GT with Foreigner Hubby/Fiance/Boyfriend thread 2

[badmonkey]

Madami na din akong nakilala na nagkakilala thru online chatting and ended up happy together. Meron din naman naging friends lang. Just be careful. Remember: It's easy to type anything you want and act it.

Now, it's my turn to ask for advice. I need help. Di ko ma-decode itong Turkish guy na dine-date ko. We went out for three dates na pero until now wala pa din "sweet" moments even sa email/text/chat.

Nagkakilala kami online and talked thru email several days before kami nagdecide magkita. Nung nagkita na kami, email pa din ang form of communication namin.

Ok naman kami and he said na na-eenjoy nya ang time nya with me. Ang dami din nyang sinasuggest na things that the two of us can do. Kaya lang, wala pa din signs na it will lead to something.

I really like him and hoping na sana sya na para sa akin. Kaya lang kinakabahan naman ako kase since wala lang commitment, anytime, pwede syang mawala.

Nga pala, sabi nya, ang dami daw Pinay na nag-eemail sa kanya sa "dating website" kung saan kami nagkakilala. So reminder na din ito for everyone na may kachat lang at hindi pa talaga nagkikita. Imagine kung gaano kadaming aggressive girls ang pwede nilang ma-encounter at maging ka-kumpitensya natin.

[pandorabattery]

Madami na din akong nakilala na nagkakilala thru online chatting and ended up happy together. Meron din naman naging friends lang. Just be careful. Remember: It's easy to type anything you want and act it.

Now, it's my turn to ask for advice. I need help. Di ko ma-decode itong Turkish guy na dine-date ko. We went out for three dates na pero until now wala pa din "sweet" moments even sa email/text/chat.

Nagkakilala kami online and talked thru email several days before kami nagdecide magkita. Nung nagkita na kami, email pa din ang form of communication namin.

Ok naman kami and he said na na-eenjoy nya ang time nya with me. Ang dami din nyang sinasuggest na things that the two of us can do. Kaya lang, wala pa din signs na it will lead to something.

I really like him and hoping na sana sya na para sa akin. Kaya lang kinakabahan naman ako kase since wala lang commitment, anytime, pwede syang mawala.

Nga pala, sabi nya, ang dami daw Pinay na nag-eemail sa kanya sa "dating website" kung saan kami nagkakilala. So reminder na din ito for everyone na may kachat lang at hindi pa talaga nagkikita. Imagine kung gaano kadaming aggressive girls ang pwede nilang ma-encounter at maging ka-kumpitensya natin.

i think he's taking his time sis. baka hindi lang ikaw ang minimit nyan.. bka hes seeing others den. tpos mamimili n [textspeak!] sya. try asking him kaya?

[bluegintonic]

I'm married to one (Lebanese) -we didn't meet online, hindi rin ako nang hunting online.truth be told, wal naman gaanong difference.men will be men no matter what nationality they are.kung ano ang weakness ng pinoy yun din naman ang sa ibang lahi-may variation of some sorts (individual choices) pero all in all I'd say pareho lang lahat ng lalake!

[little_princess]

^ oo nga naman, like i always say, whatever race a person is, if they will hurt you, they will.

i had a year and a half relationship with an american but it didn't work out. now i am in a new relationship with a british guy based in manila and i am more careful with this after my previous experience.

he's very sweet but then he's not ma-call or text which is ok with me. the only problem is my family which is against me have a relationship with someone not from my race

[^Vain_Chiq^]

Naku sis wag mong problemahin ang pamilya mo.Ang importante is mahal nyo isa't isa and race doesnt matter.Hindi naman sila ang makikisama kundi ikaw.

[little_princess]

^ sis, i hope it's that easy they are against interracial relationships from the very beginning tapos my ex left me pa so they are very traumatized and much more against it now.

we might be together a short time pa lang but he is really special and i can see he is making effort to be a good boyfriend. he's wonderful and we are very open to each other

[empress]

bf & i are on our 6th month together -- LDR. up to now, his folks doesn't know he has a gf. he's trying to fix his divorce & it'll be finalized this june. he's singaporean chinese & im afraid his folks wont agree of him having a filipino gf. when will be the right time (if i were the guy) to let your folks know about your gf? after the finalization of his divorce or as early as now?

