INTROVERTS - You're in!

[purple.strawberry]

INFP - "Questor". High capacity for caring. Emotional face to the world. High sense of honor derived from internal values. 4.4% of total population.

I work naman previously as a copy editor tapos ngayon web content writer, though gusto ko na din magchange ng field. Yun lang yung mahirap kasi yung mga jobs talaga like PR, meh, since introvert nga ako and pag di ko kilala di ako gaano masalita. I suck in small talks too. Haha. So it's a challenge to find a work na I'd feel comfortable doing and also financially okay din.

[tsokoholik]

*waving to all self-confessed introverts*

nasa IT na ang work ko so more of monitors na lang ang kaharap ko. ok maging introvert, but it sucks pag tinamaan ka na ng itch to travel, do activities and the likes. tapos ang mga friends mo ayaw ng maskipaps na travelling. hirap humanap ng kasama =/

[explorer]

Mukhang ang IT ay pang introverts din. Mas gusto ko na din ang IT dahil halos computer nga lang ang kaharap. Hindi ganun kadalas ang mga presentation

[beachpatrol]

Meron akong officemate na super introvert, may dumadaang araw na hindi talaga siya nagsasalita. Kahit kunyari lunch time tapos magchichikahan kaming team, siya naman nakikinig lang at di talaga nagsasalita or kung magsalita man, isang tanong isang sagot.

Minsan nga chinika ko siya:

Me: anong ginawa mo nung weekend?
Siya: Wala naman, sa bahay lang.
THE END. Hindi man lang ako tinanong kung anong nangyari sakin.

Though IT-related ang work namin, medyo concerned lang ako dahil madalang siyang kusa na magbigay ng feedback/update sa work niya. Tipong tatanungin mo pa bago mag-update. Kahit sa email, ang konti ng words. Kaya ginagawa namin, lagi namin siyang tinatanong... medyo micromanaging na nga kung tutuusin.

How to deal? Minsan kasi nakakainis na lalo pag work-related. I really want to kind of help her be more open to us because we work as a team.

[jtansanco]

^ Well, the key word right there is "team". Knowing that she has to work with a "team", I'm sure medyo nahihirapan na siya. There's really no problem with her because she prefers to just listen. The lesser she speaks, the better. That's how introverts are.

I'm not sure how you guys work but how's her performance when doing it individually compared to working as a group? Introverts excel individually kasi.. Just like me back then in high school and college, if it's individual work, I easily get the job done. If it's by group, sobrang struggle to the point na parang ako yung odd man out. Tinatawagan pa akong free loader because I can't work with other people.

Anyway, best way to communicate with her is if you talk to her 1-on-1. If she's with a group, she'll definitely not open up.

[bluegintonic]

^hehe matagal kong pinagisipan yun, kung panu ko makakawork nang hindi masyadong may interaction, and yung maalagaan ko din yung son ko. binubully pa ko ng husband ko kasi lalo daw akong mabuburo nun, wala na social life tapos sa bahay pa work. eh nagclick yung naisip ko kaya ngayon tinutulungan pa nya ko hehe. pero advantage na extrov sya kasi naoffset nya mga limitations ko. but i tell you if you enjoy your career as a nurse ituloy mo lang sis. napakahirap magsolo. wala pang benefits :-/

yan din ayoko na parang may mali sa akin if I enjoy being alone. Duh! hindi ko na nga magawa lahat ng hobbies ko kailangan talaga may "social life"pa ako...same tayo, extrov din si hubs,dala na rin siguro ng work niya palagi sa field eh kaya no choice siya.Buti na lang truce na kami na wag niya akong pilitin if ayoko.

^jtansanco I agree.Most introverts excel when it's solo flight.Pero nailulugar naman din yan kasi hindi naman mawawala ang team/group activities whether in school/work.For me ine-enjoy ko ang togetherness ng group kasi break ko rin yon from the my silent life as an introvert.

[beachpatrol]

I'm not sure how you guys work but how's her performance when doing it individually compared to working as a group?

Anyway, best way to communicate with her is if you talk to her 1-on-1. If she's with a group, she'll definitely not open up.

Hmm minsan ok, minsan sablay. Di ko lang sure dahil ba fresh grad at siya lang ang junior sa team? Pero almost 2 years na siya nagwowork. Ang mahirap kasi kahit ok yung work, walang feedback or update. Kumbaga malalaman mo lang na tapos na niya pag tinanong mo siya. Lagi din niyang nakakalimutan mag CC kahit kakasabi mo lang. I don't know what's up with that.

Our manager already mentioned that last year in her annual performance review and I heard below expectations ang result. Ewan ko lang bakit walang improvement hanggang ngayon. Iniisip ko tuloy baka nasa amin ang problema at kami ang dapat mag-adjust ng management style.

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I'm an introvert as well pero kaya ko naman mag-adjust at makipagsocialize lalo na sa work at syempre pag kasama ang barkada.

