Awkward around boys. Help!

[blueblood]

It's really hard for me to talk to boys. I'm even awkward being around them! And I want to change that. I can't go on shying away from them forever! How do I deal with this?  Like when you're with them, what do you talk about? What things do you do together?

[bravo86]

"boyS"?... as in 'plural' sis?

aba, hirap yon. awkward talaga yan, kaka-OP.

do it one at a time.

you may have a friend/alalay accompany you.
someone who is more of a 'sidewinder'. yung tipong walang naririnig at nakikita at lamon lang nang lamon pag kainan na.
someone na di sumasawsaw at sabat nang sabat pag nag-uusap kayo but who is ever ready to intelligent answers whenever you ask her.

[aubb]

1st, try to know why you're shy, is it because you feel that a guy might not like you, or being around might not be a great idea? if these were so, stop thinking of that. Madaming klase ng lalaki, you just have to be yourself, and be cautious, pero wag naman din uber distrusting lol.

[skysenshi]

Boys are actually easier to get along with, kasi walang drama. Just as long as they don't have romantic intentions, kasi yun ang nakakasira.

[blueblood]

^
that's the problem i guess. di naman kasi maraming guys ang lumalapit sakin kaya those who do, i automatically think na he's interested. HAHAAH. i know it's weird, but yes, that's how things work from my perspective. xD And everytime that's on my mind, i get awkward. T_T

[luisacart]

ang masasabi ko lang, practice makes perfect. hehe so the first few times kahit awkward tiisin mo na lang, may matututunan ka talaga sa mga experiences mo. then just keep doing it para medyo mawala na ang nerbiyos mo sa mga susunod. i'm pretty sure that you're still young, sis, kasi when i was younger i felt the same way!

[kokobebe]

Boys are actually easier to get along with, kasi walang drama. Just as long as they don't have romantic intentions, kasi yun ang nakakasira.

I agree with sis skysenshi. Actually, I have a lot of guy friends and sobrang okay sila kasama. I cant say na I'm one of the boys pero all my life I've been surrounded by guys like brothers ko, cousins (majority kasi lalaki), classmates and barkadas. Pag sa guys, you can talk to them about anything from sports, work, finances and even your lovelife.

Siguro sis blueblood, try being with your male classmates or workmates like during breaks. Tapos try to have a conversation with them, like yung mga current events lalo na sports or cars. Do your best to act natural and just be yourself kasi ang guys naman madaling pakisamahan. Tapos kalma ka lang dapat tsaka dapat walang arte masyado pag boys ang kausap mo.

[pepurpink]

hi blueblood!

ganyan ako dati. akward din ako around boys. siguro dahil most of my friends are girls tapos mga pinsan ko, mostly mga girls din, 2 girls din kame magkapatid.
nagbago lahat when i worked in an IT company, syempre most of their employees are boys. during breaks, magkakasabay kame with my colleagues. kwentuhan at kulitan, pag madalas mo na silang kasama, comfortable ka na with them. minsan nag out of town kame. sobrang saya kase makukulit sila. no dull moments.
now, with my present company, meron din akong mga guy friends, minsan 3 kame sabay maglunch, ako lang yung babae sa group. ok naman kaso nga lang ako ang inaasar nila pag kameng tatlo lang, wala kase akong kakampi. 

Boys are actually easier to get along with, kasi walang drama. Just as long as they don't have romantic intentions, kasi yun ang nakakasira.

^ i agree.

[ysa.belle]

hi blueblood. dati mahiyain rin ako sa mga boys kase wala akong barkadang guys plus wala akong kuya or younger brother tapos hindi rin ako gaanong close sa mga cousins ko na guys.

relax ka lang sis. be comfy with yourself muna, tapos when may chance eh di chikahin mo sila with simple topics like cars and dota.

yung sinabi ni sis skysenshi na boys are easier to get along with is sooooo true. kase ngayon boys barkada ko.  walang drama, walang arte, walang feelingera.

[aubb]

you should boost your morale, i think, i don't think you can much about thinking "the guy might be liking you" kaya siya lumalapit. be confident, yun lang, wear a good smile and be yourself your improved self.

[rosela]

you should boost your morale, i think, i don't think you can much about thinking "the guy might be liking you" kaya siya lumalapit. be confident, yun lang, wear a good smile and be yourself your improved self.

like ko ito...juts like blueblood. im also awkward around boys. I don't have that much confidence when im around them. specially when im with someone i like. kasi feeling ko andami kong flaws and he wont just like me

[Giri]

It's really hard for me to talk to boys. I'm even awkward being around them! And I want to change that. I can't go on shying away from them forever! How do I deal with this?  Like when you're with them, what do you talk about? What things do you do together?

