After discovering that he cheated, how did u move on? ok pa kayo or hindi na?

[glamorosa_09]

Hmm... just be on guard sis... Ikaw na nagsabi na you saw symptoms on him. And if you and I assumed it right, then, he knows what is expected of him, what to act, and how to gain your trust. Kaya may mga magagaling na con men di ba. In marriage, ibang klaseng con men lang. Well, you can observe him and your marriage until such time comes when you're finally convinced that he couldn't change. Or may milagro. Mababawasan nga lang yung oras mo to start anew the longer you wait for him to change. But then again, it's up to you.

[naizlabonita]

Hmm... just be on guard sis... Ikaw na nagsabi na you saw symptoms on him. And if you and I assumed it right, then, he knows what is expected of him, what to act, and how to gain your trust. Kaya may mga magagaling na con men di ba. In marriage, ibang klaseng con men lang. Well, you can observe him and your marriage until such time comes when you're finally convinced that he couldn't change. Or may milagro. Mababawasan nga lang yung oras mo to start anew the longer you wait for him to change. But then again, it's up to you.

Yes sis oo actually yan din iniisip ko minsan baka ngayon lang to then kapag humupa na yung tension at medyo naka move on na ko sa nangyare eh baka magsimula na naman siya ng kalokohan. Don't worry sis, hindi pa kame kasal..live in lang so talagang I can go whenever I wanted.
I used to think na change person na siya pero hindi pala all along diba. So totoo talaga eh..you cannot change a person..change must start within him because he has his own issues and insecurities na lalo lang nyang pinapalala sa mga pinaggagawa nya dati.
Hay.. Im still keeping my fingers crossed. There's always that final straw.

[Ms. Undecided]

Sabi nila, karamihan sa tao hindi naman talaga nagbabago, lumalabas lang ang tunay na ugali 

[undecided2]

^ tingin ko may symptoms na iyan, makikita mo kaso we sometimes ignore the symptoms thinking na wala Yun.

I remember ex ko, nung di pa kami kasal, mabait naman sya sakin at maalagain. But I wasn't observant on how he treats other people.

Yes i agree sayo sis Girltalker2, ganyan din ako my mga signs na minsan parang sadya na nagbibigay saken ng clue pero na ignore ko lang sa sobrang laki ng trust ko sa hubby ko na deadma ko lang mga binibigay saken or pinaparamdam saken ng universe na mga signs. Haaay minsan naiisip ko yon mga yon kung maibabalik ko lang edi sana mas maaga ko nalaman.

True nga yon pag kinutuban tayo eh my something nga.

[naizlabonita]

Yes i agree sayo sis Girltalker2, ganyan din ako my mga signs na minsan parang sadya na nagbibigay saken ng clue pero na ignore ko lang sa sobrang laki ng trust ko sa hubby ko na deadma ko lang mga binibigay saken or pinaparamdam saken ng universe na mga signs. Haaay minsan naiisip ko yon mga yon kung maibabalik ko lang edi sana mas maaga ko nalaman.

True nga yon pag kinutuban tayo eh my something nga.

Totoo nga sis yung mga kutob. Saka yung mga secrets talagang lalabas at lalabas..Hindi sila forever naitatago. Should I have known this as well before kame nagka baby edi sana nagtatravel ako ngayon at burado na siya sa buhay ko.

[Ann_2128]

ako nga, feeling ko ako na ang pinakata**ga nilalang sa mundo. Sa kagustuhan kong ayusin ang relasyon naming mag asawa, pinatawad ko sya at pilit kinalimutan ang lahat. Clean slate.. balik sa dati, pati tiwala binalik. Ayun 2 weeks lang ang pinalipas, balik sa dating gawi.. may mga signs at kutob pero deadma ako kasi walang concrete evidence..baka pag awayan namin..e inaayos pa namin ang nasirang relasyon yun pala.. balik sa dating gawi..

Ngayon, nagmamadali na naman syang ibalik ang dati at talagang magbabago na daw sya.. sorry pero pag hirapan muna nya. sabi ko nga sa kanya para syang yung bata  sa kwento ng " A boy who cried wolf", wala ng naniniwala kahit nagsasabi ng totoo...

[naizlabonita]

@ann_2128 correct sis. After discovering that he cheated.. Pinaka mahirap gawin uli ay ang pagtitiwala..kahit ano sabihin o gawin nya parang wala na katotohanan unless my proof. Ganyan din sakin pero so far yung partner ko mukang behave na siya. Sana magtuloy tuloy.

