What do you guys think about girls being clingy?

[IronLady]

uhm.. feeling ko clingy kasi ako e. LOL!

Kasi pag may lakad si BF hindi ko alam kung bakit pero there's something in me na wouldn't want to let him go. parang i wanna keep him all to myself ba.. na baka may ibang girl syang magustuhan at kasama pag gumimik sya.. although i know my BF so well naman and na hindi nya magagawa mag-cheat eh, parang dahil sa mga napapanood ko sa TV, nababalitaan sa mga friends, parang hindi ako mapakali and feeling ko any moment may pwedeng umakit sa bf ko.. ganun ka-praning? hehe! kalerkey!

Hindi ba healthy sa relationship pag ganun? i mean nakakasakal ba sya? is it really that bad? pano ba i-handle yung ganitong nararamdaman? should i really rely on trust na lang?

[bravo86]

healthy?... Yes and No.

ang sarap pag clingy ang gurl lalo pag nasa ligawan stage pa lang, nakaka-feeling 'pogi' ata yon. kakakilig. kahit na makatanggap ka ng mga texts like 'wer na u?" o 'eat na u?', aba, ipagmayabang mo pa sa tropa para inggitin sila how your girl is so concerned about you.

pero pag naka first base na o naka homerun na, may mga pagkakataon na medyo nakakasakal na ang pagiging clingy. it may be 'lambing' pa sa part ng gurl pero sa guy 'kakulitan' na kadalasan.

since you said that you know your guy, and he's not that type na magloko o lokohin ka, then let him be. pakawalan mo!
kung magloko nga sya, eh di sisantihin mo agad at mag pasalamat ka na di ka nasakal... este, nakasal sa isang salawahan.

yes, rely on your "trust"... kaya nga TRUST eh.

kung bubutasin nya... este, kung sisirain nya, eh di sino ang sira?

[gleek]

haha my bf has this line "you're so clingy " (in a conyo tone) pag nagmmall kami and nakakapit ako s arms niya  pero lambing niya lang yun sa akin (side comment pa)

yung clingy issue naman,i think it's more of trust issue nga...

relationships r based on trust so pag wala nun, baka hindi mag last what you have right now..

tsaka wag ka masyado maging paranoid,sayang ganda mo gel!...

pag may lakad bf ko,and wala ko work,i just hang out w/my friends or nag aalone time ako (shop,go to spa etc)

mas ma appreciate ni bf if you show him that you have complete trust in him kesa yung parang lagi ka nakabantay sa kanya

also, don't let him have the idea that he's your world and that you can't have life w/o him...

[yumeyume]

pano pag yung guy ang clingy?

[carmilina]

sometimes ganito talaga ako..pero hndi lagi

[zhajhei_08]

what the! ganyan ako....
humingi pa ko ng tulong sa mga kasisses naten dito
kung what ugali merun ako, then they said clingy daw!

IronLady di ka nag-iisa.
heto ako, tinatry na wag na maging ganun... new year's resolution ko nga eh. thought hindi nagrereklamo si bf, nahihirapan lang ako pag dumarating sa ganyang sitwasyon kase. di me makahinga ng maayos, as in.

[phurple0515]

buti na lang si hubby, gusto rin niya ng ganon.  sabi nga ng mga friends namin, ang sweet pa daw namin kasi andyan yong we hold hands pa rin kahit san kami magpunta.  Ewan, pero andon na yon e.  Parang di na namin namamalayan na magkahawak na kami ng kamay, or nakaakbay na siya sa akin.

[menice]

ayos lang yan basta nasa lugar

kase minsan nakakabwisit e, kaya girls, dapat alam nyo din kung ano yung tama't mali.

at eto po. BAWAL ANG TH!

[tennisgirl]

eh yung mga wives na nakikielam sa fb acct ng hubbies nila (ex: upload ng family pix) especially kung medyo may itsura ang hubby nila? anong masasabi nyo dun? pagiging clingy din ba yon?

[menice]

^ tingin ko natural lang yon. kaya nga wife e, pede pakealaman lahat. wag lang yung wala na sa lugar, like nagcocomment na sa ibang friends using the guys account, aba ibang usapan na yon, tama na yung maglogin at magbrowse pati upload.

[IronLady]

@bravo: thanks sis funny din ng mga comments mu! hehe

@menice: ano nga yung tama at mali? yung kapag nasa lugar o wala? shocks baka di ko na alam sa sobrang pagkaclingy! haha!

@zhaj: ako rin sis di mkahinga! haha! di ko lam bt ako ngagalit! hirap din kasi pag inis ako at di ko masabi parang baka isang araw umayaw na lang ako bigla! kaya sobrang stressed sya kasi onting pagkainis reklamo nko agad!

pero lam nyo minsan gusto lang naman naming mga girls nA mafeel na ganun din ang mga guys samin, na lagi kami namimiss o yung tipong takot din sila na mawala kami.. emo ko! hehe

[beautybaby]

eto lang yan eh..

kung gusto nya mag loko..kahit anong higpit gawin mo..gagawa yan ng paraan..pero kung ayaw nya..iiwas at iiwas yan sa kasalanan

sabi nga nila..pag gusto my paraan..pag ayaw maraming dahilan..

