My BF is calling his close girl friend "HONEY".

[pinkplush]

thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it.

[Bubblin]

you already called his attention that his behavior was inappropriate.yet,he did it lately.it's a red flag that he is capable of cheating,using distance as excuse.I say,get out of the relationship ASAP before you get hurt more.

[red_one]

i have a former officemate before, a girl and a guy. the guy has a GF and the girl offcemate is single. that girl used to call my guy officemate SUGAR. When I heard that on my first day in that office, I thought SILA, pero di pla. sugar lang talaga gusto nya itawag dun s guy, (medyo maitsura din kasi). what's good with my guy officemate kasi healthy yung pag-accept nya na tawagin sya na sugar. hanggang tawag lang talaga. actually yung girl medyo old maid na rin kaya ganun, pero kahit akitin nya ng sobra yung guy officemate namin eh di sya pinapatulan. alam din naman sa buong office namin na may GF yung guy officemate namin.
so ms pinkplush, if your BF told na wala lang yun, dapat hanggang dun [textspeak!] talaga yun. if not, naku hindi talaga nakakatuwa
to tell you frankly, i hate flirty girls (tama ba grammar ko? LOL), as in, lalo na yung alam na ng buong mundo na di na available yung guy, tapos sobra-sobra pa ring i-flirt yung guy. nakakairita sila. i hate them so much

[ysa.belle]

sis pinkplush, ano ng updates?

[pinkplush]

@red_one: tamang-tama! pero hindi ko alam kung alam nung girl na may GF ang BF ko.. pero sure ako na ngayon alam na nya kasi nagPM ako sa kanya months ago. hahaha!

@ysabelle: we're ok na actually.. pero kinakapa ko pa din.. true kasi na once na pag ganun yung BF mo.. eh may chance na talaga na mag cheat sya.. ang problem ko ngaun eh nalaman ko na nung nagkaproblem kami at hindi na kami masyadong naguusap (cool-off) eh may bagong girl in the picture pala.. LOL. naging close sila pero kami pa nun.. actually di lang close.. merong something talaga.. pero dinedeny ng boyfriend ko kahit nabasa ko na mga text messages.. Sobrang sakit ng mga nabasa ko.. I dunno.. sabi ng mga friends ko baka rebound effect lang daw yun.. ang masakit lang for me.. yung mga sinasabi nya dun sa girl eh never ko pang narinig na sabihin nya sakin.. which is very painful talaga in my part.. 

[erriane]

^hay..unfair..sorry to hear that sis..

[Perky!]

i had a male officemate, a very good friend, who calls me Love. ganun lang talaga and walang malisya kase hindi naman kame naglalandian, more like kuya and younger sister relationship namin.he super loves his girlfriend and i know how much he adores her. secured talaga yung girl with my friend. its just that he calls me that and thats it, hindi nga rin kame yung tatawaging sweet (sweet na malandi ha) at work,but were really close and maalaga lang talaga siya sa friends nya. i dont reciprocate how he calls me kase seloso yung ex ko then.

Its actually from him that i learned na kahit mas close sa female friends yung guy, if he showers his significant other the right love and attention, and if he keeps his bounderies talaga to his close female friends, the girlfirend doesnt have to worry. he became a sort of a benchmark na nga sa next relationship ko, with the way he treats his girl, even with all pretty female friends around him, talagang secured yung girlfriend na siya lang talaga love.

and from my previous relationship, i learned na its not worth to be paranoid, if may lamat na talaga yung relationship, and you always have the thought on the back of your mind na may nilalandi nanaman yung boyfriend mo, and you have proof, and counting the previous evidence of cheating, chances are, tama ka.

especially like you mentioned, he was more eandearing to that girl kesa sayo, that he told her something na never nya pa nasabi sayo. Talo ka na dun diba? and long distance relationship pa kayo, baka naman call and text mate na lang labas mo nyan.

[erriane]

Hmm..di ko alam if that's nice or that's weird..^

Pero sakin kasi.. opposite sex pa rin yan..
pwedeng mangyari ang hindi inaasahan..

lalo na kapag too hot and too gorgeous..
lalaki parin yan..
sabihin natin hindi flirt yung both parties..
naging close lang eventually..
then something fired/flared up..
imo lang ha sis..

Paranoid? di ko alam..
just being safe..

pero bilib ako sa kwento mo sis..

