NO CONTACT RULE AFTER BREAK UP (THREAD 2)

[mimiku]

pasali po.

[iCleverClogs]

^^^ sis, i sent him a message yesterday telling my feelings kasi sobrang sama ng loob ko. i really wanted to talk to him that much kasi gusto kong mag explain siya sa lahat but it seems ako pa itong nagmumukhang t**** kasi nagalit pa sakin. isang line lang nireply sa kahaba haba kong message. di ko raw siya guguluhin kasi okay na daw siya. kapal noh? talaga depress na depress ako these past few days.


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sis, SINGLE siya nung kami. yun ang alam ko sa kanya. I didn't know it until such time inamin niya na may anak siya kaya kami nagkahiwalay. Sabi niya di daw sila kasal ng mother ng anak niya at wala daw siya pakialam dun. Ngayon, ginagamit na ng girl yung family name niya. Ang sakit di ba? Kasi, talagang sinungaling siya. Papangakuan ka na ikaw ang pakakasalan with all the permission pa sa parents heto, tumbling... spare tire ang role ko sa kanya, gumagawa ng false assurances tapos tatalikod bigla.

[nageinna]

^at least nalabas mo na lahat ng hinanakit mo to him. but let it end there. it's ok to grieve, to cry, or even be mad, but don't let those things control you sis ha. and hayaan mo na sya. dont try to communicate with him again. in any way! the more you communicate with him kahit pa sabihin nating nag vevent out ka lang ng feelings, the more he sees how much he matters to you and he doesn't deserve that! don't give him the satisfaction in knowing na he has such control over you. aabuso pa yan. you can do it sis. go lang.

[iCleverClogs]

^at least nalabas mo na lahat ng hinanakit mo to him. but let it end there. it's ok to grieve, to cry, or even be mad, but don't let those things control you sis ha. and hayaan mo na sya. dont try to communicate with him again. in any way! the more you communicate with him kahit pa sabihin nating nag vevent out ka lang ng feelings, the more he sees how much he matters to you and he doesn't deserve that! don't give him the satisfaction in knowing na he has such control over you. aabuso pa yan. you can do it sis. go lang.

he didn't make a move anymore sis and that kills me also as if I'm really rejected. really he is not deserving to be mourned for but the a**hole really hits me deeply. i know it's not right kung papatulan ko siya kasi he really is happy with the one who is the right one for him, pero mahal ko talaga ang mokong. but at the bright side at least he is trying to make his family whole. yun nga lang, he has the power to hurt me. i didn't know if he is guilty or not of what he had done unto us. anyways, i'm trying to forget him and get rid out my system. ang sikip sa dibdib. okay lang sana magpakadepress ako if wala akong trabaho but now. ha! naghihintay lang ata ako na masesante ako. i'm in hell of pain sis. grabe sobrang sakit.

[daria]

no right words can make you feel better.
i think all of us who loved and lost it knows that.
i really hope you feel better.
maybe you can reach out with our other gts here. may pupuntang baguio! sama ka.. or going on retreats always helps..

[nageinna]

^^sis parang ang bilis noh. nung una parang siya pa yung naghahabol tapos bigla nalang nalaman mo na he's married na pala? awww. how are you now sis?

[kikay_machine]

To iCleverClogs, you can do it girl! Kaya mo yan. It's really hurting especially that you loved him so much and you've made a lot of investments to that guy (emotional, physical, etc.). I was once in your place, my ex and I were in an LDR and since I couldn't trust him and entrust my future with him anymore, I stood by my decision and broke up with him. I ended a 6-year relationship at pinanindigan ko na no contact talaga. Masakit but I am happier now knowing that I ended something that is unhealthy and I've started to love myself more.

[iCleverClogs]

ha!!! I'm back.. 9 pa yung post and now is 13..nagpapagaling ang puso ko  .
i'm trying to become happy. ayan masikip naman sa dibdib ng mabasa ko ang post ko pati response niyo. 
anyways, di po ako ipokrita para di sabihin na i'm totally over him kasi may pain pa pero i'm improving naman. naiinis lang ako kasi sinisikil ko pero di pa rin mawala. LOL
gusto ko na kasi mawala agad eh. gusto ko makoncensiya siya at humingi ng sorry. Ang sama ko noh? naghihintay pa talaga ako na magkausap kami at marealize niya ang lahat. owww, ang pride ko  .


tuloy pa rin ang buhay sis. i believe naman na mawawala ang feelings ko at some point. not now but hopefully sana sooner. i'm not expecting na magkabalikan kami, if ever totoo nga na hindi pa siya kasal. but who the hell cares di ba? di na ako masyadong nagmukmok para sayangin ang oras ko sa kakaisip sa kanya. naku, sisikip lang ang dibdib ko.

