INTROVERTS - You're in!

[happypill]

It's nice to find fellow introverts here.

I have am easier time expressing myself online than I do in real life.
May konting social anxiety rin ako. At one point it was so bad that I even could not speak someone I don't know sa phone (lalo na pag magoorder ng food).

Marami akong friends na extroverts and while I love them, mas malapit talaga ako sa 'tahimik' kung friends.  Para makasabay with other people, nagiging accommodating na lang ako to the point where I set my needs/ wants aside.

[Escapaira]

Di ko alam kung introvert ako oh nag fefeeling introvert lang.
Di ako friendly,boring, di madaldal, di pala tawa, mdali mabored, laging nasa bahay, KJ, wala akong friends (acquaintance lang meron ako),may mga oras na ayaw ko magsalita at umiiwas ako sa tingin ng mga tao lalo na kapag magkakasalubong tapos di ko nman close o kaya nman kung prof ko yung makakasalubong ko.

Paminsan sumsagi sa isip ko na gusto kong magbago kasi parang wala ako mararating pag-pinagpatuloy ko tong ugali na to. Natatakot ako na pagka-graduate ko ay kailangan ko ng maghanap ng trabaho at makihalubilo sa iba't ibang klase ng tao tapos bigla nalang ako mapag-iwanan ng mga kakilala ko. Naiinggit ako dun sa mga taong napaka-outgoing. 

[px17]

^Pwede rin namang "shy type" ka lang sis.

Ako talaga most of the times ayoko mag salita at gusto kong mapag-isa pero pag may nakita akong kakilala or familiar face nagsmile ako saknila. Same lang tayo na school-bahay girl at maraming dahilan sa lakaran sis.

No need to be inggit sa mga extrovert. Being an introvert has an advantages sis. Dahil we prefer to be alone ibig sabihin lang kaya natin maging independent in any aspects of life.

[Nuriko]

Is it possible na extrovert ka when you were younger, then naging introvert at 20's?

nung bata pa ako, mahilig ako sa sumali sa activities sa school like dance troop,  drama club. tapos pag xmas party, sumasayaw ako o kumakanta.  sa ibang occasion, nagde-declame, monologue at tumutula. haha! pero ngayon, di ko na magagawa yun. nahihiya ako, para kong kakainin ng lupa.  di ko sure kung extrovert ako nuon pero mas kapalmuks ako nung bata , di tulad ngayon.

[explorer]

Ito nabasa ko lang

https://plus.google.com/107001764389340553147/posts/9NPJzjmdtCb

Ngaun, mas naniniwala ako na may pagka introvert nga ako

[angelzero]

^nice read. hirap naman kasi talaga ma-misunderstand as an introvert. kung pwede ko lang pabasa to sa mga officemates ko.

[explorer]

You guys should also watch The Big Bang Theory.

http://www.cbs.com/shows/big_bang_theory/

Some things I don't like about Sheldon Cooper though

• He can't drive
• He don't like coitus

[anonymous0124]

I SO want to join this circle

I can be really friendly if I want to but I often prefer to be alone because I'm comfortable with my own company than with people most of the time.

[abuanddiego]

question to fellow introverts: are you sensitive to other people's feelings? or mas concern kayo sa situation? ako kasi napapansin ko hindi ako ganun kaaffected/reacting sa mga nangyayare sa paligid ko unless kasali ako. minsan kahit grabe na yung situation di pa rin ako affected. sinasabi ko pa sa isip ko "stop whining, wala na tayong magagawa just look for a solution" basta hindi ko feel marinig yung emotions nila mas gusto ko solusyonan yung problema. I feel guilty everytime nangyayare to but it seems like na ganito na talaga ako. Hindi naman sa wala akong empathy pero hindi ako ganun kadali madala sa emotions ng iba.

[anonymous0124]

hmm ako lately i'm more on the situation dati kasi pulos sa tao ATA haha! It's ok that's you I think it's not much of a problem.

Please refrain from quoting long posts.

[angelzero]

^ako affected ako. pero di ko rin alam paano to comfort that person. i guess iba iba rin klase ang mga introverts.

