pag wala ba suitor ang isang girl, ibig sabihin pangit siya?

[zea]

when i was in elem and hs feeling ko lagi ako pinagtatawanan because of my maalabunot na hair and im maitim and payat. that time i always pray to God na sana man lang may manligaw sa kin ng personal lagi kasi sa text lang. then when i reached fourth yr college medyo nagimprove na itsura ko dun pa lang may nanligaw sa akin and he's my current bf. pangit pa rin naman ako pero naging palaayos lang ako ng konti.

[meisaia]

nung nag-iemote ako sa hs friends ko nuon dahil halos lahat sila ay may manliligaw na, hindi ko tinanong kung...

"panget ba ako?"

mas tinanong ko pa ata yung, "guys, masama ba ugali ko? masama ba akong tao?"

wahahahahahahaha

hindi kasi ako nag-aayos nuon. nung tumungtong ako ng college, ang regalo ng mama ko sakin ay suklay, lipstick at face powder imbes na cellphone. para bang pasimple niyang sinasabi sa akin na, "anak mag-ayos ka naman." haha

wala lang, naalala ko lang. naligawan naman ako nung hs after ilang months. yun nga lang hindi pa ko ready makipagrelasyon. saka masyado pa akong busy sa mga crush ko na hindi naman napapasakin. *sigh*

[chin_squared]

It probably means guys are either uninterested or initimidated. I know a lot of girls who don't get courted much because guys are "afraid" of them, not because they're unattractive. Basta keep your standards, wag lang maging unrealistic.

Sana may school for flirting. Hahaha! That's the one thing I can't do!

[Jon24]

^Agree. Or it may be that you're too attractive or too smart that it scares us away. Either that, or the confidence of guys around you isn't enough. In such a case, you should expose yourself to extended circles of friends. You might think it's unfair or unfortunate on your part. Oh you just don't know how deep our sighs are . lol.

[ninaceline]

not true! dahil hindi naman ako pangit!pero konti lang nanligaw sakin compared so "for me" not so pretty na friends ko. lol.. haha

i read an article somewhere, drop-dead gorgeous girls don't have suitors coz they're too high-end. that guys are "intimidated" or girls possess this "just friends" aura.

[hisana]

Yeah, my bf explained that a guy usually goes for the best girl na tingin nya na may chance sya, so I guess it does all boil down to confidence.

[ravena]

paano kung Tibo yung girl? ligawin pa din ba siya kahit over ang kaniyang kagandahan? hehe.

[OD]

^ Nakakatawa ka naman, CutiePatootie. 

Anyway, may discussion kami ng kaibigan ko tungkol sa pagiging madaling ma-intimidate ng mga lalaki. Meron siyang ni-quote:

‎"If the girl is unique, it means they have a strong personality. Filipino men cannot handle girls with strong personality. ... Filipino men like uninteresting girls because they are intimidated by anything they can't control."

Syempre hindi naman pwedeng mag-generalize kasi hindi naman lahat madaling ma-intimidate sa mga babaeng malakas ang personality pero meron talagang katotohanan yang statement na yan (IMO).

I could name a dozen reasons as to why a girl is not being courted in much the same way that I could give the same amount of reasons as to why a girl need not fret about not getting butterflies in her stomach. But it majorly boils to the same rationale as above, or the other which is that the guy is just plainly uninterested.

Ive this friend, very smart and well she is certainly no mantrap but she could surely draw glances from the male brood especially when she spruces herelf up. A guy friend spotted her photo and have seen her once, I think. And this guy really got interested only to be disheartened the moment he was told this," Yeah, ok yun si ***. Talino nga nun, topnotcher namin yon. Ang kinis pa no." To which he retorted, "ay parang ayoko na, baka wala or maubusan ako ng sasabihin sa kanya." And Ive noticed as well when we used to hang out together as a group and when she gets to meet other guys, some brazen ones would try to hit on her but once they hear her speak, the guys were literally in awe. It's like their tails automatically drift between their legs. And the guy/s cant just help but nod(with a sneer) to whatever she blabs abt in agreement.

