seven year itch

[gurlzat03]

dumating na ang moment na kinakatakutan ko.. he broke up with me without me knowing... sobrang sakit! ang mahirap pa sa min, long distance relationship kami. i've called him for about 20 times pero ni hindi nya man lang sinagot ang tawag ko... nag-leave ako ng message sa ym & fb, but still got no reply until now... i really don't have any idea kung bakit sya nag-come up sa idea na 'yun to think na anniversary sana namin sa sunday... hay.. i don't know how to cope up with this.. 

[design21]

^ sorry to hear that sis gurlzat03

ako naman two years bago kami kinasal + 4 years na kami married so 6 years palang in total. next year ko pa malalaman sana wag naman po.

[misao]

we've known each other for 7 years, wala na rin kami since july. ang hirap tanggapin, ang hirap kumilos, ang hirap mag-move on. bakit kaya ganon?

[jorgedatcom]

Im a guytalker, dapat 6 years na din kami. She broke up with me last july, then official nung aug 15 tapos kinabukasan birthday ko pa. Mag 6 years na kami dpt. D ko masabi na may 3rd party kasi ang sabi nya sakin shes seeing someone dun sa guy na may gf na. Hay ewan ko sa kanya, malaki naman na siya para mag isip. Sana malagpasan namin tong pagsubok na to or we are not meant for each other, Madalas siya mag give ng false hope sakin like "Hindi pa naman tapos ang lahat, we might never know!!!"... So my plan was first to move on. Reinvent myself para maging interested siya sakin if ever magkita kami. Siguro mga Ilang months din. Pero kung may new bf na siya. Time to let her go na talga. And hanap na ako ng iba... pm me for any ideas and advices to win her back. Thanks

[gurlzat03]

^ siguro sis ganyan talaga ang buhay... everything happens for a reason... we cannot know what's instore for us... siguro may mga shortcomings ang both party kaya hindi nag-work ang relationship. kamusta kayo? hindi nyo na ba naayos?

[misao]

^yun nga sis, parehas tayo ng situation. ldr din kami for almost a year and sa facebook ko pa nakita yung ibang 'evidence' that he lied to me. long story... basta nasira yung trust ko sa kanya. ilang months na lang 7th anniv na sana namin. i knew it. it was too good to be true. masyado yata akong naging kampante na walang makakasira sa min. almost 2 months na kaming walang communication. i'm tired of waking up everyday, knowing na heto na naman. wala pa ring naaayos.

[gurlzat03]

^pero have you talked about the problem? i mean may closure ba? 'yung sa min naman, nagulat lang ako at bigla na lang sya nagpalit ng stat without me knowing... but now, i know the reason why.. im still looking at the possibility na maging ok kami when the right time comes...

[misao]

i told him i felt cheated on, so nakipag-break na ko nung july sa sobrang sama ng loob. sabi nya hindi nya magagawa yun, ni hindi raw sila close nung babaeng yun. pero nag-usap pa kami kaya lang nag-aaway lang kami lagi so by august wala na kaming communication. then i found more photos that proved they were quite close pala. kaya gigil na gigil na naman ako pero wala akong way para masabi sa kanya. buti ka pa hopeful pa, ako hindi ko na alam. 7 years nauwi sa wala. hayyy i just want to move on!

[gurlzat03]

^ sorry to hear your sad story sis... kami naman eto, trying to work things out. pero we both decided to give each other time. he admitted something from me and yet, medyo magulo pa din sa 'kin kung papaniwalaan ko ba o hindi... basta we've agreed na we give each other time. i'll just wait for him if he comes back, but if not, then time to move on...

[gurlzat03]

^^ bro jorge, sorry to hear your story... i guess its time for you to move on since based from your story, she keeps on giving you false hopes...

tanong ko lang, kung sino ba ang nakipag-break, 'yun ba talaga ang may ginawang mali sa relationship or hindi na lang talaga nila masabi na they fallen out of love?

[misao]

thanks gurlzat03. sana maayos kayo if you still want to give it another try. good luck to all of us going through this painful experience. sana maka-move on tayong lahat if things don't work out.

[gurlzat03]

^ thanks sis. i just hope na maging ok ang lahat 'pag bumalik sya...

let's drink to that! kakayanin natin lahat ng trials na 'to.. 

[jorgedatcom]

@gurlzat03 - Nope, It wasnt her/his fault if he/she's the one who ask for breakup. Maybe he/she fallen out of love or there are so many reason's why it happened. The fact is, in heartbreaking there are no men and women. Iba iba talaga tayo. Yup im moving on na. If she came back good but if not ok lang din. We cannot force our love on to love us back. All we need is Time and Prayers. God Bless to all of us. Because no matter what trials we are going through, God is always there for us. We have our family and friends. Pero syempre. Masakit pa rin naman ang mga nangyari. It wasnt my fault or her fault. Indiffirence lang talaga. Many times na rin nangyari sakin yung situation na na fall out ako sa gf ko and may mga girls na lumalapit sakin. But i guess im diffirent. From the start palang kasi is i really value our long-term plans, And i vow to myself that i wont allow my future siblings to experience what i have been, lumaki ako sa broken family. What i did in that situation was, i give myself a chance to her and give her a chance to bring back my love to her. God Bless!

[misao]

^sad but true. nakakainggit yung iba na the longer they are in the relationship, the more they love each other. everyday, i wish this will be the day when i can say i have moved on. but i know it will take me years based on my past experience.

[gurlzat03]

^ hay naku sis... ang hirap talaga.. hindi ko alam kung hanggang kelan ko sya hihintayin... bahala na siguro, kung babalik sya eh di babalik. kung hindi, well I have to accept it na lang... siguro ako din, it will take years before ako maka-move on.. 1st bf ko pa naman sya...

[misao]

^there will always be a part of us that's willing to wait and willing to give it another try. lalo na pag ganitong katagal yung naging relationship, may kasamang panghihinayang sa pinagsamahan. parang gusto pa rin natin ma-save pero alam natin na there's a possibility na wala na talaga. it will become a cycle, one day okay na tayo then may maalala o makita lang tayo, we'll go back to square one.

parang minsan, i'd rather forgive him than go through this pain. sila kaya nasasaktan din? nae-experience din kaya nila yung ganito? i don't know if i can wait for him for another month. minsan gusto ko na magka-bf ulit para lang maka-move on.

[gurlzat03]

^ tumpak na tumpak ka jan sis...    hay.... i didn't expect na magiging ganito kalungkot ang lovelife ko... samantalang dati, almost perfect na...

[purple_rain0721]

@ misao: i couldn't agree more... at iyan din ang malaking tanong ko, kung sila ba eh nasasaktan din or bumobongga na pala sa pag-eenjoy kasama ang bago nilang love interest.  na hindi ka manlang sumasagi sa isip nila ni minsan.  saya!    magaya nga! 

@ gurlzat03: bigyan mo ng ultimatum ang sarili mo.  like, hanggang this month ka lang maghihintay sa kaniya.  pag lumipas na ang dead line then move on ka na.  kung bumalik siya after that eh di masaya, kung hindi na, at least nakapag move on ka na.    make him an option and not a priority. 

[gurlzat03]

^ thanks for the wonderful advice sis. i really need that during these times...'yan na ngayon ang mindset ko, make him an option and not a priority.

[purple_rain0721]

^ you're welcome sis    don't worry hindi ka nag-iisa.  marami tayong sawimpalad dito heheh.  pero i know magiging masaya din tayo SOON.