[FOURever]

Sa every friendship i have, mas concern ako sa feelings nila. When i get to know them, usually kasi interaction namin sila lang nagkukwento. Tagakinig lang ako. Ayoko kasi magsalita.. Tapos kapag nalaman ko yung tao na yun full of herself or himself, saka ako mawawalan ng concern sa feelings nya. At never din ako magsasalita or magkukwento sa kanya.. Share ko lang, medyo masama pa din loob ko, may friend kuno ako na girl.. Sobrang makwento.. Naiinis ako kasi puro sarili nya kwento nya tapos mapilit pa. Ayoko lumabas, pipilitin ako. Mga ganung bagay.. One time bored na bored ako sa kwento nya na about herself pero i tried my best para maging attentive and looked concerned. Nung may ikukwento lang sana ako para maiba aman usapan, nasa first sentence pa lang ako, nag hikab/yawn na. What the eff lang on my part. After that, lumayo na ako sa kanya. Mga tao talaga! Kapag tinetext nya ako at maiksi reply ko sabihin pa nya: natawa naman ako, yan lang ba talaga reply mo?

Kaya after that, wala na. Lalo akong nawalan ng gana sa karamihan ng tao..

Mas concerned ako sa environment at sa mga nangyayari like current issues, calamities, etc

[ellenmitchie]

^^^^ Naku for me, most of the time I avoid yung mga taong ganyan, yung sobrang drama na, eh like what you've said better na lang na hanapan ng solusyon. Meron akong friend ngayon na ganito, naiinis na lang ako kasi parang nade-drain yung energy ko whenever he opens up about his problems. Concerned naman ako, pero somehow it's too much, especially kung bina-bale wala yung mga binibigay kong advice.

Somehow kahit pa na introvert ako, happy go lucky naman ako especially when I'm alone.

[Red Rack 21]

i believe i am an introvert cos i can house arrest myself for as long as i can. napapalabas lang ako kung kailangan na talaga. my lakwatserang bilas asked me nga kung hindi ba daw ako naiinip sa house sabi ko hindi. kulang pa nga ang 24 hrs in a day for me to be able to do all the things that i want to do at home. i usually fix my stuff at gusto ko everything is in order. may pagka OC din kasi ako (obsessive compulsive). ewan ko ba bakit ako ganun. i am online almost 24/7 and i enjoy surfing the net.

 but there was a point in my life na nag try akong maging extrovert only because i was so curious about the nightlife. this was when i landed my very first job after college. i worked in makati so madaming gimikan. i went bar hopping with office friends, nag out of town trips din. but after a while  nanawa na ako ng  magawa ko na lahat ng gusto ko i was back to being a homebody until i got married.  i was in that office for 7 years pero hindi ko lahat nakausap o matandaan ang names nila. am really bad in remembering names. i won't start a conversation kung wala ako sa mood. but when am in the mood naman ang daldal ko. saka kung hindi ko talaga type ang aura ng isang tao i'd rather be by myself kahit wala akong makausap maghapon.

 we live here in the south and when we bought our house i never mingle with our neighbors hanggang sa umalis na lang din kami dun.  sabi nga ni hubby hindi daw ako marunong makipag kapwa tao. sabi ko hindi ko kasi feel ang dami ko din gusto gawin dito sa loob ng house.  am civil naman with my former neighbors hindi lang talaga ako pala chika sa kanila.

i don't make friends easily and i don't trust people easily too. it takes a long time before i get comfortable with people. like when i got married. my in laws would tell me to feel at home so on and so forth. i have great in-laws naman pero it takes 10 years yata bago ako natutong makipag biruan sa kanila and all. grabe ang tindi ng inhibitions ko. mabuti na lang i have a  terrific husband. he is my opposite cos he likes talking to people and he has very good PR. he would always tell me to express myself freely lalo na pag nagkakasamaan kami ng loob. he taught me how to say no if i don't like something.  basta he taught me a lot and he  helped me changed kahit papaano. kasi ang hirap-hirap ko daw basahin. kung [textspeak!] nasa isip ko and all.

