Girltalkers na Girlfriend ng Marino (Seafarers)!!!

[emmie]

hi sis thank you sa response. yes. ready ako. bf ko sabi nya he's ready and willing to do anything, at ppksalan nya daw ako kahit kami lang dalawa at witnesses lang.

hindi ko alam kung hanggang kailan ko kayang kumapit. parang ako lang ang humaharap sa problema ng mag isa. 9 months pa ang itatagal ng bf ko sa barko. hindi ko alam kung pano ko pa kakayanin kase 3 months pa lang bugbog nako. emotionally tortured na ako. depressed. i don't know kung ano gagawin ko to stop thinking about what his family wants and does. hindi ko alam kung pano ako magsa strive. i'm too hurt na sa pag alis ng bf ko, tapos dadagdagan pa ng pasakit na ginagawa ng pamilya nya.

how can i go on? how can i live sa 9 months pa? please tell me what to do. i'm helpless.

[health.gal]

...hindi ko alam kung hanggang kailan ko kayang kumapit. parang ako lang ang humaharap sa problema ng mag isa. 9 months pa ang itatagal ng bf ko sa barko. hindi ko alam kung pano ko pa kakayanin kase 3 months pa lang bugbog nako. emotionally tortured na ako. depressed. i don't know kung ano gagawin ko to stop thinking about what his family wants and does. hindi ko alam kung pano ako magsa strive. i'm too hurt na sa pag alis ng bf ko, tapos dadagdagan pa ng pasakit na ginagawa ng pamilya nya.

how can i go on? how can i live sa 9 months pa? please tell me what to do. i'm helpless.

i hope you won't take me wrong, pero ito lang masasabi ko: kung ganyan ka na ka pessimistic as early as now, stop the relationship. wag mo na pasakitin pa ang isip at puso mo. go for a less complicated partner, a less complicated situation. HTH 

[ashleycole]

Wiper/Oiler pa lang bf ko sis. Bubuo na talaga kami pagdating nya.

I'm sorry to hear na hiwalay na kayo. What happened? If you don't mind me asking. Share ka lang if feel mo mag share. All the best!

ganito kasi yon sis, yong ex ko na search nya sa fb yong nawala nyang gf i mean nawalan lang sila ng communication tapos almost 8 years silang mag bf/gf nyan..ikinasal lang sila last dec. 2010 at balak ko pa nga sanang pumunta kaya lang nataon naman na christmas party sa office namin..sasabay na rin sana ako sa mga kapatid nya sa pag attend at bago sya ikinasal ay nag chat pa kami sa fb at humingi sya ng sorry..well, hindi naman ako manhid nasaktan din ako pero konti lang kasi 5 months lang naman kaming mag on..pag nag online sya ay kinakamusta pa rin nya ako at ganun din ako sa kanya na parang wala lang nangyari kaya friends na ang turingan namin til now kasi classmate ko sa college ang isa nyang sister na naging close friend ko rin..

[emmie]

sis health.gal : sis hindi nagkukulang yung bf ko sakin. sobrang mahal nya ako alam ko. mahal ko din naman sya, sobra. napapaisip lang ako. anyway, thank you.

ashleycole: ah gnun ba? recently [textspeak!] pala. i hope ok ka na ngayon. all the best.

[ashleycole]

^ sobrang ok na sis kasi i already had new bf naman and im happy with him

[gelei]

hi girls looker lang din ako sa thread na to since I am already a seafarer's wife..hope its okey .. I can't help but asks sisEmmie bf or hubby mo n ba sya? in some of your posts kasi you address him as bf and for some hubby.. Sis you could'nt have a healthy relationship if you feel that way.. You are supposed to be happy but it seems that you feel down, depress etc.. Maybe sis you try to re-assess the situation.. baka there's still a way na maging okey kayo ng family nya.. if its not possible to be close at least civil and respect each other. Maiwasan ang mga hurting words.. Try to talk it over with your bf/hubby. Sa ngayon kasi sis ang hirap talaga ng sitwasyon na ganyan. Kahit anong sabihin mo still they are his family. Sana it could be iron out muna. Makapag-usap kayo ng family nya...kaysa laging maging ganyan. Why not try to bridge the gap, if it fails then at least you have done your part..Isa kasi yan sis sa makakaapekto sa pagsasama ninyo lalo na pag mag-asawa na kayo. Then pray,pray,pray...that God will intervene.. I know palagi ka sa church and that's one good way to release your emotions.. I wish you well sis!   

