seven year itch

[leily]

I used to not believe in it... until it happened to me

He feels that we've been in the relationship for so long that it has become boring and monotonous. We're also leading separate lives, don't have common friends anymore and have different work schedules.

Is our relationship doomed? Is this the end? May pag-asa pa kaya kami?

For those on long-term relationships, how do you keep it fresh and exciting? How do you keep yourselves interested with each other always? How do you beat boredom?

[mimiku]

Well try things that you haven't done yet together. Maybe try traveling or sports. Sometimes if you do things routinary, you'll really lose the interest- even at work, you'll feel bored. So if you do things all over and over naturally you'll feel enervated.

[bLuMaVeRiCk]

hindi rin ako naka takas jan. 20 days before we should be celebrating our 8th year anniversary as husband and wife, naghiwalay kami. did not and still do not beleive in it kasi loko lang talaga naging asawa ko so that's meant to happen talaga.

siguru, try doing nga what you do not usually do... travel  out of town/out of country if your schedules permit, also kahit di common yung friends ninyo siguru go out once in awhile with him and his friends and siya din with your friends. try nyo rin mag inuman kayong dalawa lang. magandang bonding din yon.. malay mo you can get him to tell you what he really wants pa on your relationship pag tipsy na sya.. bastat try something totally new

[chengkii]

Stay away from the monotony of things. You need to rediscover each other. If you can afford it, go out of town or out of the country...where you both haven't been before. It will rekindle the love you've had.

[kaye27]

agree with other sisses here.. try something new na kayo lang dalawa.. go out of town, sa ibang places na both new sa inyo.. yun kasi you will spend more times together sa ibang places na kayo lang magkakilala..

[TracyGirl]

naku, napag daanan ko din yan, 12 years kaming mag bf/gf. nung ika 7 din ata nun medyo nagkakalabuan kami, kasi na bobored kami sa isat isa. nagkaroon din sya nang fling.

What i did was gumawa ako nang sarili kong activities. Kinaibigan ko sya.naging interested sya ulit saakin. made new group/set of friends. pag may mga out of town and parties, sumasama sya saakin then na gugulat sya na ang dami kong kilala so parang nagiging interesting ako saknya. I also try to excel sa work ko. Change myself. Parang fresh and new!
Ngayon, newly wed na kami. so far so good na ulit. good thing nalagpasan namin yang curse na yan

[kaye27]

^ happy for you sis.. I think napagdaanan talaga yan ng couples na ilang years na together.. Its up to them nalang talaga how will they cope up and save their relationship.

7 years din kami nung nagkalabuan kami at nagbreak ng 2 months.. but now we are engaged na..

[health.gal]

hi TS...

just a background first: right now, 11 years na kami ng bf ko. last year, just 2 months before our 10th year anniversary, nagwork siya overseas.

during the 11 years of our relationship, so far, wala naman ako na feel na "boredom". ewan ko lang sa kanya, pero wala naman siya inoopen up sa akin. so far, this is what we've been doing:

     we make it a point to see each other everyday (during the time na dito pa siya nagwowork). kahit na everyday kami nagkikita, marami kami activities. we usually go out with friends. we hang out with his family, minsan naman with mine. we go out of town. every sunday we hear mass. we visit "corny" places (parks, zoo, etc). but there are also times where we just stay at home (or his) and cuddle while watching dvds. 

[chengkii]

Kamusta ka na sis leily? Have you mapped out activities that will help you rediscover each other and fall in love with each other again?

[ms. independent]

di ba kapatid ng 7 yr itch sina 8mos itch at 3 yrs itch? tinamaan kase ako ng 3 yrs itch na yan. hehe..

anyways, i think dapat meron kayo particular activity na nilolook forward ng magkasama. like atleast once a month eh travel kayo to different places or try things na hindi pa nagagawa.. keep the fire burning, ika nga.

[TracyGirl]

sabi nila once na malagpasan mo na daw yun, your meant for each other na. Pero kasi pag ang relationship may basag na, hinde mo na maalis ang crack, kahit ano pang seal ang gawin nyo.. kaya minsan mahirap tlaga/.

[gurlzat03]

hi sisses! pasali po sa thread.. feeling ko affected ako ng 7 year itch na 'to.. we were supposed to be married na when suddenly a week after the big day, we both decided to call it off.. ngayon, hindi ko maintindihan kung ano bang status namin.. i asked him once kung anong plan nya, but looks like walang plan.. hay.. kakalungkot..