[Paulo]

I don't think Clingy is the correct term. I think INSECURE is more like it.

It is true that your partner, as well as everyone else's partners, men and women alike, can run off with some other chick or dude. But our fear for such scenario shouldn't ruin or concept of what is FAIR and just.

Should you simply put your fate in your faith in him?

Very often, that is the formula that works.

Very often too, that is the one that makes a sucker.

So what I suggest is something different. Have Faith in yourself instead. Maybe that positive thought towards your own ability to either be worth Sticking around for. Or your ability to land someone better if in case it doesn't work out with this one.

Simply put: Give yourself the necessary credit. And if you have things going for you it's also nice to every so often 'believe' that Fate is Kind.

[carmilina]

^good POINT!!

well opinion ko lang..sa akin lang...be ready (b**** MODE)

well, to my 2nd relationship, I've been clingy to my ex BF...natigil yun for abt 1 month..then okay n kmi, later I've realize halos LAHAT ng tao sa office pinag uusapan yun clingy-gf mga attitude ko daw, well...GUESS WHO ?kung sino pa nagkalat?si ex bf...funny funny...well FAULT ko din siguro, pero may fault din mga guys noh, nagiging clingy kami kasi sa UGALI ng guy, well it depends sa guy...minsan or more I say MOSTLY GIRLS ARE TAKEN FOR GRANTED KAYA KAMI NAGIGING CLINGY...kasi kung palit palitan nyo kami parang bubble gum lang...

KAPAL din kasi mukha ng mga lalake eh...

[gorgeousmama]

I agree with Paulo re "insecure not clingy"

I can tolerate my girl na being insecure... kinakausap ko lang sila about it[I'm speaking in general ok?(defensive! defensive??)]

pag insecure pa rin, nako! weakness na yan ng personality(emotional level) nya meaning sign na yan na ang relationship nyo eh should not continue kasi "hilaw na relationship" yun.

bravo, paulo and dell, would you kindly compare and contrast what is

CLINGY AND INSECURE in your own definition???

I QUITE AGREE with the 3 guys here that its more of INSECURITY THAN BEING CLINGY

BUT in defense of my ka sisteran federation, you guys kasi give us reason(s) to be makulit,,

its true like what bravo said if courting stage pa lang it would be kilig on your part if  your girl would often [textspeak!] your whereabouts
but.... once in a relationship you felt suffocated  if  often asked... 

you sometimes want us always to be in the receiving end,,,,














coz im sorry sis, TS, the illustration you gave for me is not a sign of CLINGY but rather INSECURITY

[gorgeousmama]

haha my bf has this line "you're so clingy " (in a conyo tone) pag nagmmall kami and nakakapit ako s arms niya  pero lambing niya lang yun sa akin (side comment pa)

yung clingy issue naman,i think it's more of trust issue nga...

relationships r based on trust so pag wala nun, baka hindi mag last what you have right now..


well said

tsaka wag ka masyado maging paranoid,sayang ganda mo gel!...

pag may lakad bf ko,and wala ko work,i just hang out w/my friends or nag aalone time ako (shop,go to spa etc)

mas ma appreciate ni bf if you show him that you have complete trust in him kesa yung parang lagi ka nakabantay sa kanya

also, don't let him have the idea that he's your world and that you can't have life w/o him...

[romanticure]

clingy type of girls usually sila yung mga:
1.) malambing
2.) hindi bumibitaw kahit gano ka terible ang problema mo, naka suporta sya syo lagi.
3.) ikaw ang mundo nya, faithful syo.
4.) greatest mother in the universe.
5.) magaling mag alaga ng asawa't anak.
6.) maalalahanin syo.
7.) Iyakin. 
8.) softee syo pero matigas sa paninindigan. 

[Naughty^GuRu]

clingy GF: no prob 

clingy FUBU: no way! 

[Girltalker2]

Tingin ko it takes 2 to tango talaga.

Sa case ni TS, I must admit, malaki talaga ang likelihood na may lalapit na malalandi kay BF nya. Pero the question is, si BF ba papatol?  How strong is your relationship or his love for you such that he won't stray? 

Masasabi ko kasi sa past relationship ko, ako yung kahit san lupalop sya ng mundo pumunta, OK lang sakin. But guess what, he ended up having a mistress.  So is that NOT clingy at all good?  Ewan ko.

In my current relationship, my BF always let me know how his day is going to be like, and when we are to meet etc. He keeps me updated or wants to know as well how I am doing. He often asks me to go with him kapag may lakad sya with friends.

Matagal narin itong post na ito, kumusta na kaya si TS and her BF?

[telekikay]

bad trip tong ganito. parang jowa mo yun multo sa shutter. we all have our own lives and identity before the relationship, so why change it? let your partner go, trust him....kaya nga naging kayo, dahil hindi nyo lang gusto ang isat isa. may tiwala din kayo.

now, for guys, minsan may lakad ang tropa na for the boys, and meron yang mg ayan na private jokes that some girls would find repulsive, uuwi yun sa away. let the both of you enjoy your individuality.