on those thoughts kasi the baby can feel it eh. u are not alone. honestly at one point during my pregnancy i did feel ganyan pero kapag nararamdaman mo na little movements ni baby... masasabi mo sa sarili mo na kaya mo yan.

[mikhia]

hi mga sis!

i just want to share my story din.. bagong kasal lang kami ni hubby last December.. I was pregnant kasi kaya we decided to get married.. Katulad nung iba, biglaan lang din ang lahat.. Though we have plans na of getting married, medyo napaaga lang kasi dumating si baby.. Sobrang worried kami kasi hindi pa din kami ready na magkababy, hindi pa din kasi enough [textspeak!] mga kinikita namin pra sa ganun kalaking gastos..

But then, thank God dahil nakayanan namin lahat.. Gastos sa kasal and ngayon, sobrang pinagiipunan namin [textspeak!] panganganak ko sa May.. Nung una sobrang hindi namin alam kung saan kami kukuha ng pera para makaya lahat ng gastos.. i prayed a lot talaga na makayanan namin.. ngayon, sa dami ng blessings na dumadating samin, wala na akong mahiling pa.. Sa una lang talaga mahirap.. Ngayon, sobrang happy namin ni hubby and hindi na makahintay sa paglabas ng aming princess..

[animal_lover]

To the TS: life throws curve balls at us all the time. Things may happen at inconvenient moments but when all the dust finally settles, you'll see that you're still ok, if not better. Your pregnancy may be unexpected pero it's still a blessing, sis. Hubby and I got pregnant when I was on my way to getting my international certification. It was not exactly the best moment for our pregnancy pero we made it work. We prioritized the baby kaya on hold muna yung career plans. There were anxieties. That's normal. But have faith that everything will turn out fine for you and the baby. Pray ka lagi, it will make you feel better.

@pinkaholic, hanga ako sa desire mo to be a better mom to your kids. Mas hanga ako that you are taking steps to reach your desire. God bless sa mga plans mo. Kaya mo yan, sis.

[PINKAHOLIC]

^ salamat sis, i want to finish college talaga..
Madaming benefits like the opportunity to get a better job,
tapos self-fullfillment at magiging proud ang mga kids ko sakin someday include my parents na rin and hub.

Kapag high school degree lang, mababa ang future..
Magkatrabaho man ako, limit lang sa SA / maid / waitress e d pa naman ako sanay mashado sa mabigat ng trabaho cause im hyperthyroid..

Salamat sa lahat ng sisses here ah, excited na tuloy akong mag aral dahil sainyo.

To TS- sana nainspire ka sa true to life story ko,
maraming iba dyan di magkaanak or nabuntis na tinakbuhan..
No matter what happens, you're still LUCKY so don't lose hope.

[like_bree]

to TS:  before gusto kong magkaron ng baby pero at the same time ayoko din sanang maging mommy kasi marami akong di pwedeng gawin..di pwedeng mag-travel as frequent as i want, konti na quality time with hub, di ko pwede tanggapin overseas assignments sa office, di pwede mag-gym for a year kasi cs ako, palaging maraming bitbit everytime na lumalabas kami..dapat sacrifice ko lahat yan if am going to be a mother.  i was 36 when my baby was born and yet di pa ako ready to sacrifice.. di naman finances or hubby's support ang problema ko, magugulo lang kasi ang routine ko, yun ang problema ko..iniisip ko kasi pag lumabas baby ko 24/7 na akong duty sa kanya, kaya ko ba yun eh ang tamad ko..trabahong opisina lang ang alam ko.  habang nasa tummy ko pa si baby yan ang worries ko pero i want my baby so much, di ko lang alam paano sya i-manage..  PERO kinaya ko lahat kasi mahal na mahal ko pala si baby, di ko pa lang ma-appreciate kasi di ko pa sya nakikita, naamoy at nahahalikan. tama si aquacharly, great inconvenience talaga magka-baby pero sweet at the same time. masarap ang pakiramdam maging mommy. saka isispin mo kung ikaw ang nasa situation ng baby mo, gusto mo ba na unwanted ka ng mommy mo?  i would be deeply hurt kung malalaman ko pag lumaki ako na unwanted pala ako.. 

[port80*]

Am i that horrible because I dont want kids?

Sis, it's not horrible not to want kids.  I never wanted any, for exactly the same reason as yours, until a year ago.  Deciding you only want kids after 2 years of marriage and at 34 years of age, that's a bit late in life.

BUT.

What's horrible, I think, is for you to indulge in sex, not protecting yourself or not using enough protection, and then saying you don't want kids.

Think about it.  Ilang taon ka na ba?  Because your problem seems a bit selfish to me.  You don't have to be jumping with joy about your pregnancy but be humble and acknowledge that whatever you're going through right now, you just have to grin and bear it, because you are responsible for it.

Swerte ka at supportive ang fiance mo.  A lot of other girls would kill to be in the same situation you are in -- pregnant and loved.  Tapos ikaw ang iniisip mo lifestyle mo, career mo?  I'm not surprised your fiance doesn't care to respond to your issues because truth be told, he probably thinks it's a NON-ISSUE. 

No one is stopping you from moping around feeling depressed about your predicament, but be responsible and do what should be done for the baby.

[ana mimi]

hi sis chikka101

pareho naman tayo ng sentiments.. unexpected pregnancy din..

andami ko pa gusto gawin sa life,. andami ko pang dapat pagdaanan

gusto ko pa maging model.. pero parang ngayon nawala na..

i used to join beauty contests before and show off talaga ng skin.

i also plan to be a cabin crew in a short time.

pero unexpectedly, i found out i was pregnant.

wala pang stable job si bf.. kaya di ko lam gagawin ko.

pero madyo excited na ako kay baby kase 4 months na din naman.

nung 2 months preggy ako, that was the last time na sumali ako sa

isang beauty contest sa school and luckily, nanalo naman.

swerte nga ata si baby.

ewan ko ba.. maybe this is a gift naman siguro.

