My Quarter Life Crisis!!!!

[Bubblin]

^korek sis..para may visible description talaga hehe

[junetwentythree]

I just turned 33 last Saturday

I feel as though I'm a bit abnormal as I do not aspire to be wife nor a mother. I don't mind being either one of those (I'm already sort of a mother to my chinchilla ) but not being either one doesn't make me feel less of a woman. I've always been goal driven. I have so many things I want to do with my life...success to me is having a career that you built all on your own. Call me callous but that's what I've always wanted. Perhaps it's just the way my father raised me...he says always be your own person. Don't let anyone take over who you are and who you will be. And he also reminded me constantly to always have my own money...because you never know...s*** happens.

[Bubblin]

^a belated happy birthday to sis junetwentythree...

like you,I do not really aspire to become a mother.I just don't have the patience for it,and I need a whole "growing up" time for myself.

[amihan07]

^Haha! True, true sis! Especially for the growing up part. I can very well relate. 

[kitenashi]

korak sis bubblin' .......we NEED to have money in our pockets ALWAYS....realized that after the bank started harassing me...

i always wonder if those rich women who have everything has their QLC....

[Bubblin]

^sana nga sis merong lalake na pabor sa childless marriage.saan kaya ako makakahanap nito?

[schizo_me]

QLC = Saturn Return

[lizziebare]

in my early 20's ang QLC ko dati ang makawork-abroad at makaipon sa pag tanda ko, magpapagawa ako ng apartments as my retirement income. gusto ko rin malibot ang Pilipinas and to travel the world. super pangarap ko maging int'l FA dahil travelling is my passion talaga. pero the job doesn't want me eh. lahat ginawa ko para makaalis, so having a bf wasn't on my list talaga. nagtry din ako mag-apply sa middle east as a banker, kala ko matutuloy kasi prepared na lahat as in visa na lang inaantay kaso nagkarecession and the employer backed out. so dun ko natanggap na di para saken ang pag-aabroad and narealized ko na masaya naman pala ako dito together with my family tapos nagkaroon na rin ako ng travel buddies so panay trip namin kung saan saan. until I realized I'm already 26, nag-iba na nag needs ko, though I enjoy being single pa rin, I started to think seriously about finding love na. ngayon ko narealized na mahirap maghanap ng guy na financially adequate, interesting enough and can match up to my level of thinking and at the same time I can still be proud lookswise. hope I find him soon.

[icee_star]

Oh! May ganito pala.

Ako sobrang crisis. For almost 6 yrs of working non-stop and with good pay, wala pa rin akong ipon or investment. Instead, puro utang! I even cannot help my mom and brother financially. I can provide, but super small amounts lang.

I have a daughter and nagstart na siyang magschool. Wala pa rin akong ipon for her. Gusto ko sana magstart at a clean slate. Magbayad utang at mag-ipon. I hope its not too late. I'm turning 27 this Dec.

[kutingkulilit]

this is my quarter life crisis: (man, this is gonna be a long entry, please bare w/ me)

>i am not a fan of cartoons. well, not since i turned 14 or something. pinakahuling cartoons na sinubaybayan ko (anime) is ghost fighter. now, i don't know wtf is w/ me, i am so enjoying spongebob squarepants, family guy, hey arnold, hanna montana, and the simpsons. i love watching them!! such a guilty pleasure. i know right? 

>i'm 25. i practiced my profession for more than 4 yrs now. few months back, i started to feel kind of lost, felt like i don't belong anymore.... always felt tired and unhappy w/ work... so i quit. after quitting, told myself to pursue the same profession overseas. sabi ko sa sarili ko maybe i just need a better compensation to fuel my passion back. it's been months already, i'm still idle. parang ayoko na. gusto ko iba naman. kaya lang i don't have the freakin guts. and ang daming umaasa sa akin. kaya right now, im suuper confused. (more confusion pa on the ff paragraphs)

>used to be in a long term relationship.. for almost 6 yrs. now i just can't see myself in a fully committed, super serious relationship. i'm seeing someone else right now. not clear where we are, we just go w/ the flow, and we don't talk about the future. here sa forum i address him as my "bf" bec. we do act like couples. pag pinapakilala nya ko w/ friends, he calls me his "my girl", ako, i never introduce him to my friends. i don't feel like it. lagi kong naiisip we're not gonna last. parang i want to meet more, i want to explore more. parang hindi ko pa fully naeenjoy ang life, kasi halos lahat ng time ko binuhos ko sa past relationship ko. to give myself and commit to someone else ulit that fully, i see it as a hindrance to do so. but, i need someone. i need someone so i won't feel empty. yeah, super selfish. kahit na parang mejo on the same note lang kami, selfish parin ako.

>and this is the worst part. i think i like girls. no, im not butch, super girly girl ako. pero lately, oh man... i get soo freakin' attracted w/ my kind. one of the few things i want to explore more.  i am such a late bloomer... usually, this happens during HS or college diba, and when the grop up and be mature, get serious w/ life, the turn to straighten up and focus on the normal side of life. bakit ako baliktad?

oh life. i'm just soooo freakin' lost right now.

