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animal_lover

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« Reply #100 on: January 27, 2011, 10:17:55 am »
^ sorry was all he said, sis? kakainis naman yan. after an infidelity yan lang masasabi nya?

shekou

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« Reply #101 on: January 27, 2011, 10:39:50 am »
curious lang ako sis, san mo nakita yung video? may date ba ito?

sa email niya, nacurious kasi akong i open yung isang folder niya na may videos...it was taken early last year... i know naman it was past already pero watching their video its really hurts para akong sinaksak ulit. the fact na meron syang nakasave nun also hurt.

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« Reply #102 on: January 27, 2011, 11:33:39 am »
^ oo nga sis, masakit nga naman kapag ganon, to think na uncompromising act/moment pa yun. but then, could it be na, baka naman nakalimutan na ni hubby mo yung video? kaya nasa folders pa rin niya?

pero much better pa din sis, na confront mo siya or talk to him, para naman magkaroon ka ng peace of mind. mahirap yung lagi mo siyang pinag-iisipan ng hindi maganda, hindi rin healthy sa relationship ninyo yun.

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« Reply #103 on: January 27, 2011, 04:32:15 pm »
Naku mga sis makikisali na nga me, my husband confronted me recently lang & ask me what my problem was. Since i gave birth kasi to my daughter never na  naging ok ang relationship namin iniwasan ko talaga sya though we used to live in same house since magkaiba ang sched namin hinde kami madalas magkita during weekends lang, sunday to be exact.

I told him that i knew he was having an affair with someonelse, ang mahirap tanggapin nag do sila & sort of nahawa yata si hubby sa girl though im not sure. One time kasi nabasa ko text ng husband ko sa friend niyang doctor na he was experiencing pain kapag naihi siya & inamin niya sa friend niya na nakalimutan niya daw magkapote.
He's friend gave him 2 medicine to drink & told him na wag makipag do sakin kasi baka mahawa me magulat nalang ako may ganun me. but during the confrontation my gAsssss idinedeny pah kamusta ka naman, never daw siya nakipag do sa iba. He was flirting daw yun daw hinde niya madedeny.

i just told him kapal ng face value niya, sinabi ko buong tinext niya at ng friend niya pati yung gamot na pinapainom sa kanya. Aba ang sabi lang eh sori & now he was acting as if nothings happened.

pretty_lexie: yikes sis wag na wag ka makikipag-do sa hubby mo... baka mahawa ka! a'la Kris Aquino... nakakainis ang ganyan! once kasi na magka-STD ka, nandyan na yan sa system mo at prone ka na sa infection. so ingat! you have to talk to your hubby to have himself checked. baka kung ano na yan!
 
so sa ganyan bang infidelity ang issue dapat ba patawarin ang hubby? ano sa tingin niyo mga sis

batjy

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« Reply #104 on: May 10, 2011, 10:43:48 am »
hello mga sis, ang situation ko naman e ganito.. si hubby ay working abroad samantalang kami ni baby e kasalukuyang nakikitira sa house ng parents ko. kung tutuusin e kaya naman naming bumukod. walang issue financially pero naiisip ko lang kung praktikal ba talaga in the sense na mas secured kung me kasamang kapamilya sa bahay instead na kami lang ni baby + helper sa apartment. kahit nakikitira e nag she share naman din kami sa parents ko ng budget na approximately e yung magagastos din namin in case nakabukod kami.although gustong gusto ko na din bumukod at alam ko naman na soon yun at temporary lang kami dito e.. iniisip ko kung praktikal ba talaga na bumukod na kami sa pagkakataon na to? mga sis anung opinyon nyo?