[shayan30]

oh no, i think we're in this stage of our relationship.. lately we're always fighting, even for little things lang, but now parang palala ng palala, i don't know, minsan parang i wanna give up na, but i'm holding on to the years we've spent together.. happy... i hope makalampas kami sa stage na 'to..

[aquacharly]

It is never too late to re-invent yourself. 
Then, everything else follows from there.
     
         You are both bored with each other coz everything has become predictable.   So it is time to re-orient the relationship... you must evolve to grab his attention and interest again.


     

[lizzete]

haha kame nga sis 3 months pa lang parang nagkakasawaan na

[ladybeatrice_25]

I'm currently going through this, pero 3 yrs itch. I cannot pinpoint kung out of boredom , selfishness or exhaustion. Basta for some reason hindi nagtatagpo ang katwiran namin. We both have issues sa isa't isa , internal conflicts , walang ayaw magpatalo , we are both hurt kasi for different reasons. Pareho naming di matanggap na iset aside yung pain and make the first move. For now.Maybe because it's still fresh. I don't know, I am sorry I really cannot pinpoint what it is. what happened to us?
But you know, I don't want to push it muna, the more I force him to see my point, and vice versa , lalong lumalabo, lumalayo kami sa mutual understanding. So I just want to let it be muna. Instead na pagdikdikan ko sarili ko, maybe I need to explore myself. To learn new things on my own. Kasi sya naging center ng buhay ko. As per Aquacharly, re-invent myself.rediscover myself. because I used to be irresistible sa kanya, now baka dispensable na ako, wag naman sana..hahaha...
tsaka I want to take advantage of this as a sign na kelangan kong iempower and educate myself, para pag dumating yung 7 year itch I won't be a loser sabi pa din ni Aquacharly 
Hopefully, kapag nakita nya ako sa malayuan, he will fall in love all over again, same with me. Pero we are still together, I just need to spend more time with myself and the other aspects of my life. Di pala pwedeng sya lang lifeline ko.
ayun.
 

[nainaj]

sali ako!

i am actually in a 7 year old relationship...bago pa kami umabot ng 7th year namin,parang we've been through heaven and hell!! on and off ang away,pag magkasama kami parang deadma na lang (boredom na din siguro), to the point na nakakapagod na.

we are still in the process of resuscitating the relationship. pag may time,we go out together or he drops by at our house...pero sa ngayon,i'm trying not to communicate para pag nag-usap kami may mapagkkwentuhan naman kami and to have time for ourselves.

[-munchkins12-]

This happened to us ng ex ko. A month before our 7th aniv we finally broke up. Marami nghinayang talaga samin. Pero wala na talaga eh.

[momai]

hi! nangyari ito sa amin nung mag bf pa lang kami. nag cool off kami nun. hindi kami masyadong nagkikita nun, pero sabay kami lagi magsimba. until marealize namin na hindi pala kami magkahiwalay. syempre na miss namin ang isa't isa. ayun nagkabalikan kami, tapos nagplan agad ng kasal. so nung nagpakasal kami, 8 yrs na kami nun.

kailangan lang talaga malampasan ito kung gusto niyo talagang kayo ang magkatuluyan. sabi nga, kung papatalo kayo, magkakahiwalay talaga kayo.

[purple_rain0721]

sigh... nakakairita yang mga itches na yan! 

next month mag-6 years na kami dapat ng ex-fiance ko.  kami parang for the past 3 years eh palagi nalang nagkakaron ng itch! the first time na nakipag-cool off siya I tried to win him back and I did.  the 2nd time na nakipag-cool off siya, and this time dahil may ibang girl siya na nagustuhan, nakipag-break ako.  pero nung hindi siya sinagot, ako naman tong si engot, I tried to win him back again.  tapos eto nanaman... nakipag-cool off ulit and sobrang sakit talaga.  3 freaking times in 3 years! my gawd! pero inisip ko ikakasal na kami, ang dami ko ng hirap na binigay etc.  so I still held on hanggang sa hindi ko na talaga kinaya, I made it official and broke up with him.  sobra sobra na talaga... I couldn't take it any longer! tapos para nanaman akong sira, nagreresearch on ways to get him back.  until isang araw nalang, natauhan ako.  I thought, bakit ko ba ginagawa ito? have I not proven enough? tama na.  pagod na pagod na din ako and I don't think I can still trust him.  it's been 15 days since we broke up.  hindi ko talaga siya tinatawagan, email nor text.  in fairness kinakaya ko na this time.  dati kasi after 2 days para na kong sira na tatawag or magtetext.  kahit sa FB parang hindi siya nag-eexist para sakin.  pagod na pagod na talaga ako...