[pinkplush]

@perky: yan nga [textspeak!] sinabi ko sa BF ko.. sabi ko kung secured naman ako, hindi naman ako mgagalit or maiinis ng ganun.. hindi ako magseselos at all.. di ba sis?! eh kaso nga lang hindi.. may nababasa pa ako sa chat.. tsk.. though madalas naman syang pumunta samin at bumisita.. pero syempre.. mas nakakasama nya yun kasi kasama nya sa work.. haysss.. thanks for your story though.. and about naman dun sa other girl that get into the picture.. nagkabalikan na sila nugn ex niya.. pero kahit na.. hindi ako makamove on sa mga sinabi at ginawa ng boyfriend ko para sa kanya.. demmet talaga! ang sama ng loob ko sis.

@ erriane: may point ka sis..

[gilenn]

what?! baka naman "honey" talaga ang name niya? lol. kidding aside, he shouldn't be like that, para siyang playful masyado and too close to other girls. he might lead on some of his officemates too. sabi mo nga sinabihan mo na siya about it, does he know you're not comfortable or uneasy with that kind of set up? kase if you did and he's still the same naku tigas ng ulo ng bf mo rin.

[pinkplush]

what?! baka naman "honey" talaga ang name niya? lol. kidding aside, he shouldn't be like that, para siyang playful masyado and too close to other girls. he might lead on some of his officemates too. sabi mo nga sinabihan mo na siya about it, does he know you're not comfortable or uneasy with that kind of set up? kase if you did and he's still the same naku tigas ng ulo ng bf mo rin.

alam naman niya na im not comfortable with it.. ilang beses ko ng sinabi pero ganun pa din.. hanggang sa ako na yung nagsabi sa girl thorugh my bf's FB.. sa ngayon wala naman akong nakikitang something fishy.. hmp!

[gilenn]

^ sorry sis ah parang nag sisimpleng landian sila..

[Perky!]

going back to my male friend, he's married na to his gf, this year lang din, kakatuwa cause he was super hands on sa planning ng wedding nila. i was invited of course, and im genuinely happy for the couple. when im ready to date na ulit, may naka ready na siya na friend and cousin na ipapadate sakin para daw completely makaget over na ko sa ex ko. so yes, its possible to have that level of friendship sa opposite sex, nakahit mag tawagan ng Love in my case, e wala pa rin talagang malisya..

pero, sa kasamaang palad, may malalandi rin talagang mga lalake. lalo na kung alam nilang they can work up their charm to other girls. sa case ng ex ko, may mga inoopen up siya sakin na may gusto raw sa kanya, pero d daw nya ineentertain. i guess its his way para d masyadong maguilty sa kalandian nya.  d daw nya ineentertain, pero nabasa ko naman sa phone nya saka sa private messages nya na yung ex ko yung nagiinsinuate dun sa girl, meaning nilalandi nya rin talaga kaya todo bigay din yung girl. it came to the point na during the time na our relationship is shaky na talaga, he spends more time texting the girl than me. like sa whole day, 3 lang messages nya sakin, upon checking his phone, whole day ka text yung girl, as in palitan talaga ng messages at d ko na talaga nabilang kung ilan. at d lang isang babae yun. yung isang girl pa dun, sinasabi nyang pangit, feeling maganda and all, but i later found out na he was flirting with the girl na rin.

that was the last straw for me, it only proves na never siya masasatisfy with one girl lang, he has no sense of contentment. we broke up christmas day last year. and i have no regrets.

i wish you have the strenght to decide na what you really want sa relationship. we all hope syempre na masave pa natin, but bottomline is, is it worth all the pain and worry?

[erriane]

wow! that's sweet..
magandang assurance nga yon..
shower me with the right love and attention..
walang praning mode..

pero may exception pa rin ako..
no hot friends allowed.. >.<

^naku, sis..napakakati ng ex mo..

[leolovestine]

As in sis! nakakairita mga text messages and chat talks nila.. parang sila?! O.o Pero may nabasa ako na message like:

girl: Sana kahit makahanap ka na ng mamahalin mo talaga.. sana ganito pa din tayo.

guy: mahal naman kita ah.. Un nga lang.. Masaya nanaman tayo sa ganito di ba?

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maling-mali ito sis. pagsabihan mo yung bf mo kasi imposibleng wala lang yan eh bat ganyan ang usapan nila aber. wag masyadong mabait, matutong magbigay ng ultimatum ok lang yun para malaman nyang di ka basta-basta no. nung huling lumandi ang bf ko ng kagaya nyan, pinagsabihan ko silang dalawa nung babae. ikaw ang girlfriend sayo lang pwede itawag ang honey, sweetheart, cupcake o ano pa mang endearment meron dyan.

