cool off with bf... pls enlighten me...

[yvaine]

lagi na kasi akong umiiyak sa kanya... laging may arguments...

sabi niya "i need time to be alone. i dont wanna talk to anyone..."

eto pa yung mga sinabi niya:


i asked "do u still love me?" he said "yes"

"ill miss u" sagot niya "i'll miss u more than you'll miss me"

"are u happy now?" sagot niya "no"

"do you feel relieved and happy when you're not with me?" sagot niya "no"

ETO ANG PINAKAMASAKIT:

"anong mas higit, fed up ka sa relationship, or happy?" sagot niya "fed up"

"cool off ba 'to or break up?" sagot niya "cool off... but i don't know for how long. just dont get your hopes up or expect too much."

then i asked "so parang alam ko na what will be your decision." nagtaas siya ng boses, sabi niya "i didnt mean that. basta anything can happen. everything's uncertain. but there's always hope."


please enlighten me... what does he really mean?? im devastated... d ko pa natatanggal eye make up ko since saturday, monday night na ngayon... which means di pa ko nagshoshower....ang kinain ko lang yesterday is 2 pandesal... today ganun din.... im scared...

[kutingpie]

^hi sis..what happened at dumating kayo sa ganyang point?

[yvaine]

we're always happy... and we cant even hide that fact- kahit nung cool off nagtatawanan at nagjojoke pa kami....

siguro nagsawa na siya sa mga away namin... lagi nalang kasi...

tapos dami pa niyang problems ngayon...


im praying na sana yung problems lang ang dahilan...


ang hirap hirap kasi.... we're happy kasi.... even nung last minute nasabi ko pa "i guess i cant make u happy anymore," pero ang sagot niya "but u just made me happy..."

unbearable yung pain...

[FOURever]

^sis, do you help him sa mga problems nya? I mean, lagi mo ba sya pinapasaya/cheer up? Kung lagi mo ginagawa yun, siguro this time, need nya naman ng someone na who'd be with him. I mean, yung makikiramay sa problems nya.. Minsan kasi problems are not being solved by pahappy happy lang or cheering up.. Minsan, we also need person who will help us solve the problem, or advices.. Goodluck sis.. Sana maging ok ka na..

[kutingpie]

^pabayaan mo lang muna sis, give him space, ikaw din..time for you also na isipin na if bakit kayo palagi nagaaway kahit maliit na bagay. pressured lang din sa mga problems niya siguro, i guess nagkasabay sabay lang. kung ano man yung pinagawayan mo, let pass na lang muna, ang kailangan niya ngayon kasi is tulungan mo siya sis. don't worry, maayos din naman yan

hindi sa lahat ng oras, magiging masaya kayo, may times na may dapat kayong ishare kahit sadness yan sis, if you or he needs to cry, then sabay kayo umiyak, ilabas ninyo lang. ang importante, dumaan man lahat ng trials in life, magkasama kayo.

[zhajhei_08]

sis baka me pinagdadaanan lang si bf mo ngayon..
kase nakikita ko ayun, sa pagkakawento mo ganun ako ke bf dati..
ganung ganun..

maybe he just needs space. need to fix things in his own.
tpos baka ikaw, si makulit, at nakukulitan siya sayo..
try to understand him ulit. di pa naman siguro siya nakikipagbreak eh.
chill ka lang muna,..

try mo kayang mag ayos muna, tingin mo ba pag haharap ka ke bf at devastated ang itsura mo, kanais nais ba?

tingin ko me pinagdadaanan lang na matindi talaga si bf ha.
this is just my opinion, lets wait to other sisses..

[iCleverClogs]

lagi na kasi akong umiiyak sa kanya... laging may arguments...

sabi niya "i need time to be alone. i dont wanna talk to anyone..."

eto pa yung mga sinabi niya:


i asked "do u still love me?" he said "yes"

"ill miss u" sagot niya "i'll miss u more than you'll miss me"

"are u happy now?" sagot niya "no"

"do you feel relieved and happy when you're not with me?" sagot niya "no"

ETO ANG PINAKAMASAKIT:

"anong mas higit, fed up ka sa relationship, or happy?" sagot niya "fed up"

"cool off ba 'to or break up?" sagot niya "cool off... but i don't know for how long. just dont get your hopes up or expect too much."

then i asked "so parang alam ko na what will be your decision." nagtaas siya ng boses, sabi niya "i didnt mean that. basta anything can happen. everything's uncertain. but there's always hope."


please enlighten me... what does he really mean?? im devastated... d ko pa natatanggal eye make up ko since saturday, monday night na ngayon... which means di pa ko nagshoshower....ang kinain ko lang yesterday is 2 pandesal... today ganun din.... im scared...

sis, bf mo ba ang ex ko?  joke lang.


