Marriage problems/issues/ complaints etc. pasok dito...

[fegloria1954]

What should be clear is that maski mag-isip man lang nang pag-nanasa sa hindi asawa, ito ay adultery (infidelity) na rin.

I believe this.

Mommy Fe

[kara17]

i am not the best wife for him

hindi ko sya inaasikaso sa umaga, hindi ako gumigising sa umaga para asikasuhin sya. (which from the start sinabi ko na sa kanya)
konting hindi ko nagustuhan na sinabi nya saken, naiines ako, laging may misunderstanding.
feeling nya, hindi ko na ako natuturn-on sa kanya kasi hindi ko mabigay minsan ang needs nya.
masungit ako lagi sa kanya (kahit nung bff pa lang kami)..
gusto nya asikasuhin ko sya, inaasikaso ko naman sya e. hindi ko alam kung ano pa ang kulang..

sinusubukan kong magbago, kahit mahirap... kaso wala pa din...

nagbago na sya 

hindi na sya ganon kasweet magsalita...
minsan feeling ko napapahiya ako sa mga friends nya kapag may sinasabi sya saken...
sinisigawan nya na ako...
nagdadabog sya...
hindi sya nakikining saken..
pag ayaw ko o hindi ko sya pinayagan, sige pa din sya.
wala syang takot saken..
hindi na kami nag-uusap masyado, wala na kami mapag-usapan minsan..

end up

lagi na lang kami nag-aaway...
parehas kami na nasasaktan na...
parang nawawala na yung connection samen...
kanya-kanya na kami minsan...
sawa na kami parehas sa laging away..

we do love each other...
pero bat ganto? wala na yung sweetness namen sa isa't-isa...
minsan feeling ko unti-unti na kami nagkakanya-kanya..
help 

[camscams]

I dont know if i should make a new thread for this pero dito na lang i guess..

WIFE BEATERS - should men like them be given a second chance? nagbabago pa ba talaga sila?

help!

[justin3]

^magbabago?... second chance?... up to how many second chances?

siguro naman di overnight lang at basta nangyari na lang ang bugbugan. usually, bago nag umpisa ang beatings, meron nang emotional abuse, and before that, meron na ring verbal abuse, and before that, nawala na rin ang RESPECT.

o ano, asa ka pa?

try mong lumpuin sya habang natutulog. pag hindi na sya makatayo baka sakaling magbago na.

[vain_kixie]

camscams, one thing my mother taught me is once daw saktan ako ng asawa ko kahit 10 pa ang anak namin, iwanan ko daw! I should not wait that maging near death na yung situation. Hindi na magbabago yan!!! He needs a psychiatrist!

My fiance knows that kaya never din siya ng raise ng hand kagit galit na galit siya. You kinda have to know your worth. If you let him treat you like a punching bang, do not expect that he will treat you like a princess ever. So kay fiance hindi lang ako princess, Im queen kung hindi nako iwan ko siya.

[glamorosa_09]

@kara17

awww... simple lang naman ang mga lalaki sis... they just need food, caring and sex. Pag naibigay mo ang mga yan, he'll treat you like a queen.

Simpleng pangangailangan na mahirap pag-effortan... pero posible.

And whether you like it or not, duties mo yun as a wife nung nagpakasal ka... gaya ng duties nya as a provider, protector and leader. I understand, nakakatamad kayang gumising ng maaga at magluto, but I understand din na in life, hindi pwedeng pag may mga bagay kang ayaw/tinatamad gawin ay hindi mo na gagawin. Kung ako lang, tinatamad akong magpalit ng diaper ng baby ko, pero syempre dahil kailangan at love ko ang baby ko ayaw kong uncomfy at magka UTI sya, gagawin ko.

Try mong basahin yung secrets of fascinating womanhood... you'll learn a lot about your husband's needs and yearnings.

[RapCzarChel]

camscams, one thing my mother taught me is once daw saktan ako ng asawa ko kahit 10 pa ang anak namin, iwanan ko daw! I should not wait that maging near death na yung situation. Hindi na magbabago yan!!! He needs a psychiatrist!

My fiance knows that kaya never din siya ng raise ng hand kagit galit na galit siya. You kinda have to know your worth. If you let him treat you like a punching bang, do not expect that he will treat you like a princess ever. So kay fiance hindi lang ako princess, Im queen kung hindi nako iwan ko siya.

so ang ibig sabhin ba nito ay iwanan ko na dapat si hubby dahil sa pananakit nya sa akin? kahit may anak kame? bakit ba hindi sya pwdng magbago para sa akin?? feeling ko.. ako lang ata ang nagmamahal sa kanya.. kapag nagtatalo kame.. he always beat me.. do i deserved this??

[3in1]

@kara17

awww... simple lang naman ang mga lalaki sis... they just need food, caring and sex. Pag naibigay mo ang mga yan, he'll treat you like a queen.

Simpleng pangangailangan na mahirap pag-effortan... pero posible.

And whether you like it or not, duties mo yun as a wife nung nagpakasal ka... gaya ng duties nya as a provider, protector and leader. I understand, nakakatamad kayang gumising ng maaga at magluto, but I understand din na in life, hindi pwedeng pag may mga bagay kang ayaw/tinatamad gawin ay hindi mo na gagawin. Kung ako lang, tinatamad akong magpalit ng diaper ng baby ko, pero syempre dahil kailangan at love ko ang baby ko ayaw kong uncomfy at magka UTI sya, gagawin ko.

Try mong basahin yung secrets of fascinating womanhood... you'll learn a lot about your husband's needs and yearnings.

