In-laws becoming your parents, too

[hyder0926]

9 yrs kami gf-bf ni hubby before we got married. una meet ko pa lang sa Mom in law ko she insisted i called her Nanay.. kakailang talaga un pero even my barkadas call her nanay.. kase barkada ko dati si Hubby.. same thing with tatay or father in law.. i called them Nanay and Tatay kahit uncomfy ako kase i didnt want to be disrespectful to them. pero like in earlier posts i also avoided calling them Nanay and Tatay when i can.. haha

i call my parents Mama at Papa so no confusion there. my hubby called my mama and papa tito and tita nun bf ko pa lang sya.. old school kase parents ko kaya ganun siguro sila. nun magsabi na si hubby na we are getting married sabi na papa ko un can call us Mama and Papa na kase pamilya na tyo soon..

[[-c-h-a-]]

been married for almost 7 years but up to now, I feel awkward calling them Mommy and Daddy... it's not as bad as before, but there's still that feeling of uneasiness. When we were newlyweds, I really couldn't call my F.I.L. Daddy - my Dad kasi passed away 2 months after our wedding. And masakit for me to call someone else Dad. In my mind, nagiisa lang sya. Walang deserving na taong matatawag ko na Daddy aside from my very own.

[sarsingkit]

^ako naman baligtad. My mom passed away when I was young so when I got married I was quite excited to call someone mama. Mama and Papa ang tawag ko sa in laws ko. Even my ex boyfriend's mom, when finding out that my mom passed away eh insisted that I call her Mommy kasi sya na daw magiging mommy ko eventually but we broke up. haha.

[[-c-h-a-]]

^baligtad nga super loyal (na masama na siguro tingnan ng iba) ko sa Daddy ko. I also refused to change my last name kasi ayoko makalimutan ng mga anak, future apos ko, ang apelyido ng Lolo nila. So proud to carry his name... ewan ko kung may sinasabi in laws ko about me not dropping my maiden name

[a_y_e_n]

5 years kame bf/gf before getting married and I only met my then in-laws 3x kaya medyo nakakailang nung tinawag ko na silang "mommy" and "daddy." I'm lucky na mabait inlaws ko and kasundo ko naman sila, sila nageencourage saken nun na tawagin ko silang "mommy" and "daddy" kaya ayun, a month after we hot married, walang ilang factor na pag tinatawag ko silang "mommy" and "daddy."

[Miss Granger]

Ako lately lang na nasanay na tawaging Mama/Papa sila in laws. Before parang umiiwas ako dun sa conversation na kelangan ko silang i-address pero pag hindi maiwasan I call them as Tita/Tito. Then ngaun pag nagkukwento for example si Mama " Si papa niyo ganito ganyan.." or the other way around si Papa "Sabihin mo kay Mama mo..". Kaya parang secured na ako at hindi ilang na tawagin silang mama and papa. Lalo na wala na ako mommy, halos sila un parents ko na talaga tapos un typical na nanay/tatay maghahanda ng food and iba pang needs.

- Before lang kasi un mom ni ex haha from the start mommy na tawag ko, hehe. Kahit hanggang ngaun mommy pa din un tawag ko sa kanya and dun sa last message niya sa FB " She calls me pa din as "anak.."

[miss resilient]

[i have my own parents, they'i already have my own mommy and daddy. why would i refer to anybody else as such? 

of course, when you marry then you two become one. kaya magulang mo na rin sila.

kami ng MIL ko minsan ok minsan hindi. basta pag may blessing ako inaabot abutan ko naman siya just like what im doing with my own parents.

[super bratinella]

i love my mom and dad in law they are like my parents and my mom inlaw always say she loves me!

[luckypal]

I'm blessed to have such loving in-laws my husband's parents are very caring and treat me like their daughter as well. I don't mind that they're like my parents too because I can see that they just want the best for us.

[yannuh]

same here. super thankful that I have my MIL na super bait and supportive sa amin ni husband yung [textspeak!] ko already passed away pero I know he also wants what's best for us always

[stylus]

I have parents in law na mabait din at di sila nakikialam samin ni hubby. Though i really want to get super close sa kanila, minsan may awkward moments pa rin dahil sa language barrier. Nakakaintindi ako ng dialect nila pero syempre pag mabilis at marami na di ko na magets.

