:(Frustrated lady driver? thread 2

[dropdeadgorgeous]

nakakatuwa naman ang mga kwento niyo. ako, naalala ko si papa ko tinuruan din ako before. i was attending a 7 days driving lesson then sa ikatlong araw,hinayaan niyang ako ang mag drive from cubao to our place. sa totoo lang, inililiko ko pa lang ang matigas naming manibela, ang papa ko, butil butil ang pawis sa nerbyos  . panic mode siya at halatang tumataas ang boses.syempre,di pa ako gaanong sanay diba,pilit ko mang itaas ang confidence ko,hindi ko mahila. hanggang sa sumabit ang sasakyan sa nilikuan naming street. lahat ng tao,napatingin. wala naman nasaktan, sumabit lang talaga sa isang nakaparada dun. i tried to check my papas reaction,mukhang disappointed. so siya nakipag usap,humingi kami ng pasensya tapos pag uwi sa bahay, di ako masyadong kumikibo. inamin ng tatay ko na hindi siya yung right person na makakapagbigay ng mahabang pasensya at natataranta siya dahil pinoprotektahan niya ako. i understand him, and from then on..nag stick na yun sa isip ko. never say never..tuloy lang ang laban.

nasa labas ako ng bansa now, nag aaral sa driving school dito, at mukhang magiging ok naman siguro kasi i wont give it up. iisipin ko na lang na kailangan ko matuto.i will prove to myself, one day,magiging sisiw lang din lahat ng agam agam ko.

[twelvth_goddess]

^You can do it sis, it just takes practice talaga. Before, I thought driving was out of the question for me kase nerbyosa ko and magugulatin talaga. I started little by little lang and I realized na sub-consciously ang dami ko palang na-pick up na diskarte from hubby and lumabas lang nung nag-try ako mag-drive mag-isa. I was suprised at myself din. However, I gave myself room for errors din (wag lang super error sana) pero  hinde maiiwasan na ma-discourage ka kahit pano.

[dropdeadgorgeous]

^iba din pala dito outside. may recommended school para mag attend ng class tapos, mag online eexam ka at mag ppractical bago ka magkaron ng licence. unlike sa pinas na magpunta ka lang sa di mataong lugar, pwede ka na mag practice. nako, dito pag ginawa mo yun..huli ka.bayad ng fine ..etc.

pero im ready to face my challenge sis. alam ko naman na hindi ako nag iisa. dadating din ang time na ill be able to cope up and be successful. wala lang talagang madali sa umpisa pero kaya yan. gusto ko talaga matutuong mag drive.

[tiggerlily]

^^ ok lang yan sis. practice makes perfect. matututo ka rin.

[ysa.belle]

^^^plus lakasan din ng loob yan...

[_sugarnspice_]

yes sis, kaya natin yan. naguguat nga ako sa sarili ko ngayon hindi ko na-imagine dati na magiging malakas din ang loob ko sa pag drive mag-isa.  pero i need to practice more lalo na sa mataong lugar.  dito kase sa subic masarap mag drive dahil sinusunod talaga ang traffic rules at maganda ang mga daan. next week sa matataong lugar na ko magpractice at may mga jeep na pamasada.. so help me God.

[dropdeadgorgeous]

^super thanks mga sis. go go go!

[meloids]

nakakainis, tagal ko na nag pa-practice mag drive pero palpak pa rin yung gearing ko.. ang mas nakakainis! yung ibang driver na kasabay ko sa kalsada kung makabusina akala mong nilalamon ka ng buhay.. hmpf!

[tiggerlily]

^yaan mo sila sis. mapeperfect mo rin yan.

[rics]

up to now im a frustrated driver. how i wish i'll gain the convidence to drive, nabwibwisit na rin ako eh.

[dropdeadgorgeous]

naku huwag ka mawawalan ng pag asa. pag determined ka talaga, matututo ka.
help yourself and have that presence of mind.
ako nga sis, nagstart na ako sa class.nakapasa ako sa theory class(class room type) tapos now, nagppractical class ako. kakaiba kase itinuturo sa akin kung paano ang hawak sa manibela,at lahat na pati mirror check(automatic lang kasi tong kotse),tapos di ko namamalayan na kaya ko naman pala itakbo ng mag isa.
matagalan pa ang exam ko pero yung pakiramdam na may idea na ako,happy ako doon.

kaya natin yan, dont loose hope okey.