Parang bigla naman ako natauhan dito... Di naman ako sinasaktan ng asawa ko pero sa situation namin ngayon parang narealize ko na ako ang malaki ang pagkukulang... Na download ko na yang Fascinating Woman pero di ko pa nababasa... Galing mag advise, Sana makatulong ito sa lahat

[kara17]

@kara17

awww... simple lang naman ang mga lalaki sis... they just need food, caring and sex. Pag naibigay mo ang mga yan, he'll treat you like a queen.

Simpleng pangangailangan na mahirap pag-effortan... pero posible.

And whether you like it or not, duties mo yun as a wife nung nagpakasal ka... gaya ng duties nya as a provider, protector and leader. I understand, nakakatamad kayang gumising ng maaga at magluto, but I understand din na in life, hindi pwedeng pag may mga bagay kang ayaw/tinatamad gawin ay hindi mo na gagawin. Kung ako lang, tinatamad akong magpalit ng diaper ng baby ko, pero syempre dahil kailangan at love ko ang baby ko ayaw kong uncomfy at magka UTI sya, gagawin ko.

Try mong basahin yung secrets of fascinating womanhood... you'll learn a lot about your husband's needs and yearnings.

thanks sis glamorosa_09, dapat nga mag-effort ako,, hay.. heheh.. kaya ko 'to.. thanks... 

[glamorosa_09]

@3in1
I highly recommend that book sis, worth investing your time.

@RapCzarChel

so ang ibig sabhin ba nito ay iwanan ko na dapat si hubby dahil sa pananakit nya sa akin?

As far as I know, physical abuse is a ground for annulment. He can seek professional help like what sis vain_kixie said if he's willing to change, but if not, yes leave him kahit may anak kayo. But as they said, habang may buhay may pag-asa, while away from him, you can win him back through incessant PRAYER.
I know of a brother in our community na nagbago from a wife beater to God's faithful servant.

bakit ba hindi sya pwdng magbago para sa akin??
He can't do that on his own even if he wants to, just like a person with a heart problem cannot heal himself unless with a help of a professional, a doctor. He's got some deep issues from his past, like he maybe a son of a beater too. He cannot address it on his own.

do i deserved this??
Ikaw lang ang makakasagot nyan sis. Sabi nga, "we don't get what we deserve, we get what we think we deserve."

[euwie]

everytime we travel, lagi kami nagkakainitan. as in. kami lang ba ganito?

[lilsachie]

Perfectionist asawa ko..lagi kami nagbabangayan everytime may nagagawa akong pagkakamali..lagi kami nagkakainitan kahit sa maliliit na bagay lang..kaya tuloy parang natatakot na ako magkamali..

[glamorosa_09]

awww... sis meron talaga ganyang personality...

yung sa ka-couples group ko, yung wifey after mag-grocery kinocomputan ng hubby, kahit yung nawawalang piso hinahanap, binabalance talaga.

try to communicate with your hubby na lang sis, tell him openly how his being perfectionist is making you feel, sabihin mo natatakot ka nang magkamali dahil dun. Siguro, i-pull down mo rin yung wall of resistance mo para maging gentle din sya kahit papano. Hindi kailangan magbangayan

[vain_kixie]

sis euwie stressful talaga for some ang pag travel, so i think it's normal.

fiance ko burara sa airports, kung saan saan naka lagay cellphone, passports, cards etc.

ako naman si ms expert kaya i handle my stuff and myself well while traveling. Just recently nawala niya US passport niya. Pero never pa naman kami ng away while traveling. Ewan ko nalang pag mag asawa na kami.

[glamorosa_09]

I just want to share lang pala this Bible verse, I was reminded of this sa marriage conference that I attended.

"But those who marry will have distress in this life." [1 Cor 7:28]

I forgot the root word where distress came from, but it was also used to describe childbirth sa Bible.

Kaya kung nahihirapan kayo mga sis, don't worry, normal kayo... normal tayo

[snowflakes]

@kara17

awww... simple lang naman ang mga lalaki sis... they just need food, caring and sex. Pag naibigay mo ang mga yan, he'll treat you like a queen.

Simpleng pangangailangan na mahirap pag-effortan... pero posible.

And whether you like it or not, duties mo yun as a wife nung nagpakasal ka... gaya ng duties nya as a provider, protector and leader. I understand, nakakatamad kayang gumising ng maaga at magluto, but I understand din na in life, hindi pwedeng pag may mga bagay kang ayaw/tinatamad gawin ay hindi mo na gagawin. Kung ako lang, tinatamad akong magpalit ng diaper ng baby ko, pero syempre dahil kailangan at love ko ang baby ko ayaw kong uncomfy at magka UTI sya, gagawin ko.

Try mong basahin yung secrets of fascinating womanhood... you'll learn a lot about your husband's needs and yearnings.

sis bakit ako na i did everything naman i cook for him, we have great sex life, loving and caring naman ako, pero bakit di pa rin ako queen sa kanya? is it because he doesnt love me?

[rianne_mallows]

^anong bang definition mo ng QUEEN sis   ..   

[snowflakes]

^ kung ano yung definition ng ng post. siguro naman pare pareho tayo ng definition ng QUEEN diba?
alam mo hinde ko na nga inaasahan itrato ako ng QUEEN eh, kahit WIFE na lang. ok na sakin yun.

[glamorosa_09]

@snowflakes

sis yung post ko kasi it applies to "good husbands" turned cold and sour, dahil unconsciously napabayaan ng wife emotionally and physically. (Kasi one role of a woman is to be a nurturer, even our body is designed for it na makikita mo sa preggy at breastfeeding woman).

I'm not saying na hindi good ang husband mo. Para kasing something isn't right with him. I have no idea of his family background or history. Who was his male figure while he was growing up? Base on your posts sa thread mo, parang he doesn't know how to act like a husband. I so hope that he knows how to be a father to your baby.

[rianne_mallows]

@snowflakes - sensya sis hindi ko alam story mo eh..