who is pressured here on getting married?

[mindiegirl]

^Dont be pressured sis. Madalas (although not ALL naman) yung mga mahihilig magtanong na yan, mga hindi happy sa buhay.

[xtine]

When I left Singapore and came back to PH to work for a year.. OO, daming nag pepressure sa akin magasawa, magkabf. 

But now I am back here in SG, no more pressure.  I even get courted by a guy who is pressured to get married and I am just not into that. 

That's when I realized na, nasa kultura natin magpressure / insist that having a family and children are the best thing in life.  I am glad that I live away from that surrounding where you're are mentally pushed to other people's definition of "happiness".  Crazy!

[iamnicolecruz88]

Ako I'm just waiting for this one guy to toughen up and get his doze of vitamin courage. Marriage naman is not for everyone, but I consider myself one who would love to get married one. It's a risk, knowing what to my family. Pero you must always take a plunge eh. Im not the kind na nag-aalaga lang ng pamangkin.

[princessette]

Minsan nga ayoko na pumunta sa mga gatherings dahil sawang sawa na ako makarinig ng "kelan kayo ikakasal? Nako hindi na kayo bumabata. Baka mahirapan ka na magkaanak nyan"

Mga top 5 lines yan sis kasama yung the most irritating line is "magsara na yang butas na yan!"

Kung naging bastos lang sana ako ng tao  baka kung ano na sinagot ko! kakagigil!

[kaya_3]

Dati kaya ko pa hindi pansinin yung mga pressure from friends, family and relatives. Pero ngayon 35 na ko, I am feeling the pressure na talaga. Kahit tawanan ko lang sila andon na yung pressure eh.

[ms.bumbay]

Haha relate ako dito. Im 28 at single din. Lagi din ako pinipressure kung kelan ako mag asawa kasi im getting older na at mahirap manganak. Well di pa talaga ako handa.

[kikayako]

Ako super pressured. Sa college barkada ko, ako na lang ang hindi pa married. Sa high school barkada ko, dalawa pa kaming hindi married pero may BF yung isa so malapit na yun. Tapos sa barkada ko sa dati kong work eh 3 na lang kaming single. Hayyy...

[ana mimi]

I just want to get married yun lang. Mag 30 na ako and I feel na may certain deadlines ako for things like this. Gusto ko kase kapag ikakasal ako, medyo young pa ako e.

[confusedjoanna]

PRESENT! ako, literally when i turned 29 last Nov. i feel pressured na for good 2 weeks i cried every single night, i feel frustrated and ungrateful. may BF ako ngayon, 3years na kami pero whenever i talk about settling down, palaging napagaawayan due to so many circumstances. until now, i feel pressured and frustrated and i let it be, i live one day at atime, sabi nga nila darating din yun just when you least expect it. fingers crossed!

[minabey]

Well, the pressure doesn't end there... that's just the beginning!

After you get married, next they'll be pressuring you to pop out kids.
After one kid, they'll pressure you to add another kid (for whatever reason).

That's just how it goes in our culture.

If only it wouldn't be rude to say, "Kelan ka naman susunod?" in funerals.

[plumpolka]

wag kayo mapressure sissies! i just got out of a bad relationship and im turning 29 tomorrow! sobrang happy ako and sinasabi ko sa sarili ko, bat ako mappressure, i have a lifetime ahead of me. life is not a race naman. just enjoy each day as if it's your last 

[nerddict]

Not really pressured. Meron lang minsan thoughts na gusto ko na ng baby. hehe

[plumpolka]

^ agree sa baby part. minsan parang ang sarap magka baby tapos maiisip ko yung expenses, di bale na lang pala muna hahaha

[nerddict]

^di'ba sis? Parang yung happiness of having a baby, gusto ko na ma-experience. But then, madaming dapat i-consider nga. hehe

[Ms. Undecided]

Well, the pressure doesn't end there... that's just the beginning!

After you get married, next they'll be pressuring you to pop out kids.
After one kid, they'll pressure you to add another kid (for whatever reason).

That's just how it goes in our culture.

If only it wouldn't be rude to say, "Kelan ka naman susunod?" in funerals.

Indeed sis haha!
There will be a never ending pressure in our society. 12 kaming magkakaibigan, apat sa kanila may mga anak na, isa dun eh kinasal na tapos yung isa ikakasal naman nitong March. May part sakin minsan na nakakainggit lalo na sa part ng pagkakaroon ng baby. Hehe! Pero naiisip ko na maybe this is not yet may time. Naniniwala akong may kanya-kanya tayong timeline in life

[kayety12]

To be honest I used to be pressured kasi ba naman at 24 years old NBSB pa ako. Pero nung naexperience ko magkaron ng bf, which by the way was very toxic. Masasabi mo sa sarili mo na mas ok na pala maghintay  kahit 30's na ulit ako magkabf.

Akala ko nakakatakot maging single forever pero mas nakakatakot pala magcommit sa relationship na gagawin miserable buhay mo 

[Ms. Undecided]

^ Hi sis, one of my friend told us na if the person is single for too long, mas mahirap silang i-please daw hahaha dunno ha. Pero kasi siya eh single din matagal na and she's 27 ata or 28. Mas komportable na daw siya sa single life, sumasakit lang daw ulo niya sa lalake LOL.

As for me naman, yung bf ko kasi ngayon, single din for too long bago naging kami at pansin ko na super independent niya na madalas eh pag awayan namin. Yung mindset na, "kaya ko naman mag-isa bago ka dumating sa buhay ko" which is not good naman talaga kasi nga ngayon in a relationship na siya, so bumabawi naman siya, susuyuin niya ako. Alam ko na hindi ganun kadali na mababago yung ganung mindset niya kasi nga matagal siyang nasanay na mag-isa hehe. anlayo sa topic sorry. SKL hahaha

[simang]

^mas mahirap iplease in a way kasi some of them know exactly what they want and they don't tolerate anymore BS or pagpapabebe. I don't think it's a bad thing na dapat baguhin kapag in a relationship ka na. Knowing yourself and filtering toxicity is a sign of maturity I think. Kaya nila ang sarili nila without needing anyone. But that doesn't mean na they want to be single forever, or they dont welcome a partner. It's just that they don't want their standards compromised just to have someone.

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To all you single ladies, the societal pressure of getting married at a certain age is overwhelming at times. I got married at 28, I know people who were married at 21, or 37, or 41. Meron ding single at 30s, 40s and they're all doing fine. Being married and having a family is a beautiful experience, but it's not the only beautiful thing in the world! Hindi dapat maging ultimate goal ang pag aasawa. If you want to get married, do it when you and your partner are ready. Until then, set goals for yourself, work hard on them, and always always be the best version of you.

[fall2pieces]

There?s nothing wrong  with being single.. it?s just society that makes it otherwise.
If you?re perfectly fine being single why pressure yourself into a relationship or marriage that?s not right for you..

I have been single for a long time..  minsan it gets lonely dahil wala akong partner sa buhay.. but really I?m fine by myself.. it?s the people who keep asking me about when I?ll get married or have a boyfriend. Minsan nakakasawa na din. I mean.. you can?t force things..

I don?t want to pressure myself (kahit sobrang pressured na) and just settle for someone I?m not sure with. Gusto ko yung sure na ako sa taong yun, na sure na ako na mahal ko yung taong yun at sure ako na ganun din sya sa akin.

[piatos]

34 and single hehe.  Pressured na ako. ilan yrs na ren akong single