love you can't have :(

[minikeyklush]

mga sis, i know madaming makakarelate dito, share naman ng mga stories dyan regarding dun sa person na minahal nyo ng sobra once in your life, or till now minamahal nyo pa din, but for million unknown reasons, You CAN'T be together.. 

para naman maenlighten din ako..

[superboink]

Major major relate sis..

We can't be together anymore kasi family niya galit sakin at ganun din family ko sakanya. Hindi kami compatible.. sa madaming bagay. Hindi ko siya maintindihan.. super seloso pero babaero.. blah blah blah.. I think our relationship was based on lies.. and what really hurts, maybe he really didn't love me at all.

I still love him. I really do. A lot of people says I'm wasting my life, tears and youth for him.

Hiwalay na kami and I know kahit anong mangyari hindi na pwede maging kami or siguro pag pinaglaruan kami ulit ng tadhana. Sobrang masakit pero wala naman ako magagawa. Iniisip ko nalang future.. my dreams..

[pumpkin13]

Love you can't have..

For me, mas gusto ko pa yung i know, we know, that we both love each other but can't be together than an unrequited love.

[Joycy]

Ay sorry, di ako maka-relate masyado.

I have crushes that im fairly sure that i can't have but i don't love them.  So, it doesn't hurt me.

I've had failed relationships but i've had them at one point. Yun nga lang, for some reason, it didn't work out. It hurts, yes, and i spent time mourning the loss of the relationship and the "what-could-have-beens"... but at some point, you have to move on.  I just try to learn something from those experiences and prevent myself from feeling bitterness and anger.

It hurts, i know, but for me, a relationship failed because it's meant to. So i don't want to waste my time aside from the allotted respectable mourning period. If we're meant to be, then it will happen. I don't have to work on it too much. But one thing is sure...im not going to just quit living my life to the fullest. 

Take the lesson. Enjoy life. Better person will come along, that's for sure.

[minikeyklush]

Major major relate sis..

We can't be together anymore kasi family niya galit sakin at ganun din family ko sakanya. Hindi kami compatible.. sa madaming bagay. Hindi ko siya maintindihan.. super seloso pero babaero.. blah blah blah.. I think our relationship was based on lies.. and what really hurts, maybe he really didn't love me at all.

I still love him. I really do. A lot of people says I'm wasting my life, tears and youth for him.

Hiwalay na kami and I know kahit anong mangyari hindi na pwede maging kami or siguro pag pinaglaruan kami ulit ng tadhana. Sobrang masakit pero wala naman ako magagawa. Iniisip ko nalang future.. my dreams..

yep sis thats the least thing you could, move forward and just pray that one day, either, you will be totally get over with him or makahanap ka ng taong magpapasaya ulit sayo.. hays 

Love you can't have..

For me, mas gusto ko pa yung i know, we know, that we both love each other but can't be together than an unrequited love.

@sis pumpkin, maybe much better nga yun kasi, its really unbearable kasi yung pakiramdam, na matter how you'd do, he can't choose you, simply because he doesnt feel the same way as yours..  sakit sakit nun sis.. 

[minikeyklush]

Take the lesson. Enjoy life. Better person will come along, that's for sure.

yep sis every incident is a learning experience talaga..  we may not be able to change yung situation pero we can do something para makaalis dun sa ganung situation.. and hopefully dumating na nga yang better person na yan  hehe

[Joycy]

Maybe, my problem is not because i can't have them but it's because i can't KEEP them. 

[aquacharly]

Like JOYCY, I can't relate

In life, you gotta be pragmatic.  Plus one has brains to assess ==  when "can't be" liasons are just roads to heartbreaks/sad endings or  runs of masochism.  So why insist on "can't be" relatioships?

Examples:
                   Married men:  What for?  Like picking up a rock and bashing one's own head... it just isn't practical.  IMO,  1 in a relationship with a married man is either self-destructive or on a run for financial advancement. 
                   LDR relationships:   Too much work,  little probability of success.. IMO. 
Enough of examples, we get the drift of "can't be" liasons.