[blackgreen]

^in laws ko ganyan din sis. Nakakalungkot nga lang na namatay MIL ko last week kaya hindi na kami aabot sa stage na super close. Meron din kami language barrier sa mga in-laws ko.

[simang]

^medyo naka relate ako although hindi naman extreme ang language barrier, minsan lang din mangyari..

I wouldn't say close na close kami ng MIL ko (like how I am with my mom) pero sobrang naappreciate ko sya especially now. Sobrang bait kasi. Madami syang comments minsan pero hindi nya iniinsist sa aming mag asawa yung mga pananaw nya. She lets us be, pero feel na feel pa din yung guidance nya. Kaya sobrang thankful ko talaga na maayos ang family ng husband ko, kasi very important saken ang relationship sa family.

sis blackgreen, condolences to you and your husband's family.

[blackgreen]

^thanks sis simang. Yun language barrier talaga ngayun ang hirap ako pag kasama ko in-laws ko. Actually sa buong angkan na ng asawa ko. Hopefully soon makaintindi na ako ng dialect nila para dina ako OP pag kasama ko sila. Ngayun nga nagbabakasyon SIL ko sa amin na-OOP ako sa sarili naming bahay. Minsan nireremind ng asawa ko na mag tagalog para maintindihan ko.

[sarsingkit]

My in laws speak other language than tagalog. Nakakaintindi naman ako ng konti pero I still respond in tagalog. Yung sister in law ko lang talaga yung nagtatagalog pag mga nag uusap usap kami. Never see it as a problem though unlike other people I know that suffers from language barrier. Sanay na siguro ako.

[ri-anne]

I call them Ma, Pa. My hubby calls my parents the same. But kung kami lang magkausap i address them like "ano daw sabi ng mama mo?" hehe may "mo" ..sya din ganun
My MIL addresses me by my name (not my nickname), same as my F-I-L, my name or minsan "anak" . Pero pag text, "anak" tawag saken ni F-I-L

[sarsingkit]

^Haha. Pet peeve ng asawa ko yang pag sinasabi ko yung "mama/papa mo". Lagi ako kino-correct. I refer my in laws' house as "sa kabila" or I say the name of their area kasi ayaw nya na sinasabi ko na "bahay nyo". hehe.

[simang]

^thanks sis simang. Yun language barrier talaga ngayun ang hirap ako pag kasama ko in-laws ko. Actually sa buong angkan na ng asawa ko. Hopefully soon makaintindi na ako ng dialect nila para dina ako OP pag kasama ko sila. Ngayun nga nagbabakasyon SIL ko sa amin na-OOP ako sa sarili naming bahay. Minsan nireremind ng asawa ko na mag tagalog para maintindihan ko.

Yes just let your husband know na you feel OP. Naalala ko nung first time ko pumunta sa hometown ng husband ko, her sisters were talking in their dialect habang kumakain kami. My MIL asked everyone to speak tagalog para daw maintindihan ko. Sobrang naappreciate ko sya nun.

Hindi pa din ako marunong magsalita ng dialect nila pero my husband always encourages me na makinig sa mga usapan nila and help myself learn. Automatic kasi saken na pag mag-pangasinense na sila, di na ko nakikinig kasi di ko naman maiintindihan. Hahaha. Ayaw ng asawa ko ng ganun. Nagpromise ako sa kanya na by the end of this year dapat marunong na ako.

^husband ko din, ayaw ng may 'mo'. Kaya nasanay na din ako ng Mama at Papa ang tawag sa in laws ko even before kami kinasal.

[blackgreen]

^ganyan din ako sis. Di na lang din ako nakikinig kasi diko namam naiintindihan pero lately nakikinig ako tapos asawa ko taga translate so kahit konti nakukuha ko yun mga key words nila.

[ri-anne]

hehe...yung sa amin ni hubby ganun na siguro talaga may "mo" para maiwasan din yung confusion kasi we both call our parents Papa and Mama eh.
I think nung umpisa we tried, kaya lang laging "sinong mama? mama mo or mama ko?"
Even when we talk to others. Halimbawa nagkkuwento ako sa friends or side of my family, i call my inlaws "..papa/mama ni (name ni hubby)" hehe  ganun din hubby ko, pag sa side ng family nya naman "papa/mama ni (name ko)" LOL
But again, pag kausap na, we call our in laws Pa, Ma.