[Frozen Toes]

An ex once lent me his phone cuz mine was "confiscated" by my parents. (Yes, I was in high school.) Anyway, may exchange siya don with a certain girl.

"I miss you, cookie."
"I miss you too, pancake."

Kamusta naman Peachy at Joaquin Torres III?! Hindi ako nagalit kasi kung may malisya yon, dapat dinelete na niya bago pa niya pahiram sakin. And ako kasi, malambing din ako sa friends ko. I call them baby, love, sweetheart, o kung ano pa man. Males and females 'to ha. So, possible na wala lang talaga sa kanya yung pagtawag ng honey.

BUT hindi ako natuwa dun sa fact na after mo sabihin sa kanya na it bothered you eh ginawa pa niya ulit. Yun, mali na yon. Nagpromise pa kasi. Buti at sinampal mo. He deserved that. Pati yung linya na "mahal naman kita ah", nakakainis nga yon. Kung di mo naman siya ganun kalove, iwan mo na. Pero kung mahal mo, bigyan mo ng ultimatum. As in ONE LAST CHANCE. Pag sumablay pa rin, hija, let him go. Bastusan na ng emotions eh.

[xadie28]

a friend used to call me 'LOVE'

not because he loved me, hes just teasing me kamukha ko daw kasi yung isa naming kabatch na lovely ang pangalan na hindi naman ka lovelyhan.

one time, sa reunion namin he call me "love" at kitang kita ko kung pano na windang ang gf ni friend hahahaha then i tell her baket nya ako tinatawag na "love"

[pinkplush]

An ex once lent me his phone cuz mine was "confiscated" by my parents. (Yes, I was in high school.) Anyway, may exchange siya don with a certain girl.

"I miss you, cookie."
"I miss you too, pancake."

Kamusta naman Peachy at Joaquin Torres III?! Hindi ako nagalit kasi kung may malisya yon, dapat dinelete na niya bago pa niya pahiram sakin. And ako kasi, malambing din ako sa friends ko. I call them baby, love, sweetheart, o kung ano pa man. Males and females 'to ha. So, possible na wala lang talaga sa kanya yung pagtawag ng honey.

BUT hindi ako natuwa dun sa fact na after mo sabihin sa kanya na it bothered you eh ginawa pa niya ulit. Yun, mali na yon. Nagpromise pa kasi. Buti at sinampal mo. He deserved that. Pati yung linya na "mahal naman kita ah", nakakainis nga yon. Kung di mo naman siya ganun kalove, iwan mo na. Pero kung mahal mo, bigyan mo ng ultimatum. As in ONE LAST CHANCE. Pag sumablay pa rin, hija, let him go. Bastusan na ng emotions eh.

gusto ko yang comment mo na yan.. thanks sis!

[ana mimi]

KILL HONEY..

haha.. napaka-OA na ni BF kung ganyan ha.. pati ba naman girl friends e binibigyan pa ng terms of endearment.. beware at baka si girl e ine-enjoy din ang privilege. baka in the end umuwi kang luhaan..\

if you sense something fishy, trust your instincts girl...

[bravo86]

^mahilig ka rin mangalkal ng mga magagandang topics dito sa S&R sis ah.

most likely, nakalimutan na ni sis TS ang topic na to... anyway, this is for other sissies here na mahilig rin mangalkal ng magagandang topics

paumanhin sis TS, di kita pinipersonal dito ha? di naman tayo magkakilala di ba?

anyway, TATLONG PUNTO lang

*  this relationship is an example of a toxic relationship

*  sa ganitong sitwasyon, siguradong "naisuko na ang Bataan"

* LDRs would never ever have fairytale endings

at BATET ko nasabi?
  -  ganong mag-jowa pa lang, kung anik-anik nang kaBOOOlastugan ng isa, pano pa kaya kung mag-asawa na? which i doubt, never aabot sa puntong yon

  -  ganong harapan nang-uutow ang lalaki at naging submissive ang babae? sauce! kung hindi pa naka-iskor yan, he would always set his best foot forward.

  -  BF and GF are just about 2-3hrs drive away at nangangati na si BF. what more pa kaya kung nasa abroad ang isa sa kanila?

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