when i was in college, most of my  buddies are extroverts. i enjoy being with them. i am more of a listener  in the group and they helped me explore the world out there. they are not bad influence naman but i met a lot of people thru them kasi ang dami nilang friends from all walks of life. my boyfriend then commented paano ko daw nakasama mga yun e napakatahimik ko. sabi ko ewan ko basta nag jive naman kaming apat and we enjoy each other companies and we do until we graduated and found a job.

what i can share about being an  introvert is that i am very compassionate, sympathetic, empathetic at lahat na yata ng may kinalaman sa emotions master ng introverts. ang dali dali ko mafeel ang nararamdaman ng isang tao. as if i am going through what he/she is going through. eye contact lang and facial expressions lang kaya ko ng basahin ang nafi feel ng kaharap ko. kayo ba ganito din?  i don;t feel bad being an introvert  kasi it's considered nowadays as a type of intelligence...remember the multiple intelligences..this is what you call an intrapersonal intelligence. and am proud of it 

[anonymous0124]

Reading posts of you guys makes me feel more proud of being an introvert. We are cool because we know who we really are, what we want and we enjoy our own company.
Hope my gath din tayo hahaha! I don't have a social networking accounts. I prefer personal contact. Ok na rin ako sa mga forums lang like GT. I want to avoid nega people as much as possible so it life will be at peace.

[angelzero]

Sa every friendship i have, mas concern ako sa feelings nila. When i get to know them, usually kasi interaction namin sila lang nagkukwento. Tagakinig lang ako. Ayoko kasi magsalita.. Tapos kapag nalaman ko yung tao na yun full of herself or himself, saka ako mawawalan ng concern sa feelings nya. At never din ako magsasalita or magkukwento sa kanya.. Share ko lang, medyo masama pa din loob ko, may friend kuno ako na girl.. Sobrang makwento.. Naiinis ako kasi puro sarili nya kwento nya tapos mapilit pa. Ayoko lumabas, pipilitin ako. Mga ganung bagay.. One time bored na bored ako sa kwento nya na about herself pero i tried my best para maging attentive and looked concerned. Nung may ikukwento lang sana ako para maiba aman usapan, nasa first sentence pa lang ako, nag hikab/yawn na. What the eff lang on my part. After that, lumayo na ako sa kanya. Mga tao talaga! Kapag tinetext nya ako at maiksi reply ko sabihin pa nya: natawa naman ako, yan lang ba talaga reply mo?

Kaya after that, wala na. Lalo akong nawalan ng gana sa karamihan ng tao..

Mas concerned ako sa environment at sa mga nangyayari like current issues, calamities, etc

i can relate sayo sis. i also have a friend na tuwing magkikita na kaming dalawa lang i always end up listening to her all night about one topic. it could be about her relatives or workmates na pawang di ko naman mga kilala. she just goes on and on and on. bathroom break lang ang pahinga then tuloy tuloy na naman. to be fair to her, she's one of my good friends. when it's my turn to talk (which is just like 10% of the time) i see na interested naman sya. kaya wala rin akong magawa except to lend an ear kahit deep inside inaantok nako sa mga kwento nya. so i'm quick to my feet pag nagka dead air i switch the topic to something we can both relate to.

[lonelymiss28]

mga sis ....naiisip ko lang paano kaya kung magkakaroon ng introvert eb. interesting!

[FOURever]

^haha naiimagine ko mga pwedeng mangyari

^^yes sis, karamihan din mga good friends kaya kelangan talaga gawin natin lahat para di maoffend.. Sometimes, umaabot na sa threshold ko which is high btw. Haha!

Buong summer din, bahay lang ako, lumalabas lang pag may outing ang family, saka pag kelangan talaga like yesterday, Mothers day

[Red Rack 21]

Introvert and bipolar here. Awful combination.

Back in my college days, I'd make up excuses just to not tag along with my friends when they go out. I'd rather lock my door and stay in my room the whole day.

I'd even ask my brother to lock me out FROM THE OUTSIDE so that would-be visitors will see that my door has a padlock, thus they will immediately leave thinking I'm not there.

may i ask how did you know you are bipolar?

[anonymous0124]

yeah..let's have an introverts eb hahaha!