[jtansanco]

^ It's kind of difficult to give advice regarding the scenario you mentioned.. If I were to put myself in her shoes, I think the only reason why my performance is like that is because I probably don't like my job? I don't know.. If I love my job, I'd do everything to make it work. If I don't, I won't give a lot of effort in it. Have you or has anyone tried talking to her directly regarding her issues? Sometimes, the best way to understand her is to talk to her directly 1-on-1. Tell her your points without being offensive and maybe you'd be able to know what's in her head. Maybe she also lacks motivation if she does things redundantly.

[beachpatrol]

^thanks. Our performance evaluation is near na naman kaya bring up ko ulit sa manager namin.

[jtansanco]

^ A good way to connect with her is show her the performance evaluation (if ever that's allowed). Point out her issues and let her feel that you or your manager is doing this so she can improve. Just make sure she doesn't feel "attacked" in the process.

[jtansanco]

What's up introverts?? Bigla tayong tumahimik ah.. How's your 2013 so far?

Do any of you play chess? Haha wala lang.

[barbieavril]

I also enjoy being alone.  I prefer reading books, surfing the net or watching tv alone.

Si hubby naman ang extrovert, he likes to socialize with friends/acquaintances.  He always encourage me na makipag-socialize, wala na daw ako social life at masyado na daw ako confined sa work-family setup.  I have my set of friends naman from high school and college.  Pero I seldom communicate din with them.

Minsan ang hirap explain kay hubby why I'm like this, kj daw ako.  Pero ganito ako eh, I'm comfortable being alone.  Kaya I know I can survive kahit mag-isa ako though syempre mas masaya if I have him and my daughter beside me.

[jtansanco]

Now that you brought this up, I'm just wondering... For the ladies out there, is your bf/husband an extrovert? Are there any ladies who's in a relationship with an introvert? Parang lahat kasi nagpost extrovert yung guy partner e...

[kiaramae_0403]

Pasok pala ako dito  yung ex ko extrovert  Mas gusto ko mag isa, dito sa office sandali lang ako nakikipagkwentuhan, mas gusto ko magsearch sa internet ng babasahin, or gumawa ng photobook.. kaya kong hindi magsalita maghapon.. ahahahah
minsan namimissinterpret ng iba kong kasama dito sa office kasi hindi ako as may isang group na hindi ako nakikisalamuha kahit na niyaya nila ako magbreak. ewan ko ba, mas gusto ko mag isa kesa makipag tawanan.. makikipag usap/makihabilo man ako sobrang sandali lang.  may time na gusto ko mag out of town kaya lang yung mga talagang kasama ko dito sa office di nila type, mas type nila ang gumimik sa bar.
Happy at nakita ko itong thread na ito hindi pala ako nag-iisa 

[mariacadie]

i am a certified introvert. madalas, people say im suplada and sometimes siguro baka iniisip ng ibang tao na mayabang o masingit ako. pero ewan ko, i just dont care. basta may trabaho, may pamilya, may iilang kaibigan masaya na ako dun.
ironically, im working as a phone based teacher so usually pagod na ako magsalita maghapon. minsan tumatambay ako sa pantry namin but i just look at the view [were on the 20th flr] and that's about it.  kahit may naguusap , minsan i just listen but i never join. ewan ko ba gusto ko lang makinig ng makinig. and i dont see anything about it.
minsan mahirap kasi i come from a well off family and my husband has a really good job and im a law grad [totake the bar this year] so people are llike inis, mayabang to, and all that stuff. hinidi ko alam kung paano alisin yung misconception ng tao sa akin. tahimik lang talaga ako.
naalala ko when i consulted feng shui master, she said many people are angry / inggit at me. sabi ko paano mangyayari yun halos hindi na nga ako nagsasalita?  sabi nya , e yun nga ang problema sa yo hindi ka nagsasalita.
i dont know, e yun ako e.  mabuti na ganito less talk less mistakes. pag kinausap ako sumasagot naman ako and i engage in small chat. takot na takot din ako sa gossip. MABUHAY ANG MGA INTROVERT!

[clouds_1028]

Hi! 

I'm not really an introvert myself before pero some events led me to being one. Now I enjoy doing things on my own, kahit walking pa yan sa mall, walking sa kung saan saan. 

[kenjiekenj]

^^ very me.

[jtansanco]

Going out of the comfort zone again tonight as I NEED to start mingling.. Prive, please give this introvert a good time.

[kenjiekenj]

^best of luck!

[angelzero]

hello my fellow introverts!

i don't have a problem eating lunch alone, go out to movies alone, not speaking the whole day at work (i'm a designer)...etc etc. pero hindi naman ako extreme na introvert na bahay-trabaho lang. i consider myself madaldal and kind of a jokester among my friends. pero sa work ko they say kahit ano ka pa, bawal tahimik. ako kasi i make sure before i speak, may sense yung sasabihin ko. may mga tao kasi madaldal nga wala namang sustansya sinasabi. so if i have nothing good to say i just shut up. but i enjoy the company of my extrovert friends because they bring out the fun side of me. my bf is an extrovert and conversations with him are just priceless.

as an introvert, i'm not comfy in social gatherings like parties, events and family reunions. if ever wala akong choice but to go, low profile lang ako. i like to dress up cuz i love clothes but i make sure hindi ako mukhang christmas tree or trying-hard-blogger-type, yung saktong porma lang hehe..