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« Reply #105 on: May 12, 2011, 02:21:34 am »
^ sis kung nasa abroad pa ang hubby mo at okay pa naman sa parents mo na nakatira ka sa kanila, then i do not see any problem.  magkakaproblema lang kung palagi kayong nag aaway ng nanay mo or dad mo.

in your case na meron kang kid at wala ang hubby mo, parang mas okay na nakatira ka sa parents mo as long as wala silang objections or ill feelings towards the situation.

kung mabigat sa loob mong maki share sa expenses ng bahay at naiisip mo na mas mabuting bumukod, then do it.  baka magka strain lang relationship mo with your parents if you harbor negative feelings about sharing or paying for things sa house.

Ms.Cacao70%

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« Reply #106 on: May 13, 2011, 12:23:06 am »
sa email niya, nacurious kasi akong i open yung isang folder niya na may videos...it was taken early last year... i know naman it was past already pero watching their video its really hurts para akong sinaksak ulit. the fact na meron syang nakasave nun also hurt.

hay naku, napakasakit talaga niyan. dapat sabihin mo yan kay hubby! naku respeto na lang niya sa iyo, dapat hindi siya nagtatago pa ng mga ganyang videos na parte na ng nakaraa niya. dahil kahit ikaw, kapag may nakita siya sa iyo na ganyan, masasaktan din siya. i-delete mo na agad sis!!!

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« Reply #107 on: May 13, 2011, 04:06:29 pm »
nakakapagod maging sad talaga. sad nako for almost 2 months now. aminado naman ako na bratt talaga ako and bossy and mahigpit kay hubby. pero i have my reasons naman, twice ko na sya nahuli flirting sa text pero wala naman actual, tapos pag maluwag ako sa kanya, lage sya nasasabit sa inuman with his friends. madali kase sya maimpluwensyahan ng barkada nya.. but hubby naman is mabait at pasensioso saken talaga.

mukang napuno na sya saken, sabi nya di na sya happy, nag iba na sya at di na malambing. pano kaya ma re-revive ang relationship namin? im trying really hard to be extra sweet and malambing and less controlling but mukang mas naiirita pa sya saken pag naglalambing ako, parang ayaw nya. i wanted to give him time and space pero nami-miss ko sya sobra. alam ko i have to work on trust issues, im really trying. naaapektuhan na ang work ko. im so sad mga sis...  :'( :'(

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« Reply #108 on: May 13, 2011, 08:37:28 pm »
^hindi kaya sis nasasakal sya sa ginagawa mo sa kanya lately? sabi mo naman pasensioso sya at mabait tulad ng sabi mo sis baka napuno na sya sayo dahil sa pagiging bratt at bossy mo. baka naipon na yong tampo or galit nya sayo dahil sa ginagawa mo sa kanya before.

mga lalaki kasi ayaw nila ng nagger or yong kino-control sila. kausapin mo kaya sya ng masinsinan at sabihin mo lahat ng issue mo sa kanya re sa trust at sa lahat ng complaints mo. para magkaunawaan kayo pareho mahirap kasi yan sis pag pinatagal nyo pa pareho.

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« Reply #109 on: May 14, 2011, 09:02:42 am »
hello mga sis, i'm a newbie here...
gusto ko rin sanang magshare...

been married for 2 years now... a working mom (trainer in a callcenter) with 1 daughter and presently on my 7th month of pregnancy
my hubby is a musician... and is supporting his family since he was 18 yrs old
it's fine with me that he'll still support his family (parents - no job, a 27 yr old bro - no job, a 21 yr old sis with 1 kid (a graduate of BS Education) - no job, another 25 yr old bro with 2 kids working in a callcenter)... but not right now...
last year he went to thailand and was earning 30k a month... that time he sends money to his family (5k a month)... and i never objected it...
october last year, he came home here in the phils... never had a stable income since then... he plays in a band max 3x a week and work as a part time guitar tutor (100 per hour, max of 4 hours, 3x a week)...