[pomegranate]

My definition of QLC is knowing not do with life, and time is running out so desperation comes in. It was a disaster because all of a sudden I don't feel I have the heart or even guts to continue what I've been aiming for, yung akala ko gusto ko. I took a preparatory study for a more ambitious one, then all of a sudden nawalan ako ng gana and I s*** it. Nasa prestigious school na ako nun, the cream of the crop and I s*** it. Then ayun basura ako palutang lutang for a year, or was that a 2. Lutang talaga, krisis kung krisis. I had the most strained relationship with my mother during that period, kahit siya naramdaman ko basura rin naging tingin sa akin. I've cut ties with my friends and so-called friends, pity is the last thing that I want to have. Although I have the basic needs of food, shelter and clothing, it was me, myself and I lang talaga noong panahong iyon. Every passing day is like a preparation of an impending nightmare na kinabukasan same thing will happen, and I'm still in limbo. I don't have the money to travel ala Elizabeth Gilbert pero those floating years led me to realize kung ano talaga gusto ko. Kahit di ko makita suporta ng mga nakapaligid sa akin, na realize ko ako lang naman ang babasura sa sarili ko. Ngayon okay na, bonus is I came to know and love myself more and see more of life.

^ sis, normal yan stage na yan (and no, QLC is not a myth, common yan sa generation natin or ok fine, we created a term for it). It is synonymous to Erikson's Identity vs. Role Confusion which does not only covers sexual identity but tulad nung sa case ko na one's role and aspirations as well. True, 12-18 years old ang stage na ito pero wag ka mafrustrate, age is relative and it only serves as a guide kung anong stage na normally more or less. Ang importante is at the end, we find our way although our paths are different.

Just on the side, sabi ko nga sa mga younger sa akin, don't sacrifice who they are and what they really want for others. Hanga ako dun sa mga bata na kilala na talaga nila sarili nila and who does not succumb to peer pressure, environmental or even parental pressure hehe. The betrayal of one's individuality is one of the root cause of QLC. Just because you want to please or impress others, you tend to forget what you want, who you want to be and who you really are.

[kutingkulilit]

^ wow. that last paragraph just blew me away. soooo effin' true. super sapul sis. haaay. san ba nakakabili ng guts? how i wish people around me are open minded w/ things. but yeah, guts lang talaga ang kailangan ko. thanks for your words sis  sana ako din, soon, maging settled and ok na w/ stuffs 

[Bubblin]

my QLC is I haven't started my financial plans..I have to start investing na!

@kutingkulilit: I can relate to your love of cartoons.heck,I'm even older than you (I'm 27) but you will never,ever find me watching soap operas.I would rather have a SpongeBob marathon than watch Magkaribal or something like that,hahaha.hindi naman sya QLC or bothersome for me,it's more of getting in touch with my inner child....

the liking other girls?I don't think it's a phase that somebody might went into while in HS or college.sa akin kasi,attraction and love isn't solely intended to your opposite sex.siguro super open-minded lang ako,pero tingin ko if you fall in love/date a girl I see no problem with that since you are going after what will make you happy than worry about what other people will think of you.

[kutingkulilit]

^i know di ako nagiisa, haha! sakin din, not really bothersome but kind of wondering lang. not really me eh, ahaha!

i was brought up in a very conventional environment kasi. tho mulat din mata ko sa same sex relationships cause i have lots of friend who is in that situation, and i don't look at them as a bad person, di naman nila ginustong kapwa ko mahal ko eh, hehe. but with my self, and w/ my own convictions, hirap sis. ang w/ the people i love. i've selfish w/ so many things na in my life, mejo i want to spare naman those peeps i care for na i know will be extremely hurt pag pinasok ko yung ganung situation. pero i don't know. what should happen will happen, right? 

[Bubblin]

^IMO lang, if those people who claim to love you REALLY loves you,they will accept everything of your preference, gender of preferred partner included.tsaka if they see you are happy naman with your choice,wala na silang magagawa but to respect and accept it.ako kasi,I'll go for what will make me happy after all,no one else is responsible for your happiness than you.

on the lighter side,I think I can be labeled as "outcast" by society's standards because I don't like soap operas.. but I can watch Sesame Street. I can tolerate "The alphabet song"and I am obsessed with Cookie Monster hahahaha. QLC ko lang naman is hanggang ngayon wala pa akon investments,I have to start na for my future... in that aspect,I have to be responsible for myself.

[carmilina]

I think I have to invest na for the future...

I like to have a family someday///

[ashleyhan]

My QLC is that I messed up with my very peaceful married life. I messed around during our marriage, we're in a long distance relationship. When he found out he broke up with me, now he found someone new, I'm starting to feel the pain. I dont wanna annul our marriage.

[princessdindin]

Hi mga sis,

Share ko lang yung blog ko about Quarter Life Crisis, this is based on my experience and the stories of people I know. Let me know if you want me to feature you. It's really my way of living my passion to inspire other people.

Hope this helps!

http://thequarterlifejournal.blogspot.com/

[janjan]

Im trying to work inachieving or doing some of my QLC na within my powers
-travelling all around asia and pinas-keber kung alone o may kasama
-saving for a secondhand car (kuripot kasi)
- invested something sa mutual funds (which i need to add since i feel maliit lang ang amount)
- fix the house which i know will be mine in the future (saving mode still)
- have my own small biz
-work and stay in abroad for certain number of years
- have a great BF which i will married eventually
prang di sha crises prang wishlist tong ginawa ko hehe..yan muna sa akin