[Hannya00]

Super agree sa inyo mga sis. I recently found out my hubby was cheating and nung umamin sya tsaka ko lang narealize lahat ng mga kutob ko. Super naive kasi ako and very trusting na he would never do that to me pero mali pala ako. Ngayon im super broken. Gusto ko maging maayos kme ulit to the point na im trying to forget everything kahit super sakit. Kaya lang sya yung ayaw magcommit to fix everything. Dati pag nakakarinig ako ng same story advice ko lagi leave him pero iba pala pag ikaw yung nasa situation and you still love the person

[mommycastle]

Hi ladies!
Sobrang hirap talaga nito. I think this is one of the hardest experiences in our lives as a woman. When the love of our lives betrayed us. I hope I can help you guys! Hugs!

1.   Ask him. I know it might be hard to talk with your husband after the affair. But this is also a good time to catch up with each other. Be prepared for whatever he will and how he answers your questions.

2.   Be calm. I know, some of us cannot be calm at a time like this, I mean who can be? This would be very hard emotionally to control your anger towards him.

3.   Right time to talk. You need to know the right time for the both of you to discuss this sensitive matter. This will not be easy for both parties but you need to undergo this process.

4.   It does affect you. Let him know that this problem affected you so much, that you can?t even concentrate with your job or with your kids.

5.   Do not give in easily. I know that you really loved him that you want to give him the second chance he deserves.

6.   Support. Some of us might not consider this since they are embarrassed that their partner cheated on them. But you need to keep this in mind, you are not alone and there?s someone that will help you to heal.

hugs!

https://mommycastle.wordpress.com/2017/07/21/first-blog-post/

[Ms. Undecided]

^ tingin ko may symptoms na iyan, makikita mo kaso we sometimes ignore the symptoms thinking na wala Yun.

Sorry but i want to share this, OT siya, natatawa lang ako sa anak ng boss ko nung nakita niyang nagbabasa ako dito (lalaki siya) itong comment mo ang nabasa niya, sabi niya, "symptoms? ano yan sakit? If symptoms persist, consult your doctor"

Hahahah sorry natawa lang talaga ko sa kanya xD

[glamorosa_09]

Just wanted to share...

Ngayon ko lang nakita sa viber, meron pala itong secret chat. It has:
-self-destruct timer
-screen shot alerts
-message forwarding protection
-viber's end-to-end encryption.

Nakakainis lang when you look at it in the context of cheating. Parang may pagka enabler ang dating. But on the other hand, helpful din naman in some instances like kung may asawa kang ina-isolate ka from social world. Anyway, pag gusto naman i-maintain ang affair, maraming paraan, pwedeng galingan. But still, viber's secret chat seems like a good cheating tool.

[mysterioza_me]

Meron din niyan sa fb messenger

[Ms. Undecided]

yes sa messenger meron din pero paano ba gamitin yun? di ko gets yung secret convo na yun eh para ma-check ko yung kay bf hehe

[glamorosa_09]

Oo nga noh, meron sa fb messenger... Para san ba yan? Emotional affairs via social media is becoming common nowadays. It's like it's easier to hide emotional affairs through these features.

In two instances, isang post galing dito and a client who messaged me, nakita nung innocent spouses yung pagkoconfide ng partners nila sa  friend of the opposite sex. Before it grows into a full blown affair, at least naagapan.

I haven't tried using it. Pero sa viber i-se set mo yata yung timer. I'm assuming na pag si-net mo ng 5 minutes yung timer, automatically madedelete yung chat thread.

[mysterioza_me]

^meron din ganyan feature yung sa fb messenger, na-autoautodelete ang message once na ma-"seen" na depende sa na-set mo na time na ma-auto delete siya. Kunwari you set it for 10sec so 10sec after ma-view ang message kusa na ma-delete.

[shinies]

Oo meron nga iyan mga ilang buwan na.. Sinubukan ko gamitin para malaman ko paano gumagana at paano inavigate.

Tama, nakakapikon na enabler yan ng mga may tinatago sa mga asawa nila. Bakit kasi kailangan gumawa pa ng secret chats? pero yun nga.. Pag gusto may paraan!

Pero kung may kilala kayong magaling magcode, kaya pa din masilip

[naizlabonita]

ginawa yan ng partner ko. He tried to make his viber convo with a girl na taga spa na secret message with password. Eh isang try lang na open ko aga, paano kasi anniversary namen yung password.  Matalino na sana siya eh.

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

^ awts anong klase convo nila Sis? Flirting? Kaloka naman tong FB at Viber, tsk tsk. Tool for cheating to.

[naizlabonita]

^ awts anong klase convo nila Sis? Flirting? Kaloka naman tong FB at Viber, tsk tsk. Tool for cheating to.

Nagtatanong kung magduduty daw ba si girl sa spa at kung pwede si girl outside ng spa. Si girl naman walang ka amor amor sumagot... talagang client ang tingin kay partner ko. Nilamon na ng pera si ateng. Nilamon naman ng laman si partner. hahaha

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

^^ woah ano nangyari Sis? I assume major warla? Kaloka!!! Buti nalang di patola si Ate Spa.