Ganyan ang nangyari sa amin eh, 1 month ago. My "ex" needs time to be alone and he wants to find himself. Of course as a girl, I'm not that stupid to comprehend that he is not really that interested to commit with our relationship. Sinampal na sakin ang totoo na he is not happy na nga with our relationship, because he is "PRESSURED". We're not into fights, we love each other but maybe because of my efforts to take care our relationship as healthy as possible and because I feed him too much comfort and care, he comes to point of feeling "nasasakal" na. 


So what I decide, I let him. If he wants freedom, I will not restrain him because the more we pursue men, and if they feel that we are being clingy and desperate with them, the MORE they will keep themselves away from us. That's a man.

When they have a problem let them do to solve it on their own without our help. LALAKI sila, they have egos. As much as possible they want to be independent on solving their problems without asking for any help from friends, family or gf. They want to prove to themselves that they are still dominating because they are MEN.


Just wait for the time when they are ready and when they gain self-confidence. Men are like that. You cannot changed them.


Sometimes a cool off is a prelude to break up but if you're still hoping that he will come after you, get out of his presence. Give him time to miss you. Give him what needs and make yourself busy. Although it really hurts like hell but you have to hold on because nobody can help you except yourself.


Cheer up sis. Kung ipipilit mo sarili mo sa kanya baka tuluyan na siyang mawala sa'yo.

[yvaine]

we talked last night... sabi niya he's still confused...

so parang tinanong ko na, kung mas makakatulong ba kung ako nalang ang makikipagbreak sa kanya kasi willing na akong gawin yun para may closure na...

sabi niya" no. it will not help. just wait."

[textspeak!] ba ibig sabihin niya nun???

[iCleverClogs]

we talked last night... sabi niya he's still confused...

so parang tinanong ko na, kung mas makakatulong ba kung ako nalang ang makikipagbreak sa kanya kasi willing na akong gawin yun para may closure na...

sabi niya" no. it will not help. just wait."

[textspeak!] ba ibig sabihin niya nun???

He still loves you. Ganun lang. Don't break up with him if he doesn't want you to do so. HE IS CONFUSED. He wants to solve his own issue but not with you. Ayaw ka niyang madamay sa problema niya. He is not that happy and feed up but still he is hoping na maaayos din ang lahat.
Relax sis. Just tell him that you will give him time and space to think things over. Also, tell him that you are still there if you need him. BUT stay out of his radar muna para makapag-isip siya. Isa pa, hahabulin ka naman if mahal ka talaga niya.

[khakhaganda]

just give him space but make sure na alam nya na nandyan ka lang for him whenever he needs you but dont expect also too much

pressured lang [textspeak!] sya

[baliwsayo]

Sus. Ang lalake either gusto ka lang o hindi na, walang gitna dun (di sila bading remember). Wag mo na muna kausapin sis. Sabi niya cool off eh di disappear from his life na lang muna. Love yourself. Pag gusto ka pa talaga ng lalake, hindi man lang magsasabi yan ng salitang cool off.

[iheartkulot]

ano na nangyari sa inyo sis?

[juwie]

Sis kamusta kna?

[yvaine]

it's been a year... ngaun ko lang ulit nabasa to and hindi ko alam kung bakit umiiyak na naman ako ngayon...i broke up with him noon. ayoko na kasi magantay pa... 

exactly 1 year na. masakit padin pala. just when i thought i'm okay na.

nagsisisi ba ako now sa ginawa ko noon? bakit hindi ko siya naantay?

[aerish_anne]

cool off is cowardly saying its over.. mga paasa [textspeak!] yan ng mga guys..

[Mr.Punch]

^ If that's the "bisexual" guy, then don't regret anything.  Believe it or not, things turned out for the best.  Mahirap makipag-commit sa isang lalaki na merong HD sa longganisa.  Laging magiging issue yun.

[juwie]

it's been a year... ngaun ko lang ulit nabasa to and hindi ko alam kung bakit umiiyak na naman ako ngayon...i broke up with him noon. ayoko na kasi magantay pa... 

exactly 1 year na. masakit padin pala. just when i thought i'm okay na.

nagsisisi ba ako now sa ginawa ko noon? bakit hindi ko siya naantay?

Sis, don't regret. Letting him go was actually a very brave thing to do and I'm proud of you.

Read this:

Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

[ciacia18]

give him space and time but don't hold up your life for him.
kung babalik naman siya, babalik yan talaga.

narealize ko recently, walang cool off talaga. break naman din un eh, wala nga lang finality.

[angel..]

^^ Oh jeez, I should have that tattooed on my forehead kahit mahaba!! So spot on!