[KIn0928]

Hi sis Emmie, girl, advise ko lang I mean masasabi ko lang, bat hindi mu one time prangkahin yung family nang BF mu. kesa mag mukmuk ka lang. Your bf needs you to be strong and fight for this relationship. Your lucky as you have said hindi cya nagkulang sayo at mahal ka nya... if you really love him why dont you be strong and fight for him since wala cya here ikaw makipaglaban. You dont need to be rude to win and wala naman kelangan manalo or matalo. You just have to be strong and frank and tell them or show them how much you really love your bf that even if his not here you stand with your love and mali lahat nang iniisip nila. nakakagigil naman yung Future sister-in-law mu para sabihin yun sayo, e ang mag email nga lang sa brother nya hindi nya magawa. Be strong sis, hirap yung work nang bf mu sa barko and when he finds out na parang sumusuko kana baka lalo cya mahirapan...

[babymom20]

sis emmie, same with sis gelei, lito rin ako sa pag gamit mo ng hub at bf.. magkaiba kasi yun. 2008 pa kayo ng bf mo di ba? so the past years naman kilala mo na siguro family nya.. if ganun na ang ugali nila from the very start, taka lang ako masyado ka pang apektado. o naging ganun lang ang ugali nila nung umalis na yung bf mo?

sis may tanong lang ako, medyo naguguluhan din kasi ako sa kwento mo.medyo maraming issue kasi. tanong ko lang , ano ba talaga ang pinoproblema mo?

1. na malayo si bf mo? try to cope up kasi yun ang pinili nyang profession. make yourself busy. i understand mahirap but try to change your focus. wag yung lagi mo na lang iniisip na malayo ang bf mo at wala kang kasama. una pa lang naman alam mong aalis talaga sya so at least kahit papano sana you already prepared yourself for this.

2. in laws? - i understand masakit satin pag nasasaktan ang mga mahal natin. but try to accept some realities that we just cant impose anything we want to other people esp on how they must behave.

3. expectations failed? - ano ba talaga ang specific expectations mo sa inlaws? what kind of comfort ba ang gusto mong makuha sa kanila?

try to simplify your problem. ano ba talaga ang pinaka issue? try to be strong. be yourself and stay happy.

[iggypop]

you got that right babymom!

sis emmie, life is too short to dwell on "petty" matters like that. i know it's relative, pero in my POV you'll face bigger problems when you get married. yung pinoproblema mo ngayon, wala pa sa kalingkingan ng haharapin mo when you get married to a seafarer... when you get married period 

if distance is the problem, then there's only one solution, you just have to deal with it. you got into a relationship with a seafarer, ganyan talaga. there's nothing you can do about it, just accept the situation and and be strong.

if in-laws naman, get rid of them. you don't need them anyway. as you've said your bf/hubby loves you naman, so why worry? as long as okay kayo ng bf/hubby mo, i don't think there should be a problem. malayo ka naman sa kanila, and besides you have work naman and you're not relying on your bf's allotment.

tama mga sis natin when they said "simplify" your problem. it's not the end of the world sis. sayang lang tears mo, cheer up. life is good, God is good!

God bless sis emmie!

