:(Frustrated lady driver? thread 2

[bagaholic_chewy]

^^^ last year sis. Almost a year na din pala ako nagda-drive.. medyo ok na ako sa liko-liko. Nagsoslowdown na lang ako pag medyo makipot yung lilikuan to be sure. I love highway driving - nlex, sctex, tplex, slex, skyway. Less hassle, mabilis din ang takno pero di mo feel na mabilis na pala. City driving medyo kakapagod. At nasestress pa din ako pag me trucks sa paligid ko. Like kanina, harapan ko big truck, sa likod ko another big truck. Naabutan pa ng traffuc light. Diyos ko, pag nawalan ng preno yung nasa likod, masa-sandwich ako.. thank God, wala namang naging freak accident.. kaya the moment i had the chance to get out of that lane, go agad ako.

[mybabyrj]

^manual ba ang car mo sis?

[bagaholic_chewy]

^ currently driving automatic, SUV. Kakapagod mag-manual sa Metro Manila.

[mybabyrj]

^oo nga sis, lalo na kapag usad pakonti konti ang traffic.

paano ba tantyahin ang pag turn left or right na hindi makakain yung kabilang lane? saang part ng car ang naka align na sa gutter ang safe na to turn?

kung may naka park sa dadaanan mo, paano nyo tinatantya ang distance ng car na naka park sa right side mirror para hindi dumaplis?

[Shadow Angel]

^un sa akin manual, kung alam mo liliko ka na need na kabigin ng konti kung saan ka papunta parang i aalign mo lang paliko kapag nakakain mo un kabilang lane means late na ang pagkabig mo. Before paliko kabigan mo na ng konti ang manibela kung from parking konti usad sa unahan then kabig paliko makikita mo naman kung naka lusot na sa unahan un sasakyan at safe ng lumiko ng deretcho. Basta wag magpanic sa mga bumubusina sa likuran mas mabuti na maingat kesa nagmamadali na sablay

[blushberry]

My frustration is parallel parking and parking in general.  We have very limited space kasi and I am always worried na mali calculation ko.  On the road, I'm sure hindi natutuwa sakin bang drivers kasi mabagal din talaga ako gumalaw.

[mybabyrj]

^thanks sisses for the tips. ok na ang pag left and right turn ko.

problema is yung forward parking. baka may tips kayo.

[eian4fun]

I'm also a newbie driver here using manual tranny. Last saturday i tried to practise parking few blocks away from our home. After few tries, i decided to go home na. I did not noticed na i did not pull off the handbrake. Bigla nag alarm when i started to move. I kept my composure kasi hindi pwede mag panic sa daan, so the alarm went on until i reached home for 5-10mins. I only realized it after i off the engine.
I got worried for 2 nights thinking what damage i done. My bf (overseas) told me to drive again to overcome my fear.
I hit a cab sideview mirror earlier along P.Gil near Robinsons. 😊 Goodthing the cab driver did not mind it at all.

[gretchelle_borres]

Sis tips for hanging road. Yumg traffic tapos mag go sa overpass

[lilsaintsm0m]

gosh akala ko di nako matututo magdrive. 2 sessions with my dad natuto na rin. Lakasan lang ng loob at maraming bubble gum haha. Sana  makapag highway na din ako soon since Marcos Highway Ang tahak KO to pickup my son. Kelan nyo malalaman if ready na kayo sa big roads? Feeling KO I'll be screaming lol.

[eian4fun]

went to divisoria earlier, lakasan ng loob, walang chaperone. i thought flat parking sa luckychinatown mall, pataas pala with sharp curves. kahiyaan na, go ako.
sablay ako sa parking on the 7F, buti meron chinese guy with wife na tinulungan ako magpark. nkakahiya. 😣 lintik ang nerbyos ko.
then after shopping ito nmang pababa ang iniisip ko. grabe ang dasal ko.
awa ng diyos nka uwi ako sa bahay in one piece.
konting practice pa. In a span of 2.5 months nakaka 240km palang yung new car ko dahil sa kaduwagan ko mag drive alone.

[chicafabulosa]

Lilsaintmom, i guess you'll know when you can overcome your fear of driving on highways. So no time frame. As soon as you can gather courage of driving kasabay yung ibang vehicles sa roads, then you are good to go. Try driving on a Sunday sis. Kaunti kotse and trucks nun sa Marcos Highway di ba so makakapractice ka. Little by little pag gamay mo na yung Sunday traffic, try the Saturday traffic. Medyo marami na yun na sasakyan. Then pag gamay mo na, i think kaunti na lang adjustment mo sa weekday traffic. Dyan rin ako nagpractice magdrive dati ng manual long time ago. Eventually nung masanay na ako, ayun sa Cainta traffic na, then Rosario... Then ayun sunod sunod na.