[rics]

I dont want to loose hope naman, thank you sis sa pagpalakas ng loob. what i need now is a big boost of confidence. yesterday i tried driving papunta sa work, [textspeak!] 10mins lang naman ang layo from the house, pero syempre major kaba, specially nung medyo may kasabay na ako sa road tapos ang bilis magmaneho.

major hirap ako sa right turn, parang feeling ko lagi ako ng sasabit. tapos pag may mga kasabay na ako sa daan, nerbyos ako ulit. ano ba yan...

[OD]

^ proper framing of thoughts sabi nga nung isang friend ko eh, although it's normal for you to feel extremely agitated when youre beside with or confronted by other motorists, you have to remember that these road users will also try their level best to avoid you. Needless to say, extreme caution and alertness remain to be the most important.

[dropdeadgorgeous]

^tama si sis. saka try to make sure din na proper speed ang inaaply mo.check  mo ang mirrors mo at blind spots.basta sabi nga nila, alerto ka dapat. pasasaan ba at maeexecute natin ng maayos yan. cheer up. kaya natin yan. go gurl!

[jedijeah]

Mam dropdeadgorgeous hanap po ako employer. Pa pm naman po details. Thanks po.

[rics]

salamat ulit sa pgpapalakas ng loob. i'll really try my darnest best to drive propery and defensively and will think about your reminders.  yung blind spots din and loking at the mirrors i seem to forget while driving. major practice muna to gain confidence.

[twelvth_goddess]

OD's correct, yung mga kasabay mo na vehicles ayaw din naman nila na mabangga sila so they will try to avoid you. Just remember lang na since you're still beginning to drive pa lang, mejo lakihan mo yung pagtancha mo sa spaces para safe.

[jaded1025]

Kaya mo yan sis! Isipin mo na lang na lahat ng other drivers naging baguhan din.

Share ko lang. Tinuturuan ko din friend ko magdrive, though may alam na sya konti pero nawawalan na sya ng gana at napapamura na everytime namamatayan sya ng makina. Kaya ang deal namin kahit dito lang sa village paikot-ikot para masanay sya, ayun okay naman.

Since we live together, last time nagpunta kaming mall nag-inarte ako masakit ankle ko. Pagdaan ng short cut sabi ko kaya na nya magdrive kasi highway na and bahay na namin.
Syempre todo nerbyos sya at kasalanan ko daw pag namatay kami, sabi ko hanggat di nya nakakalimutang magbrakes, mabubuhay padin kami. pero nakarating naman kami sa bahay in one piece. Haha! Sabi ko 'see! I told you kaya mo!' napangiwi na lang sya. Haha!

[V_for_Victoria]

^tama si sis. saka try to make sure din na proper speed ang inaaply mo.check  mo ang mirrors mo at blind spots.basta sabi nga nila, alerto ka dapat. pasasaan ba at maeexecute natin ng maayos yan. cheer up. kaya natin yan. go gurl!

Yes yes! Handling the car is the easy part, but it's trickier to get used to doing the proper safety checks (mirrors and blind spots), and that will come with time and practice. Adjust ka lang ng mindset, and be self-confident. Alalay na lang sa brake if you feel uneasy during a situation. When in doubt, it's better to slow down or stop in your lane than to make a sudden swerve. Ganoon rin ako dati when I was starting out.

[OD]

and if you believe you pack more than the usual level of confidence with the skill, never ever.. i repeat.. DO NOT dare drive when you have too much preoccupations, and then perilously combine it with an iota of complacency.

i realized this just recently, and i would never allow myself to be driving in such a chaotic state. It was one evening where i drove frantically, the day's events must have shaken me to the core. There were abrupt changes that foiled a supposedly peaceful evening. I was halfway thru my destination when I noted my rearview mirror dangerously bent downwards. And what I thought being reflected as non-illuminated headlights of PUVs was actually misshapen trimmings of the newly-installed seat cover hehe...

I know its nothing to mock about but it was a stroke of luck that I managed to have driven that far w/o trouble. Some dilapidated jeepneys kasi get away w/ plying their routes with broken headlights/ taillights, esply on weekends when traffic enforcers become virtually nonexistent. Ive formed the habit of observing the correct safety measures of buckling up, adjusting the seat and mirror before leaving but I guess I had too much on my mind I didnt bother for a SECOND check just to be certain. So there, that experience of an unwarranted and ill driving behavior SHLD be a timely, noteworthy reminder for everyone to always remain focused. Accidents do happen when we least expect it.