I do believe that guys deviate from such female personalities bec let's face it, despite the emergence of women CEOs we have around, female prexy, women empowerment and the likes, this is still a patriarchal society where men are bestowed (culturally) the upper hand in almost everything. Mapa-relationships, career, paycheck, position.. thus, they're conditioned to feel threatened by such dynamic female personality.

ang di ko lang matanggap is eto..

I'm almost 30 and never had suitors, and yes I think I'm ugly.

Eh kasi naman, what're make-overs for no? hehe.. seriously I dont think there's such an individual that is fugly. I mean look around you. I bet youve spotted females with flabs and leg scabs (pun intended) and yet theyve dashing arm candies. Well, it's not an uncommon sight and it's just unfair. But then I realized there must be  alot going for this girl, externals aside, that she's able to snag a hottie for herself. Or, this gurl knows how to "compromise". Now that deserves another entry.

[abuanddiego]

Wala akong suitor pero wala pa naman nagsabing panget ako, or ewan, baka takot lang silang magsabing panget ako!

I think my weight is also a big factor, walang nagtatangka dahil natatakot sila na baka hamunin ko sila ng sumo wrestling !  

[twinxz]

^^ Well said & I agree.

I like & kind of love this one guy but I think he can't make the move, cause he told me
one time that I'm intimidating daw. Tsk. Poor me. Haha!

[chin_squared]

^Agree. Or it may be that you're too attractive or too smart that it scares us away. Either that, or the confidence of guys around you isn't enough. In such a case, you should expose yourself to extended circles of friends. You might think it's unfair or unfortunate on your part. Oh you just don't know how deep our sighs are . lol.

Yup, girl or boy, no matter ano ka pa, everyone is afraid of rejection. So I guess guys mostly approach or get to know those girls that they think may pag-asa naman din sila.

I know of a Doctor who is tall and beautiful and sexy pa, pero tumandang dalaga. She never got married and I used to wonder why. Maybe aside from intimidated mga guys sa itsura niya, meron pa siyang mabigat na title sa pangalan.

[schumine]

my mga girl na kaya wala suitor e mukhang suplada, kaya yung ibang lalake takot na lumapit or gumawa ng move kahit tipo nila yung girl   

[meisaia]

^ ouch. sapul ako. haha. mukha akong suplada. pero im actually nice and i definitely don't bite. RAWR

[schumine]

^
aha sis.. ako din naman mukha ako suplada, pero i have suitors pero wala lang ako mapusuan

[meisaia]

^ well, suplada naman talaga ako. hahahaha. hindi ako palabati eh. kahit mama ko yun ang sabi lol. pero okay lang naliligawan pa rin naman ako kaya nothing's wrong with being suplada. haha

[abuanddiego]

Suplada rin ako at talagang aloof, I'm not even friendly hehe pero ang naiisip kong dahilan talaga kaya wala akong suitor ay dahil malaki ako 

Sabi pa nila dapat maging approachable ka at magbigay ng clues na type mo rin ang guy para gumawa sila ng move. Ewan ko lang kung totoo talaga yan, pero ako, kahit maging slim, di ko babaguhin ang image at ugali ko para lapitan ng lalaki. Iniisip ko kasi kung talagang gusto ka, gagawa sila ng paraan para makausap ka, mukha ka mang dragon sa kasungitan hehe. Para kasing di siya manly enough kung umpisa pa lang duwag na sya to approach 

[schumine]

Iniisip ko kasi kung talagang gusto ka, gagawa sila ng paraan para makausap ka, mukha ka mang dragon sa kasungitan hehe. Para kasing di siya manly enough kung umpisa pa lang duwag na sya to approach 

agree! my mga lalakeng sadyang duwag lang ..harhar

[abuanddiego]

^duwag means you are unsure.. meaning di rin sya sure sayo

[schumine]

OT: yung mga takot ma basted consider na duwag?

[meisaia]

^ i call those guys sigurista. haha

puro palipad hangin tapos pag kumagat yung babae, saka nila liligawan. sila yung kapag binasted, madalas nagsasabi na pinaasa sila. haha