[lilsaintsm0m]

Thanks sis! Ayun na nga nagdrive na ako last week sa highway. Yung first day ko sunday super luwag kaya madali lang. Tapos sinundan ko na agad mon, tuesday, wed ako na naghahatid sa son ko. Nakakalabas nako ayaw lang ng dad ko magisa ako kasama daw muna siya. Di naman na siya nagtuturo, tagapanick lang.

[BacMook]

Mejo nahihirapan ako mag-relax while driving kasi petite ako and ang hirap humanap ng komportableng pwesto kasi feeling ko hindi ko abot yung pedals.  So tendency hindi ako naka-sandal. Which makes driving nakakapod for me. Tapos todo adjust talaga ako ng upuan, side and rear mirror, kakatawa.

And like you sisses, mabagal din ako lumiko. Mabagal ako sa manibela kaya naiinis sakin papa ko. Mahina pa ako sa calculation at sa lahat. Haha. Sana matuto na tayong lahaaaaaat 

[Myealexis21]

^Sis I am also super petite, 4'11 lang ako.  Nung bago pa lang ako nagdadrive, todo adjust ko yung seat ko para mataas, plus may unan pa ako (throw pillow), tapos forward pa yung seat ko.  Maliit lang ang kotse ko. Now although may unan pa rin haha! di na ganun ka-forward ang seat ko, and relaxed na rin ako sa pagdadrive.  If you want to, bili ka nung pwedeng ilagay sa upuan for the back...don't know kung anong tawag dun.

Dun sa mga baguhan sa pagdadrive, please don't be too hard on yourselves.  Una lang yan, you will get used to driving and it will be so automatic na you won't even think kung kelan ba dapat kumabig, etc. 

Kung meron sigurong nerbyosa, ako na yun, with matching ngatog ng tuhod at sobrang lakas ng kabog ng dibdib as in literal! But I am ok naman na.  I think one year after, ok na ako sa pagdadrive. Basta wag lang kakalimutan to say a prayer for your safety, and for the safety of the other drivers' na makakasabay ninyo sa daan.

[BacMook]

^Same pala tayo ng height sis  Grabe lang talaga. Naka-wedge havs nga ako pag nagdadrive eh. Di ko pa mahuli huli yung comfort zone ko when driving. Nasanay kasi akong lagi lang akong pasahero and tulog lang lagi sa byahe. Lol.

And yes tama ka jan, pray before driving 

[menthol]

Count me in sa mga frustrated mag drive. Na uupset stomach ko before ako magdrive esp. if long drive. 10 years na since last drive ko and recently lang ako nag drive ulit. Malakas pa loob ko noon unlike now. To think manual pa yung gamit ko before. Sana lang talaga masanay nako lalo na sa parking.

[young_maiden]

Sali ako. 2008 pa iyong last time na nagdrive ako. 18 years old lang ako noon. Pinagbawalan na ako ng parents ko magdrive dahil ang bilis ko daw magpatakbo at hindi ako nagpreno agad. Haha. Saka lang ako magpreno kung malapit na ako sa sasakyan na nasa harap ko. I want to drive again. Sana this time marunong na talaga ako. Pag naka-ipon na, mag enroll ako ulit sa driving school.

[charmedjeng]

Nung bata ako, I've always envisioned myself driving my own car. Nag daydream ako na I'm driving alone on a long road while listening to music or sometimes, I imagine myself driving out of town with friends.

Months ago I enrolled myself in a driving school before getting my own car. Unfortunately, I had a not-so-good experience so I ended up almost giving up. To add, my mind was thinking a lot of negative things, mga what ifs.. what if ganto mangyari saken sa daan, what if may masaktan ako. So instead of enjoying, I ended up not wanting to do it kasi hindi pa nagsa-start, kung ano ano na pumapasok sa isip ko. Our minds our powerful kasi so I try my best to stop being negative about driving and just focus on enjoying it. It's not as easy but one can try. I also helped myself by reading forums here about driving. Lahat ng advise pang palakas ng loob, I keep them in mind. I also make sure that I am knowledgeable enough that's why I enrolled again in another driving school. If dadagdag yun sa kumpiyansa ko, sige.

I've also read numerous times na the key is to not stop driving, which I believe is true. Habang tumatagal, pag madalas akong mag drive, my fear lessens kaya kahit na kabado ako, nag da drive pa din ako.

Meron din akong nabasa which struck me, parang sabi nya na she's gone this far para huminto so naisip ko, ako din at kung hindi ko ngayon gagawen kailan pa. At if nagpatalo ako and I allowed myself to stop, I'm sure my future self will scold me for not doing it now.

This thread and the other topics about driving helped and supported me so I think I also owe this comment and hope some will also find it helpful or somehow inspiring to have the guts to drive.

Sabi nga ng instructor ko - enjoy driving! 

[roxykarlo]

Mag 1 year na car ko sa december, di pa rin ako marunong mag drive. Hahay. Hahaha