[lainelf]

There isnt a right or wrong time. Things have to be discussed and mutual. Both of you have your concerns and worries. Let him worry about the "folks agreeing part" later. It's his battle if it comes to that but it wont help if the battle comes up and he still has the other battles to finish.

Of course both of you have to talk about it and discuss. =)

[shahram2010]

weeeeeeeeeewwww...wala na pla yung isang thread...

anyways, online dating? im into that thing too, though im not taking it seriously, for fun lang (curiousity)..but i didnt met my foreign bf through online dating..we met in a very special place
me and my best friend/ cousin were having a vacation that time and he's with his friends having vacation din..parang destiny talaga

anyways we are together for more than a year now..he's staying here but he plans to move to Australia soon to take medicine (he really wants to be a doctor). di ko nman sya pinipigalan coz i also want him to succeed, and if kami talaga e di kami..

and the thing that I am most  happy about is that i already met his mom LOL..she really likes me and she's sooo nice and sweet..pinag handaan nya pa talaga ang pagdating ko kung ano ano niluto...and bf told me na his mom always talk about me simula nung nakilala ako..and his mom even told him that i am better that his gf's that he introduced before.. LOL..

i thought his mom is suplada kc her face looks suplada talaga nung nakita ko sa picture..hindi pla kinabahan pa ako LOL
at mejo nailang din ako nung pinakilala ako kasi as what i have known conservative type sila..baka di ako type


soooo happy

[bluegintonic]

Be careful with caucasian men-most of them lalo't based sa manila alam nila marami silang pagpipilian! wag kayo basta basta mai-impress sa kanila-a lot of the know they're easy and prime pickings sa Pinas.

Para sa akin, maswerte lang ako kasi ang Lebanese hubby ko ang ugali parang Pinoy.Karamihan , puro pabling lalo't alam nila froma "dating" site kayo nakilala-you have a need more than they have.Kumbaga hindi naman sila ganun ka-t****.Mahirap makisama (ako nga til now di ko kasundo inlaws ko-buti na lang they're back in Beirut samantalang kami eh nasa SG) lalo alam nila na may "need" ang babae for a foreigner husband/bf.

Ang ikinaiinis ko lang, pag foreigner ang guy, akala ng karamihan eh mayaman na! so wrong! nagtratrabaho din mga yan, pinaghihirapan din yung pera at di pinupulot.So kung akala niyo lahat ng foreigner eh galante, think again.Karamihan po sa expat community mga puti ang mabilang sa gastusin (based on what I see naman sa community namin) ultimo per hour parking pagkukuriputan nila.

Beware din sa mga puti na ang social life eh walang ibang inikutan kundi bar/resto...ito yung mga boring kind.

[shahram2010]

^ yeah i agree with u sis..[textspeak!] din akong bilib sa mga foreigner na ganyan..my bf i not american or british, i can say na he's different from the others..yung sa online most of them are just looking for sex and fun lang..and mga easy go lucky..gusto lang puro happy happy and serious..

at agree din ako na hindi lahat ng foreigner mayaman..mga filipino kasi kung mkpag isip..hahaha..at ang masaklap pa dun pag foreigner hubby or bf mo madumi mga isip nila..kaasar..buti nlang bf matanda lang ng 5 years sakn..lol..

[little_princess]

valid points but then i guess it will all boil down with who the woman is - is she respectable? is she financially secure or can equal the man? etc etc..

if the girls can't decode who is a douche bag or not then she's gona be taken for a ride. most foreigners are pretty blunt and will tell you what they want in a relationship. or be smart enough to know what is a hook up or not. same as any other man.

though feeling change over time in any relationship and it is up to the couple if they are willing to work on it.