Maybe try to read a book, there might be a good book about this subject matter.

[sugardrop]

I am closer to my guy friends probably because they are easier to get along with, just as some of our sisters pointed out here. They are easier to talk to especially when you have problems and they can be brutally honest with you without any palabok or paikot ikot. And they are also chismoso. Most of my cousins are guys too so I guess it helped me. If you have brothers or male cousins, try talking to them or hanging out with them. I guess you can start from there. Once you're comfy enough with them, you can then try hanging out with guys other than you relatives. And true, less drama and kaartehan.

like ko ito...juts like blueblood. im also awkward around boys. I don't have that much confidence when im around them. specially when im with someone i like. kasi feeling ko andami kong flaws and he wont just like me

Iba na talaga when there is "like" involved but as long as you stay true to yourself and let him see you for who you really are, then he might overlook those flaws since no one is perfect anyway. Sometimes, it is your flaws or imperfections that guys may like in you because it makes you human and not a Stepford wife material.

[Frankie_G]

I can somehow relate to you blueblood. 
But sa mga girls naman. Sobra torpe kasi ako dati. Medyo medyo na lang ngayon.  Probably since I came from an all-boys school in high school.
Pero even though nung college ako surrounded ako ng mga girls, iba pa rin ang close relationship ko sa mga pare. Hehe.
I remember before hinawakan lang ng girl [textspeak!] hand ko, kinakabahan na ako. 

Anyway, I think some guys may find it cute na medyo nahihiya ka sa kanila. Though wag naman sosobra na di ka na nagsasalita. I agree to what the others have posted na it can help if you hang out with your relatives na guys. And please try go out more. Mas magiging sociable and friendly ka.

[cristal28]

hi sis. i am just like you. mejo naging okay na lang ako sa boys when i was already in law school. grade school and high school exlcusive for gurls ako. college i enrolled in a co-ed school but i end up having 5 girl frends all throughout. sooner or later there will be 1 boy na you will get along with. siya yung mafefeel mo na "click" kayo. more often than not ang boys mas madali sila gumawa ng converstaion unlike tayo mga gurls. they can easily approach you and talk to you. so when the time comes na may lumapit sa iyo na boy who you think na you can get along with relax ka lang. they are so easy to talk to kasi wala sila arte and wala sila pacute-cute. they dont bother with first impression unless type ka niya. take your time sis it will come naman.

[annamonique]

ditto. i will try to follow those advices posted..

[geminitalks]

it gets ackward only for me when they show interest other than friendship i can offer...yun i don't know how to handle this situation anymore...usually i clammed up & distance myself....

....and i need to change that because i eventually lost them...

[blue_jade]

like some of our sis here i was really awkward before around boys. though i have friends naman in school na boys nasanay ako na girls palagi ang kasama  but all that changed when i started working sa call center lalo na when i moved to IT. kamusta naman dalawa lang kami girls dati  me and my boss 

at first nagulantang ako kasi hindi ako sanay na puro guys kasama then i was able to adjust lalo na when a time came na only girl ako sa team  buti ngayon 2 na kami ulit na girl and they treat us both as one of the boys  and i'm friends with their gf/wife kaya masaya when we all get together 

a bit of downside? well since single ako malakas sila mangasar at mas interested pa sila sa lovelife ko at minsan they come across as protective imagine a group of 15 with only 2 girls  we always joke around na libre na bodyguards ko e 

[isobel]

don't put too much pressure on yourself. remember, boys are just people, too :p

[ladyisabella]

Boys are actually easier to get along with, kasi walang drama. Just as long as they don't have romantic intentions, kasi yun ang nakakasira.

true, sa totoo lang, mas madami pa ko boys na friends, as in madali sila kausap, wala msyado arte, derecho ang sagot, basta, sabi nga nila, girl na girl ako pero puro lalake talaga madalas ko kasama, kahit sa opis, kaya pag naglalakad kame sa hallway yung mga makakasalubong namin sasabihin "ang dami mo namang bodyguard", atchaka feeling ko talaga secure ako kase walang mangbabastos sakin, takot lang nila sa mga bodyguards ko. at yung mga nagbabalak manligaw di makalapit sa dami ba naman nakapaligid na bantay, ngayon ang matapang na lalake na manliligaw lang ang makakalapit sakin., yung kaya ang angas ng mga tropa kong maton. hahahahahaha..