i shoulder all the expenses at home right now...
he gets to keep his earnings (he wants to buy new outfits every time he has a gig which costs more that what he earned.)... and for his family... he's like working for his family not for us
what irritates and frustrates me is how his sister asks for money... she'll just text him that she needs money without asking if we still extra money in the pocket... she was just too demanding... i just can't stand it... and my hubby just couldn't say no...
what makes it worse is that my salary is not enough for us... he prioritizes his family over us...(there were so many instances that he chose his family over us)
plus the fact that we do not have savings for my pregnancy... got 0 balance on my bank account
whenever i talk to him regarding saving his earning for my pregnancy, he'll just tell me that I worry a lot and I should just lift it up to the Lord... I pray a lot... but I want us to be financially ready when I have to give birth...
we just couldn't meet half way when it comes to that
I talked to him a couple of times already to let his family understands that we are struggling financially and if possible let them provide themselves for now...they're all grown up anyways....

by the way (I already had a hint about the my future with him months before our wedding. we supposed to spend our own savings during the wedding...but ended up spending mine only because the bank where we had our savings deposited got closed before we were able to withdraw the money. Imagine, his father asked for 20k so that they can have a small salo-salo at their place. And to make it worse, his mother pawned our wedding ring without even informing us. I decided to just pay the fee so that they can get it from the pawnshop  after they failed to do so on and they never paid me for that.)

i am about to burst... i even told him that if he can't talked to them, i'll talk to them myself...


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ysa.belle

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« Reply #110 on: May 14, 2011, 09:35:46 am »
@xyrelle_star,

Your husband must know his priorities. You and your children first then his family. Since you & your kids are his Immediate family & his parents & sister & brothers are just his Extended family.

Yes, we should lift up our problems to the Lord but not to the point that we just wait for Him to solve them. We should do our part in solving our problems & it seems that your husband forgot that part.

You & your husband, as a family, should really be financially ready before you give birth to your second child. There are so many unexpected expenses and your husband should be ready for those. You and your children are his responsibility. There is nothing wrong in helping his parents & siblings but he should just help and not shoulder everything.

Your husband’s family is a big burden. Why don’t you talk to him about that? Tell him that you are really having a hard time making ends meet.

And there is nothing wrong if you save your own money. Do not let him know about your savings since it shows that he only cares for his parents & siblings, you should be ready for the worst.

boaVista

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« Reply #111 on: May 15, 2011, 01:40:19 am »
eversince pagdating sa family ni hubby sobrang sensitive siya. pag nag comment ako tungkol sa fmaily nya feeling nya iritable ako, magagalit na yon. pag may nasabi akong medyo sarcastic ssabihin pagdating sa kanila ang liit ng tingin ko.. eh for me naman sino naman ang magsasabi ng medyo off sa mga pananaw nila..

 like yong minsan nag pa test si hubby ng urine pinakita sa ate (graduate ng med tech) nya.. nakita yung ephitelial cell sinabi ba naman na nakuha daw sa akin yung cell na yon at infection daw yon from me.. eh sabi ko kay hubby "eh hello epithelial cell tissue yon parang skin that covers the body inside and out" aba ayun nagalit na at pagkagaling galing ko daw kasi bakit ko daw alam yon med tech daw ba ako pagdating daw sa family niya wala akong tiwala, sabi ko naman talagang hinde eh sisiraan p ko ng ate mo eh ano ko amy infection, magbasa nga sha.yung salitang ganun ni hubby medyo degrading for me. kanina naman nag tanong lang ako na baka yang si SIL mag resign sakit sa ulo nya yun kasi 43yrs old na paano pa makakahanap ng work, sabi ni hubby sabi daw ng ate nya mag reresign lang daw pag nabuntis..para sinabi ko lang mabubuntis pa ba yan.. aba ayun highblood na diyos daw ba ako para malaman kong d na mabubuntis ate nya, paano ko daw malaman..

may sakit si MIL at namamaga ang paa at ipapalabtest daw ulit ang sabi ko lang sa kanya ipatingin sa doktor at dun mismo ipabasa ang result nya para maresetahan at hindi yong ate nya yong mag tingin lang sa result. ayun galit na naman, inis na sa ken.

