NO CONTACT RULE AFTER BREAK UP (THREAD 2)

[dumpee.o13]

^ naku sis, ganun din ako. walang araw na di umiyak tapos pray lang nang pray na sana kahit di kami magkabalikan e sana maalis lang yung pain at sana matutunan kong tanggapin lahat ng walang grudges. so far okay naman. eto nga lang, NCR. tiis-tiis lang talaga kasi alam ko namang para saken to. wala namang ibang makakatulong sakin kundi ako lang din. thanks sis, praying for us to overcome these. kaya to!

[ettevyvi]

^  i know na suntok sa buwan pero i'm still hoping na we can still be together in the future. umaasa pa din ako samen. haist. T_T

kaya siguro di ka pa makamove on completely. kasi you still can't accept that the two of you can never be together anymore. unfortunately, you have to accept first that the break up is not a temporary thing and in the immediate or far future, being with him is not possible anymore. thing is, when someone rejects you,directly or indirectly, you just have to accept that the person doesn't want you anymore and no matter what you do, s/he'll never be yours again.

you have to have guts and willpower to delete him on networking sites. mahirap ang NC, but the reward is great afterwards. and this doesn't apply to phone only... ALL communication lines should be dead. AS IN. And no facebook/twitter any social media stalking! You don't have to torture yourself seeing him and the girl. Who knows, it might be just fakery and all. Why reopen the wound that is healing already?

Sis, you got to be strong. Wala na sya, hindi na sya babalik. You and yourself alone na lang ang natitira. Kaya mo yan...

[mitchal18]

no contact [textspeak!] dapat!! totally and completely.. lalo lang nakaka confuse pag hindi e..
lalo na if ur feeling especially fragile at one moment, baka kung ano pa masabi mo.. and it might complicate things further. pag wala na, wala na. respect each other's space.

[dumpee.o13]

Sis, you got to be strong. Wala na sya, hindi na sya babalik. You and yourself alone na lang ang natitira. Kaya mo yan...

^ na-late ako ng reply dito sis, haha! pinag-isipan ko kase.. and you're right, all i need to do is accept the fact na wala na sya at wala nang kame. that is the only thing that i can do to help myself. sobrang hirap pero i need to. no one can actually help me aside from myself. i always pray na sana makaya ko to. yun lang, thanks sis! =)

[ettevyvi]

^same here. Akala ko hindi ko kaya pero parang hindi na yata sya nageexist. Malapitna din ako dun.

[dumpee.o13]

unti unti bumabalik yung pride ko...and that's the best way to start a new life without him...

^ totoo to sis, mula nung nagstart ako w/ NCR. whenever i feel the urge to communicate w/ him, nauunahan nako ng pride ko. parang naiisip ko, kung sya nga di nya naiisip na kausapin ako so why would i bother. self-discipline lang talaga kelangan and i know i will gain self-respect again. =)

[junetwentythree]

The moment he walked out of my door and my life, I deleted his phone number. I never did memorize it so I never had the urge to call him. He left me. That was that. No man who truly loved me, and most importantly, deserved MY love would have done that. Deleted him from Facebook, along with all his friends. I have no contact with him now, for loose ends that needed tying, I relied on my best friend to get in touch with him. It's been 4 months since we broke up and I've had no inkling to see how he might be doing. Not even for one second. He just doesn't deserve it.

[jamberryknots]

paano ba ito nagagawa..
naawa na ko sarili ko
durog na yung puso
totoo pala ang emotional pain daig pa ang physical pain
kahit ginagawa na kong t**** sige pa din ako

[pret_ty68]

^
Sis you have to decide that you really want to move on. Hanggang hindi ka nagdedesisyon na titigil ka na sa pag contact sa kanya walang mangyayari. Mahirap talaga sa umpisa. Hindi ka talaga mapapakali pero isipin mo na ito ang kailangan mong gawin para ma ka pag move on ka. Mas maganda siguro kung delete mo na lahat nang contact mo sa kanya like yung cellphone number, fb, ym para kahit maisip mang mag contact sa kanya di mo magagawa. Will Power Sis kaya mo yan.

[dumpee.o13]

^ i think mas makakatulong din kung di na rin nakikipagcommunicate yung ex mo sayo. meaning, di na sya nagrereply kahit anong means of contact pa ang gawin mo sakanya. yun kasi nangyare saken. so ako nalang sumuko. and helpful naman sya. so ngayon, whenever i feel the urge to contact him, nauunahan nako ng pride at takot na dededmahin lang naman nya ko. 

[crazycoolchic19]

This is really effective.  No text no call,  delete and block him.,the more na nakikita mo sya online..mas mahirap makalimot and makapagmove on, Focus on something, talk to a friend.keep busy... One at a time, challenge yourselves..kung nagawa mong hinde sya isipin the whole day ,nakaya mong hinde sya itext o tignan online sa fb or san pa man, ganun gawin mo the next day, make it a challenge.

[xenos54]

i agree with this.. sa simula lang mahirap.. pero everytime na may day na dumagdag sa NCR mu.. nakak-inspire na ituloy.. kasi manghihinayang ka sa lahat ng pinagpaguran mo.. hehe.. kaya tiis lang mga sis..

[queendi]

^ tama. lalo na kapag tumtatagal ng yung NCR, mas lalo ka nanghihinyang na sirain yun at mag back to zero. ang hirap mag back to zero. and masakit pa if you tried to contact him tapos dedma lang si ex.

in my case, napanindigan ko and NCR and after 8 months, sya yung nag contact sa akin pero dahil sa paninindigan ko nitong NCR na ito, i told him not to contact me anymore. now there are times na parang gusto ko bawiin at contackin sya, pero pride na ang umiiral.

[xenos54]

^^baket sis.. you still feel for him?

[queendi]

sad to say YES. mas madalas pa akong maiyak ngayon kaysa during that 8 months na NCR. hay life!  siguro ngayon ko lang nailalabas lahat ng pain.

sana after this ay happy days na ulit.

[ettevyvi]

Baka you broke up in good terms. If not... Wala na talagang saysay ang pakikipagbalikan kesyo kontakin ka nya. History repeats itself ika nga.

[xenos54]

sad to say YES. mas madalas pa akong maiyak ngayon kaysa during that 8 months na NCR. hay life!  siguro ngayon ko lang nailalabas lahat ng pain.

sana after this ay happy days na ulit.

ok lang yan sis.. nakaya mo na nga ng 8 months eh.. makakaya mo yang mga susunod pa.. 

[gridiron babe]

i've been successfully practicing this rule for 5 years already! yay! cheers! at sana, wag kong ma-break, kasi may mga moments din na parang tinotopak lang ako... hehe! don't get me wrong, i'm happy with my life with my boyfriend naman. basta, sana lang, wag kami magkaroon ng contact ni X na ako ang nag-initiate or nag-set up (like "meetings by chance" or "accidental meetings"), tempting kasi at times! pero kung siya naman ang mag-initiate ng communication with me, i'd have no problem about it. basta lang walang romantic feelings ekek, ayoko ng ganun! (sana nga lang it won't be a problem with my boyfie too! hehe!)

[beevere]

nagagawa ko naman tong no-contact-rule, kahit memorize ko pa yung number niya, di na ako natetemp na itxt pa siya or tawagan. Ang kinakatakot ko lang, pag siya yung naunang magparamdam, baka di ko mapigilan yun sarili ko na mag-reply. Pero naisip ko din na malabo naman na ikontak pa niya ko since siya yung nakipag-break eh.

[weweng20]

matagal na pala 2 ..