NO CONTACT RULE AFTER BREAK UP (THREAD 2)

[spacemonkey]

this scares me.

i broke up with him three days ago, and told him that if we were to break up, i'm cutting any contact with him. he begged me not to, but i said it would be a lot easier for us.

then he texted me the other night, asking how i was, and i texted him back, and then when i was Facebook, he chatted with me, and we were okay

-- although he said something that hit me, said that we're beyond the point where trying to win me back is not an option anymore.

...then i lost the net.

i think he thinks i logged out to avoid talking to him, and thing is, even if i was the one who said not to contact each other... i did, last night. i couldn't help it. i was stressed with work, and i missed him.

i texted him, like we usually would -- "What u doin?"

he never replied. he never, ever ignores my texts, NEVER... but last night he did. or maybe our phones are shitty again and can't recieve messages from me again? or maybe something happened to him?

i don't want to text him anymore, because i'd just feel more stupid... but...

gaaaahh! nakakapraning pala 'to!

[nageinna]

^aww sis, fresh pa yan kumbaga. yan talaga pinakamahirap ng part sa lahat. how to start. good luck sis. if sa tingin mo talaga ayaw mo na and wala ng point to work things out with him kayanin mo dapat. kaya mo yan sis

[lesters_gal]

Hay naku I feel sad naman today.kasi me and my ex are in contact pa rin after a sudden break up that happend last year.kaya ako pumayag na my contact kami kasi akala ko I'm totally over him.we go out once in a while.hay sana pala pinanindigan ko na yung walang contack.kasi mas mahirap pala yung ganito kapag hindi kayo lumalabas na uupset ka.kainis.I hate myself...=(

[lizzete]

hay nandito na naman ako sa thread na to..at nakakainis na kelangan ko na naman gawin ang no contact rule..nakakapagod..ayaw ko siya tiisin pero pano ko malalaman kung mahal niya ko kung lage na lang ako ang mauuna makipag bati..

[chubbycheeks]

If you really want to move on, no contact.  If you secretly want to get him back, go with the "friendship".

[mbeeyap]

no contact ever. 

[lizzete]

gusto ko siya kontakin hay small things lang naman e..pede ko ba siya kontakin na heheh di na naman ako galit haha

[lesters_gal]

If you really want to move on, no contact.  If you secretly want to get him back, go with the "friendship".

ay sis gusto ko yung idea mo..LOL...

[chubbycheeks]

^ Hahaha. Sis, no guarantees yan. But good luck!

[nageinna]

If you really want to move on, no contact.  If you secretly want to get him back, go with the "friendship".

haha ako rin sis i like

[chubbycheeks]

^Has anyone ever had any success with the second option? 

[chicgurl]

no contact! hehe if time permits later on if magiging friends so be it but better no contact.. kalokohan yan trust me been there hahaha better no contact. then if maging friends man kayo later on go.. di din kais applicable sa lahat yung 2nd option na go with the friendship it's an n/a for me.

[chubbycheeks]

^ I totally agree.  For you 2 to truly move on, there should be no contact for at least 6 months.  By then, hopefully, the feelings won't be so intense.

[sweet.trish]

kung talagang gustong makapag move on agad, dun ako sa no contact.
pero pag may feelings pa din at umaasa, i do some stupid things, papansin messages, blank sms, miss calls, hahaha. tapos pag dedma ako nung guy gusto ko batukan sarili ko.
kakainis!

[lizzete]

its been 6 days since we broke up..im so confused..we broke up over a small thing lang..ako nakipagbreak..all my friends keep on saying na wag ako magfirst move...pero parang gusto ko na siya kausapin pero sabi ng mga friends ko obvious daw an ako na lang ang may gusto ng relasyon ..kasi nga di naman niya ko pinigilan at di na nagtext ..ako naman iniisip ko mapride lang siya na baka inaantay niya lang na magtext ako nasanay na kasi siya ganun
sa tingin niyo ba ano ba talaga dapat gawin ko hay..

[Msfi]

^ maybe it's time to look back & assess what happened sa buong time na naging kayo, so you'll know kung ano ang gagawin mo.  Baka kasi may basis ang mga friends mo para sabihin yun. 

[lizzete]

^ maybe it's time to look back & assess what happened sa buong time na naging kayo, so you'll know kung ano ang gagawin mo.  Baka kasi may basis ang mga friends mo para sabihin yun.

sis 6 days na ko nagiisip..naguguluhan na talaga ko.. sabi nila kasi daw paulit ulit lang yun nangyayawri samen..ako naman parang di ko matangap na dahil lang dun magbbreak kame

[Msfi]

maybe you can ask him na mag-usap kayo. kung sobrang simple na bagay lang na pinag awayan eh malamang pride lang yan. Though isipin mo din na bakit ka nya natitiis kung simple lang.  Usap kayo para magkaintindihan at kung ayaw na nya talaga eh magkaron ka ng closure. Then you can start the no contact rule.

[lizzete]

hay thank you sis...iniisip ko kasi kung ako na naman ba talaga kelangan mag first move lage na lang kasi ganun..hay pakiramdam ko..ako na lang gusto magkaayos kame..siya natitiis niya ko

[Msfi]

^yun na nga sis, bakit nga ba ganun? kaya kung mag-uusap kayo better have a heart to heart talk para malaman mo kung ano talaga gusto nya at wag yung susuyuin mo lang sya para magkabalikan kayo. baka kasi tama ang mga friends mo at time to let him go na nga kahit pa mahal mo.