[lisse]

Hi all,

makikisali na din. I agree na maging maingat in dealing with these men especially online, kasi you can never tell unless you've seen how the person is really like. i have nothing against interracial relationships; matter of fact, i'm married to an American. i didn't plan nor expected na ill be married to one. it just so happen na na-inlove kami e, hehe! anyway, some helpful tips and advices lang:
1. if the guy show the willingness to go the extra mile for you, that's a good indication na you mean a lot to him. let him come and visit you. if he's interested to meet your family and friends, let him.
2. know and meet his family and friends din, kahit online lang. the way he treats the women in his family is also a good indicator if you got yourself a keeper.
3. does he have a life outside the PC, or does he spend most of his time online? does he have a good job, does he have healthy habits, or does he frequent bars?
4. know his neighbors, or his friends who live nearby. not that you're being snoopy or like stalking him but a few conversation with his neighbors will definitely help in verifying what he tells you. baka mamaya nyan, may ka-live in pala sya, or na-convict na before or what, yung mga ganon
5. and lastly, it takes time talaga. let yourself be engaged with him for at least 6 months. i have to admit na niligawan lang ako ni hubby for a few weeks, pero our relationship lasted for over a year, and we we're engaged for 7 months before we finally decided to tie the knot. i do believe in love at first sight, but keeping that love real won't happen overnight. 

[cruelgirl]

Ang masasabi ko lang, once you start going out with a foreigner make sure na close na lahat ng dating sites nya. At siempre dapat yung sa inyo closed na din. Pag hindi ka na nagdemand, iisipin nila ok lang yan. Pero wag naman masyadong demanding at clingy. They value their own space but they also value girls who respect themselves.

Make yourself pretty dahil madaming kontrabida. Lalo na kung bata pa yung partner nyo. Kahit nga matatanda na hinahabol pa din ng mga babae dito because some girls look at foreigners as walking visas and wallets.

Don't lie. A big percentage of foreigners have been scammed already kaya sensitive sila pagdating sa ganyang bagay.

You will know he's serious with you pag pinakilala ka na niya sa parents nya.

[greenwidow63]

Hi GTs pajoin. I'm new here

Ako i will try palang to chat/do online dating. Am freaking scared baka kasi may mga identity thieves or it will harm me one way or the other. I'm a widower actually for almost 2 years and yun nga gusto ko lang din i-try to meet or get into a relationship with a foreign guy.

[^Vain_Chiq^]

Make yourself pretty dahil madaming kontrabida. Lalo na kung bata pa yung partner nyo. Kahit nga matatanda na hinahabol pa din ng mga babae dito because some girls look at foreigners as walking visas and wallets.

Very true ito sis.Lalo na yung sa akin bata pa,mid 30's pa lang.Aba ang mga babae kinikilig,lalo na yung mga saleslady sa mall.Eh ako kebs lang naman kasi alam ko ako lang naman ang labs nya. Pero like what you also said,make sure na parehong closed na account nyo sa dating sites coz madami talagang girls na magsesend ng interest at email sa kanila pinay man o hindi.

Downside of having a foreign bf?Wala pa kasi akong car sa pinas so everytime we just take a cab.Ang mga pasaway and mapagsamantalang taxi driver lagi kaming tinataga sa presyo!Pag sinabi mo na metro lang hindi ka isasakay or dadramahan ka na kesyo dagdagan mo kasi ganito ganyan kesyo traffic etc.Hayyy..mga pinoy nga naman...

[little_princess]

^ sis, my bf naman is the same age as in.. we're both late 20's and he's baby face so girls really LOOK. When we go clubbing, he doesn't want to leave my side.. takot sa mga ibang girls 

taxi cabs are always a hassle but its good to know your way around. we always insist on a meter and teach the cab driver the way. i don't drive and i can't use our car/driver or my friends aren't always with us.. so we always have a number on hand of a taxi pick up service.

i guess you can never be sure if you met the guy online. make sure you verify the facts and make sure he isn't doing any hanky panky. i didn't meet mine online and he lives here so i'm a little less paranoid careful lang mga sis who are looking for love online

[Starlust]

^^ Mine's 2 years younger than me (I'm 30) pero we look almost the same.

I agree with the cab thing! It's so disgusting how cab drivers try to jack up the prices or give an insanely high rate when we take cabs.

[little_princess]

any manila based couples?

[Starlust]

^little_princess: kami, we're based in Manila