[prettyfulme]

HI! I'm new here.. pasali.. sis iCleverClogs.. grabe nabasa ko lahat ng post mo.. masakit talaga yan.. dati nagbreak kami ng bf ko, 2 days lang yun pero halos mamatay na ko talaga.. the best thing you could do is to accept everything.. lahat ng nangyari, lahat ng sakit, even the things he did to you.. it's the hardest thing to do but pag unti unti mo ng natanggap.. unti unti na ding giginhawa pakiramdam mo.. sometimes, it seems wrong to accept nalang.. lalo pag talagang super sama ng mga bagay bagay na yun.. na parang unfair.. wala manlang justice.. di mo naman deserve yun.. sometimes you cry pa kay God.. mahirap sobra.. pero it's one of the steps you have to go through to ease the pain.. makalagpas ka lang sa step one na yan.. madali na yung iba.. paganda ka nalang..kahit maganda na, paganda ka padin.. yan ginagawa ko pagka bwisit na bwisit ako sa bf ko.. dun mo ibuhos and wag na siya isipin since nangyari na lahat.. sabihin na nating magkabalikan kayo, do you think things would work out kahit nalamatan na ng sobra yung trust niyo? atleast pag nagpabeauty ka, you will feel good about yourself, and you will get attention from others, you might meet someone new.. a friend or so.. basta sabi mo nga/.. tuloy ang buhay 

[wjv]

Hi everyone! It breaks my heart just by reading sad posts. napakasensitive ko and feeling ko sakin nangyari.

@kikay_machine,hats off to you! you were ableto end a 6 yr relationship and your outlook is very positive..

[kikay_machine]

prettyfulme, I so agree with you. All you have to do is accept. Tapos magpa-beauty ng todo todo. I did this when I broke up with my bf. Sobrang dami ang nakapansin na blooming ako. Malaking sampal sa ex ko yun, because it really shows that my life is so much better without him. Plus, I've found a new love who's been secretly admiring me na pala pero di ko siya pinapansin because masyado akong hooked sa aking ex.

So there, maybe sooner or later you'll be able to find a person who will love truly love you and make you feel really happy and worthy. So move on, sis (and sa mga sisses na di pa rin maka-move on). Again, love yourself more and let go all the hurtful feelings you have.

[iCleverClogs]

@ prettyfulme: Grabe, touch ako sa message mo. Thanks sis napaka-inspirational. Ayan, March 20 na ulit ngayon, so one week rin di ako bumisita sa thread na ito. Di ako masyado nagpopost ng kahit ano about sad love kasi, nakakabigat ng dibdib. Masyado akong perfectionist kasi kahit katiting ayokong makafeel ng pain. 


Anyways, tuloy na tuloy pa rin ang buhay. I'm just happy at some point kasi I believe I can do it. Sino bang may sabi na hindi ko makakaya kapag magkahiwalay kami?      Makakaya to. Minsan nga gusto ko na namang magdrama, ilabas ang sama ng loob at iiyak ng bongga bongga pero bakit wala  . Kasi pagod na rin ako.  Para ano pa di ba? Ayun. NO CONTACT ever na ako. Kung magkikita man kami, ewan ko na lang.


Hays..life oh life!

[ladyisabella]

eto ang bagay na hirap na hirap ako gawin after ng break up namin..
sobrang kating kati paa ko pumunta sa kanila, sa office nya, lalo na kamay ko sa gustong itext at tawagan sya..pero mga sis nagawa ko sa help nyo dito..

napag isp isp ko, napabayaan ko [textspeak!] sarili ko, isang araw nagising nalang ako sabi ko sobra na, its time for me to move on.

tinago ko cp ko, dinelete ko sya sa ym, fb etc etc..

nagshopping ako, nag PAGANDA lalo!

nagkita kame ng di sinasadya.. natulala sya.., tpos napa smile..
ako???
wahahahahah..blank face..parang di ko sya nakita, as in harapan na kame nun ah..

cute diba?

so masasabi ko effective to! galing!!

[nageinna]

^wow sis so happy for you sana tuloy tuloy na. at least nakita niya ano nawala sakanya. stay pretty sis

[tokyogirl]

sana makayanan ko to, we just broke up today.
sya nakipaghiwalay so dapat kayanin ko.

[lizzete]

pasali din ako ..

we just broke up last sunday..ako yun nakipag break ..nakakainis ..as in di niya man lang ako pinigilan..saka di nagreply sa break up text ko..until now hindi ko na siya tineext..although parang gusto ko na siya itext tinitiis ko  hay..

[nageinna]

^aww sis mahirap nga yan. as in nung nakipag hiwalay ka wala kang narinig anything from him? mahirap din kasi makipag break thru text kasi parang wala pang closure talaga.

[snowyice]

last bf ko we broke up thru text he did not reply pero after 2months nakikipagkita thru text ginudtime ko nga! ang galing nya no!

[lizzete]

yup sa text lang ako nakipag break pero nun umalis ako sa kanila iniwan ko siya hindi niya din ako  pinigilan..

update..kagabe tumwag siya to ask my account number at nagtext siya ..4 calls hindi ko sinagot..para lang sa account number ko wag na..sabi ng officemate ko baka way niya yun para makapag start ng conversation pero ako lalo ko lang naramdaman na wala siya pakielam..una niya pa inisip acct. number ewan  until now di ko pa siya kinakausap..for me i have done enough..sa lahat ng bagay pinagpasensyahan ko siya pero tinaken for granted lang niya ko...

[krylle]

me i never contacted any of my exes after we broke up. For me once we ended the relationship it ends everything. i dont think it would be too good of me if we remained as friends. Be an acquaintance maybe ok but not as friends. =)