God won't give us problems that we can't handle.

alam nya yung capacity naten..

kaya just smile, He trusts you kaya sya ganyan.

[chin66ay]

thread starter, i was 19 yeard old when i had my baby. i was in college pa, having the time of my life but when i found out i was pregnant i realized na we have to accept the consequences of our actions.
sa totoo lang at that time, pahiwalay na kami ng bf ko na father ng baby because i fell in love with someone else... nung nakikipagbreak na ako, binuntis niya ako!  anyways, to make the long story short, i decided to keep the baby even if my world will turn upside down! my baby is a blessing. marami ako realizations sa buhay because of her. she helped me grow up. she taught me lots of things! dahil sa kanya na-set ko priorities ko sa buhay.

wag ka mag-alala sis. kahit hindi ka ready, magiging ready ka pag dating niya! and dont think na titigil ang buhay mo kapag niluwal mo siya sa mundo. having a baby will give you a whole new perspective of things.

good luck and i hope you'll pray for enlightenment.

[ysa.belle]

third I lost booth my source of income at the same time, biglaan bad investments and unreliable business partners, kaya biglang naguluhan ako kung saan ako kukuha ng money to support this kid when it comes out

bat ganun... please do not refer to your baby as "this kid" and "it". kase parang hindi siya welcome sa iyo eh.

believe me when i say na hindi ka pababayaan ni God lalo na sa pagpapalaki ng baby mo. you will face lots of trials & problems in life but you will always be guided.

hindi ka naman bibigyan ng problem if hindi mo kakayanin eh.

[rianne_mallows]

to threadstarter:

ok lang yan sis sigurado paglabas ng baby mo at nahawakan mo na saka nakita mo na magbabago lahat sayo

sigurado ni kagat ng lamok hindi ka papayag magkaroon baby mo

[ysa.belle]

hindi naman sa ganun sis... wag ka sanang magalit sa sinabi ko...

[jpsv72]

Alam mo after I read all the posted comments and advices, nag dalawang isip ako kung kailangan ko pang mag comment o hindi na, since i just read the guidelines, naisip ko na ok comment ako.
Please don't be so sensitive with the comments, most of them na nabasa ko wala akong nakitang mali, kung meron man, those were the messages that were true kaya medyo masakit tanggapin lalo na it is not normal to feel the way you feel towards your baby. Since nandyan na sya all you have to do is accept the reality na nabuo sya with your love kay bf at with your consent kahit na you were being betrayed sabi mo nga. You have nothing to be afraid of having a baby, God will never give anything that you can or may not handle.  All of the mommies out there, most of them di naman sila naging handa sa pagbubbuntis nila eh, minsan nga kung kelan handa kana that's the time you will have a lot of difficulty in having one, so para ma peace ka try to read some books that would help you in coping your new task of being a mom, at I understand kung medyo may ikokoment ka man later on upon reading may post, sa ngayon pagtuunan mo ng pansin ang pagbubuntis mo, a real successful woman is not only in financial and  professional wise, but also on hope to cope a trial such this that you are having now. Pray more sis. would help a lot. Good luck, andito lang kami kung kailangan mo ng kausap. Sana hindi ko nasaktan ang damdamin mo.
God bless.

[PINKAHOLIC]

^sis wag kang ganyan.
Pinapaluha mo ako..

Kayang kaya mo yan,
financial?
Nung manganak nga ako 14 thousand lang bill ko sa ospital d pa namin mabayaran.
Ganun kami ka-short pero gumawa ng way c God para makaya ko lahat.
At sa maniwala ka't hindi di naman kami pinagkukulang ni God.

At 20, dalawa na ang anak ko pero kahit kelan di pa sila nagutom to think tricycle driver lang c hub at sari-sari store owner lang ako ng 10k na puhunan.
Di ko minamaliit ang kabuhayan namin pero compare sa iba dukha kami pero never kami nanlimos,
never nawalan ng gatas mga anak ko kc nga nanjan c God.

Wag mo muna problemahin ang financial,
mga ibon di pinapabayaan ni God tayo pang tao?
Saka mapi-feel din ni baby sadness mo, kawawa naman sha.

Wag ka sanang sumuko sis, lilipas din lahat ng pangamba mo.
Believe me, Love ka ni God, SOBRA.

[bravo86]

Yeeeeehey! bumalik na si KUMARE... este, si Chikka101

ano sis, ilang months na si baby? alam mo na gender nya?

Anak ng  &% ^xxx pala yang bf mo. ingatz ka dyan mare ha? wag patumpik-tumpik magpaSAKAL sa moookong na yan ha?

alam na ng immediate family mo na infanticipating ka?

[ysa.belle]

... All of the mommies out there, most of them di naman sila naging handa sa pagbubbuntis nila eh, minsan nga kung kelan handa kana that's the time you will have a lot of difficulty in having one...

so true. syempre aminin na naten na hindi sa lahat ng time naten eh we planned to have a baby di ba? pero sa time ni God, it was already planned. pero hindi tayo bibigyan ng pagsubok na hindi naten kaya.

a baby is a blessing... magkahiwalay man ang magBF/GF or ang mag-asawa eh blessing pa rin ang baby...

[prettykhae]

sis TS, maswerte ka kasi magiging mommy kana... kund nag-iba na isip ng fiance mo e di tuloy mo parin yan. hindi lahat ng girls ay mapalad na nabubuntis... kaya magpasalamat sa maykapal.