NO CONTACT RULE AFTER BREAK UP (THREAD 2)

[buzzhang]

It depends on both parties, if they are still friends or not.

[j-z]

Hindi pala agad napupublish yung post kapag probationary. Kaya pala di agad lumalabas posts ko. Oh well.

Yes, ganun na nga. Today, September 13 2011, 1 week na mula nang huli kaming magusap. Nakakapanibago nung una. Kasi yeah. He's been part of my system na eh. Pero now, whenever I think about our past, the pain is not that agonizing anymore. Yeah it still hurts pero what can i do? He stopped talking to me na eh. Is it normal to still think about him everyday? Kayo ba mga sis naiisip niyo pa rin sila lagi yet wala na kayong nararamdaman pag naaalala niyo sila? I mean, how can you say na nakamove on ka na? Somebody told me that once you loved someone, you never really stopped loving them. Possible ba yun? Nakamove on ka na yet you still love the person?

[j-z]

O diba? Ganun talaga eh. Kapag idle ka bigla mo siyang maiisip. Or minsan kahit may ginagawa ka na. Yung tipong mapapatigil ka then you'll remember him.

May nararamdaman pa ako. Namimiss ko siya. Pero siguro di na kasing intense tulad ng dati. Ewan ko. Yeah. Pag senti talaga. :| Tapos lalo na kapag bago matulog. THe memories will come rushing back. Yun nga lang talaga pag senti mode, minsan nagiging vulnerable ulit. may tendency na mas mamiss [textspeak!] tao. Alam mo yung kantang "every now and then" by Earth wind and fire? Tingnan mo po yung lyrics, ang ganda. Saktong-sakto.

[j-z]

@sis Nageinna: Naku. I made a stupid mistake. I texted him kahapon. I told him: "Hello (insertnamehere). I just wanted to let you know na even though i may not get to talk to you as much as i like na(kasi awkward na), lagi ka pa ring nasa puso at isipan ko. Sana okay at masaya ka. Ingat. "

O diba. Drama ng lola mo. Hay. Namimiss ko na naman kasi. Pero feeling ko surge of emotions lang yun. Ngayon kasi parang kaya ko naman na uli. Sayang nga lang [textspeak!] wall na binuo ko. 2nd week na bukas mula nang huli kaming magusap. IO di ba, binibilang ko

[lizzete]

hay nagbreak na naman kame.. imagine 14 days na kame di naguusap and hindi talaga siya guimagawa ng effort na kausapin ako..ayoko talaga makipag break pero sa pinapakita niya parang ok lnaANG MAGKAHIWALAY kame..bakit ganun.. wala ba halaga sa kanya yun 1  year na pinagsamahan namin..ganun lang ba kadali sa kanya di ko maintindihan..

 sa tingin niyo ba dapat ako mag first move na ko parang di ko na kaya..ano ba talaga gusto niya di ko na alam gagawin ko..

[nageinna]

^sis sino ba nag initiate ng breakup? siya ba? and sino ba madalas gumagawa ng way makipag communicate is it you?

sis j-z how are you doing so far? nagcocommunicate na ba ulit kayo?

[boo.dha]

kaya i just pray to God na sana contact nya ulit ako.
ayun. so bad.
alam ko mahal pa ko nun,masyado ko lang syang nasaktan,minaliit and tiniis.

o baka nagpapamiss lang sya.pero di naman sya ganun. tsaka almost 2weeks na.

kung wala na talaga.
eh di, wala na ko magagawa.

I'm sure you had a reason for breaking up with him, and whatever that is, focus nalang on that so wala na talagang balikan.

[meisaia]

this is my last resort. ayoko kasi ng after breakup eh hindi magtry iwork-out lalo na kapag gusto ko pa. usually my tip ko sa mga friends ko eh exert one last full-blown effort. kahit pa magmukha kang t****. pero dapat sure kang, eto na yun. last na toh. after nito, wala na. and then practice this. masakit man, nagmukha ka namang t**** atleast you tried and will live with no regrets and walang "what ifs" or "sana"

[j-z]

^sis sino ba nag initiate ng breakup? siya ba? and sino ba madalas gumagawa ng way makipag communicate is it you?

sis j-z how are you doing so far? nagcocommunicate na ba ulit kayo?