For love to be enjoyed and to flourish... it shouldn't be a Romeo and Juliet thing, IMO.   I am after the joy, not the tragedy, not the angst.  As it is, when one falls in love... it is already a big gamble.  So why step into something that at the start, you already know "can't be" and the relationship is sure to be littered wtih heartbreak landmines?  Like you need a hole in the head?   

IMO, getting into "can't be" relationships is a sign of hubris.   Too much pride and misplaced belief in one's self == that one can influence matters/reality to make things "fall in place" the way one wants it to be.   But alas, well, as they are wont to say: "it's not about you" only.   lol

[young_maiden]

Ang sakit ng ganitong situation. kahit gusto mo na maging kayo pa, hindi pwede dahil sa mga circumstances...

[minikeyklush]

@sis young maiden, there are certain things na you can't control tlaga, itsreally your attitude and perseverance towards d situation ang impt once na nacaught ka sa ganung situation,, in order for you na makapag moved on..

[young_maiden]

i had a love that i really wanted. i loved him so deeply. yet he cheated on me twice. now, he has a live-in partner. it hurts too much. siya happy na. ako hindi pa.

[minikeyklush]

@sis young maiden, try mo to moved on nalan po, i know its easier said than done, pero tiisin mo nalan kesa mastuck with that situation sis, you want to talked about it? you can pm me anytime.. 

[young_maiden]

matagal na din naman kami break eh. 1 yr and 2 months na. wala naman ako mahanap na kapalit kasi hindi naman ako ligawin. in my 20 years of existence, mabibilang lang ng kamay ko kung ilan nanligaw sa akin.

[minikeyklush]

@sis young_maiden, dont say that, di pa naman siguro now yung right time para mahanap ka nung guy na ibibigay ni God sayo pero i know na darating yun... as of right now ang dapat mo lang gawin is help yourself para makaalis jan sa dilemma na nararanasan mo.. believe me sis it'll pass.. you just also need to help yourself din para magawa yun.. sis if you need ng kausap you can pm me anytime..hope makatulong ako sayo..

[young_maiden]

ok naman na ako eh. yun nga lang minsan i feel lonely lalo na pag naiisip ko siya. pero di na ako umiiyak because of him. miss ko lang siya minsan. ang ginagawa ko nagiging abala ako sa studies ko para di ko na siya maisip. thanks sis!

[minikeyklush]

that's good to hear sis,, hehe,, atleast diba? pero part yan mamimiss mo talaga yun kasi naging part yun ng life mo.. dont worry darating din yung right person for you.. you'll just have to trust God whatever plan He has for you..Godbless sis  aja!

[Joycy]

I agree with sis Aquacharly.

Most people are just too stubborn to accept that MOST problems can be avoided in the first place. We persist in doing what we want because we naively think that we can change people...or that our love is just so powerful to erase every issue/pain/habits...that we fail to realize that we can only control certain situation or people for a time.  And then, the blaming will start.

It takes a lot of work and sacrifices to do the right thing. And sadly, most people would take the easy way out.

[pumpkin13]

i had a love that i really wanted. i loved him so deeply. yet he cheated on me twice. now, he has a live-in partner. it hurts too much. siya happy na. ako hindi pa.

my ex boyfriend moved on first before i did. it was painful pero i thought to myself lugi naman ata ako kung sya okay na, ako hindi pa. moving on doesn't necessarily mean finding someone else when the ex has found another. what i did, i focused on my work and family, I enjoyed the single life and later on I found a better man. and i'm thankful.

[young_maiden]

that's good to hear sis,, hehe,, atleast diba? pero part yan mamimiss mo talaga yun kasi naging part yun ng life mo.. dont worry darating din yung right person for you.. you'll just have to trust God whatever plan He has for you..Godbless sis  aja!

thanks, sis! i'll just have to wait. i'm only 20 years old

my ex boyfriend moved on first before i did. it was painful pero i thought to myself lugi naman ata ako kung sya okay na, ako hindi pa. moving on doesn't necessarily mean finding someone else when the ex has found another. what i did, i focused on my work and family, I enjoyed the single life and later on I found a better man. and i'm thankful.

[minikeyklush]

@sis young_maiden - yep super bata mo pa, theres so much of life pa ahead of you.. hehe mingle and enjoy.. darating din yun sa tamang panahon