pag naman may issue sa bahay nila at nag comment ako sa kanya about sa issue at problema dun sa bahay nila, mag sasalita na ng hindi maganda yon, minsan sa inis nya nasabi nya sa ken oo nga pagkagaling galing mo kase kaya sobrang talino mo wala kang trabaho. grabe, samantalang siya naman ang nagkukwento sa akin ng issue about sa kanila syempre ang sasagutin ko lang kung ano ang side ko about that. putcha minsan hindi na lang ako nag cocomment pag hindi naman ako nagsalita sasabihin wala akong paki alam, hay buhay!..

pagdating naman sa mga anak ng kapatid nya panay pinapagalitan yung mga kapatid when it comes sa upbringing sa bata kesyo daw payat, mahina sa pag aaral,lahat na lang pinansin.. sasabihin ko naman bat ba lahat pinapakialaman mo, hayaan mo yung magulang ang magapalaki tiyuhin ka lang may magulang yan.. sinasabihan pa ko ni hubby na pati pamangkin nya pinag seselosan mo... buset talaga ay talagang napapamura ako sa inis anong klaseng kaisipan yun?

hindi ko malaman kung paano ba yong ggawin ko sa kanya when it comes to this issue, pag naman nagpakita ako ng concern sa mga in laws nako asahan mo ubos ang budget namin, kasi dun aaryahan nya ko ng pambili ng ganto may sakit si ganyan.

ewan ko ba. minsan ayaw ko ng mag comment pero pag hindi ako nag comment madalas napapansin ko si hubby nauuto nila. at tuwing uuwi na lang si hubby sa kanila panay na lang problema problema wala kang nabalitaan na masaya panay na lang miserable.

minsan naiisip ko tuloy ano ba naman itong napasukan kong pamilya, nag asawa nga ako pero ang tinde ng package deal nya. at kung alam ko lang na gantong klase ng pamilya mayroon ang papakasalan ko hay nako, hindi na bale, kahit mahal ko sha di bale na lang..

kaya pag si hubby nag paalam na lilipat muna sa kanila ang sagot ko lang "magdala kang kumot di kasya ang panyo pag nagkaiyakan kayo alam mo na, your FAMILY = drama drama drama!"

xyrelle_star

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« Reply #112 on: May 15, 2011, 01:56:36 pm »
@ysa.belle... thanks for the reply...
everything you said is correct... actually I already talked to him regarding that a lot of times...
told him to set his priorities right... he couldn't seem to understand my point...
for him, I am being selfish...
there was even a time when I wasn't able to hold my temper any longer... out of frustration and anger I told him that I think it would have been better if we haven't gotten married so that I won't expect too much from him... no expectations that he'll support me financially...

and by the way, I forgot to mention that he's about to process his US working visa... for his cruise ship employment... and unfortunately, we also do not have any budget for that... but he still has no effort to save for those expenses...

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« Reply #113 on: May 16, 2011, 07:25:55 am »

I told him that i knew he was having an affair with someonelse, ang mahirap tanggapin nag do sila & sort of nahawa yata si hubby sa girl though im not sure. One time kasi nabasa ko text ng husband ko sa friend niyang doctor na he was experiencing pain kapag naihi siya & inamin niya sa friend niya na nakalimutan niya daw magkapote.
He's friend gave him 2 medicine to drink & told him na wag makipag do sakin kasi baka mahawa me magulat nalang ako may ganun me. but during the confrontation my gAsssss idinedeny pah kamusta ka naman, never daw siya nakipag do sa iba. He was flirting daw yun daw hinde niya madedeny.

pretty_lexie,

One major concern.  If your hubby really has infection, it is not good that he took only 2 medicines one time.  Antibiotics are taken over at least one week - and in cases of STD, there is a follow up check up to ensure that the infecting agent (bacteria, virus, fungi or whatever) have been eradicated.