Okay naman. Pero kagabi I cried. Kasi I was really tempted to text him today. Memorable kasi sa amin itong araw na ito. September 26, 2009 nung una naming nafeel na parang may something talaga. Oo, nung Ondoy namin nafeel. Magkasama kasi kami nun. O di ba, bumabagyo na dati pero ako saya saya ko pa. Wala lang. Alam mo yun, para maalala niya ako kahit di siya amgreply. Pero buti natauhan din ako. I was able to resist him. Pero di ko siguro magagawa iyon kung wala friends ko. SIla na lang muna tinext ko. Siguro mabuti na rin ito dahil baka mas masaktan ako pag nakita kong wala siyang paki di ba? Parang wala na sa kanya yung araw na ito. Hayy. Ikaw sis kamusta naman?

[j-z]

^aww mahirap nga yung ganyan. kahit ako man,until now naaalala ko parin yung mga memorable na dates namin. though i dont get too emotional nanaman. dont worry sis dadating ka rin sa point na wala na talagang pain. just continue the no contact rule. kaya yan.

Nako sis. Kahapon kasi, brownout sa amin. I was really bored na talaga so parang I sent a min-GM sa piling tao lang. Sinama ko siya. Tinanong ko kung sino may kuryente. Nagreply siya, sabi wrong send ba raw ako. Sabi ko hindi. THen yun di na nagreply. Naku, ayaw ko na talaga. :|

[j-z]

Kamusta na mga sis natin dito? Finally had the courage to delete him in FB. ^^

[nageinna]

^nice to hear from you again sis! wow! happy for you! keep it up! go lang. delete mo narin siya sa phonebook mo. kahit na memorize mo pa number niya once you deleted him makakalimutan mo rin number niya. that's what i did.

[j-z]

Update ko lang ito. Birthday niya kasi sa wed, nov 30. Sa mga sis dito, binati niyo ba ang ex niyo sa birthday nila? Kahit nag no contact rule kayo? thanks

[jasive51]

sis j-z..hindi ko binati kasi wala rin naman sayang lang effort..and besides hindi niya rin naman ako binati nung birthday ko 

[simplecathy143]

j-z, sis ako i greet him on his bday.. sya dn nman naunang bumati saken nung bday ko eh.. at nag gudlak at congratulate ndn ako sknla ng new gf nia.. hihi 

[PINKISS]

pajoin!

Just broke up with my boyfriend (now my ex!) hahaha I tried not communicationg with him pero siya naman bumabalik. Paano ba yun?? I tried not answering his calls pero i really can't resist. Ang hirap kasi he has a new girl now and our break up was really really painful kasi third party eh. I really don't know what to do..

[FOURever]

^don't fall. Kaya mo yan sis.

[j-z]

Thank you for your insights. I greeted him na. I tried to keep the atmosphere light, I even said "kailan blowout?" but all he replied was "salamat (my name)". Tapos i asked how he was then he didn't reply na. Ang sarap magwala. Here I was trying to ease the tension between us and trying to control my "bitterness". To think na siya ang may kasalanan sa aming dalawa! Hayyy. I kinda regret greeting him today.

[Aria_]

I Broke up with my bf. I knew that it was time, na kaya ko na. At nakaya ko nga, so yey!

Pero, there's this one night na i miss him. Pero, I didn't do anything. Nainis lang ako kasi siya nagpaparamdam. Sa skype. Well, we said kasi na we could still talk to each other. Pero, I kept the conversation short. Walang kwenta nga pinag usapan, mga three exchanges lang. Twice na.

I can live without him na. Pero, there's always that thought na what if we'll meet when he comes back home? LDR kami eh. Tapos walang 3rd party. No falling out of love. Attitude prob lang, napuno ako. Kaya ganun. Hindi bitter break up.

I don't want to asa on him pa.

[ladyisabella]

"I remember the boy, but I dont remember the feeling anymore". Yan ang naitulong sakin ng No Contact rule na to, and I can say na effective sya for moving on