[serendipity02]

hi sis thank you sa response. yes. ready ako. bf ko sabi nya he's ready and willing to do anything, at ppksalan nya daw ako kahit kami lang dalawa at witnesses lang.

hindi ko alam kung hanggang kailan ko kayang kumapit. parang ako lang ang humaharap sa problema ng mag isa. 9 months pa ang itatagal ng bf ko sa barko. hindi ko alam kung pano ko pa kakayanin kase 3 months pa lang bugbog nako. emotionally tortured na ako. depressed. i don't know kung ano gagawin ko to stop thinking about what his family wants and does. hindi ko alam kung pano ako magsa strive. i'm too hurt na sa pag alis ng bf ko, tapos dadagdagan pa ng pasakit na ginagawa ng pamilya nya.

how can i go on? how can i live sa 9 months pa? please tell me what to do. i'm helpless.

hi sis emmie! anong agency ng bf mo?
i WAS on that same situation wherein, i got sooooo depressed nung umalis BF ko.. well weve been together for 7 years, pero lately lang sya nagbarko..
i must admit na nadepressed ako that time..daig ko pa ang namatayan,ayaw ko magmall, ayaw ko kumain ng mga kinakain namin, ayaw ko puntahan mga pinupuntahan namin, at higit sa lahat, sa kapraningan ko, nag-attempt ako magbreak at lagi kameng nag-aaway. i lost 25lbs in 2 months because of depression.
after his 9 months on board, nagplano kame ng almost 2months na bakasyon, punta dito, punta dun.. gala dito, gala dun..wala kameng sinayang na panahon..ive come back to my senses saying to myself, that's his work. i need to accept it as i love him.  after 5months ng bakasyon,tinutulak ko na sya paalis dahil magpapakasal na kame sa november.
My boyfriend is 5months now, pero to be honest, hinde ko pa sya gano namimiss maybe because busy ako sa wedding preparations plus the fact im enjoying the last months of my singleness.
alam mo sis, i felt the same way before, but please hold on. acceptance is the key. distance is nothing since love knows no boundaries.
lagi nga sinasabi ng BF ko, wag ko daw sya masyado mamiss..at pag namiss ko sya, pumikit lang ako,andun daw sya..at pag nalungkot ako,nandito lang sya sa puso ko. kasama ko sa bawat tibok ng buhay.

[KIn0928]

ang sweet naman nun sis serendipity02 

yan sis Emmie lumabas kana dami na nagaadvice sayo sis!
cheer up!

[emmie]

wow! thank you mga sissies. sorry busy lang for the past few days. thank you girls sa mga kind words and advices. naka 3 months na si boyfie, 9 months pa. kaya ko yan!

by the way, i call him hubby na ren kase we've been living together for the past year bago sya umalis. hopefully, makasal na when he comes back. engaged na kami bago sya umalis.

i'm too tired to accept yung mga sinasabi ng future in-laws ko pero i'm too strong to back off. i love him and i know he loves me more than i love myself. so i'm just counting on that. i'll pretend to be deaf na lang so that hindi ako maapektuhan sa mga sinasabi ng family nya. ganito kase talaga dito sa province.

anyway, thank you ulit sa mga payo nyo. it gives me more strength to get over this situation. after all, i'm willing to do anything naman, so i'll just pray for God to give me all the strength that i need.

[KIn0928]

Yey! That's the attidute sis Emmie. Keep it up! and GOD BLESS! Happy Valentines day narin 

[babymom20]

^^ that's the spirit! at least you're finding your track. be positive and ignore the negative esp if those were beyond your control. kasi kahit magwala at magmaktol ka, it wont change anything. goodluck. happy vday!

[sweetylicious143]

happy valentines day

[sharks]

hi sis ashleycole! balik na ulit ako dito sa thread...nakaalis na ulit si bf. hay...kamusta ka na?

sis emmie...wala lang, ndi ko na matandaan yung reply ko ba sa post mo? hehe mamaya na lang ako mag backread.

hi ulit sa lahat! it's good to be back...

[ashleycole]

hello sis sharks, im fine..musta din? nakaalis na pala bf mo kaya pala back to FN ka uli  ilang months contract ni bf sis?

[sharks]

eto malungkot na naman..9 months ulit contract niya. ano na balita sayo? kamusta naman ang bagong "apple of the eye" mo?

[sweetylicious143]

may boyfirend is also 9months contract gudam sa inyo mga sis..

[ashleycole]

so far, ok naman kami ni new bf sis  this day daw malaman ang result nung exam nila, sana nakapasa sya 

hello sis sweetylicious143, musta? ano agency/principal ni boyfie mo?