And, it is not as if one can just take any kind of medicine (presumably antibiotic) without checking what kind of infection he acquired.  STD is not something one "self-medicates."

What happens if one self-medicates?  The infecting agent can get resistant to the medicines one takes, and the infection can "dwell" in the recesses of the prostate, even as the symptoms felt by the male "disappears."  The risk is that those infecting agents can be "released" to you later on - and you then will also get infected.

Bottomline, your husband should best go see a urologist or better, an STD specialist, so that the correct medicine is prescribed.  And he MUST take the prescribed medicine according to the directions.  Also, that is true - he should refrain from making love with you while he is being treated, and he should do so only when the doctor pronounces him clear of the infection.  That precaution is not only for you.  It is also for your future reproductive health, and for the child/children he may be beget.  STD does cause abortion/miscarriage, most of the time.

Mommy Fe

fegloria1954

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« Reply #114 on: May 16, 2011, 07:40:38 am »
^ sorry was all he said, sis? kakainis naman yan. after an infidelity yan lang masasabi nya?


I too think "sorry" is not enough.  Learn why:
http://hubpages.com/hub/When-Sorry-is-not-Enough
http://www.relationshipmatters.com/index.php?/archives/3208-Why-saying-Im-sorry-is-not-enough.html

Mommy Fe



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« Reply #115 on: May 17, 2011, 01:56:10 am »
im a housewife and hubby is working abroad , childless. bakit ganun each time na sasabihin kong parang i feel so tired ,  pag nag aaway kami pag may demand sha na hindi nagawa at sinabi kong napapagod din ako.  ang laging sagot ni hubby san ka napagod? wala ka namang ginagawa napapagod ka? pag may sakit naman, bakit nagkakasakit ka pa eh dito ka lang sa bahay?

bakit ganun mga sis pag ba walang work at taong bahay lang walang karapatang magkasakit at mapagod?

i feel so down. hirap ng dependent lang.

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« Reply #116 on: May 17, 2011, 10:00:36 am »
@ sis boavista, naku nakaka-relate ako sa sitwasyon mo.  ganun din si husband ko, sabi ko nga sa kanya.  ganun din ang feeling ko sis na pag-housewife lang parang maliit ang tingin at parang less yung respect.  di lang ako sure kung ganun talaga tingin nya sa akin pero sa nakikita ko, parang ganun na eh.  pagnagkasakit ako, tinatanong pa nya kung bakit ako nagkasakit, saan ko daw nakuha yun at parang nai-irritate pa pagdumadaing ako.  at pag may nasira na mga appliances sa bahay parang ako ang may kasalanan at sasabihin pa na di daw kasi ako marunong mag-alaga ng gamit.  at pagmay bagong bili na appliances sasabihin pa na o sirain nyo na naman yan ha.  pagnagkasakit ang mga bata parang ako ang may kasalanan.  nung na-dengue ang anak ko galit na galit sya sa maid at sa akin, san daw ba sya nakagat ng lamok at bakit daw nakagat ng lamok na may dengue.  hello pano ko masasagot yun?

minsan naiisip ko na kung may trabaho lang sana ako baka di sya ganito sa akin.  pero sya naman ang may gusto na nasa bahay lang ako eh.  bago kami mag-aswa yun na ang sabi nya sa akin  na sya bahala sa finances, ako naman bahala sa bahay.  good provider si hubby pero ewan ko parang may kulang.  di naman sya madamot pero di ko pa rin mabili ang mga gusto ko kasi nag-aalangan din ako baka sabihin nya maluho ako.  nung sinabi ko na bored na bored na ako sa bahay, nag-isip sya nag business para may mapaglibangan ako.  ok naman yung business namin, nasa exporting business, nakapangalan sakin ang permit pero parang di naman ako kasali.  nasa loob lang din ng compound ang facility namin pero di ako pwede basta-bastang makipag-usap sa mga tauhan namin  kasi nag-hire din sya ng magma-manage, kasi wala syang tiwala sa akin at sa kakayahan ko.

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« Reply #117 on: May 18, 2011, 04:27:12 am »
@boaVista- sis ke me work ka o wala pareho din. paano ko nasabi? nasa malayo din ang asawa ko at kada tatawag siya, napakadami niyang ipinapagawa. dapat ganito, dapat ganun. nalimutan yata niya na bukod sa pagiging nanay empleyado din ako. Napaka-insensitive niya. Hindi naman ako si "superwoman" . alam mo sis, me pinagdaraanan buhay me asawa ko ngayon. mahirap at masakit. Lagi lang bumabalik sa isipan ko, na hindi niya nakita yung value ko pero me mga anak na kami.

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« Reply #118 on: May 18, 2011, 08:57:32 pm »
im a housewife and hubby is working abroad , childless. bakit ganun each time na sasabihin kong parang i feel so tired ,  pag nag aaway kami pag may demand sha na hindi nagawa at sinabi kong napapagod din ako.  ang laging sagot ni hubby san ka napagod? wala ka namang ginagawa napapagod ka? pag may sakit naman, bakit nagkakasakit ka pa eh dito ka lang sa bahay?

bakit ganun mga sis pag ba walang work at taong bahay lang walang karapatang magkasakit at mapagod?

i feel so down. hirap ng dependent lang.

sis i feel for you. same tayo dependent din  ako sa husband ko sya naman may gusto na di ako mag work gusto nya full attention ko sa kanya at dapat sundin ko din lahat ng gusto nya. ang hirap sis ng naexperience  ko sa kanya nung nasa poder nya ako.  porque sya ang gumagastos dapat sundin ko lahat ng gusto nya wala akong pwedeng ireklamo. pero im lucky kasi nakaalis na ako sa poder nya now masaya na ako.

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« Reply #119 on: May 19, 2011, 09:11:51 am »
Hindi ko makita yung thread na sakto for my problem/concern kaya dito ko na lang post.
been a couple for 4 years before getting married we’re now happily married for 2 years and counting.
Una pa lang alam ko na package deal pag pinakasalan ko si hubby kasi may anak na sya sa exlive in partner nya. Nung time na yun 9 months pa lang yung bata now magseseven na sya living with us.
since nagkahiwalay sila nasakanya na ang bata hindi din naman capable yung girl na palakihin yung bata due to financial problem. Nagkasama na rin kami nung bata since then nakilala nya ko pero nung una ilag sya saken kasi hindi nya pa ko kilala , as time pass by nakilala nya na rin ako at sumasama na rin saken yung bata. Bata pa lang sya nakitaan ko na ng kamalditahan o dala lang ng bata pa kasi? Nangungurot kasi sya mantakin mo kahit baby pa lang. o naisip ko rin kasi hindi kami ganun kaclose hindi kagaya ng papa nya. Sabi ko noon siguro matutunan ko din mahalin pag kinasal na kami ng hubby ko. Kahit nagpunta na ako ng abroad for 2 years kilala nya pa rin ako from term of endearment na tawag nya saken kasi ganun din tawag ni hubby. Ngayon mama na ang tawag nya saken.

May time na mabait yung bata lalo na pag kami lang dalawa. Pero pag kasama ang papa o kaya lola nya iba ang kulit nya which is hate na hate ko. Kasi pag kami lang madali sya sumunod. Nung 4 years old sya nagkasama na ulit kami kasi nakauwi na ako from abroad. After a few months nagpakasal na din kami ng hubby ko. Dito na nagstart kalbaryo ko kasi ayoko sa bata. Napansin na rin ng asawa ko na parang ayaw ko sa anak nya dinahilan ko na lang na siguro dahil sa pagbubuntis ko.  Nakatira kami sa mommy nya nun tapos nagwowork pa ko si hubby during that time panggabi kaya ako at yung bata lang ang naiiwan sa kwarto. Pero madalas ako patulog na sya paikot ikot pa sa bahay. Nandung labas masok sa kwarto eh ang ingay ng kalabog ng pinto Kaya ang ginagawa ko nilolock ko yung pinto para hindi sya makapasok ending dun sya sa lola nya matutulog , sabi tuloy ng byenan ko sa hubby ko bat ko daw pinagsasaran ko yung bata. Eh sabi ko nabubulabog pagtulog ko eh maaga pa pasok ko. Ni tabihan sya hindi ko magawa, pag natetyempo na magkasama kami matulog sa kwarto nasa kabilang side sya ganun din ako sa kabilang side. Pag naman natulog kami ng magkakasama lagi nasa gitna si hubby para hindi ko sya katabi. Hanggang sa lumaki ang tyan ko one time sa kaharutan ng bata na hindi naman sinasadya nadaganan yung tyan ko. Tinakbo agad ako ni hubby sa hospital at nagpaXray kasi sumakit yung tyan ko at baka kung napano na ang baby. Malapit ang bata sa papa nya at lola kasi sa kanila lumaki at iba rin naman talaga pagmamahal ng hubby ko sa kanya kung maglambingan. Kaya nga naisip ko noon baka pag lumabas si baby ko hindi sya pansinin ng lola,3 tito,at mga pinsan ng hubby ko. Well nagkamali ako dun kasi love na love nila yung anak ko.

Until now kasama pa din namen sya ang hindi ko lang maintindihan sa sarili kung bakit hindi ko sya mafeel na anak ko talaga . pero gusto ko isipin at maramdaman na anak ko sya kaya lang may mga times na naiinis ako sa kanya . ni ayaw ko na katabi sya sa pagtulog kasi hindi ko gusto yung amoy nya. Alam mo yung kahit naman hayop pag hindi amoy ng anak nila ayaw nila. pero pag yung anak ko bangong bangong ako. Niyayakap ko yung bata oo pero hindi kagaya ng yakap ko sa anak ko. Lagi ako galit sa kanya lalo na pag nagaaway sila ng anak ko . pero syempre pinapakita ko rin sa bata na pinapagalitan ko yung anak ko pag alam ko mali yung anak ko para malaman nya na I care pa rin.
Kasi alam ko naman panghabangbuhay na to kaya hanggat kaya ko pagaaralan ko sya mahalin at respetuhin.

Ang gusto ko lang talaga maalis saken yung pagiging masungit sa kanya. Mas lumalala pa pag nandyan yung hubby ko. Kung pede lang tanggalin ang ganitong nararamdaman o kaya sana naging anak ko na lang sya talaga para mas madali saken ang mahalin sya. Feeling ko lang ha mas mahal ng asawa ko yung bata kesa sa anak ko kasi kagabi lang pinalo nya yung anak ko samantalang yung bata hindi nya basta basta mapalo unless talagang malaki ang kasalanan. Medyo madalas mangyari yun kaya mas malapit saken ang anak ko. Pero naglalambing din naman si hubby sa anak ko kaya lang kung titimbangin talaga mas malapit saken anak ko.

Venting out lang. wala rin naman kasi ako mapagsabihan ng ganitong nararamdaman ko. Malapit na umuwi lola ng bata from abroad ayoko sana maisip ng bata na iba sya saken gusto ko maisip nya na mahal ko sya kaya hanggat kaya ko pag mali sya nagawa pinapaliwanag ko sakanya at sinisiguro ko na naiintindihan nya so far wala pa naman ako nababalitaan na nagsusumbong sya. Pero pag yung naiinis na ko kahit tignan sya ayoko bat kaya ganun.

Hay sana saken na lang sya lumabas para walang problema.

 

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